Posted by xomeowwow kind of cringe that as a 30yr old he wants to pass responsibility onto the 18yr old, oh she made the first move I'm just totally helpless and blameless in this situation. Smh please. Your a grown ass man. She's a teenager.
He’s 30 and I’m 29.
Posted by Lula_She is a cancer she is prone to putting up with bs. Cancer suck at having standards and getting rid of people. Which is unfortunate because their vulnerability requires even more selfprotection.
You don't know what to do with an alcoholic, lying, cheating ho?
Problem solved.
Posted by ParkourlerOP Please dont feel hurt, i am saying please direct your kindness and protectivenesy to yourself, and consciously choose people who are worthy of you. If it was your best friend not you how would you help her?Posted by Lula_
You don't know what to do with an alcoholic, lying, cheating ho?
Problem solved.
She is a cancer she is prone to putting up with bs. Cancer suck at having standards and getting rid of people. Which is unfortunate because their vulnerability requires even more selfprotection.click to expand
Posted by xomeow
I have know this Taurus man since we were very young children, mothers were friends, moving states were involved. 11 years later he came to visit while we were both teenagers, it was awkward but ok. Fast forward another 11 years, long story short we ended up dating, and about 2 months later he left everything behind including his job in another state to move in with me.
About a year into the relationship we both decided it would be best if he moved into his stepsister place for a few weeks to look for work. Well… His stepsister has a granddaughter who was 18 at the time and he met her less than a week of being there. Pretty much he was drinking daily while staying at the stepsisters residence and one night while he went to sleep in his stepsisters rv the granddaughter apparently came into the rv, made the first move, and he cheated on me.
I came to visit about a few days afterwards, prior to visiting we talked daily and he complained the granddaughter was annoying him when she came to visit. I did have a strange feeling and knew something was going on due to her intensely staring at him constantly the few times she did come over to visit. The 2nd night I went on his phone and saw they both sent each other a song, I confronted him if he slept with her, of course he denied. There was no further contact between them as far as I know.
A month ago I sent text her off of my number and she confirmed they slept together once. According to her he complained about me to her and she told me to leave him. I forwarded him the text and he finally confessed blaming that he was extremely drunk but couldn’t give me an answer why he did it. I fought with him, he left for 2 days, and we “worked” things out. Idk if working it out is the right thing to do, I’m not sure how to even convince him to come completely clean about the cheating as well. He denies having feeling for this girl but I’m not sure if I completely buy into that. He did say he was finally relieved I found out because he was scared to admit that the cheating occurred. I’m wondering if anyone has an opinion or advice.
I’m a cancer and the other women is a Gemini btw.
Posted by DonnaLibraIts interesting that you blame teenagers for getting with older men and not the older men who have 2xs the life experience and know better.
What is with these teenagers wanting old men lately? Not that 30 is old but when I was 18 I thought 30 was ancient. My friend's husband is 37 (Aries) and he is literally being chased by an 18 year old while his wife is home pregnant. Then I know a 34 year old (Sag) guy with 3 kids who impregnated a 19 year old who he's been in an affair with for over a year. Is there a shortage of guys in their early 20s or something?
Posted by xomeow
He was drinking almost every day we when first started to date ...
Posted by MareInfame
I read OP too fast…
Posted by HamstheticsShe's with both
I thought you were with hypno, a Scorpio?
Posted by alexscariesOlder *married* men pay for their time and companionship too. They have more time for dates and gifts for the young side pieces, then they do for the wives!Posted by DonnaLibra
What is with these teenagers wanting old men lately? Not that 30 is old but when I was 18 I thought 30 was ancient. My friend's husband is 37 (Aries) and he is literally being chased by an 18 year old while his wife is home pregnant. Then I know a 34 year old (Sag) guy with 3 kids who impregnated a 19 year old who he's been in an affair with for over a year. Is there a shortage of guys in their early 20s or something?
