bkbella86
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I know it’s a lot but nothing to heavy. Your responses are appreciated, thank you!
Yeah his guard is up. But that’s has nothing to do with you specifically. It’s cause his failed marriage and divorce got him fucked up in the head.
Just be careful not to let him work out his issues on you.
And also it would personally give me pause to hear from his own lips that he divorced his ex wife cause she wouldn’t listen to him. Sounds like pretty abusive behavior. Does he want a partner or a yes man?
Just be careful not to let him work out his issues on you.
And also it would personally give me pause to hear from his own lips that he divorced his ex wife cause she wouldn’t listen to him. Sounds like pretty abusive behavior. Does he want a partner or a yes man?
I’m cap Mars here too and good luck trying to control me. Not a big enough allowance in the world to make me someone’s puppet.
Posted by Black-Mamba
"His ex wife didn’t work she just got an allowance and he said she didn’t listen to him so they divorced. He’s strict and very particular about a lot of things and she wasn’t adhering to it, so he ended it."
WTF
Lmaoo spit it out
Elaborate sis
Posted by LadyNeptune
Yeah his guard is up. But that’s has nothing to do with you specifically. It’s cause his failed marriage and divorce got him fucked up in the head.
Just be careful not to let him work out his issues on you.
And also it would personally give me pause to hear from his own lips that he divorced his ex wife cause she wouldn’t listen to him. Sounds like pretty abusive behavior. Does he want a partner or a yes man?
The stuff he mentioned seemed minor.
In reality if someone is taking care of you, you do have to work within certain parameters, since you’re dependent on them. That’s with any dynamic.
Posted by Black-MambaPosted by bkbella86Posted by Black-Mamba
"His ex wife didn’t work she just got an allowance and he said she didn’t listen to him so they divorced. He’s strict and very particular about a lot of things and she wasn’t adhering to it, so he ended it."
WTF
Lmaoo spit it out
Elaborate sis
Nah you elaborate sis, we need to know what he means?
To me, that sounds controlling as heck.click to expand
One situation was she was buying things for “friends” at a alarming/expensive rate and he happened to get the credit card bill this particular month because he forgot to pay it although she usually does. He said she sent it to another address he didn’t recognize, He told her to stop. Fast forward a couple of months maybe years she’s doing it again. I’m sure there was other things but this seemed to piss him off because he told the story 2 times to me. Also something about her getting mixed up with Africans at church and giving them money too. It all surrounds money.
Her complaint for him according to him was that he worked to much. 16 hour days for 6 or 7 days a week. He’s technically retired now from a traditional job.
Posted by Black-Mamba
@bkbella86 if he couldnt' handle his stay at home wife - how is he going to handle a woman who got her own business and her own mind and ways of doing things
He doesn’t seem bothered by my independence thus far but I’m not so independent that I wouldn’t listen to my partner ever. He also told me he loves a challenge.
Posted by Black-MambaPosted by bkbella86Posted by Black-MambaPosted by bkbella86Posted by Black-Mamba
"His ex wife didn’t work she just got an allowance and he said she didn’t listen to him so they divorced. He’s strict and very particular about a lot of things and she wasn’t adhering to it, so he ended it."
WTF
Lmaoo spit it out
Elaborate sis
Nah you elaborate sis, we need to know what he means?
To me, that sounds controlling as heck.
One situation was she was buying things for “friends” at a alarming/expensive rate and he happened to get the credit card bill this particular month because he forgot to pay it although she usually does. He said she sent it to another address he didn’t recognize, He told her to stop. Fast forward a couple of months maybe years she’s doing it again. I’m sure there was other things but this seemed to piss him off because he told the story 2 times to me. Also something about her getting mixed up with Africans at church and giving them money too. It all surrounds money.
Her complaint for him according to him was that he worked to much. 16 hour days for 6 or 7 days a week. He’s technically retired now from a traditional job.
How old is he?
Whats her sign?click to expand
Gosh I wish I knew. I wanted to ask so bad but didn’t want to sound like a creep asking for her zodiac sign Lmaoo
I’ll get that info one day. What I do know is that he claims he doesn’t like to date to young because young women have ulterior motives. He only hires older women as housekeepers or men. First time we met (professionally) he said he didn’t want to be alone with me.
@Black-Mamba
He’s 50
He’s 50
I dated a Taurus briefly, that keeps in contact with me. He had similar stories- wanted to know my financial business when he was a bum and pretending he was a major icon in the tech business, but how this and that stock fell out from under him and he's starting over.
All I heard was lies and he was broke- But he wanted know all about my jobs and financial assets.
He seemed like a gold digger to me, so I passed. I also secretly don't like guys that wear leather jackets- Ewww.
All I heard was lies and he was broke- But he wanted know all about my jobs and financial assets.
He seemed like a gold digger to me, so I passed. I also secretly don't like guys that wear leather jackets- Ewww.
Posted by PhangusPosted by bkbella86Posted by Black-MambaPosted by bkbella86Posted by Black-MambaPosted by bkbella86Posted by Black-Mamba
"His ex wife didn’t work she just got an allowance and he said she didn’t listen to him so they divorced. He’s strict and very particular about a lot of things and she wasn’t adhering to it, so he ended it."
WTF
Lmaoo spit it out
Elaborate sis
Nah you elaborate sis, we need to know what he means?
To me, that sounds controlling as heck.
One situation was she was buying things for “friends” at a alarming/expensive rate and he happened to get the credit card bill this particular month because he forgot to pay it although she usually does. He said she sent it to another address he didn’t recognize, He told her to stop. Fast forward a couple of months maybe years she’s doing it again. I’m sure there was other things but this seemed to piss him off because he told the story 2 times to me. Also something about her getting mixed up with Africans at church and giving them money too. It all surrounds money.
Her complaint for him according to him was that he worked to much. 16 hour days for 6 or 7 days a week. He’s technically retired now from a traditional job.
How old is he?
Whats her sign?
Gosh I wish I knew. I wanted to ask so bad but didn’t want to sound like a creep asking for her zodiac sign Lmaoo
I’ll get that info one day. What I do know is that he claims he doesn’t like to date to young because young women have ulterior motives. He only hires older women as housekeepers or men. First time we met (professionally) he said he didn’t want to be alone with me.
I understand the not dating younger thing, but why does he not hire younger housekeepers? Does he end up having sex with the housekeepers too?click to expand
Maybe shit I would never know
But he said it’s because young women have ulterior motives and he’s not getting caught up. He used to be in law enforcement and told
Me a few stories. I take everything at face value. 🤷🏽♀️
Posted by saggurl88
I dated a Taurus briefly, that keeps in contact with me. He had similar stories- wanted to know my financial business when he was a bum and pretending he was a major icon in the tech business, but how this and that stock fell out from under him and he's starting over.
All I heard was lies and he was broke- But he wanted know all about my jobs and financial assets.
He seemed like a gold digger to me, so I passed. I also secretly don't like guys that wear leather jackets- Ewww.
Wow
I’ve done my research on him. Thus far things add up.
Posted by PhangusPosted by bkbella86Posted by PhangusPosted by bkbella86Posted by Black-MambaPosted by bkbella86Posted by Black-MambaPosted by bkbella86Posted by Black-Mamba
"His ex wife didn’t work she just got an allowance and he said she didn’t listen to him so they divorced. He’s strict and very particular about a lot of things and she wasn’t adhering to it, so he ended it."
WTF
Lmaoo spit it out
Elaborate sis
Nah you elaborate sis, we need to know what he means?
To me, that sounds controlling as heck.
One situation was she was buying things for “friends” at a alarming/expensive rate and he happened to get the credit card bill this particular month because he forgot to pay it although she usually does. He said she sent it to another address he didn’t recognize, He told her to stop. Fast forward a couple of months maybe years she’s doing it again. I’m sure there was other things but this seemed to piss him off because he told the story 2 times to me. Also something about her getting mixed up with Africans at church and giving them money too. It all surrounds money.
Her complaint for him according to him was that he worked to much. 16 hour days for 6 or 7 days a week. He’s technically retired now from a traditional job.
How old is he?
Whats her sign?
Gosh I wish I knew. I wanted to ask so bad but didn’t want to sound like a creep asking for her zodiac sign Lmaoo
I’ll get that info one day. What I do know is that he claims he doesn’t like to date to young because young women have ulterior motives. He only hires older women as housekeepers or men. First time we met (professionally) he said he didn’t want to be alone with me.
I understand the not dating younger thing, but why does he not hire younger housekeepers? Does he end up having sex with the housekeepers too?
Maybe shit I would never know
But he said it’s because young women have ulterior motives and he’s not getting caught up. He used to be in law enforcement and told
Me a few stories. I take everything at face value. 🤷🏽♀️
Well, let's break that down. What "ulterior motives" could young women have that older women and men would not have? And why would that matter unless he can't keep his pecker out of the hired help?click to expand
Based on the stories he told me, I’m thinking along the lines of blackmail. In his native country there’s a lot of corruption. However he didn’t elaborate and I didn’t ask him to so I’m just assuming.
Posted by bkbella86Posted by saggurl88
I dated a Taurus briefly, that keeps in contact with me. He had similar stories- wanted to know my financial business when he was a bum and pretending he was a major icon in the tech business, but how this and that stock fell out from under him and he's starting over.
All I heard was lies and he was broke- But he wanted know all about my jobs and financial assets.
He seemed like a gold digger to me, so I passed. I also secretly don't like guys that wear leather jackets- Ewww.
Wow
I’ve done my research on him. Thus far things add up.click to expand
Dude made up a story about how he had to sell his house cause he got a divorce and "take care" of his mom to help her out financially.
No research was needed on my part- He lived with his mom
I've never had a dude outright ask me how much money I make a month- TAKE HOME, AT THAT!! and how much I paid for my car. It was disgusting and I didn't like it at all. Made me cringe.
Posted by PhangusPosted by bkbella86Posted by PhangusPosted by bkbella86Posted by PhangusPosted by bkbella86Posted by Black-MambaPosted by bkbella86Posted by Black-MambaPosted by bkbella86Posted by Black-Mamba
"His ex wife didn’t work she just got an allowance and he said she didn’t listen to him so they divorced. He’s strict and very particular about a lot of things and she wasn’t adhering to it, so he ended it."
WTF
Lmaoo spit it out
Elaborate sis
Nah you elaborate sis, we need to know what he means?
To me, that sounds controlling as heck.
One situation was she was buying things for “friends” at a alarming/expensive rate and he happened to get the credit card bill this particular month because he forgot to pay it although she usually does. He said she sent it to another address he didn’t recognize, He told her to stop. Fast forward a couple of months maybe years she’s doing it again. I’m sure there was other things but this seemed to piss him off because he told the story 2 times to me. Also something about her getting mixed up with Africans at church and giving them money too. It all surrounds money.
Her complaint for him according to him was that he worked to much. 16 hour days for 6 or 7 days a week. He’s technically retired now from a traditional job.
How old is he?
Whats her sign?
