Should I just give my taurus guy more time or move on?

This topic was created in the Taurus forum by Scorpiogrlll on Monday, January 27, 2020 and has 34 replies.
We've been dating for a year now. I was asking him about how he saw our future, and he sees us being together long term, but doesn't see us being married and having kids because of our different races and cultural background. Then, he said that he's never met anyone like me, with the same interests as he does, and that we never run out of things to talk about, and that he enjoys being with me, but he feels like he loves me lesser than he used to, and that I care about him alot more than he does about me. Is this a sign I should move on or give him more time to change his mind? It's so confusing because he says heartless things like that then pretends nothing happened and still wants to hang out all the time and hasn't been avoiding affection at all. Thanks for helping.
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Posted by FactCheck

If you really want this unromantic dumb shit to feel differently, don't respond to him for a week or two.
I told him a few days after what he said that I didn't see this being long term anymore and all of a sudden he starts showing me so much love and affection like he used to, so I guess I indirectly did what you're telling me to do haha? (playing hard to get/I don't care)
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Posted by CancerAquaSagg

Those are not signs. Those are obvious explicit answers. Do you need him to write these on his forehead?

You're there because you're good company.

For your own sake move on and block him.

And work on your self esteem in the meantime before you look for someone else. That's what I'd like to be told if it was me anyway. How old are you?
We've just both never met anyone who sync as well as we do with each other and I'm so afraid that I'm never gonna find someone quite like him again. I'm currently staying and hoping even tho I know the advice to never stay in a relationship hoping they'd change... Sigh...
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If you really want this unromantic dumb shit to feel differently, don't respond to him for a week or two.


I told him a few days after what he said that I didn't see this being long term anymore and all of a sudden he starts showing me so much love and affection like he used to, so I guess I indirectly did what you're telling me to do haha? (playing hard to get/I don't care)


It's so annoying though to deal with long term lol. You'll never be able to be truly vulnerable with someone like him. He's not marriage material. And then eventually you really will want to leave and he won't leave you alone haha.
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Do you think he'll ever change his mind with time? I heard that taurus guys take their time to make their minds up
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Posted by bmoon8

This is a sign that you should move on. He doesn’t see a future with you as his wife and the mother of his kids. I don’t know how much more blatant he can be for you to get a hint to leave.
And when I mention leaving he suddenly has a change of heart and doesn't want it to happen..
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This is a sign that you should move on. He doesn’t see a future with you as his wife and the mother of his kids. I don’t know how much more blatant he can be for you to get a hint to leave.


And when I mention leaving he suddenly has a change of heart and doesn't want it to happen..


Yes, he will put his best foot forward to get you back, but when he has you, it seems that he takes you for granted. There is another guy out there who won’t take you for granted, be thankful he has you, will wife you, and make you the mother of his kids. Don’t fear change. Change is the only constant in life.
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Thanks for this. I fear change and being without someone so much I prevent myself from moving on. Who knows when I'd work up the balls to be alone without he-who-takes-me-for-granted?
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If you really want this unromantic dumb shit to feel differently, don't respond to him for a week or two.


I told him a few days after what he said that I didn't see this being long term anymore and all of a sudden he starts showing me so much love and affection like he used to, so I guess I indirectly did what you're telling me to do haha? (playing hard to get/I don't care)


It's so annoying though to deal with long term lol. You'll never be able to be truly vulnerable with someone like him. He's not marriage material. And then eventually you really will want to leave and he won't leave you alone haha.


Do you think he'll ever change his mind with time? I heard that taurus guys take their time to make their minds up
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never take a decision based on fear - ie i'm afraid i'll never find anyone like him. everyone feels that way at some point, until they meet someone better and then think, i can't believe i was that stupid.

this guy is nice to you now because he thinks he is losing possession of you. that's not love.

taurus can take their time to make their minds up but not about this. you're making excuses because the reality is painful to consider. stop wasting your time on him.
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He's 26... Maybe he's too young to want to settle down?
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Posted by Scorpiogrlll
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If you really want this unromantic dumb shit to feel differently, don't respond to him for a week or two.


I told him a few days after what he said that I didn't see this being long term anymore and all of a sudden he starts showing me so much love and affection like he used to, so I guess I indirectly did what you're telling me to do haha? (playing hard to get/I don't care)


It's so annoying though to deal with long term lol. You'll never be able to be truly vulnerable with someone like him. He's not marriage material. And then eventually you really will want to leave and he won't leave you alone haha.