Older men are seen as being more respectful. After speaking to a few early 20 year olds they say men their own want to try everything they see in porn on a first date. I'm not saying this true in all cases or older men after always respectful, but it's perception.click to expand
Posted by LadyNeptunePosted by DonnaLibra
What is with these teenagers wanting old men lately? Not that 30 is old but when I was 18 I thought 30 was ancient. My friend's husband is 37 (Aries) and he is literally being chased by an 18 year old while his wife is home pregnant. Then I know a 34 year old (Sag) guy with 3 kids who impregnated a 19 year old who he's been in an affair with for over a year. Is there a shortage of guys in their early 20s or something?
Its interesting that you blame teenagers for getting with older men and not the older men who have 2xs the life experience and know better.click to expand
Posted by DonnaLibraPosted by LadyNeptunePosted by DonnaLibra
What is with these teenagers wanting old men lately? Not that 30 is old but when I was 18 I thought 30 was ancient. My friend's husband is 37 (Aries) and he is literally being chased by an 18 year old while his wife is home pregnant. Then I know a 34 year old (Sag) guy with 3 kids who impregnated a 19 year old who he's been in an affair with for over a year. Is there a shortage of guys in their early 20s or something?
Its interesting that you blame teenagers for getting with older men and not the older men who have 2xs the life experience and know better.
I'm not blaming them I'm really asking why they are attracted to these older guys. Men have been sleazy about young women forever and normally get slapped or told off by young girls when hit on (or me and my crew did back in my day) but now they are actually chasing down these older guys. It used to be the other way around. What happened is all I'm sayin?click to expand
Posted by LadyNeptunePosted by DonnaLibraPosted by LadyNeptunePosted by DonnaLibra
What is with these teenagers wanting old men lately? Not that 30 is old but when I was 18 I thought 30 was ancient. My friend's husband is 37 (Aries) and he is literally being chased by an 18 year old while his wife is home pregnant. Then I know a 34 year old (Sag) guy with 3 kids who impregnated a 19 year old who he's been in an affair with for over a year. Is there a shortage of guys in their early 20s or something?
Its interesting that you blame teenagers for getting with older men and not the older men who have 2xs the life experience and know better.
I'm not blaming them I'm really asking why they are attracted to these older guys. Men have been sleazy about young women forever and normally get slapped or told off by young girls when hit on (or me and my crew did back in my day) but now they are actually chasing down these older guys. It used to be the other way around. What happened is all I'm sayin?
You and your friends told old men no. But young women are chasing down older guys based on your friends husband's word and another older guy you know that can't keep his dick in his pants. Got it.
Generalizations are fun!
Makes me think of the pos rapist who claimed the 3 17yr old young women came onto him and chased him down. Then when I looked up the court documents turned out he raped them each multiple times a 13, 14, and 15 year old.
Victim blaming literal children, because lets be real... even 18/19yr olds are still teenagers, is not a good look.
Like you said, men are the aggressor. Like literally 999xs out of 1000. I went through it at 16 myself. Having an older coach corner me during an out of state tournament. I was flattered but mostly confused and a bit scared. Because as a teen I thought, am I special to be chosen? No I was vulnerable, away from family and teammates. A target. Someone easily moldable and controllable.
I'd be questioning your friends husband story. Why does a 37yr old have constant contact with an 18yr old in the first place for her to "chase him down" allegedly. Very suspect.click to expand
Posted by RedbullPosted by DonnaLibraPosted by LadyNeptunePosted by DonnaLibra
What is with these teenagers wanting old men lately? Not that 30 is old but when I was 18 I thought 30 was ancient. My friend's husband is 37 (Aries) and he is literally being chased by an 18 year old while his wife is home pregnant. Then I know a 34 year old (Sag) guy with 3 kids who impregnated a 19 year old who he's been in an affair with for over a year. Is there a shortage of guys in their early 20s or something?
Its interesting that you blame teenagers for getting with older men and not the older men who have 2xs the life experience and know better.
I'm not blaming them I'm really asking why they are attracted to these older guys. Men have been sleazy about young women forever and normally get slapped or told off by young girls when hit on (or me and my crew did back in my day) but now they are actually chasing down these older guys. It used to be the other way around. What happened is all I'm sayin?
Haha. Why ask why though.
Curiosity.
