CapintheHat joined May 06, 2013
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I don't necessarily disappear, I just don't keep in touch much or go out of my way to socialize. I always try to find something to do so I end up being by myself quite often. I rarely initiate contact with people but if someone contacts me then we can get right back to hanging out.
The only time I truly/permanently disappear is if I don't want to be around someone anymore.
The only time I truly/permanently disappear is if I don't want to be around someone anymore.
I'm 25 years older than my actual age, but it also said I'm sophisticated so that's good.
If I didn't know any better I'd think that friend was trying to sabotage you o_0. Kissing someone out of nowhere is ridiculous. A much better idea would've been if you used that alone time to get to know him better or to tell him how you feel. That guy is freaked the F out and even though I think he likes you he's just trying to sort things out after the kissing incident.
But instead of dealing with all this awkward mess try talking to him about this directly. Being more upfront will help you know if you should move on or not.
But instead of dealing with all this awkward mess try talking to him about this directly. Being more upfront will help you know if you should move on or not.
As soon as I notice pettiness I'm already plotting my escape 
But I don't usually make friends with petty people because I observe others behavior as much as possible before making friends.
But I don't usually make friends with petty people because I observe others behavior as much as possible before making friends.I'm not easily excited over things though. But if I am truly excited then I'll smile, giggle, or my mood will noticeably improve. If the excitement relates to a friend or loved one (e.g. they gave me a nice present or something) then I'll hug/kiss them. But no, I'm not the type of person to bounce off the walls in excitement.
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You left your job because of your feelings for that woman? WHAAAAATTTTT? -__________________-
Much of what you've said on this thread suggests that you have rose colored glasses on (especially your last sentence about how you two would be such great lovers). Your situation sounds like unrequited love and you're just settling for friendship rather than nothing. Cap knows that she has you wrapped around her finger so that's why she doesn't mind being friends with you. And all this back and forth with the money and that text message thing is nonsense. She'll keep playing games for as long as you let her, and it's been 8 years already.
By the way, does your husband know about all this? If he's okay with your "friendship" then whatever, but don't keep him in the dark because that's not fair to him.
Much of what you've said on this thread suggests that you have rose colored glasses on (especially your last sentence about how you two would be such great lovers). Your situation sounds like unrequited love and you're just settling for friendship rather than nothing. Cap knows that she has you wrapped around her finger so that's why she doesn't mind being friends with you. And all this back and forth with the money and that text message thing is nonsense. She'll keep playing games for as long as you let her, and it's been 8 years already.
By the way, does your husband know about all this? If he's okay with your "friendship" then whatever, but don't keep him in the dark because that's not fair to him.
"...I know and will drop him because I don't want to waste my time and energy anymore. I just hope that there's a happy middle ground where we can just be friends and talk about things in life."
You know you'll drop him because you don't want to waste anymore time, yet you still hope to be friends? What kind of logic is that?
Him being depressed is not your problem so he needs to take care of that with his therapist/doctors. And forget about "warning" the other girl because that's not your responsibility either. Depressed or not, this man seems shady and the fact that he's still in your life doesn't make sense.
You know you'll drop him because you don't want to waste anymore time, yet you still hope to be friends? What kind of logic is that?
Him being depressed is not your problem so he needs to take care of that with his therapist/doctors. And forget about "warning" the other girl because that's not your responsibility either. Depressed or not, this man seems shady and the fact that he's still in your life doesn't make sense.
If a Cap was going to test someone they sure as hell wouldn't do so for YEARS. After a few encounters they would have enough info to decide whether they wanted be your friend or not. She likes you as a friend, but at this point she's not testing you-- this is just as far as your friendship is going to go.
As for this "friendship" it sounds like you want something more than that (platonic or not) and I doubt that you're going to get it. Any kind of romantic relationship would be highly problematic anyways because you're married with kids and she has a boyfriend, PLUS from my understanding you're co-workers. Overall, you seem way more interested in her than she is in you, so you getting your hopes up by thinking she's "testing you" is just going to end in disappointment :/
As for this "friendship" it sounds like you want something more than that (platonic or not) and I doubt that you're going to get it. Any kind of romantic relationship would be highly problematic anyways because you're married with kids and she has a boyfriend, PLUS from my understanding you're co-workers. Overall, you seem way more interested in her than she is in you, so you getting your hopes up by thinking she's "testing you" is just going to end in disappointment :/
I agree that Caps are like tootsie pops, but I don't really think we're like onions.
Layers makes it seem like we're really complex but we're not-- we're just very guarded and cautious. Instead of layers Caps basically have just one thick shell or wall that others have to get through to reach them. Or maybe you can say Caps are like a door with a bunch of locks and you have to figure out how to unlock everything before they open up. Something like that.
Layers makes it seem like we're really complex but we're not-- we're just very guarded and cautious. Instead of layers Caps basically have just one thick shell or wall that others have to get through to reach them. Or maybe you can say Caps are like a door with a bunch of locks and you have to figure out how to unlock everything before they open up. Something like that.
The OP basically sounds like you're asking why someone else has a different personality than you. Just because you don't like certain Cap traits doesn't mean those traits need to be justified or something. Unless the Caps you're mentioning actually did something seriously wrong to you then I don't know why you even "hate" them in the first place.
Maybe instead of ranting you should actually confront one of those Caps you have a problem with and try to reach an understanding.
Maybe instead of ranting you should actually confront one of those Caps you have a problem with and try to reach an understanding.
Family, friends, and some colleagues like me. I think others might like me too, but I have no idea to what extent. I'm pretty quiet and standoffish so there's a good chance that many people aren't actually able to form a real opinion about me because I'm just too aloof.
I do remember someone saying that some person/people in high school didn't like me but I didn't care because I was focused on my own thing as they went on disliking me in secret. I've also been accused of being heartless a few times but I just mind my own business and care about things that I actually think are important.
I do think I'm likable and friendly but since I keep to myself so much I'm not loved/liked by everybody.
I do remember someone saying that some person/people in high school didn't like me but I didn't care because I was focused on my own thing as they went on disliking me in secret. I've also been accused of being heartless a few times but I just mind my own business and care about things that I actually think are important.
I do think I'm likable and friendly but since I keep to myself so much I'm not loved/liked by everybody.
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