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This question lol. Your ex is an ex because why? You are with another man and talking to your ex. It sounds like you are devoting little time to developing a NEW relationship, and spending more time trying to keep an OLD relationship alive. Be honest with the new man you are dating, and tell him this is whats going on and how you feel, see how he takes it. The smart thing would be to nix both relationships, focus on yourself for a bit, and learn to manage ADULT relationships properly.
Cap male here. As stated above, I think sign has little to do with this kind of behavior. There are certainly facets of that sign sneaking their way in, and making it more distinct, and seemingly planned and strategic... For myself, it would be hard to date two women this way, utterly impossible, for head space alone. I couldn't possibly live a life where I'm balancing the needs of two women alongside work. The amount of planning it would take, to manage a work day, converse with, and strategically plan the minefield that is managing multiple relationships...would be insurmountable lol.
Cheating wise, never been a fan of it. Since I was raised in a household that cheating destroyed, it has been kind of imprinted on me that won't be very wise in a relationship. Maybe this man was raised in a household where he was able, and possibly rewarded psychologically at times, for being able to get away with things. The one time I did cheat, it was only after I had been cheated on in High School by my girlfriend (her friend called me on the phone telling me it was happening, she confirmed it later) , and we tried to work on things. I had a little too much to drink one night and a neighbor invited me over, I planned it out in my mind that I would go through with it, so I could feel what she felt when she did the same. I ended up waking up and feeling terrible guilt for a long time afterward. So nowadays if any cheating or anything happens or I feel unfaithful, I just leave the relationship. No point wasting time, logically.
Cheating wise, never been a fan of it. Since I was raised in a household that cheating destroyed, it has been kind of imprinted on me that won't be very wise in a relationship. Maybe this man was raised in a household where he was able, and possibly rewarded psychologically at times, for being able to get away with things. The one time I did cheat, it was only after I had been cheated on in High School by my girlfriend (her friend called me on the phone telling me it was happening, she confirmed it later) , and we tried to work on things. I had a little too much to drink one night and a neighbor invited me over, I planned it out in my mind that I would go through with it, so I could feel what she felt when she did the same. I ended up waking up and feeling terrible guilt for a long time afterward. So nowadays if any cheating or anything happens or I feel unfaithful, I just leave the relationship. No point wasting time, logically.
Went on a few dates with this cancer woman, the last one went really well, at least in my mind. Went and got drink, went out dancing, and spent around 7-8 hours hanging out getting to know each other. She is really conservative and we hadn’t kissed over 4 dates, but at the end she leaned in and kissed me before saying goodbye. Now after that she got distant, and started kind of ignoring my messages.
She does this every now and then, where stuff from life stresses her out or gets her down and she’ll go a week without talking to me, then all of a sudden talk all the time and want to set something up to hang out, then have something happen in life that bums her out and I don’t hear from her again.
So the other day I messaged her and she opened up about how she was down on something, and I consoled her and asked to set something up this weekend and she just ignores it after that. I would care less if she just said she’s not into doing anything or not into dating me, but when people ignore you like that’s it’s kind of frustrating especially when it’s likely she’ll come out of her shell again.
So at this point I’m just planning on leaving her alone and if she comes back then I don’t really know what to do, but I’m not going to be petty about it and ignore her back. Anyone have insight on why she’s acting like this?
She does this every now and then, where stuff from life stresses her out or gets her down and she’ll go a week without talking to me, then all of a sudden talk all the time and want to set something up to hang out, then have something happen in life that bums her out and I don’t hear from her again.
So the other day I messaged her and she opened up about how she was down on something, and I consoled her and asked to set something up this weekend and she just ignores it after that. I would care less if she just said she’s not into doing anything or not into dating me, but when people ignore you like that’s it’s kind of frustrating especially when it’s likely she’ll come out of her shell again.
So at this point I’m just planning on leaving her alone and if she comes back then I don’t really know what to do, but I’m not going to be petty about it and ignore her back. Anyone have insight on why she’s acting like this?
My Venus is in Leo, and I can be quite direct when interested.
Good to know, she definitely seems like she has that in her, and I like that. I think I'll wait around to see if she wants to set something up instead of asking for the next. Thanks!
Posted by GC02Venus is in Leo
I think your question has more to do with Venus rather than sun sign.
Wondering if a Cancer woman is typically shy and refrains from asking guys out on dates? Met this girl online, and she asked me out on the first date, that's kinda how the app worked. I asked her on the second and third. All the dates went really well, I just want to know if I should wait for her to ask to see me, or if I should be the one asking. I can't tell if she really likes me because the whole relationship thing seems much slower with her than any other sign I've met, but I enjoy the pace!
I dont normally have alot of questions when I talk to women either. I kind of figured that out from using dating apps in the past, it would be them asking the random questions not the other way around. I think we can come off as cold sometimes or distant in a sense.
Doesn't mean he isn't thinking those questions to himself.. I'm sitting here thinking of all these questions I have for a girl I'm getting to know, and I'm not asking them because I don't want to text her, because we texted yesterday, and I just don't want to feel like I'm bugging her. But maybe I should talk to her now that I think about it lol. Caps minds work in weird ways, or at least mine does :p
Doesn't mean he isn't thinking those questions to himself.. I'm sitting here thinking of all these questions I have for a girl I'm getting to know, and I'm not asking them because I don't want to text her, because we texted yesterday, and I just don't want to feel like I'm bugging her. But maybe I should talk to her now that I think about it lol. Caps minds work in weird ways, or at least mine does :p
Yeah haha I'd have said the same thing, probably more witty or nicer tho. I like women to be straightforward, but not like "let's bone down" straightforward lolll. Caps, or myself at least, think way too much and are gonna assume that's your MO, just say hey I'd really like to go out with you sometime and just do the trunking at the end of the date if it goes well!