Gosh I wish I knew. I wanted to ask so bad but didn’t want to sound like a creep asking for her zodiac sign Lmaoo
I’ll get that info one day. What I do know is that he claims he doesn’t like to date to young because young women have ulterior motives. He only hires older women as housekeepers or men. First time we met (professionally) he said he didn’t want to be alone with me.
I understand the not dating younger thing, but why does he not hire younger housekeepers? Does he end up having sex with the housekeepers too?
Maybe shit I would never know
But he said it’s because young women have ulterior motives and he’s not getting caught up. He used to be in law enforcement and told
Me a few stories. I take everything at face value. 🤷🏽♀️
Well, let's break that down. What "ulterior motives" could young women have that older women and men would not have? And why would that matter unless he can't keep his pecker out of the hired help?
Based on the stories he told me, I’m thinking along the lines of blackmail. In his native country there’s a lot of corruption. However he didn’t elaborate and I didn’t ask him to so I’m just assuming.
Blackmail him for what? Fucking them? lol
I'm sorry. That just really stands out as a major red flag to me. Who wants a man who can't control himself?click to expand
Ok can you answer my other question or is that all you have to add?
Either way thanks for your input Dear!
I am solely responding not to give you shit, but because I'd like to actually help you in this.
What is his current financial situation? Because in your initial post, I can't tell if he use to have millions and houses, but decided to give it away for piece of mind, leaving him not poor, but middle class. Or does he still have quite a bit of equity, and lost some of his fortune?
I ask this, because based on that information, I can make a more rationalized thought on why he seemingly is so interested in asking you about your current finances. Something about him asking you all of those questions, with him being 50, and you being early 30's is throwing off some red flags for me that I don't really like. But I am not sure what that is.
What is his current financial situation? Because in your initial post, I can't tell if he use to have millions and houses, but decided to give it away for piece of mind, leaving him not poor, but middle class. Or does he still have quite a bit of equity, and lost some of his fortune?
I ask this, because based on that information, I can make a more rationalized thought on why he seemingly is so interested in asking you about your current finances. Something about him asking you all of those questions, with him being 50, and you being early 30's is throwing off some red flags for me that I don't really like. But I am not sure what that is.
Posted by saggurl88Posted by bkbella86Posted by saggurl88
I dated a Taurus briefly, that keeps in contact with me. He had similar stories- wanted to know my financial business when he was a bum and pretending he was a major icon in the tech business, but how this and that stock fell out from under him and he's starting over.
All I heard was lies and he was broke- But he wanted know all about my jobs and financial assets.
He seemed like a gold digger to me, so I passed. I also secretly don't like guys that wear leather jackets- Ewww.
Wow
I’ve done my research on him. Thus far things add up.
Dude made up a story about how he had to sell his house cause he got a divorce and "take care" of his mom to help her out financially.
No research was needed on my part- He lived with his mom
I've never had a dude outright ask me how much money I make a month- TAKE HOME, AT THAT!! and how much I paid for my car. It was disgusting and I didn't like it at all. Made me cringe.click to expand
Dang
I never answer him specifically, lol I just say things are ok.
He’s given me money on several occasions so I don’t think he’s a gold digger. He also owns several properties. And businesses.
Posted by bkbella86Posted by saggurl88Posted by bkbella86Posted by saggurl88
I dated a Taurus briefly, that keeps in contact with me. He had similar stories- wanted to know my financial business when he was a bum and pretending he was a major icon in the tech business, but how this and that stock fell out from under him and he's starting over.
All I heard was lies and he was broke- But he wanted know all about my jobs and financial assets.
He seemed like a gold digger to me, so I passed. I also secretly don't like guys that wear leather jackets- Ewww.
Wow
I’ve done my research on him. Thus far things add up.
Dude made up a story about how he had to sell his house cause he got a divorce and "take care" of his mom to help her out financially.
No research was needed on my part- He lived with his mom
I've never had a dude outright ask me how much money I make a month- TAKE HOME, AT THAT!! and how much I paid for my car. It was disgusting and I didn't like it at all. Made me cringe.
Dang
I never answer him specifically, lol I just say things are ok.
He’s given me money on several occasions so I don’t think he’s a gold digger. He also owns several properties. And businesses.click to expand
Oh ok good- Keep your business to yourself lol
Posted by nikkistar
I am solely responding not to give you shit, but because I'd like to actually help you in this.
What is his current financial situation? Because in your initial post, I can't tell if he use to have millions and houses, but decided to give it away for piece of mind, leaving him not poor, but middle class. Or does he still have quite a bit of equity, and lost some of his fortune?
I ask this, because based on that information, I can make a more rationalized thought on why he seemingly is so interested in asking you about your current finances. Something about him asking you all of those questions, with him being 50, and you being early 30's is throwing off some red flags for me that I don't really like. But I am not sure what that is.
He still owns several properties and businesses. He’s in the middle of a big project now. I’ve seen 3 of his properties in person and have been inside. I don’t doubt any part of that because it’s been verified. I’m a skilled detective when I need to be.
A few years ago my friend got mixed up with this Gemini from bumfuck, during the inception of their relationship we weren’t talking so I couldn’t suggest it then but he started wilding out and she ended in trouble with the law behind him. I looked him up and low and behold this dude had a rap sheet a mile long. She was in and out of court for a year. She’s also quite the detective but got blinded by the “love” and didn’t do her normal one/two.
Posted by PhangusPosted by bkbella86Posted by PhangusPosted by bkbella86Posted by PhangusPosted by bkbella86Posted by PhangusPosted by bkbella86Posted by Black-MambaPosted by bkbella86Posted by Black-MambaPosted by bkbella86Posted by Black-Mamba
"His ex wife didn’t work she just got an allowance and he said she didn’t listen to him so they divorced. He’s strict and very particular about a lot of things and she wasn’t adhering to it, so he ended it."
WTF
Lmaoo spit it out
Elaborate sis
Nah you elaborate sis, we need to know what he means?
To me, that sounds controlling as heck.
One situation was she was buying things for “friends” at a alarming/expensive rate and he happened to get the credit card bill this particular month because he forgot to pay it although she usually does. He said she sent it to another address he didn’t recognize, He told her to stop. Fast forward a couple of months maybe years she’s doing it again. I’m sure there was other things but this seemed to piss him off because he told the story 2 times to me. Also something about her getting mixed up with Africans at church and giving them money too. It all surrounds money.
Her complaint for him according to him was that he worked to much. 16 hour days for 6 or 7 days a week. He’s technically retired now from a traditional job.
How old is he?
Whats her sign?
Gosh I wish I knew. I wanted to ask so bad but didn’t want to sound like a creep asking for her zodiac sign Lmaoo
I’ll get that info one day. What I do know is that he claims he doesn’t like to date to young because young women have ulterior motives. He only hires older women as housekeepers or men. First time we met (professionally) he said he didn’t want to be alone with me.
I understand the not dating younger thing, but why does he not hire younger housekeepers? Does he end up having sex with the housekeepers too?
Maybe shit I would never know
But he said it’s because young women have ulterior motives and he’s not getting caught up. He used to be in law enforcement and told
Me a few stories. I take everything at face value. 🤷🏽♀️
Well, let's break that down. What "ulterior motives" could young women have that older women and men would not have? And why would that matter unless he can't keep his pecker out of the hired help?
Based on the stories he told me, I’m thinking along the lines of blackmail. In his native country there’s a lot of corruption. However he didn’t elaborate and I didn’t ask him to so I’m just assuming.
Blackmail him for what? Fucking them? lol
I'm sorry. That just really stands out as a major red flag to me. Who wants a man who can't control himself?
Ok can you answer my other question or is that all you have to add?
Either way thanks for your input Dear!
All the stuff he has shared with you is good in the sense that he seems very interested. The bad news is that you mentioned a bunch of red flags that make me worry. I just mentioned that one because others were already concerned about the ex-wife. It's concerning to me; not necessarily dead in the water, but concerning.click to expand
Thank you so much
I got my senses on high alert!
Posted by Nicket
I agree with all the DXP ladies. He's a broke ho trying to get you to knock him up so he gets all your stuff.
Classic ho game
Lmaooo
All the ladies did not say that.
But I’m barley two years into what I’m doing. I ain’t got it to give and I don’t take care of men. The thought dries me up.
Posted by bkbella86Posted by nikkistar
I am solely responding not to give you shit, but because I'd like to actually help you in this.
What is his current financial situation? Because in your initial post, I can't tell if he use to have millions and houses, but decided to give it away for piece of mind, leaving him not poor, but middle class. Or does he still have quite a bit of equity, and lost some of his fortune?
I ask this, because based on that information, I can make a more rationalized thought on why he seemingly is so interested in asking you about your current finances. Something about him asking you all of those questions, with him being 50, and you being early 30's is throwing off some red flags for me that I don't really like. But I am not sure what that is.
He still owns several properties and businesses. He’s in the middle of a big project now. I’ve seen 3 of his properties in person and have been inside. I don’t doubt any part of that because it’s been verified. I’m a skilled detective when I need to be.
A few years ago my friend got mixed up with this Gemini from bumfuck, during the inception of their relationship we weren’t talking so I couldn’t suggest it then but he started wilding out and she ended in trouble with the law behind him. I looked him up and low and behold this dude had a rap sheet a mile long. She was in and out of court for a year. She’s also quite the detective but got blinded by the “love” and didn’t do her normal one/two.click to expand
Okay, good. That clarifies more for me. Glad you research. I think more people should do so.
So, it sounds like he is probably asking you the financial questions because he probably understands where his previous marriage failed. It isn't that it was because it was traditional, but likely because his ex-wife suffered from "idle hands".
I will give you a personal story in regards to my step father (I call him my dad). His previous marriage was much like what the Taurus you are currently dating had as well. Ex-wife, that seemingly stayed at home and spent frivolously. I think that comes down to boredom, and nothing to do. Much like your Taurus, he ended up giving her half the equity of his assets to get peace of mind as well. After that marriage failed, he married my own mom, who for all intents and purposes is the polar opposite of that, and ambitious. Yet, she is still traditional in a sense that she converted to his religion to marry him, and is still very center focused on traditional aspects of marriage. She just also strongly believes that she should contribute her own financial strength.
So it sounds like your Taurus is potentially acting in the same fashion as my step father. In that he now recognizes what he doesn't want in a partner, and needs someone that doesn't suffer from idle hand. And more than likely, likes that you are traditional in aspects that I know you seem to gear towards, but still want your own financial freedom. He is more than likely, just testing to make sure that what he hears also aligns with what he sees.
I think given time, this relationship could be very fruitful for you. It will be an easy one, that will build slowly, but overtime as long as there is no rush on either side. I have found most Taurus men to actually know how to be financially stable and able to save money, but in an almost discreet type of way. They have more money then they let on, and sometimes appear to be broke when they aren't.
Posted by nikkistarPosted by bkbella86Posted by nikkistar
I am solely responding not to give you shit, but because I'd like to actually help you in this.
What is his current financial situation? Because in your initial post, I can't tell if he use to have millions and houses, but decided to give it away for piece of mind, leaving him not poor, but middle class. Or does he still have quite a bit of equity, and lost some of his fortune?