Do you think he'll ever change his mind with time? I heard that taurus guys take their time to make their minds up
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My brother is a Taurus and he knows damn well what he wants. If this guy has told you you aren't marriage material then move on to someone else. Why are you putting your life in his hands? Surely you think more of yourself than this.
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Posted by Scorpiogrlll

He's 26... Maybe he's too young to want to settle down?
"I was asking him about how he saw our future, and he sees us being together long term, but doesn't see us being married and having kids because of our different races and cultural background. Then, he said that ...he feels like he loves me lesser than he used to, and that I care about him alot more than he does about me."

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When someone shows you who they are, BELIEVE THEM. Especially a Taurus...they know what they want.

You can’t be that in sync if he is saying he does not see a future with you and you do.

Don’t break your own heart.
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hes wasting your time
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Posted by Emilia_Libra

When someone shows you who they are, BELIEVE THEM. Especially a Taurus...they know what they want.

You can’t be that in sync if he is saying he does not see a future with you and you do.

Don’t break your own heart.
This is the only thing we're out of sync about
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Posted by Scorpiogrlll

He's 26... Maybe he's too young to want to settle down?


You’re still looking for a reason while he’s removed himself from any accountability.

If you stick around long enough to be replaced, you’ll be devastated.

Don’t do that to yourself.
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I'm so mentally weak. Everyone's telling me the obvious but I just can't bring myself to end this. We both said we still love each other, and it's such a waste to kill something that's currently doing so well. Frick.
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Posted by Emilia_Libra

When someone shows you who they are, BELIEVE THEM. Especially a Taurus...they know what they want.

You can’t be that in sync if he is saying he does not see a future with you and you do.

Don’t break your own heart.


This is the only thing we're out of sync about
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But it’s a pretty huge thing to be out of sync about. Don’t settle for someone who doesn’t see a future with you. And don’t try to change him simply so someone can be in your life. There are so many other people in this world.
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I just broke up with him. Thanks everyone. I feel completely empty
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Posted by Scorpiogrlll

I just broke up with him. Thanks everyone. I feel completely empty
It’s for the best. Be strong. Don’t let him come around for sex. May need to consider blocking him for sometime at least until your over him.
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Posted by Scorpiogrlll

I just broke up with him. Thanks everyone. I feel completely empty
I hope that emptiness is filled with a greater love for yourself while you take the time to heal and one day, a person who does want a future with you.

No relationship will be perfect by any means, but the person you are with should at least see you as someone they want to build a future with if that is also what you are looking for.
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I just broke up with him. Thanks everyone. I feel completely empty
sorry it went that way but it is for the best. don't waste your time on someone who doesn't want you as much you want them.

before you know it, some amazing guy is going to enter your life and you are going to be the best thing since sliced bread to him. he'll want to shout it from the rooftops. it will feel so good, you'll wonder what you ever saw in this taurus.
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If marriage and children is important to you know that he won’t give you that. He’s happy to give you his time now but one day when he wants to start a family he’s gonna wake up and move onto someone ‘suitable’.

Personally can’t see myself giving more time and emotional investment into something I know is a dead end. But to each their own.
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Posted by LadyNeptune

If marriage and children is important to you know that he won’t give you that. He’s happy to give you his time now but one day when he wants to start a family he’s gonna wake up and move onto someone ‘suitable’.

Personally can’t see myself giving more time and emotional investment into something I know is a dead end. But to each their own.
Exactly this. Thank you so much for all your encouragements, I really need them right now..
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Move on asap sis!

Taurus always had that one who got away so get away sis lmao.

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Posted by Cg2016

Move on asap sis!