As a calculating Cap. That is a hard no. I want a solid relationship with a woman and a solid relationship with my kids. We like planning, structure, stability, tradition. If you want to go on the basics of cap. Whoever said making babies isn't a big deal for men, get real. Having a kid is a big deal, and a cap realizes that. Caps are calculating and planners, and they certainly don't go and make rash decisions like impregnating someone out of charity/pity/helping out.
Just keep doing what you are doing, sounds like you are on the right track. Once caps start to open up, they really open up, he obviously trusts you a lot. So treat him well, and don't get clingy ever.
I think confirmation bias is not helping. I had the same sort of thing cloud my judgement, virg woman finds out I'm a cap, goes on about the perfect match thing. She was super quiet and reserved, and I was was interested. Probably made me open up a bit more than I normally do, because virgs seem rather, aloof... Confirmation bias tricked me into thinking a relationship with her would be great, so better pursue it right?
Either way I asked to take her out to get to know her, to find out more about that person who was always closed off. Shot me down, but later on we ended up hanging out at a get together. I got to know her more, and as she finally opened up and rambled on, I caught myself thinking, "wow this person is a nightmare"...
Bottom line is, its not always a good idea to get caught up in signs when it comes to this kinda thing. Shoot you say you are "romantically linked", but couldn't imagine bedding down with one of them? What other signal do you need that isn't going to work?
Oh and most importantly, get over the fact someone broke your heart. Not worth dwelling over, and both men and women don't wanna date someone with victim mentality. Like if someone who says, "my exes screwed me over," they are always going to be waiting for that next guy to do the same, and that's gonna wear on your relationship.
Either way I asked to take her out to get to know her, to find out more about that person who was always closed off. Shot me down, but later on we ended up hanging out at a get together. I got to know her more, and as she finally opened up and rambled on, I caught myself thinking, "wow this person is a nightmare"...
Bottom line is, its not always a good idea to get caught up in signs when it comes to this kinda thing. Shoot you say you are "romantically linked", but couldn't imagine bedding down with one of them? What other signal do you need that isn't going to work?
Oh and most importantly, get over the fact someone broke your heart. Not worth dwelling over, and both men and women don't wanna date someone with victim mentality. Like if someone who says, "my exes screwed me over," they are always going to be waiting for that next guy to do the same, and that's gonna wear on your relationship.
Yeah she was a snake charmer, so sociable and likeable from day one. From the first date it was like a powder keg exploded and we had a great relationship from the start. Brought me into her family and I brought her into mine. Everyone loved that Gemini charm, an excellent communicator and likeavle by all. She had all the positive aspects of a Gemini and then started to show all the negative ones; superficial, agitated, spontaneous, irresolute, deceitful.
At first it was okay with me not going to church at all. Then just going to church on major holidays, Christmas Eve, Easter, etc. was enough. Then it came to, I needed to learn the prayers so we can pray, and then it was anything short of going every Sunday was failing her. She even once blamed my parents for not raising me religious, because I wasn't baptized, we couldn't be together forever in her eyes. And her priest told her to leave me as she was living in sin. So spontaneously she packed up all her things after I left for work on my birthday and I came home to a half empty home.
Then spontaneously she wanted to be back, and let off the gas on all that religious stuff, only to do it all over again. The having kids thing was always a bad topic, because I wanted to raise kids how I was raised, with a choice, just raised to be good people regardless, and a catholic cannot have their kids raised like that. So that was something I knew we would never see eye to eye on, ever.
The thing is, as a cap I always had my intentions and thoughts out in the open. And as a gem, she 'seemed' so extroverted and open that everything in her mind must have been out in the open, but nothing was further from the truth, there was always something else in the back of her mind that was eating away at our relationship. In my mind the relationship would be incredible, going to concerts, movies, dinners, spending time with our families and friends, traveling the world and country. But none of that mattered when it came to the one negative aspect that kept festering in her mind. I've kinda held all this in and never really vented about it I guess
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At first it was okay with me not going to church at all. Then just going to church on major holidays, Christmas Eve, Easter, etc. was enough. Then it came to, I needed to learn the prayers so we can pray, and then it was anything short of going every Sunday was failing her. She even once blamed my parents for not raising me religious, because I wasn't baptized, we couldn't be together forever in her eyes. And her priest told her to leave me as she was living in sin. So spontaneously she packed up all her things after I left for work on my birthday and I came home to a half empty home.
Then spontaneously she wanted to be back, and let off the gas on all that religious stuff, only to do it all over again. The having kids thing was always a bad topic, because I wanted to raise kids how I was raised, with a choice, just raised to be good people regardless, and a catholic cannot have their kids raised like that. So that was something I knew we would never see eye to eye on, ever.
The thing is, as a cap I always had my intentions and thoughts out in the open. And as a gem, she 'seemed' so extroverted and open that everything in her mind must have been out in the open, but nothing was further from the truth, there was always something else in the back of her mind that was eating away at our relationship. In my mind the relationship would be incredible, going to concerts, movies, dinners, spending time with our families and friends, traveling the world and country. But none of that mattered when it came to the one negative aspect that kept festering in her mind. I've kinda held all this in and never really vented about it I guess
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Went on a few dates with this cancer woman, the last one went really well, at least in my mind. Went and got drink, went out dancing, and spent around 7-8 hours hanging out getting to know each other. She is really conservative and we hadn’t kissed over 4
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Wondering if a Cancer woman is typically shy and refrains from asking guys out on dates? Met this girl online, and she asked me out on the first date, that's kinda how the app worked. I asked her on the second and third. All the dates went really well, I
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