I ask this, because based on that information, I can make a more rationalized thought on why he seemingly is so interested in asking you about your current finances. Something about him asking you all of those questions, with him being 50, and you being early 30's is throwing off some red flags for me that I don't really like. But I am not sure what that is.
He still owns several properties and businesses. He’s in the middle of a big project now. I’ve seen 3 of his properties in person and have been inside. I don’t doubt any part of that because it’s been verified. I’m a skilled detective when I need to be.
A few years ago my friend got mixed up with this Gemini from bumfuck, during the inception of their relationship we weren’t talking so I couldn’t suggest it then but he started wilding out and she ended in trouble with the law behind him. I looked him up and low and behold this dude had a rap sheet a mile long. She was in and out of court for a year. She’s also quite the detective but got blinded by the “love” and didn’t do her normal one/two.
Okay, good. That clarifies more for me. Glad you research. I think more people should do so.
So, it sounds like he is probably asking you the financial questions because he probably understands where his previous marriage failed. It isn't that it was because it was traditional, but likely because his ex-wife suffered from "idle hands".
I will give you a personal story in regards to my step father (I call him my dad). His previous marriage was much like what the Taurus you are currently dating had as well. Ex-wife, that seemingly stayed at home and spent frivolously. I think that comes down to boredom, and nothing to do. Much like your Taurus, he ended up giving her half the equity of his assets to get peace of mind as well. After that marriage failed, he married my own mom, who for all intents and purposes is the polar opposite of that, and ambitious. Yet, she is still traditional in a sense that she converted to his religion to marry him, and is still very center focused on traditional aspects of marriage. She just also strongly believes that she should contribute her own financial strength.
So it sounds like your Taurus is potentially acting in the same fashion as my step father. In that he now recognizes what he doesn't want in a partner, and needs someone that doesn't suffer from idle hand. And more than likely, likes that you are traditional in aspects that I know you seem to gear towards, but still want your own financial freedom. He is more than likely, just testing to make sure that what he hears also aligns with what he sees.
I think given time, this relationship could be very fruitful for you. It will be an easy one, that will build slowly, but overtime as long as there is no rush on either side. I have found most Taurus men to actually know how to be financially stable and able to save money, but in an almost discreet type of way. They have more money then they let on, and sometimes appear to be broke when they aren't.click to expand
Thanks Nikki
He dresses very modest when out in his neighborhood. You would never know he’s a millionaire unless he tells you. However the first time we met professionally he did somewhat brag and tell me lol.
Girl idk about easy, though. This guy is anything but easy but I’m not easy either so, I’m ok thus far with that. He definitely has that stubborn Taurus streak. I messed up with him a few weeks ago, kept him waiting I was so busy at work and then when I got In I took a nap an didn’t tell him What was going on, we were supposed to meet at 7:30. I’m not even gonna tell you what time I actually got ready but it was well after 7:30. I got up from my nap got dressed and ready to walk out the door and he gave me an earful and cancelled our date. I didn’t get why he was soooo mad and then I told me friend and she checked me. I apologized and he accepted right away and called me. I thought since it was work related he would understand, nah he didn’t care.
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"His ex wife didn’t work she just got an allowance and he said she didn’t listen to him so they divorced. He’s strict and very particular about a lot of things and she wasn’t adhering to it, so he ended it."
WTF
Lmaoo spit it out
Elaborate sis
Nah you elaborate sis, we need to know what he means?
To me, that sounds controlling as heck.
One situation was she was buying things for “friends” at a alarming/expensive rate and he happened to get the credit card bill this particular month because he forgot to pay it although she usually does. He said she sent it to another address he didn’t recognize, He told her to stop. Fast forward a couple of months maybe years she’s doing it again. I’m sure there was other things but this seemed to piss him off because he told the story 2 times to me. Also something about her getting mixed up with Africans at church and giving them money too. It all surrounds money.
Her complaint for him according to him was that he worked to much. 16 hour days for 6 or 7 days a week. He’s technically retired now from a traditional job.
How old is he?
Whats her sign?
Gosh I wish I knew. I wanted to ask so bad but didn’t want to sound like a creep asking for her zodiac sign Lmaoo
I’ll get that info one day. What I do know is that he claims he doesn’t like to date to young because young women have ulterior motives. He only hires older women as housekeepers or men. First time we met (professionally) he said he didn’t want to be alone with me.
I understand the not dating younger thing, but why does he not hire younger housekeepers? Does he end up having sex with the housekeepers too?
Maybe shit I would never know
But he said it’s because young women have ulterior motives and he’s not getting caught up. He used to be in law enforcement and told
Me a few stories. I take everything at face value. 🤷🏽♀️
Well, let's break that down. What "ulterior motives" could young women have that older women and men would not have? And why would that matter unless he can't keep his pecker out of the hired help?
Based on the stories he told me, I’m thinking along the lines of blackmail. In his native country there’s a lot of corruption. However he didn’t elaborate and I didn’t ask him to so I’m just assuming.
Oh please don't tell me this guy is Nigerianclick to expand
Lmaooo
NO. He’s not African nor African American. But he’s black.
Posted by NicketPosted by bkbella86Posted by Nicket
I agree with all the DXP ladies. He's a broke ho trying to get you to knock him up so he gets all your stuff.
Classic ho game
Lmaooo
All the ladies did not say that.
But I’m barley two years into what I’m doing. I ain’t got it to give and I don’t take care of men. The thought dries me up.
I was only joking. I say Nikki nailed it with her last post.
If I were you I wouldn't put much weight on his ex. To earn money we trade time from our lives. That's literally what earning money is. IMO he should have divorced her she sounds entitled and disrespectful. Unless he forced her to be a stay at home wife, which I highly doubt, she just felt like a little princess who got too big for her britches. As Nikki said "idle hands" they're the devil, she could have gotten a job and donated that money to whenever she wanted, but she didn't, she spent his money that he spent time from his life earning, when he specifically stated he didn't agree with how it was being spent.
As for the not wanting to be alone with a woman: that's actually pretty common. With the amount of false sexual assault accusations flying around nowadays, you're damn right you either remove yourself from a potentially bad situation or have a witness with you.click to expand
I really don’t care about the ex, was just giving background information to support my theory. Theory being he’s really protective of his money now because of what he went through. I also don’t blame him on wanting to not be alone with women given the current climate.
Posted by thatlibralife
He's strict...
He's particular..
He gave her allowance...
His ex didn't listen to him so he cut her loose...
He's almost 20 years older...
Controlla...controlla...yea
Run don't walk to nearest exit. He sounds like he wants to be a daddy figure...that doesn't mix well in romance...
.
I can’t just yet. I’m too curious, attracted and intrigued.
Posted by NicketPosted by bkbella86Posted by NicketPosted by bkbella86Posted by Nicket
I agree with all the DXP ladies. He's a broke ho trying to get you to knock him up so he gets all your stuff.
Classic ho game
Lmaooo
All the ladies did not say that.
But I’m barley two years into what I’m doing. I ain’t got it to give and I don’t take care of men. The thought dries me up.
I was only joking. I say Nikki nailed it with her last post.
If I were you I wouldn't put much weight on his ex. To earn money we trade time from our lives. That's literally what earning money is. IMO he should have divorced her she sounds entitled and disrespectful. Unless he forced her to be a stay at home wife, which I highly doubt, she just felt like a little princess who got too big for her britches. As Nikki said "idle hands" they're the devil, she could have gotten a job and donated that money to whenever she wanted, but she didn't, she spent his money that he spent time from his life earning, when he specifically stated he didn't agree with how it was being spent.
As for the not wanting to be alone with a woman: that's actually pretty common. With the amount of false sexual assault accusations flying around nowadays, you're damn right you either remove yourself from a potentially bad situation or have a witness with you.
I really don’t care about the ex, was just giving background information to support my theory. Theory being he’s really protective of his money now because of what he went through. I also don’t blame him on wanting to not be alone with women given the current climate.
Honestly, the only weird thing that stuck out to me is why did he ask if you became pregnant would he be the first one you tell?
That just seems odd to me, harmless but odd.click to expand
We were making out and then talking he says what if you get pregnant? I said by whooo? You?? He said yes. Then we discussed what would happen if I got pregnant. He’s was most likely in the moment thinking about is having raw sex.
Posted by Black-MambaPosted by saggurl88
Please don't fuking USE MY GIF
that is a PATENT GIFclick to expand
Ignore this, like you ignored my birthday thread!!! 😏
Posted by NicketPosted by bkbella86Posted by NicketPosted by bkbella86Posted by Nicket
I agree with all the DXP ladies. He's a broke ho trying to get you to knock him up so he gets all your stuff.
Classic ho game
Lmaooo
All the ladies did not say that.
But I’m barley two years into what I’m doing. I ain’t got it to give and I don’t take care of men. The thought dries me up.
I was only joking. I say Nikki nailed it with her last post.
If I were you I wouldn't put much weight on his ex. To earn money we trade time from our lives. That's literally what earning money is. IMO he should have divorced her she sounds entitled and disrespectful. Unless he forced her to be a stay at home wife, which I highly doubt, she just felt like a little princess who got too big for her britches. As Nikki said "idle hands" they're the devil, she could have gotten a job and donated that money to whenever she wanted, but she didn't, she spent his money that he spent time from his life earning, when he specifically stated he didn't agree with how it was being spent.
As for the not wanting to be alone with a woman: that's actually pretty common. With the amount of false sexual assault accusations flying around nowadays, you're damn right you either remove yourself from a potentially bad situation or have a witness with you.
I really don’t care about the ex, was just giving background information to support my theory. Theory being he’s really protective of his money now because of what he went through. I also don’t blame him on wanting to not be alone with women given the current climate.
And I get that you dont care about the ex, everyone has a past.
I think your gut is right with him. He's built up walls to deal with current situations. Probably some are new walls and might be why some of the awkward questions. He just hasn't had time to iron out the delivery of his new wall questionnaire lol, it'll get better over time.click to expand
He’s asked me so many questions
I’m not one to just share my life, maybe he sensed that? Some of the things he asked I would never share. Even though they weren’t super personal I’m not a open book. My Scorpio friend tell me I’m soo secretive over dumb shit but I don’t look at it like that. Ask and maybe you shall receive.
Every time we go out he tells me more and more. I like to listen to people more than I like to talk. He Asked me my life story on our first date and I got so flustered maybe I am secretive lol.
Posted by thatlibralifePosted by bkbella86Posted by thatlibralife
He's strict...
He's particular..
He gave her allowance...
His ex didn't listen to him so he cut her loose...
He's almost 20 years older...
Controlla...controlla...yea
Run don't walk to nearest exit. He sounds like he wants to be a daddy figure...that doesn't mix well in romance...
.
I can’t just yet. I’m too curious, attracted and intrigued.
Ok lol...but best to let him know in your own bkbella way that you can't and won't be bossed around or it can get out of control...been there..done that..good luck...click to expand
To be honest I love someone who takes control but it’s such a fine line. That can get abusive, ya know?
He also like to be challenged, his own words. I’m a bit of both.