Taurus always had that one who got away so get away sis lmao.
Can't wait for him to come back crawling so I can tell him to eff off
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Posted by Scorpiogrlll

We've been dating for a year now. I was asking him about how he saw our future, and he sees us being together long term, but doesn't see us being married and having kids because of our different races and cultural background. Then, he said that he's never met anyone like me, with the same interests as he does, and that we never run out of things to talk about, and that he enjoys being with me, but he feels like he loves me lesser than he used to, and that I care about him alot more than he does about me. Is this a sign I should move on or give him more time to change his mind? It's so confusing because he says heartless things like that then pretends nothing happened and still wants to hang out all the time and hasn't been avoiding affection at all. Thanks for helping.
He said he loves you less. Take a person at their word. You're a Scorpio; he's going to lower your self esteem. That's a cardinal no-go for you. What's his birthdate? And yours? But--just forcuriosity's sake, ask him what made his love for you fade if he himself thinks you two have so much in common:
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Posted by LadyNeptune

If marriage and children is important to you know that he won’t give you that. He’s happy to give you his time now but one day when he wants to start a family he’s gonna wake up and move onto someone ‘suitable’.

Personally can’t see myself giving more time and emotional investment into something I know is a dead end. But to each their own.


Exactly this. Thank you so much for all your encouragements, I really need them right now..
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Taurus and scorpio (going by sun signs alone) don't usually do well together in the long term. You find them boring and they find you too intense. **Based off sun signs, a virgo or capricorn is much better. Earth balances out water. Taurus, while earth, happens to be your complete opposite; intense love/hate. I can't really say more without your birth dates.
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Posted by Scorpiogrlll

We've been dating for a year now. I was asking him about how he saw our future, and he sees us being together long term, but doesn't see us being married and having kids because of our different races and cultural background. Then, he said that he's never met anyone like me, with the same interests as he does, and that we never run out of things to talk about, and that he enjoys being with me, but he feels like he loves me lesser than he used to, and that I care about him alot more than he does about me. Is this a sign I should move on or give him more time to change his mind? It's so confusing because he says heartless things like that then pretends nothing happened and still wants to hang out all the time and hasn't been avoiding affection at all. Thanks for helping.


He said he loves you less. Take a person at their word. You're a Scorpio; he's going to lower your self esteem. That's a cardinal no-go for you. What's his birthdate? And yours? But--just forcuriosity's sake, ask him what made his love for you fade if he himself thinks you two have so much in common:
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Mine 3 November 1997

His 8 May 1993
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Posted by Scorpiogrlll

We've been dating for a year now. I was asking him about how he saw our future, and he sees us being together long term, but doesn't see us being married and having kids because of our different races and cultural background. Then, he said that he's never met anyone like me, with the same interests as he does, and that we never run out of things to talk about, and that he enjoys being with me, but he feels like he loves me lesser than he used to, and that I care about him alot more than he does about me. Is this a sign I should move on or give him more time to change his mind? It's so confusing because he says heartless things like that then pretends nothing happened and still wants to hang out all the time and hasn't been avoiding affection at all. Thanks for helping.


He said he loves you less. Take a person at their word. You're a Scorpio; he's going to lower your self esteem. That's a cardinal no-go for you. What's his birthdate? And yours? But--just forcuriosity's sake, ask him what made his love for you fade if he himself thinks you two have so much in common:


Mine 3 November 1997

His 8 May 1993
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That’s my birthday!
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Posted by Scorpiogrlll

I just broke up with him. Thanks everyone. I feel completely empty


Girl you better tap into that Scorpio resiliency, you will bounce back in no time. I guarantee this wasn’t the first time you had your feelings hurt and certainly won’t be the last. You’ve gotten over heartbreak before, you can do it again. You will be just fine! Mind over matter
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Thanks :/ Currently trying my best to look for rebounds lol
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I'm currently bouncing between feeling devastated and happy that I did what was right for me. It's a horrible feeling.
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Posted by Scorpiogrlll

I'm currently bouncing between feeling devastated and happy that I did what was right for me. It's a horrible feeling.
these things take time and eventually you'll start feeling happy more often and not and the devastation will fade away.

deep down you know that it was time. deep down you know that you deserve more and that you were settling.

a friend of mine said this to me probably a couple of decades ago but it always stayed with me. this is the person you are going to spend most of your life with, share your days with, the ups and downs, and give the most secret, deepest parts of you, don't you want them to be the best person you can find? this person is so important, do you want to settle for second best when there is better out there?
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Posted by Scorpiogrlll

I'm currently bouncing between feeling devastated and happy that I did what was right for me. It's a horrible feeling.


these things take time and eventually you'll start feeling happy more often and not and the devastation will fade away.

deep down you know that it was time. deep down you know that you deserve more and that you were settling.

a friend of mine said this to me probably a couple of decades ago but it always stayed with me. this is the person you are going to spend most of your life with, share your days with, the ups and downs, and give the most secret, deepest parts of you, don't you want them to be the best person you can find? this person is so important, do you want to settle for second best when there is better out there?
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So true.. I'd probably spend the rest of my life feeling insecure and unappreciated
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Posted by MareInfame
Posted by Scorpiogrlll

I'm currently bouncing between feeling devastated and happy that I did what was right for me. It's a horrible feeling.