What I dont get is what makes the young women so bold they'll chase the skin off of you.click to expand
Posted by alexscariesPosted by Timone
I can't get pass sleeping with step sister's granddaughter. 😳
Yeah I know some men have all the luck. 😈click to expand
Posted by DonnaLibraDaddy issue
What is with these teenagers wanting old men lately? Not that 30 is old but when I was 18 I thought 30 was ancient. My friend's husband is 37 (Aries) and he is literally being chased by an 18 year old while his wife is home pregnant. Then I know a 34 year old (Sag) guy with 3 kids who impregnated a 19 year old who he's been in an affair with for over a year. Is there a shortage of guys in their early 20s or something?
Posted by LadyNeptuneand agree with thisPosted by DonnaLibra
What is with these teenagers wanting old men lately? Not that 30 is old but when I was 18 I thought 30 was ancient. My friend's husband is 37 (Aries) and he is literally being chased by an 18 year old while his wife is home pregnant. Then I know a 34 year old (Sag) guy with 3 kids who impregnated a 19 year old who he's been in an affair with for over a year. Is there a shortage of guys in their early 20s or something?
Its interesting that you blame teenagers for getting with older men and not the older men who have 2xs the life experience and know better.click to expand
Posted by DonnaLibraPosted by LadyNeptunePosted by DonnaLibraPosted by LadyNeptunePosted by DonnaLibra
What is with these teenagers wanting old men lately? Not that 30 is old but when I was 18 I thought 30 was ancient. My friend's husband is 37 (Aries) and he is literally being chased by an 18 year old while his wife is home pregnant. Then I know a 34 year old (Sag) guy with 3 kids who impregnated a 19 year old who he's been in an affair with for over a year. Is there a shortage of guys in their early 20s or something?
Its interesting that you blame teenagers for getting with older men and not the older men who have 2xs the life experience and know better.
I'm not blaming them I'm really asking why they are attracted to these older guys. Men have been sleazy about young women forever and normally get slapped or told off by young girls when hit on (or me and my crew did back in my day) but now they are actually chasing down these older guys. It used to be the other way around. What happened is all I'm sayin?
You and your friends told old men no. But young women are chasing down older guys based on your friends husband's word and another older guy you know that can't keep his dick in his pants. Got it.
Generalizations are fun!
Makes me think of the pos rapist who claimed the 3 17yr old young women came onto him and chased him down. Then when I looked up the court documents turned out he raped them each multiple times a 13, 14, and 15 year old.
Victim blaming literal children, because lets be real... even 18/19yr olds are still teenagers, is not a good look.
Like you said, men are the aggressor. Like literally 999xs out of 1000. I went through it at 16 myself. Having an older coach corner me during an out of state tournament. I was flattered but mostly confused and a bit scared. Because as a teen I thought, am I special to be chosen? No I was vulnerable, away from family and teammates. A target. Someone easily moldable and controllable.
I'd be questioning your friends husband story. Why does a 37yr old have constant contact with an 18yr old in the first place for her to "chase him down" allegedly. Very suspect.
First off I never victim blamed anyone, I asked a question .
Actually I'm friends with the mother of the 34 year old who is married to the 37 year old. He's a dog and has always cheated on her since they've been together. She's(wife) caught them together 3 times. Read all their texts, the girl says she's in love with him. Wife is too stupid to leave him. The other guy's wife and kids go to my church and she broke down crying telling our Womens Prayer Group about the affair her husband is having with this girl. She is not well at all. BTW, I'm much older than these women and when I was 19 it was many decades ago so times were completely different then. They didn't even have computers back then much less social media. This is why I'm asking what has changed. I'm sorry for your situation with with that coach who was trying to groom you at 16, as you were a minor; these girls are of legal age and free to make their own decisions. These girls claim to be in love with these guys, not victims. Especially the pregnant one who told his wife they will be together one way or another after the baby is born. Of course I've asked my friend why her son in law is allowed to get away with this and she says because her daughter won't leave him so he does what the hell he wants to do. Older men have been smitten by very young girls and women since the beginning of time and there's no mystery as to why - they are attracted to youth. I don't have to ask that question. Sorry my post triggered you.click to expand
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