Posted by bkbella86Posted by Black-Mamba
@bkbella86 if he couldnt' handle his stay at home wife - how is he going to handle a woman who got her own business and her own mind and ways of doing things
He doesn’t seem bothered by my independence thus far but I’m not so independent that I wouldn’t listen to my partner ever. He also told me he loves a challenge.click to expand
yeah, they all say that at the start...
anyway, he sounds interested. you're being careful and checking him out. i wouldn't make any fast moves with this guy. take your time. make sure he is legit (not only his cash situation but his character) and wants to invest in something substantial with you (assuming that's what you are after).
Posted by bkbella86Posted by nikkistarPosted by bkbella86Posted by nikkistar
I am solely responding not to give you shit, but because I'd like to actually help you in this.
What is his current financial situation? Because in your initial post, I can't tell if he use to have millions and houses, but decided to give it away for piece of mind, leaving him not poor, but middle class. Or does he still have quite a bit of equity, and lost some of his fortune?
I ask this, because based on that information, I can make a more rationalized thought on why he seemingly is so interested in asking you about your current finances. Something about him asking you all of those questions, with him being 50, and you being early 30's is throwing off some red flags for me that I don't really like. But I am not sure what that is.
He still owns several properties and businesses. He’s in the middle of a big project now. I’ve seen 3 of his properties in person and have been inside. I don’t doubt any part of that because it’s been verified. I’m a skilled detective when I need to be.
A few years ago my friend got mixed up with this Gemini from bumfuck, during the inception of their relationship we weren’t talking so I couldn’t suggest it then but he started wilding out and she ended in trouble with the law behind him. I looked him up and low and behold this dude had a rap sheet a mile long. She was in and out of court for a year. She’s also quite the detective but got blinded by the “love” and didn’t do her normal one/two.
Okay, good. That clarifies more for me. Glad you research. I think more people should do so.
So, it sounds like he is probably asking you the financial questions because he probably understands where his previous marriage failed. It isn't that it was because it was traditional, but likely because his ex-wife suffered from "idle hands".
I will give you a personal story in regards to my step father (I call him my dad). His previous marriage was much like what the Taurus you are currently dating had as well. Ex-wife, that seemingly stayed at home and spent frivolously. I think that comes down to boredom, and nothing to do. Much like your Taurus, he ended up giving her half the equity of his assets to get peace of mind as well. After that marriage failed, he married my own mom, who for all intents and purposes is the polar opposite of that, and ambitious. Yet, she is still traditional in a sense that she converted to his religion to marry him, and is still very center focused on traditional aspects of marriage. She just also strongly believes that she should contribute her own financial strength.
So it sounds like your Taurus is potentially acting in the same fashion as my step father. In that he now recognizes what he doesn't want in a partner, and needs someone that doesn't suffer from idle hand. And more than likely, likes that you are traditional in aspects that I know you seem to gear towards, but still want your own financial freedom. He is more than likely, just testing to make sure that what he hears also aligns with what he sees.
I think given time, this relationship could be very fruitful for you. It will be an easy one, that will build slowly, but overtime as long as there is no rush on either side. I have found most Taurus men to actually know how to be financially stable and able to save money, but in an almost discreet type of way. They have more money then they let on, and sometimes appear to be broke when they aren't.
Thanks Nikki
He dresses very modest when out in his neighborhood. You would never know he’s a millionaire unless he tells you. However the first time we met professionally he did somewhat brag and tell me lol.
Girl idk about easy, though. This guy is anything but easy but I’m not easy either so, I’m ok thus far with that. He definitely has that stubborn Taurus streak. I messed up with him a few weeks ago, kept him waiting I was so busy at work and then when I got In I took a nap an didn’t tell him What was going on, we were supposed to meet at 7:30. I’m not even gonna tell you what time I actually got ready but it was well after 7:30. I got up from my nap got dressed and ready to walk out the door and he gave me an earful and cancelled our date. I didn’t get why he was soooo mad and then I told me friend and she checked me. I apologized and he accepted right away and called me. I thought since it was work related he would understand, nah he didn’t care.click to expand
Hahaha! I didn't mean "easy" easy. I meant that, I don't see any real red flags as long as there is mutual respect for each other. Just do not let him run you, ya know?
I will say this, my dad, you wouldn't know he was well off either. The guy loves his free t-shirts and hats like no other, while having some ridiculously over priced watch on. It's those types, you will want. The subtle ones are the more financially stable kind.
And let's be real, you probably sorta like that he didn't let you slide on getting away with being late. It probably somewhat got you sitting up just a bit straighter. In my experience, and what I have seen, every strong woman does not want a weak man. That doesn't mean they are overbearing, but won't let themselves be doormats. They just pick their fights for the more important things, while allowing the less important things not to cause issue.
What I think is, it will be easy in terms of not being too dramatic, and something you two can built a good healthy relationship with. I am lowkey rooting like hell for you on this one, cause I think he will be a good match for you.
Posted by jeanePosted by bkbella86Posted by Black-Mamba
@bkbella86 if he couldnt' handle his stay at home wife - how is he going to handle a woman who got her own business and her own mind and ways of doing things
He doesn’t seem bothered by my independence thus far but I’m not so independent that I wouldn’t listen to my partner ever. He also told me he loves a challenge.
yeah, they all say that at the start...
anyway, he sounds interested. you're being careful and checking him out. i wouldn't make any fast moves with this guy. take your time. make sure he is legit (not only his cash situation but his character) and wants to invest in something substantial with you (assuming that's what you are after).click to expand
I do want something substantial. That’s why I’m trying to see where his head is at.
Posted by nikkistarPosted by bkbella86Posted by nikkistarPosted by bkbella86Posted by nikkistar
I am solely responding not to give you shit, but because I'd like to actually help you in this.
What is his current financial situation? Because in your initial post, I can't tell if he use to have millions and houses, but decided to give it away for piece of mind, leaving him not poor, but middle class. Or does he still have quite a bit of equity, and lost some of his fortune?
I ask this, because based on that information, I can make a more rationalized thought on why he seemingly is so interested in asking you about your current finances. Something about him asking you all of those questions, with him being 50, and you being early 30's is throwing off some red flags for me that I don't really like. But I am not sure what that is.
He still owns several properties and businesses. He’s in the middle of a big project now. I’ve seen 3 of his properties in person and have been inside. I don’t doubt any part of that because it’s been verified. I’m a skilled detective when I need to be.
A few years ago my friend got mixed up with this Gemini from bumfuck, during the inception of their relationship we weren’t talking so I couldn’t suggest it then but he started wilding out and she ended in trouble with the law behind him. I looked him up and low and behold this dude had a rap sheet a mile long. She was in and out of court for a year. She’s also quite the detective but got blinded by the “love” and didn’t do her normal one/two.
Okay, good. That clarifies more for me. Glad you research. I think more people should do so.
So, it sounds like he is probably asking you the financial questions because he probably understands where his previous marriage failed. It isn't that it was because it was traditional, but likely because his ex-wife suffered from "idle hands".
I will give you a personal story in regards to my step father (I call him my dad). His previous marriage was much like what the Taurus you are currently dating had as well. Ex-wife, that seemingly stayed at home and spent frivolously. I think that comes down to boredom, and nothing to do. Much like your Taurus, he ended up giving her half the equity of his assets to get peace of mind as well. After that marriage failed, he married my own mom, who for all intents and purposes is the polar opposite of that, and ambitious. Yet, she is still traditional in a sense that she converted to his religion to marry him, and is still very center focused on traditional aspects of marriage. She just also strongly believes that she should contribute her own financial strength.
So it sounds like your Taurus is potentially acting in the same fashion as my step father. In that he now recognizes what he doesn't want in a partner, and needs someone that doesn't suffer from idle hand. And more than likely, likes that you are traditional in aspects that I know you seem to gear towards, but still want your own financial freedom. He is more than likely, just testing to make sure that what he hears also aligns with what he sees.
I think given time, this relationship could be very fruitful for you. It will be an easy one, that will build slowly, but overtime as long as there is no rush on either side. I have found most Taurus men to actually know how to be financially stable and able to save money, but in an almost discreet type of way. They have more money then they let on, and sometimes appear to be broke when they aren't.
Thanks Nikki
He dresses very modest when out in his neighborhood. You would never know he’s a millionaire unless he tells you. However the first time we met professionally he did somewhat brag and tell me lol.
Girl idk about easy, though. This guy is anything but easy but I’m not easy either so, I’m ok thus far with that. He definitely has that stubborn Taurus streak. I messed up with him a few weeks ago, kept him waiting I was so busy at work and then when I got In I took a nap an didn’t tell him What was going on, we were supposed to meet at 7:30. I’m not even gonna tell you what time I actually got ready but it was well after 7:30. I got up from my nap got dressed and ready to walk out the door and he gave me an earful and cancelled our date. I didn’t get why he was soooo mad and then I told me friend and she checked me. I apologized and he accepted right away and called me. I thought since it was work related he would understand, nah he didn’t care.
Hahaha! I didn't mean "easy" easy. I meant that, I don't see any real red flags as long as there is mutual respect for each other. Just do not let him run you, ya know?
I will say this, my dad, you wouldn't know he was well off either. The guy loves his free t-shirts and hats like no other, while having some ridiculously over priced watch on. It's those types, you will want. The subtle ones are the more financially stable kind.
And let's be real, you probably sorta like that he didn't let you slide on getting away with being late. It probably somewhat got you sitting up just a bit straighter. In my experience, and what I have seen, every strong woman does not want a weak man. That doesn't mean they are overbearing, but won't let themselves be doormats. They just pick their fights for the more important things, while allowing the less important things not to cause issue.
What I think is, it will be easy in terms of not being too dramatic, and something you two can built a good healthy relationship with. I am lowkey rooting like hell for you on this one, cause I think he will be a good match for you.click to expand
Aww look at you being all sweet, you’re touching my soft spot. Thanks again Nikki.
Posted by bkbella86Posted by nikkistarPosted by bkbella86Posted by nikkistarPosted by bkbella86Posted by nikkistar
I am solely responding not to give you shit, but because I'd like to actually help you in this.
What is his current financial situation? Because in your initial post, I can't tell if he use to have millions and houses, but decided to give it away for piece of mind, leaving him not poor, but middle class. Or does he still have quite a bit of equity, and lost some of his fortune?
I ask this, because based on that information, I can make a more rationalized thought on why he seemingly is so interested in asking you about your current finances. Something about him asking you all of those questions, with him being 50, and you being early 30's is throwing off some red flags for me that I don't really like. But I am not sure what that is.
He still owns several properties and businesses. He’s in the middle of a big project now. I’ve seen 3 of his properties in person and have been inside. I don’t doubt any part of that because it’s been verified. I’m a skilled detective when I need to be.
A few years ago my friend got mixed up with this Gemini from bumfuck, during the inception of their relationship we weren’t talking so I couldn’t suggest it then but he started wilding out and she ended in trouble with the law behind him. I looked him up and low and behold this dude had a rap sheet a mile long. She was in and out of court for a year. She’s also quite the detective but got blinded by the “love” and didn’t do her normal one/two.
Okay, good. That clarifies more for me. Glad you research. I think more people should do so.
