Taurus guy confusing af

Kind of long but i need to vent..Every time I don't jump to see my Taurus guy he becomes more distant. Two weeks ago I go on a trip with my girlies to St.Maarten and im not going to lie I did tell him ill see him as soon as got back . So when i got back to NYC He text me "when do you land?" I told him "I land in 20 minutes". In my head I'm thinking maybe he wants to pick me up. He responded 30-40 mins later just saying "okay"..So im tired and drained from flight so I just wanted to take a cab home ..im in the yellow cab he ask to see me. I'm already omw home so I say tomorrow would be better because I'm drained and tired. Then he text back "we'll see about tomorrow"..im annoyed because if I don't jump to see him he always get distant. These last two weeks since the flight I feel like I reach out more than he reach out to me. The past Tuesday I got tickets for a jazz show for us for Saturday because we talked about how we both like jazz.. He responded two days later saying "hey I can't make it this Saturday". I didn't respond because I'm annoyed because I plan a date and he's horrible at planning dates. I was more annoyed at the fact that he didn't tell me why he couldn't make it at that moment. So i didnt respond back to his text that day. So I reach out Friday just so he wouldn't think I was mad. I told him "I was on his instagram looking at his pictures and asked "how his day was going". He went on to tell me his boy is in town and he about to hang with him. So I guess him telling me that he probably sense I was feeling a way. I guess I'm annoyed because I feel like I'm putting in more effort lately and we not committed to each other and I'm worried I'm wasting my time. Or wondering if he's invested in someone else. This Saturday coming up he supposed to meet my parents for the first time at my bbq. He is bringing his sister it will be my first time meeting her. I met his older brother 7 months ago. Him willing to meet my parents does that mean he sees a future with me? Should I keep being patient? He confuses me so much. Also, he is very introverted and shy. I know his last lady cheated on him and I know he invested a lot into her but I am not her. I don't want part of him only. I want him fully.It's been a year now. Why is he still scared? Am I doing something wrong? 🤔 I don't want him to meet my parents if he's unsure of me or dealing with someone else. Even though he told me wasn’t couple months back buy idk if that changed 😐

If you're wondering im Virgo sun Cancer moon and venus ..Aries mars w/ pisces rising. He a Taurus sun Gemini moon and mars.. Aries venus..don't know his rising yet

Posted by sunkiss0905

Kind of long but i need to vent..Every time I don't jump to see my Taurus guy he becomes more distant. Two weeks ago I go on a trip with my girlies to St.Maarten and im not going to lie I did tell him ill see him as soon as got back . So when i got back to NYC He text me "when do you land?" I told him "I land in 20 minutes". In my head I'm thinking maybe he wants to pick me up. He responded 30-40 mins later just saying "okay"..So im tired and drained from flight so I just wanted to take a cab home ..im in the yellow cab he ask to see me. I'm already omw home so I say tomorrow would be better because I'm drained and tired. Then he text back "we'll see about tomorrow"..im annoyed because if I don't jump to see him he always get distant. These last two weeks since the flight I feel like I reach out more than he reach out to me. The past Tuesday I got tickets for a jazz show for us for Saturday because we talked about how we both like jazz.. He responded two days later saying "hey I can't make it this Saturday". I didn't respond because I'm annoyed because I plan a date and he's horrible at planning dates. I was more annoyed at the fact that he didn't tell me why he couldn't make it at that moment. So i didnt respond back to his text that day. So I reach out Friday just so he wouldn't think I was mad. I told him "I was on his instagram looking at his pictures and asked "how his day was going". He went on to tell me his boy is in town and he about to hang with him. So I guess him telling me that he probably sense I was feeling a way. I guess I'm annoyed because I feel like I'm putting in more effort lately and we not committed to each other and I'm worried I'm wasting my time. Or wondering if he's invested in someone else. This Saturday coming up he supposed to meet my parents for the first time at my bbq. He is bringing his sister it will be my first time meeting her. I met his older brother 7 months ago. Him willing to meet my parents does that mean he sees a future with me? Should I keep being patient? He confuses me so much. Also, he is very introverted and shy. I know his last lady cheated on him and I know he invested a lot into her but I am not her. I don't want part of him only. I want him fully.It's been a year now. Why is he still scared? Am I doing something wrong? 🤔 I don't want him to meet my parents if he's unsure of me or dealing with someone else. Even though he told me wasn’t couple months back buy idk if that changed 😐

What's keeping you from telling him your feelings on the matter?

"In my head I'm thinking maybe he wants to pick me up."

you assumed he would because he does those kinds of things or where you hoping he would?



"I'm putting in more effort lately and we not committed to each other and I'm worried I'm wasting my time."

"Him willing to meet my parents does that mean he sees a future with me?"

Sounds like you have expectations he isn't meeting. Introverted and shy?

I keep coming back to the same conclusion reading your post. Have you talked to him about how things seem to you and what expectations you have in a serious relationship?