I understand why you would feel that way.

You loved him and started seeing a future with him. I’m sure it wasn’t light on your end. But, he wasn’t very kind in how he handled you. Very disrespectful and unloving. It was obvious enough that you had to clearly come to defend yourself, set boundaries of how you should be treated. So in effect, he also became an enemy. Those are conflicting roles that he holds in your heart.

So, be kind and patient with yourself. It will take some time where you will continue to feel that duality. But a constant feeling will also be pride, because you know deep inside that you did the right thing. You are now your best ally and you can always depend on you!! Bravo girl!!! Bravo👏🏻👏🏻
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Pride's something I now feel thanks to you. This forum's really helping me get through a crappy but temporary phase in my life. Thank you so much everyone...
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We've been dating for a year now. I was asking him about how he saw our future, and he sees us being together long term, but doesn't see us being married and having kids because of our different races and cultural background. Then, he said that he's never met anyone like me, with the same interests as he does, and that we never run out of things to talk about, and that he enjoys being with me, but he feels like he loves me lesser than he used to, and that I care about him alot more than he does about me. Is this a sign I should move on or give him more time to change his mind? It's so confusing because he says heartless things like that then pretends nothing happened and still wants to hang out all the time and hasn't been avoiding affection at all. Thanks for helping.


He said he loves you less. Take a person at their word. You're a Scorpio; he's going to lower your self esteem. That's a cardinal no-go for you. What's his birthdate? And yours? But--just forcuriosity's sake, ask him what made his love for you fade if he himself thinks you two have so much in common:


Mine 3 November 1997

His 8 May 1993
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From what i can tell, without your birth times, is you two have a lot in common but also a lot not in common; sorry if that sounds like a safe answer. First, your birthdays are literally 5 days apart from being complete opposites (six out of twelve months apart). I'm assuming that you're long term oriented, pointing towards children and old age. I've known a couple that are born 11/8 and 5/10 with a lot of great aspects (soft aspects) in their natal chart, been together for 30 yrs and the scorp hates him, while he quietly regrets ever marrying her. She ruined his life. **Scorpio and taurus create incredible attraction as any polar opposite signs do. It's a push pull, love irritate phenomenom. It's like the perfect partner, "if only they could be more compromising" is the thought running through both's minds. Scorpio thrives on shaking things up and wanting their lover to read their emotional state without words. The wrong interpretation on behalf of their loved one could make the scorpio treat them with disdain. Especially after the honeymoon phase is past and there's a hard time playing nice as opposed to letting it all hang out. Taurus wants stability and predictabiity. *If the taurus had a scorpio moon it might be a little better, but the ego (sun sign) which both are trying to attain towards, would be a scattered path unsupported by both through their natural state. Tension is vibrant and appealing when you're young, but as you get older, most signs want things to get easier (scorpio likes the tension to maintain it translates into sexual energy).

You both have the same moon, sagittarius, you understand eachother's emotional state. His moon and north node are conjunct; he's in touch with this path in life. His north node is connected to your moon, venus and mars--thee most important romance connections. he's got you hooked and probably so is he. His moon is also conjunct to your mars and venus--another major soulmate connection. Both mars are trine; you relate to eachother's problem solving manners. His venus is trine your venus; harmonious sex life. Your pluto is conjunct his moon; excellent connection for soulmate. His pluto is conjunct your sun--excellent connection for soulmate. **Your mercury is also polar opposite; his taurus and yours scorpio. He's slow and patient in learning and communicating, while you're raw and passionate and intense. Opposite mercuries I've heard compliment each other, so long as neither dogmatic in their views, and I think scorpio and taurus could have moments of being dogmatic. Your chinese zodiacs are the best match up for both signs; rooster and ox. Do what you can with this material.
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