So, it sounds like he is probably asking you the financial questions because he probably understands where his previous marriage failed. It isn't that it was because it was traditional, but likely because his ex-wife suffered from "idle hands".
I will give you a personal story in regards to my step father (I call him my dad). His previous marriage was much like what the Taurus you are currently dating had as well. Ex-wife, that seemingly stayed at home and spent frivolously. I think that comes down to boredom, and nothing to do. Much like your Taurus, he ended up giving her half the equity of his assets to get peace of mind as well. After that marriage failed, he married my own mom, who for all intents and purposes is the polar opposite of that, and ambitious. Yet, she is still traditional in a sense that she converted to his religion to marry him, and is still very center focused on traditional aspects of marriage. She just also strongly believes that she should contribute her own financial strength.
So it sounds like your Taurus is potentially acting in the same fashion as my step father. In that he now recognizes what he doesn't want in a partner, and needs someone that doesn't suffer from idle hand. And more than likely, likes that you are traditional in aspects that I know you seem to gear towards, but still want your own financial freedom. He is more than likely, just testing to make sure that what he hears also aligns with what he sees.
I think given time, this relationship could be very fruitful for you. It will be an easy one, that will build slowly, but overtime as long as there is no rush on either side. I have found most Taurus men to actually know how to be financially stable and able to save money, but in an almost discreet type of way. They have more money then they let on, and sometimes appear to be broke when they aren't.
Thanks Nikki
He dresses very modest when out in his neighborhood. You would never know he’s a millionaire unless he tells you. However the first time we met professionally he did somewhat brag and tell me lol.
Girl idk about easy, though. This guy is anything but easy but I’m not easy either so, I’m ok thus far with that. He definitely has that stubborn Taurus streak. I messed up with him a few weeks ago, kept him waiting I was so busy at work and then when I got In I took a nap an didn’t tell him What was going on, we were supposed to meet at 7:30. I’m not even gonna tell you what time I actually got ready but it was well after 7:30. I got up from my nap got dressed and ready to walk out the door and he gave me an earful and cancelled our date. I didn’t get why he was soooo mad and then I told me friend and she checked me. I apologized and he accepted right away and called me. I thought since it was work related he would understand, nah he didn’t care.
Hahaha! I didn't mean "easy" easy. I meant that, I don't see any real red flags as long as there is mutual respect for each other. Just do not let him run you, ya know?
I will say this, my dad, you wouldn't know he was well off either. The guy loves his free t-shirts and hats like no other, while having some ridiculously over priced watch on. It's those types, you will want. The subtle ones are the more financially stable kind.
And let's be real, you probably sorta like that he didn't let you slide on getting away with being late. It probably somewhat got you sitting up just a bit straighter. In my experience, and what I have seen, every strong woman does not want a weak man. That doesn't mean they are overbearing, but won't let themselves be doormats. They just pick their fights for the more important things, while allowing the less important things not to cause issue.
What I think is, it will be easy in terms of not being too dramatic, and something you two can built a good healthy relationship with. I am lowkey rooting like hell for you on this one, cause I think he will be a good match for you.
Aww look at you being all sweet, you’re touching my soft spot. Thanks again Nikki.click to expand
I'm not always an asshole. lol I just get bored sometimes and have a stupid libra moon that likes to poke for fun.
Cancer rising is the death of me. lol
Posted by nikkistarPosted by bkbella86Posted by nikkistarPosted by bkbella86Posted by nikkistar
I am solely responding not to give you shit, but because I'd like to actually help you in this.
What is his current financial situation? Because in your initial post, I can't tell if he use to have millions and houses, but decided to give it away for piece of mind, leaving him not poor, but middle class. Or does he still have quite a bit of equity, and lost some of his fortune?
I ask this, because based on that information, I can make a more rationalized thought on why he seemingly is so interested in asking you about your current finances. Something about him asking you all of those questions, with him being 50, and you being early 30's is throwing off some red flags for me that I don't really like. But I am not sure what that is.
He still owns several properties and businesses. He’s in the middle of a big project now. I’ve seen 3 of his properties in person and have been inside. I don’t doubt any part of that because it’s been verified. I’m a skilled detective when I need to be.
A few years ago my friend got mixed up with this Gemini from bumfuck, during the inception of their relationship we weren’t talking so I couldn’t suggest it then but he started wilding out and she ended in trouble with the law behind him. I looked him up and low and behold this dude had a rap sheet a mile long. She was in and out of court for a year. She’s also quite the detective but got blinded by the “love” and didn’t do her normal one/two.
Okay, good. That clarifies more for me. Glad you research. I think more people should do so.
So, it sounds like he is probably asking you the financial questions because he probably understands where his previous marriage failed. It isn't that it was because it was traditional, but likely because his ex-wife suffered from "idle hands".
I will give you a personal story in regards to my step father (I call him my dad). His previous marriage was much like what the Taurus you are currently dating had as well. Ex-wife, that seemingly stayed at home and spent frivolously. I think that comes down to boredom, and nothing to do. Much like your Taurus, he ended up giving her half the equity of his assets to get peace of mind as well. After that marriage failed, he married my own mom, who for all intents and purposes is the polar opposite of that, and ambitious. Yet, she is still traditional in a sense that she converted to his religion to marry him, and is still very center focused on traditional aspects of marriage. She just also strongly believes that she should contribute her own financial strength.
So it sounds like your Taurus is potentially acting in the same fashion as my step father. In that he now recognizes what he doesn't want in a partner, and needs someone that doesn't suffer from idle hand. And more than likely, likes that you are traditional in aspects that I know you seem to gear towards, but still want your own financial freedom. He is more than likely, just testing to make sure that what he hears also aligns with what he sees.
I think given time, this relationship could be very fruitful for you. It will be an easy one, that will build slowly, but overtime as long as there is no rush on either side. I have found most Taurus men to actually know how to be financially stable and able to save money, but in an almost discreet type of way. They have more money then they let on, and sometimes appear to be broke when they aren't.
Thanks Nikki
He dresses very modest when out in his neighborhood. You would never know he’s a millionaire unless he tells you. However the first time we met professionally he did somewhat brag and tell me lol.
Girl idk about easy, though. This guy is anything but easy but I’m not easy either so, I’m ok thus far with that. He definitely has that stubborn Taurus streak. I messed up with him a few weeks ago, kept him waiting I was so busy at work and then when I got In I took a nap an didn’t tell him What was going on, we were supposed to meet at 7:30. I’m not even gonna tell you what time I actually got ready but it was well after 7:30. I got up from my nap got dressed and ready to walk out the door and he gave me an earful and cancelled our date. I didn’t get why he was soooo mad and then I told me friend and she checked me. I apologized and he accepted right away and called me. I thought since it was work related he would understand, nah he didn’t care.
Hahaha! I didn't mean "easy" easy. I meant that, I don't see any real red flags as long as there is mutual respect for each other. Just do not let him run you, ya know?
I will say this, my dad, you wouldn't know he was well off either. The guy loves his free t-shirts and hats like no other, while having some ridiculously over priced watch on. It's those types, you will want. The subtle ones are the more financially stable kind.
And let's be real, you probably sorta like that he didn't let you slide on getting away with being late. It probably somewhat got you sitting up just a bit straighter. In my experience, and what I have seen, every strong woman does not want a weak man. That doesn't mean they are overbearing, but won't let themselves be doormats. They just pick their fights for the more important things, while allowing the less important things not to cause issue.
What I think is, it will be easy in terms of not being too dramatic, and something you two can built a good healthy relationship with. I am lowkey rooting like hell for you on this one, cause I think he will be a good match for you.click to expand
And yup my ass was like I have to be on point time wise next time.
Posted by bkbella86Posted by nikkistarPosted by bkbella86Posted by nikkistarPosted by bkbella86Posted by nikkistar
I am solely responding not to give you shit, but because I'd like to actually help you in this.
What is his current financial situation? Because in your initial post, I can't tell if he use to have millions and houses, but decided to give it away for piece of mind, leaving him not poor, but middle class. Or does he still have quite a bit of equity, and lost some of his fortune?
I ask this, because based on that information, I can make a more rationalized thought on why he seemingly is so interested in asking you about your current finances. Something about him asking you all of those questions, with him being 50, and you being early 30's is throwing off some red flags for me that I don't really like. But I am not sure what that is.
He still owns several properties and businesses. He’s in the middle of a big project now. I’ve seen 3 of his properties in person and have been inside. I don’t doubt any part of that because it’s been verified. I’m a skilled detective when I need to be.
A few years ago my friend got mixed up with this Gemini from bumfuck, during the inception of their relationship we weren’t talking so I couldn’t suggest it then but he started wilding out and she ended in trouble with the law behind him. I looked him up and low and behold this dude had a rap sheet a mile long. She was in and out of court for a year. She’s also quite the detective but got blinded by the “love” and didn’t do her normal one/two.
Okay, good. That clarifies more for me. Glad you research. I think more people should do so.
So, it sounds like he is probably asking you the financial questions because he probably understands where his previous marriage failed. It isn't that it was because it was traditional, but likely because his ex-wife suffered from "idle hands".
I will give you a personal story in regards to my step father (I call him my dad). His previous marriage was much like what the Taurus you are currently dating had as well. Ex-wife, that seemingly stayed at home and spent frivolously. I think that comes down to boredom, and nothing to do. Much like your Taurus, he ended up giving her half the equity of his assets to get peace of mind as well. After that marriage failed, he married my own mom, who for all intents and purposes is the polar opposite of that, and ambitious. Yet, she is still traditional in a sense that she converted to his religion to marry him, and is still very center focused on traditional aspects of marriage. She just also strongly believes that she should contribute her own financial strength.
So it sounds like your Taurus is potentially acting in the same fashion as my step father. In that he now recognizes what he doesn't want in a partner, and needs someone that doesn't suffer from idle hand. And more than likely, likes that you are traditional in aspects that I know you seem to gear towards, but still want your own financial freedom. He is more than likely, just testing to make sure that what he hears also aligns with what he sees.
I think given time, this relationship could be very fruitful for you. It will be an easy one, that will build slowly, but overtime as long as there is no rush on either side. I have found most Taurus men to actually know how to be financially stable and able to save money, but in an almost discreet type of way. They have more money then they let on, and sometimes appear to be broke when they aren't.
Thanks Nikki
He dresses very modest when out in his neighborhood. You would never know he’s a millionaire unless he tells you. However the first time we met professionally he did somewhat brag and tell me lol.
Girl idk about easy, though. This guy is anything but easy but I’m not easy either so, I’m ok thus far with that. He definitely has that stubborn Taurus streak. I messed up with him a few weeks ago, kept him waiting I was so busy at work and then when I got In I took a nap an didn’t tell him What was going on, we were supposed to meet at 7:30. I’m not even gonna tell you what time I actually got ready but it was well after 7:30. I got up from my nap got dressed and ready to walk out the door and he gave me an earful and cancelled our date. I didn’t get why he was soooo mad and then I told me friend and she checked me. I apologized and he accepted right away and called me. I thought since it was work related he would understand, nah he didn’t care.
Hahaha! I didn't mean "easy" easy. I meant that, I don't see any real red flags as long as there is mutual respect for each other. Just do not let him run you, ya know?