You really need to word it like that when you talk to him to keep him from bring defensive. " how it SEEMS to you" Less likely for him to get defensive.

There is no such thing as perfect there are going to be some issues in any relationship that has to be hashed out. That's starts with honest communication.

That's the real test of any real long term or serious relationship.

P.S

Synastry wise. Cancer moon.... Cancers are going through a intense transit involving their own needs and expression. If you are unsatisfied with this relationship talk to him about it or get ready to move on.

What's your mercuries?

I have been getting bored because it's moving so slow. I know we both are healing but he makes me worry because he has a guard up. I came into this open but the more I get to know him I feel like I'm putting up a guard now. Maybe he put a guard up because I was moving too fast for him. I knew I wanted him early on and he became hesitant of me it made me feel a way. He always been bad at communicating. He literally told me has no complaints. He literally never complain about anything about me. U know why because I do my part. If he did his things would go more smoother. I do feel I should speak up more about how I feel but when I do I can tell it bothers him. He is very respectful which I love about him but he doesn't like confrontation. I will have to be as gentle as possible. I always show him respect but I can be emotional at times.

I'm Libra mercury and he a Taurus mercury

He shouldn't be this difficult .. I believe he is damaged honestly. But I will try my best to talk to him. I told myself I wouldn't date anymore scared men . I starting to feel he's emotional unavailable

If you're not available, he probably texts his other chick "wyd?"

Also: "He shouldn't be this difficult .. I believe he is damaged honestly." makes you sound controlling

Maybe 😬but I feel like he trying to have power over this whole situation is why he distant himself at times. We see each other twice a week sometimes 3. Now it's down to 1 time a week. Especially since summer came. The thing about me I'm willing to let it go if he is texting another woman well ill say if hes invested. Why should I keep investing after a yr of confusion. I'm not use to this. I usually end stuff with a guy if he doesn't commit to a relationship within 8 months😕. Don't get me wrong he is a great guy . Decent job, nice car. Very very handsome and fit. Never seen him angry. Affectionate,family oriented. he can be vulnerable when i get him to open up.. Respectful.. only problem I have is his communication and wish he try wow me more. I want to feel special. Romance is missing. Buy a thoughtful gift dont have to be expensive. I think I'll probably only get that until he sure of me but I'm just not sure if I'm waiting for nothing. He kind of selfish to me..he want me to jump and do more while he chill..doesn't work that way..I'm 33 I would like to get married and have kids. I don't want to waste time but think I will know wat to do before this yr over.

Posted by sunkiss0905

Maybe 😬but I feel like he trying to have power over this whole situation is why he distant himself at times. We see each other twice a week sometimes 3. Now it's down to 1 time a week. Especially since summer came. The thing about me I'm willing to let it go if he is texting another woman well ill say if hes invested. Why should I keep investing after a yr of confusion. I'm not use to this. I usually end stuff with a guy if he doesn't commit to a relationship within 8 months😕. Don't get me wrong he is a great guy . Decent job, nice car. Very very handsome and fit. Never seen him angry. Affectionate,family oriented. he can be vulnerable when i get him to open up.. Respectful.. only problem I have is his communication and wish he try wow me more. I want to feel special. Romance is missing. Buy a thoughtful gift dont have to be expensive. I think I'll probably only get that until he sure of me but I'm just not sure if I'm waiting for nothing. He kind of selfish to me..he want me to jump and do more while he chill..doesn't work that way..I'm 33 I would like to get married and have kids. I don't want to waste time but think I will know wat to do before this yr over.

Taurus is a lazy sign. If you guys have been seeing each other for a year then he's gotten comfortable. They're introverted and most are homebodies. If you feel you've made enough effort to make it work then I think it's best for you to leave instead of labelling him "damaged".

Okay if he not damaged why haven't he committed yet? If you don't want me or stringing me along then he is a damaged man right? ..there isn't much else to know about me. I been myself this whole time. What he waiting for me to change or something? He waiting for me to mess up? What else do I need me to do to commit? ..only damaged ppl would string someone along. I would never do that because it's selfish. If he is seeing someone else knowing I told him I was looking for something serious that mean he is selfish and wasting my time. I can take someone being honest with me but one thing i dont like is someone wasting my time. I can literally date someone else that actually wants me. Idk what his case is. He is confusing. One minute you on me . Soon as I can't see you when u want u become distant. Feels like power game to me. I think he has major trust issues and insecurities.. I can literally go above and beyond while he sit back and let me do all the work but no I won't do that just to help his insecurities. It need to be fair. I need him to put more effort or I will cut him off. Maybe that's what I need to do so he gets it. You know ppl don't know what they have till they lose it. He is taking me for granted regardless if he realizes that or not.

With Taurus, it is my way or the highway. Fixed signs feel more secure when they’re in control.

When Taurus don’t get their way, they sulk. They punish.