I will say this, my dad, you wouldn't know he was well off either. The guy loves his free t-shirts and hats like no other, while having some ridiculously over priced watch on. It's those types, you will want. The subtle ones are the more financially stable kind.
And let's be real, you probably sorta like that he didn't let you slide on getting away with being late. It probably somewhat got you sitting up just a bit straighter. In my experience, and what I have seen, every strong woman does not want a weak man. That doesn't mean they are overbearing, but won't let themselves be doormats. They just pick their fights for the more important things, while allowing the less important things not to cause issue.
What I think is, it will be easy in terms of not being too dramatic, and something you two can built a good healthy relationship with. I am lowkey rooting like hell for you on this one, cause I think he will be a good match for you.
And yup my ass was like I have to be on point time wise next time.click to expand
See! lol. I have the same issue. I know I have a strong personality, so if I find any sort of weakness in a man that allows me to get away with small stuff, I just get bored with them. Ya know what I mean?
Posted by nikkistarPosted by bkbella86Posted by nikkistarPosted by bkbella86Posted by nikkistarPosted by bkbella86Posted by nikkistar
I am solely responding not to give you shit, but because I'd like to actually help you in this.
What is his current financial situation? Because in your initial post, I can't tell if he use to have millions and houses, but decided to give it away for piece of mind, leaving him not poor, but middle class. Or does he still have quite a bit of equity, and lost some of his fortune?
I ask this, because based on that information, I can make a more rationalized thought on why he seemingly is so interested in asking you about your current finances. Something about him asking you all of those questions, with him being 50, and you being early 30's is throwing off some red flags for me that I don't really like. But I am not sure what that is.
He still owns several properties and businesses. He’s in the middle of a big project now. I’ve seen 3 of his properties in person and have been inside. I don’t doubt any part of that because it’s been verified. I’m a skilled detective when I need to be.
A few years ago my friend got mixed up with this Gemini from bumfuck, during the inception of their relationship we weren’t talking so I couldn’t suggest it then but he started wilding out and she ended in trouble with the law behind him. I looked him up and low and behold this dude had a rap sheet a mile long. She was in and out of court for a year. She’s also quite the detective but got blinded by the “love” and didn’t do her normal one/two.
Okay, good. That clarifies more for me. Glad you research. I think more people should do so.
So, it sounds like he is probably asking you the financial questions because he probably understands where his previous marriage failed. It isn't that it was because it was traditional, but likely because his ex-wife suffered from "idle hands".
I will give you a personal story in regards to my step father (I call him my dad). His previous marriage was much like what the Taurus you are currently dating had as well. Ex-wife, that seemingly stayed at home and spent frivolously. I think that comes down to boredom, and nothing to do. Much like your Taurus, he ended up giving her half the equity of his assets to get peace of mind as well. After that marriage failed, he married my own mom, who for all intents and purposes is the polar opposite of that, and ambitious. Yet, she is still traditional in a sense that she converted to his religion to marry him, and is still very center focused on traditional aspects of marriage. She just also strongly believes that she should contribute her own financial strength.
So it sounds like your Taurus is potentially acting in the same fashion as my step father. In that he now recognizes what he doesn't want in a partner, and needs someone that doesn't suffer from idle hand. And more than likely, likes that you are traditional in aspects that I know you seem to gear towards, but still want your own financial freedom. He is more than likely, just testing to make sure that what he hears also aligns with what he sees.
I think given time, this relationship could be very fruitful for you. It will be an easy one, that will build slowly, but overtime as long as there is no rush on either side. I have found most Taurus men to actually know how to be financially stable and able to save money, but in an almost discreet type of way. They have more money then they let on, and sometimes appear to be broke when they aren't.
Thanks Nikki
He dresses very modest when out in his neighborhood. You would never know he’s a millionaire unless he tells you. However the first time we met professionally he did somewhat brag and tell me lol.
Girl idk about easy, though. This guy is anything but easy but I’m not easy either so, I’m ok thus far with that. He definitely has that stubborn Taurus streak. I messed up with him a few weeks ago, kept him waiting I was so busy at work and then when I got In I took a nap an didn’t tell him What was going on, we were supposed to meet at 7:30. I’m not even gonna tell you what time I actually got ready but it was well after 7:30. I got up from my nap got dressed and ready to walk out the door and he gave me an earful and cancelled our date. I didn’t get why he was soooo mad and then I told me friend and she checked me. I apologized and he accepted right away and called me. I thought since it was work related he would understand, nah he didn’t care.
Hahaha! I didn't mean "easy" easy. I meant that, I don't see any real red flags as long as there is mutual respect for each other. Just do not let him run you, ya know?
I will say this, my dad, you wouldn't know he was well off either. The guy loves his free t-shirts and hats like no other, while having some ridiculously over priced watch on. It's those types, you will want. The subtle ones are the more financially stable kind.
And let's be real, you probably sorta like that he didn't let you slide on getting away with being late. It probably somewhat got you sitting up just a bit straighter. In my experience, and what I have seen, every strong woman does not want a weak man. That doesn't mean they are overbearing, but won't let themselves be doormats. They just pick their fights for the more important things, while allowing the less important things not to cause issue.
What I think is, it will be easy in terms of not being too dramatic, and something you two can built a good healthy relationship with. I am lowkey rooting like hell for you on this one, cause I think he will be a good match for you.
And yup my ass was like I have to be on point time wise next time.
See! lol. I have the same issue. I know I have a strong personality, so if I find any sort of weakness in a man that allows me to get away with small stuff, I just get bored with them. Ya know what I mean?click to expand
Can’t stand it. I know exactly what you mean.
Posted by bkbella86Posted by nikkistarPosted by bkbella86Posted by nikkistarPosted by bkbella86Posted by nikkistarPosted by bkbella86Posted by nikkistar
I am solely responding not to give you shit, but because I'd like to actually help you in this.
What is his current financial situation? Because in your initial post, I can't tell if he use to have millions and houses, but decided to give it away for piece of mind, leaving him not poor, but middle class. Or does he still have quite a bit of equity, and lost some of his fortune?
I ask this, because based on that information, I can make a more rationalized thought on why he seemingly is so interested in asking you about your current finances. Something about him asking you all of those questions, with him being 50, and you being early 30's is throwing off some red flags for me that I don't really like. But I am not sure what that is.
He still owns several properties and businesses. He’s in the middle of a big project now. I’ve seen 3 of his properties in person and have been inside. I don’t doubt any part of that because it’s been verified. I’m a skilled detective when I need to be.
A few years ago my friend got mixed up with this Gemini from bumfuck, during the inception of their relationship we weren’t talking so I couldn’t suggest it then but he started wilding out and she ended in trouble with the law behind him. I looked him up and low and behold this dude had a rap sheet a mile long. She was in and out of court for a year. She’s also quite the detective but got blinded by the “love” and didn’t do her normal one/two.
Okay, good. That clarifies more for me. Glad you research. I think more people should do so.
So, it sounds like he is probably asking you the financial questions because he probably understands where his previous marriage failed. It isn't that it was because it was traditional, but likely because his ex-wife suffered from "idle hands".
I will give you a personal story in regards to my step father (I call him my dad). His previous marriage was much like what the Taurus you are currently dating had as well. Ex-wife, that seemingly stayed at home and spent frivolously. I think that comes down to boredom, and nothing to do. Much like your Taurus, he ended up giving her half the equity of his assets to get peace of mind as well. After that marriage failed, he married my own mom, who for all intents and purposes is the polar opposite of that, and ambitious. Yet, she is still traditional in a sense that she converted to his religion to marry him, and is still very center focused on traditional aspects of marriage. She just also strongly believes that she should contribute her own financial strength.
So it sounds like your Taurus is potentially acting in the same fashion as my step father. In that he now recognizes what he doesn't want in a partner, and needs someone that doesn't suffer from idle hand. And more than likely, likes that you are traditional in aspects that I know you seem to gear towards, but still want your own financial freedom. He is more than likely, just testing to make sure that what he hears also aligns with what he sees.
I think given time, this relationship could be very fruitful for you. It will be an easy one, that will build slowly, but overtime as long as there is no rush on either side. I have found most Taurus men to actually know how to be financially stable and able to save money, but in an almost discreet type of way. They have more money then they let on, and sometimes appear to be broke when they aren't.
Thanks Nikki
He dresses very modest when out in his neighborhood. You would never know he’s a millionaire unless he tells you. However the first time we met professionally he did somewhat brag and tell me lol.
Girl idk about easy, though. This guy is anything but easy but I’m not easy either so, I’m ok thus far with that. He definitely has that stubborn Taurus streak. I messed up with him a few weeks ago, kept him waiting I was so busy at work and then when I got In I took a nap an didn’t tell him What was going on, we were supposed to meet at 7:30. I’m not even gonna tell you what time I actually got ready but it was well after 7:30. I got up from my nap got dressed and ready to walk out the door and he gave me an earful and cancelled our date. I didn’t get why he was soooo mad and then I told me friend and she checked me. I apologized and he accepted right away and called me. I thought since it was work related he would understand, nah he didn’t care.
Hahaha! I didn't mean "easy" easy. I meant that, I don't see any real red flags as long as there is mutual respect for each other. Just do not let him run you, ya know?
I will say this, my dad, you wouldn't know he was well off either. The guy loves his free t-shirts and hats like no other, while having some ridiculously over priced watch on. It's those types, you will want. The subtle ones are the more financially stable kind.
And let's be real, you probably sorta like that he didn't let you slide on getting away with being late. It probably somewhat got you sitting up just a bit straighter. In my experience, and what I have seen, every strong woman does not want a weak man. That doesn't mean they are overbearing, but won't let themselves be doormats. They just pick their fights for the more important things, while allowing the less important things not to cause issue.
What I think is, it will be easy in terms of not being too dramatic, and something you two can built a good healthy relationship with. I am lowkey rooting like hell for you on this one, cause I think he will be a good match for you.
And yup my ass was like I have to be on point time wise next time.
See! lol. I have the same issue. I know I have a strong personality, so if I find any sort of weakness in a man that allows me to get away with small stuff, I just get bored with them. Ya know what I mean?
Can’t stand it. I know exactly what you mean.click to expand
Uh oh. lol He's got to you.
Posted by nikkistarPosted by bkbella86Posted by nikkistarPosted by bkbella86Posted by nikkistarPosted by bkbella86Posted by nikkistarPosted by bkbella86Posted by nikkistar
I am solely responding not to give you shit, but because I'd like to actually help you in this.
What is his current financial situation? Because in your initial post, I can't tell if he use to have millions and houses, but decided to give it away for piece of mind, leaving him not poor, but middle class. Or does he still have quite a bit of equity, and lost some of his fortune?
I ask this, because based on that information, I can make a more rationalized thought on why he seemingly is so interested in asking you about your current finances. Something about him asking you all of those questions, with him being 50, and you being early 30's is throwing off some red flags for me that I don't really like. But I am not sure what that is.
He still owns several properties and businesses. He’s in the middle of a big project now. I’ve seen 3 of his properties in person and have been inside. I don’t doubt any part of that because it’s been verified. I’m a skilled detective when I need to be.
A few years ago my friend got mixed up with this Gemini from bumfuck, during the inception of their relationship we weren’t talking so I couldn’t suggest it then but he started wilding out and she ended in trouble with the law behind him. I looked him up and low and behold this dude had a rap sheet a mile long. She was in and out of court for a year. She’s also quite the detective but got blinded by the “love” and didn’t do her normal one/two.
Okay, good. That clarifies more for me. Glad you research. I think more people should do so.
So, it sounds like he is probably asking you the financial questions because he probably understands where his previous marriage failed. It isn't that it was because it was traditional, but likely because his ex-wife suffered from "idle hands".
I will give you a personal story in regards to my step father (I call him my dad). His previous marriage was much like what the Taurus you are currently dating had as well. Ex-wife, that seemingly stayed at home and spent frivolously. I think that comes down to boredom, and nothing to do. Much like your Taurus, he ended up giving her half the equity of his assets to get peace of mind as well. After that marriage failed, he married my own mom, who for all intents and purposes is the polar opposite of that, and ambitious. Yet, she is still traditional in a sense that she converted to his religion to marry him, and is still very center focused on traditional aspects of marriage. She just also strongly believes that she should contribute her own financial strength.
So it sounds like your Taurus is potentially acting in the same fashion as my step father. In that he now recognizes what he doesn't want in a partner, and needs someone that doesn't suffer from idle hand. And more than likely, likes that you are traditional in aspects that I know you seem to gear towards, but still want your own financial freedom. He is more than likely, just testing to make sure that what he hears also aligns with what he sees.
I think given time, this relationship could be very fruitful for you. It will be an easy one, that will build slowly, but overtime as long as there is no rush on either side. I have found most Taurus men to actually know how to be financially stable and able to save money, but in an almost discreet type of way. They have more money then they let on, and sometimes appear to be broke when they aren't.
Thanks Nikki
He dresses very modest when out in his neighborhood. You would never know he’s a millionaire unless he tells you. However the first time we met professionally he did somewhat brag and tell me lol.
Girl idk about easy, though. This guy is anything but easy but I’m not easy either so, I’m ok thus far with that. He definitely has that stubborn Taurus streak. I messed up with him a few weeks ago, kept him waiting I was so busy at work and then when I got In I took a nap an didn’t tell him What was going on, we were supposed to meet at 7:30. I’m not even gonna tell you what time I actually got ready but it was well after 7:30. I got up from my nap got dressed and ready to walk out the door and he gave me an earful and cancelled our date. I didn’t get why he was soooo mad and then I told me friend and she checked me. I apologized and he accepted right away and called me. I thought since it was work related he would understand, nah he didn’t care.
Hahaha! I didn't mean "easy" easy. I meant that, I don't see any real red flags as long as there is mutual respect for each other. Just do not let him run you, ya know?
I will say this, my dad, you wouldn't know he was well off either. The guy loves his free t-shirts and hats like no other, while having some ridiculously over priced watch on. It's those types, you will want. The subtle ones are the more financially stable kind.
And let's be real, you probably sorta like that he didn't let you slide on getting away with being late. It probably somewhat got you sitting up just a bit straighter. In my experience, and what I have seen, every strong woman does not want a weak man. That doesn't mean they are overbearing, but won't let themselves be doormats. They just pick their fights for the more important things, while allowing the less important things not to cause issue.
What I think is, it will be easy in terms of not being too dramatic, and something you two can built a good healthy relationship with. I am lowkey rooting like hell for you on this one, cause I think he will be a good match for you.
And yup my ass was like I have to be on point time wise next time.
See! lol. I have the same issue. I know I have a strong personality, so if I find any sort of weakness in a man that allows me to get away with small stuff, I just get bored with them. Ya know what I mean?
Can’t stand it. I know exactly what you mean.
Uh oh. lol He's got to you.click to expand
Lawd
He does
*hangs head in shame*
Posted by bkbella86Posted by nikkistarPosted by bkbella86Posted by nikkistarPosted by bkbella86Posted by nikkistarPosted by bkbella86Posted by nikkistarPosted by bkbella86Posted by nikkistar
I am solely responding not to give you shit, but because I'd like to actually help you in this.
What is his current financial situation? Because in your initial post, I can't tell if he use to have millions and houses, but decided to give it away for piece of mind, leaving him not poor, but middle class. Or does he still have quite a bit of equity, and lost some of his fortune?
I ask this, because based on that information, I can make a more rationalized thought on why he seemingly is so interested in asking you about your current finances. Something about him asking you all of those questions, with him being 50, and you being early 30's is throwing off some red flags for me that I don't really like. But I am not sure what that is.
He still owns several properties and businesses. He’s in the middle of a big project now. I’ve seen 3 of his properties in person and have been inside. I don’t doubt any part of that because it’s been verified. I’m a skilled detective when I need to be.
A few years ago my friend got mixed up with this Gemini from bumfuck, during the inception of their relationship we weren’t talking so I couldn’t suggest it then but he started wilding out and she ended in trouble with the law behind him. I looked him up and low and behold this dude had a rap sheet a mile long. She was in and out of court for a year. She’s also quite the detective but got blinded by the “love” and didn’t do her normal one/two.
Okay, good. That clarifies more for me. Glad you research. I think more people should do so.
So, it sounds like he is probably asking you the financial questions because he probably understands where his previous marriage failed. It isn't that it was because it was traditional, but likely because his ex-wife suffered from "idle hands".
I will give you a personal story in regards to my step father (I call him my dad). His previous marriage was much like what the Taurus you are currently dating had as well. Ex-wife, that seemingly stayed at home and spent frivolously. I think that comes down to boredom, and nothing to do. Much like your Taurus, he ended up giving her half the equity of his assets to get peace of mind as well. After that marriage failed, he married my own mom, who for all intents and purposes is the polar opposite of that, and ambitious. Yet, she is still traditional in a sense that she converted to his religion to marry him, and is still very center focused on traditional aspects of marriage. She just also strongly believes that she should contribute her own financial strength.
So it sounds like your Taurus is potentially acting in the same fashion as my step father. In that he now recognizes what he doesn't want in a partner, and needs someone that doesn't suffer from idle hand. And more than likely, likes that you are traditional in aspects that I know you seem to gear towards, but still want your own financial freedom. He is more than likely, just testing to make sure that what he hears also aligns with what he sees.
I think given time, this relationship could be very fruitful for you. It will be an easy one, that will build slowly, but overtime as long as there is no rush on either side. I have found most Taurus men to actually know how to be financially stable and able to save money, but in an almost discreet type of way. They have more money then they let on, and sometimes appear to be broke when they aren't.
Thanks Nikki
He dresses very modest when out in his neighborhood. You would never know he’s a millionaire unless he tells you. However the first time we met professionally he did somewhat brag and tell me lol.
Girl idk about easy, though. This guy is anything but easy but I’m not easy either so, I’m ok thus far with that. He definitely has that stubborn Taurus streak. I messed up with him a few weeks ago, kept him waiting I was so busy at work and then when I got In I took a nap an didn’t tell him What was going on, we were supposed to meet at 7:30. I’m not even gonna tell you what time I actually got ready but it was well after 7:30. I got up from my nap got dressed and ready to walk out the door and he gave me an earful and cancelled our date. I didn’t get why he was soooo mad and then I told me friend and she checked me. I apologized and he accepted right away and called me. I thought since it was work related he would understand, nah he didn’t care.
Hahaha! I didn't mean "easy" easy. I meant that, I don't see any real red flags as long as there is mutual respect for each other. Just do not let him run you, ya know?
I will say this, my dad, you wouldn't know he was well off either. The guy loves his free t-shirts and hats like no other, while having some ridiculously over priced watch on. It's those types, you will want. The subtle ones are the more financially stable kind.
And let's be real, you probably sorta like that he didn't let you slide on getting away with being late. It probably somewhat got you sitting up just a bit straighter. In my experience, and what I have seen, every strong woman does not want a weak man. That doesn't mean they are overbearing, but won't let themselves be doormats. They just pick their fights for the more important things, while allowing the less important things not to cause issue.
What I think is, it will be easy in terms of not being too dramatic, and something you two can built a good healthy relationship with. I am lowkey rooting like hell for you on this one, cause I think he will be a good match for you.
And yup my ass was like I have to be on point time wise next time.
See! lol. I have the same issue. I know I have a strong personality, so if I find any sort of weakness in a man that allows me to get away with small stuff, I just get bored with them. Ya know what I mean?
Can’t stand it. I know exactly what you mean.
Uh oh. lol He's got to you.
Lawd
He does
*hangs head in shame*click to expand
Hahaha. It's a good thing.
But it's gonna annoy the CRAP outta you that you care. lol
Posted by bkbella86Posted by LadyNeptune
Yeah his guard is up. But that’s has nothing to do with you specifically. It’s cause his failed marriage and divorce got him fucked up in the head.
Just be careful not to let him work out his issues on you.
And also it would personally give me pause to hear from his own lips that he divorced his ex wife cause she wouldn’t listen to him. Sounds like pretty abusive behavior. Does he want a partner or a yes man?
The stuff he mentioned seemed minor.
In reality if someone is taking care of you, you do have to work within certain parameters, since you’re dependent on them. That’s with any dynamic.click to expand
Certainly. But whose to say he didn’t demand she stop working in the first place in order to have her more firmly under his thumb. More typical in older men with that 1950s mentality.
2 sides to every story though. And I tend to zero in on the negative first. You have a good head on your shoulders so just use your judgement as things progress.
Posted by nikkistarPosted by bkbella86Posted by nikkistarPosted by bkbella86Posted by nikkistarPosted by bkbella86Posted by nikkistarPosted by bkbella86Posted by nikkistarPosted by bkbella86Posted by nikkistar
I am solely responding not to give you shit, but because I'd like to actually help you in this.
What is his current financial situation? Because in your initial post, I can't tell if he use to have millions and houses, but decided to give it away for piece of mind, leaving him not poor, but middle class. Or does he still have quite a bit of equity, and lost some of his fortune?
I ask this, because based on that information, I can make a more rationalized thought on why he seemingly is so interested in asking you about your current finances. Something about him asking you all of those questions, with him being 50, and you being early 30's is throwing off some red flags for me that I don't really like. But I am not sure what that is.
He still owns several properties and businesses. He’s in the middle of a big project now. I’ve seen 3 of his properties in person and have been inside. I don’t doubt any part of that because it’s been verified. I’m a skilled detective when I need to be.
A few years ago my friend got mixed up with this Gemini from bumfuck, during the inception of their relationship we weren’t talking so I couldn’t suggest it then but he started wilding out and she ended in trouble with the law behind him. I looked him up and low and behold this dude had a rap sheet a mile long. She was in and out of court for a year. She’s also quite the detective but got blinded by the “love” and didn’t do her normal one/two.
Okay, good. That clarifies more for me. Glad you research. I think more people should do so.
So, it sounds like he is probably asking you the financial questions because he probably understands where his previous marriage failed. It isn't that it was because it was traditional, but likely because his ex-wife suffered from "idle hands".