Don’t feed his inner troll. Speak confidently and direct. What you like and what you don’t like. What will happen if you don’t get your needs met.

Be firm.

He know a lot more about me then I know about him. I talk a lot more than him. He doesn't talk much unless I ask him questions. He is even still nervous around me. I can tell . I find it cute after all this time you're still shy. I want him to be able to be his absolute self around me. It's Summer now I was hoping we would do fun dates making memories. These things I am use to when dating men. take charge. I been so patient with him but it is time for him to step up. Take my feelings into consideration. Do things I want sometimes. I'm willing to do anything for him but I can't give my all when he giving crumbs. That's how u end up empty. Deeping the bond. That's how get my heart and keep it.

Don’t ask us these questions, ASK HIM

Take responsibility, you’re the only one wasting your time being scared to talk to him because of some perceived fear.

You have to speak up for what you want.

Taurus understand strength.

I can't allow myself to fall in love with him. Yes I do love him but I am not in love yet. I need more for that to happen. Yes u are right. His way or no way. I am a mutable sign. I have adapted to his ways but its time for him to consider my way now or I'm gone.

Posted by sunkiss0905

I can't allow myself to fall in love with him. Yes I do love him but I am not in love yet. I need more for that to happen. Yes u are right. His way or no way. I am a mutable sign. I have adapted to his ways but its time for him to consider my way now or I'm gone.

Mutables signs have a rough time with Fixed or Cardinals. You give, you bend, you resent.

Mutable on Mutable could be a very fulfilling relationship.

I'll call him today or tomorrow. I'll voice everything. I need to know all these things before he meet my parents. I'll let yall know how it goes.

Ya'll got poor communication which is leading to some misconceptions and confusion on your end... and I'd guess on his end as well. But that doesn't really matter because you've given him a year of your time and he hasn't committed. So thank you next.

Time is our most valuable resource. Find someone who will respect your time.

Lol im willing to wait if there is no other woman he is investing in. Maybe because he has been distant and it's making me think it's someone else. Literally giving this man my time and no other man. So yes I would be upset if thats the reason he is holding back. If he is dealing with an ex again then he will be considered liar. He told me he is over her .I hope so because she broke him and I feel like I'm getting the short end of the stick because of it 😕

I wanted to do a weekend getaway for my bday last year but he punked out of it. He did take me out to a nice restaurant that night and cooked me breakfast the next day.. we haven't take a trip yet and I been wanting to

it's not a case of "my taurus guy" but instead "a taurus guy".

Astrology studies show not romantically dealing with male Tauruses increases your life span.

Posted by sunkiss0905

Lol im willing to wait if there is no other woman he is investing in. Maybe because he has been distant and it's making me think it's someone else. Literally giving this man my time and no other man. So yes I would be upset if thats the reason he is holding back. If he is dealing with an ex again then he will be considered liar. He told me he is over her .I hope so because she broke him and I feel like I'm getting the short end of the stick because of it 😕

After a year it’s time to ask are we exclusive? Or in a relationship? Nothing wrong with that I bet if once he answers that you don’t have to tell him all that other stuff

I mean it’s perfect timing

You say that way you know how to introduce him to your family

Yea because I don't think I will date another taurus after this. My last ex was taurus as well and he was a narcissist. I had to do a lot of heal and i am still healing. I never been closed off to love tho. Always been loving, vulnerable but loyal..maybe i do it too soon..unevolved taurus men make things more complicated then it has to be. If you that broken over your ex why date to begin with. If u have super trust issues I think its best to heal alone until u feel like u can give a woman a fair shot. Because I don't feel like I'm getting a fair shot even tho he is a nice guy. He is holding back. If im not right for him I hope tell me instead of wasting my time. He said he been real so I guess time will tell

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Posted by sunkiss0905

Yea because I don't think I will date another taurus after this. My last ex was taurus as well and he was a narcissist. I had to do a lot of heal and i am still healing. I never been closed off to love tho. Always been loving, vulnerable but loyal..maybe i do it too soon..unevolved taurus men make things more complicated then it has to be. If you that broken over your ex why date to begin with. If u have super trust issues I think its best to heal alone until u feel like u can give a woman a fair shot. Because I don't feel like I'm getting a fair shot even tho he is a nice guy. He is holding back. If im not right for him I hope tell me instead of wasting my time. He said he been real so I guess time will tell

Yeah you are paying for the sins of his ex. And once he works through his shit and heals through you he will go back to her... or onto the next. Lol I hope not but seen it happen far to many times.

He told me he may lose his job due to force vaccine so he didn't want to plan anything due to finances ..I still went away with my sisters to Florida 5 days later so I was just like whatever. He did end up getting the Vax and stay at job. Even though he thought of quitting. I wasnt upset because I had feeling he would flake.. he never flake on me when it come to other stuff tho ..he usually comes through for me.

I think he may need more from me to commit but I need more as well. This is why this talk is important .