I will give you a personal story in regards to my step father (I call him my dad). His previous marriage was much like what the Taurus you are currently dating had as well. Ex-wife, that seemingly stayed at home and spent frivolously. I think that comes down to boredom, and nothing to do. Much like your Taurus, he ended up giving her half the equity of his assets to get peace of mind as well. After that marriage failed, he married my own mom, who for all intents and purposes is the polar opposite of that, and ambitious. Yet, she is still traditional in a sense that she converted to his religion to marry him, and is still very center focused on traditional aspects of marriage. She just also strongly believes that she should contribute her own financial strength.
So it sounds like your Taurus is potentially acting in the same fashion as my step father. In that he now recognizes what he doesn't want in a partner, and needs someone that doesn't suffer from idle hand. And more than likely, likes that you are traditional in aspects that I know you seem to gear towards, but still want your own financial freedom. He is more than likely, just testing to make sure that what he hears also aligns with what he sees.
I think given time, this relationship could be very fruitful for you. It will be an easy one, that will build slowly, but overtime as long as there is no rush on either side. I have found most Taurus men to actually know how to be financially stable and able to save money, but in an almost discreet type of way. They have more money then they let on, and sometimes appear to be broke when they aren't.
Thanks Nikki
He dresses very modest when out in his neighborhood. You would never know he’s a millionaire unless he tells you. However the first time we met professionally he did somewhat brag and tell me lol.
Girl idk about easy, though. This guy is anything but easy but I’m not easy either so, I’m ok thus far with that. He definitely has that stubborn Taurus streak. I messed up with him a few weeks ago, kept him waiting I was so busy at work and then when I got In I took a nap an didn’t tell him What was going on, we were supposed to meet at 7:30. I’m not even gonna tell you what time I actually got ready but it was well after 7:30. I got up from my nap got dressed and ready to walk out the door and he gave me an earful and cancelled our date. I didn’t get why he was soooo mad and then I told me friend and she checked me. I apologized and he accepted right away and called me. I thought since it was work related he would understand, nah he didn’t care.
Hahaha! I didn't mean "easy" easy. I meant that, I don't see any real red flags as long as there is mutual respect for each other. Just do not let him run you, ya know?
I will say this, my dad, you wouldn't know he was well off either. The guy loves his free t-shirts and hats like no other, while having some ridiculously over priced watch on. It's those types, you will want. The subtle ones are the more financially stable kind.
And let's be real, you probably sorta like that he didn't let you slide on getting away with being late. It probably somewhat got you sitting up just a bit straighter. In my experience, and what I have seen, every strong woman does not want a weak man. That doesn't mean they are overbearing, but won't let themselves be doormats. They just pick their fights for the more important things, while allowing the less important things not to cause issue.
What I think is, it will be easy in terms of not being too dramatic, and something you two can built a good healthy relationship with. I am lowkey rooting like hell for you on this one, cause I think he will be a good match for you.
And yup my ass was like I have to be on point time wise next time.
See! lol. I have the same issue. I know I have a strong personality, so if I find any sort of weakness in a man that allows me to get away with small stuff, I just get bored with them. Ya know what I mean?
Can’t stand it. I know exactly what you mean.
Uh oh. lol He's got to you.
Lawd
He does
*hangs head in shame*
Hahaha. It's a good thing.
But it's gonna annoy the CRAP outta you that you care. lolclick to expand
It does already but I’m talking to one other guy too. I’ve known the other guy longer. I have to have a buffer or else I’ll get to wrapped up into one person before we even establish anything. Might add a third if I can get out and socialize this winter.
Posted by LadyNeptunePosted by bkbella86Posted by LadyNeptune
Yeah his guard is up. But that’s has nothing to do with you specifically. It’s cause his failed marriage and divorce got him fucked up in the head.
Just be careful not to let him work out his issues on you.
And also it would personally give me pause to hear from his own lips that he divorced his ex wife cause she wouldn’t listen to him. Sounds like pretty abusive behavior. Does he want a partner or a yes man?
The stuff he mentioned seemed minor.
In reality if someone is taking care of you, you do have to work within certain parameters, since you’re dependent on them. That’s with any dynamic.
Certainly. But whose to say he didn’t demand she stop working in the first place in order to have her more firmly under his thumb. More typical in older men with that 1950s mentality.
2 sides to every story though. And I tend to zero in on the negative first. You have a good head on your shoulders so just use your judgement as things progress.click to expand
Thanks LN
And yes that’s a good point. If the conversation arises again I’m definitely asking whose idea it was for her to stop working. The more we see each other the more he talks in depth so I’m sure it’ll come up again. I would have opened a business if it was me or even go to school. But that’s me.
Go out to dinner and pay for it. That’s enough to show him you’re not there for his money and willing to be equals
However, I do worry about his financial situations. Seems like he gave a lot to his ex. Seems like he’s too curious about your money. Rich men don’t care about your money and as long as he gets a prenup with you, he doesn’t have to worry about u taking his money. I don’t know. Sounds suspicious.
However, I do worry about his financial situations. Seems like he gave a lot to his ex. Seems like he’s too curious about your money. Rich men don’t care about your money and as long as he gets a prenup with you, he doesn’t have to worry about u taking his money. I don’t know. Sounds suspicious.
Posted by bkbella86Posted by nikkistarPosted by bkbella86Posted by nikkistarPosted by bkbella86Posted by nikkistarPosted by bkbella86Posted by nikkistarPosted by bkbella86Posted by nikkistarPosted by bkbella86Posted by nikkistar
I am solely responding not to give you shit, but because I'd like to actually help you in this.
What is his current financial situation? Because in your initial post, I can't tell if he use to have millions and houses, but decided to give it away for piece of mind, leaving him not poor, but middle class. Or does he still have quite a bit of equity, and lost some of his fortune?
I ask this, because based on that information, I can make a more rationalized thought on why he seemingly is so interested in asking you about your current finances. Something about him asking you all of those questions, with him being 50, and you being early 30's is throwing off some red flags for me that I don't really like. But I am not sure what that is.
He still owns several properties and businesses. He’s in the middle of a big project now. I’ve seen 3 of his properties in person and have been inside. I don’t doubt any part of that because it’s been verified. I’m a skilled detective when I need to be.
A few years ago my friend got mixed up with this Gemini from bumfuck, during the inception of their relationship we weren’t talking so I couldn’t suggest it then but he started wilding out and she ended in trouble with the law behind him. I looked him up and low and behold this dude had a rap sheet a mile long. She was in and out of court for a year. She’s also quite the detective but got blinded by the “love” and didn’t do her normal one/two.
Okay, good. That clarifies more for me. Glad you research. I think more people should do so.
So, it sounds like he is probably asking you the financial questions because he probably understands where his previous marriage failed. It isn't that it was because it was traditional, but likely because his ex-wife suffered from "idle hands".
I will give you a personal story in regards to my step father (I call him my dad). His previous marriage was much like what the Taurus you are currently dating had as well. Ex-wife, that seemingly stayed at home and spent frivolously. I think that comes down to boredom, and nothing to do. Much like your Taurus, he ended up giving her half the equity of his assets to get peace of mind as well. After that marriage failed, he married my own mom, who for all intents and purposes is the polar opposite of that, and ambitious. Yet, she is still traditional in a sense that she converted to his religion to marry him, and is still very center focused on traditional aspects of marriage. She just also strongly believes that she should contribute her own financial strength.
So it sounds like your Taurus is potentially acting in the same fashion as my step father. In that he now recognizes what he doesn't want in a partner, and needs someone that doesn't suffer from idle hand. And more than likely, likes that you are traditional in aspects that I know you seem to gear towards, but still want your own financial freedom. He is more than likely, just testing to make sure that what he hears also aligns with what he sees.
I think given time, this relationship could be very fruitful for you. It will be an easy one, that will build slowly, but overtime as long as there is no rush on either side. I have found most Taurus men to actually know how to be financially stable and able to save money, but in an almost discreet type of way. They have more money then they let on, and sometimes appear to be broke when they aren't.
Thanks Nikki
He dresses very modest when out in his neighborhood. You would never know he’s a millionaire unless he tells you. However the first time we met professionally he did somewhat brag and tell me lol.
Girl idk about easy, though. This guy is anything but easy but I’m not easy either so, I’m ok thus far with that. He definitely has that stubborn Taurus streak. I messed up with him a few weeks ago, kept him waiting I was so busy at work and then when I got In I took a nap an didn’t tell him What was going on, we were supposed to meet at 7:30. I’m not even gonna tell you what time I actually got ready but it was well after 7:30. I got up from my nap got dressed and ready to walk out the door and he gave me an earful and cancelled our date. I didn’t get why he was soooo mad and then I told me friend and she checked me. I apologized and he accepted right away and called me. I thought since it was work related he would understand, nah he didn’t care.
Hahaha! I didn't mean "easy" easy. I meant that, I don't see any real red flags as long as there is mutual respect for each other. Just do not let him run you, ya know?
I will say this, my dad, you wouldn't know he was well off either. The guy loves his free t-shirts and hats like no other, while having some ridiculously over priced watch on. It's those types, you will want. The subtle ones are the more financially stable kind.
And let's be real, you probably sorta like that he didn't let you slide on getting away with being late. It probably somewhat got you sitting up just a bit straighter. In my experience, and what I have seen, every strong woman does not want a weak man. That doesn't mean they are overbearing, but won't let themselves be doormats. They just pick their fights for the more important things, while allowing the less important things not to cause issue.
What I think is, it will be easy in terms of not being too dramatic, and something you two can built a good healthy relationship with. I am lowkey rooting like hell for you on this one, cause I think he will be a good match for you.
And yup my ass was like I have to be on point time wise next time.
See! lol. I have the same issue. I know I have a strong personality, so if I find any sort of weakness in a man that allows me to get away with small stuff, I just get bored with them. Ya know what I mean?
Can’t stand it. I know exactly what you mean.
Uh oh. lol He's got to you.
Lawd
He does
*hangs head in shame*
Hahaha. It's a good thing.
But it's gonna annoy the CRAP outta you that you care. lol
It does already but I’m talking to one other guy too. I’ve known the other guy longer. I have to have a buffer or else I’ll get to wrapped up into one person before we even establish anything. Might add a third if I can get out and socialize this winter.click to expand
Enjoy being single, but remember to not hold yourself back and try to find ways of not jumping in all the way. I know it's scary and you want to keep options around because it's safer to not care. But I promise it's not as scary jumping fully in. I get a sense that you protect your heart in the same way I use to.
It's okay to be vulnerable. Just with the right one.
Posted by pinkbird03
Go out to dinner and pay for it. That’s enough to show him you’re not there for his money and willing to be equals
However, I do worry about his financial situations. Seems like he gave a lot to his ex. Seems like he’s too curious about your money. Rich men don’t care about your money and as long as he gets a prenup with you, he doesn’t have to worry about u taking his money. I don’t know. Sounds suspicious.
Dinner idea is good.
I’m not worried about his finances. I’m not sure if you read the whole thread but he got it. Yes he gave her a lot but he has a lot.
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