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Opportunists who are a small percentage of the rape reports but somehow always make their way in such topics even when it's not the main point.
You and who thinks like you are the reason why this shit happens, why he and other guys like him thought it was normal and something that just can happen
You and who thinks like you are the reason why this shit happens, why he and other guys like him thought it was normal and something that just can happen
Posted by Arielle83One blacked out kid and one tipsy kid aren't victims of each other.
Two drunk kids are victims of each other.
And there goes all the victim blaming and "what about the guys"
Me being his girlfriend wouldn't have changed the definition of what happened. Probably would have changed the way I would have confronted him about it and how he would have realized, if, his wrongdoing
While I surely became more careful with drinking since then, I find it disgusting that it's ME who has to change behavior in order to not get into such situations. And still have got to read about a girl who did the same to a guy to prove what? That didn't happen to me and in no way can be useful to me at this moment
Me being his girlfriend wouldn't have changed the definition of what happened. Probably would have changed the way I would have confronted him about it and how he would have realized, if, his wrongdoing
While I surely became more careful with drinking since then, I find it disgusting that it's ME who has to change behavior in order to not get into such situations. And still have got to read about a girl who did the same to a guy to prove what? That didn't happen to me and in no way can be useful to me at this moment
Posted by LadyNeptuneI already requested to move somewhere else and unfortunately I am still waiting.
Sometimes likable people do shitty things. Doesn't make it any less wrong.
Unfortunately because you didn't report it asap and continued to see him there really isn't much you can do. Telling the police won't change much. Do it if you feel you need to. But please get out of there. Request to live somewhere else on campus.
For your own sanity. Please.
Many of the people I have talked with didn't agree with reporting him and sometimes it makes me feel like maybe I am exaggerating stuff when I know that I am not.
I am shattered
Posted by The_Mad_HatterI know very well. I was too confused to immediately realize
It doesn't matter if you liked each other on not. Rape is rape. Consent is the difference.
That sucks that happened to you.
Long story short... this leo guy took me to his room while I was completely drunk and blacked out. And now, after I struggled with depression partly because of this, I have to see his stupid ass walking around with a new girlfriend like nothing happened.
Basically we live at the same university residence. Last October he started asking me to meet late in the night for a chat in the living room. I accepted twice, and we just talked a bit in a friendly way. I knew I liked him but it was just, Idk, not even a proper crush
One night we all went out and I drank a lot... At a certain point I couldn't remember anything up until the following morning when I woke up in his bed, naked... I was confused; if it had happened with another Guy I would have told the damn police but since I liked him and I knew he seemed kinda into me, I just thought we'd begin dating... But nope, the guy obviously said he wasn't looking for a relationship at that point when I later confronted him about it... I asked him what had happened, he sajd he drank too but was perfectly able to recall all the facts
We still kept meeting each other for a month, in secrecy, and I was secretly hoping he would change idea. Eventually it all ended and I had a depressive episode which led me to seek a psychologist and I was able to process what really went on that night.
Now I've seen him going around like a couple with some girl and I feel even more used. I want to do something but I am still unsure of what. People have been telling me to report what happened to the police and I am torn between that or whatever else.. I have already tried to talk to him but when I messaged and asked him to, he refused because I lately hadn't greeted him back so he wasn't interested in really knowing what was going on.
What would yall do in my place?
Basically we live at the same university residence. Last October he started asking me to meet late in the night for a chat in the living room. I accepted twice, and we just talked a bit in a friendly way. I knew I liked him but it was just, Idk, not even a proper crush
One night we all went out and I drank a lot... At a certain point I couldn't remember anything up until the following morning when I woke up in his bed, naked... I was confused; if it had happened with another Guy I would have told the damn police but since I liked him and I knew he seemed kinda into me, I just thought we'd begin dating... But nope, the guy obviously said he wasn't looking for a relationship at that point when I later confronted him about it... I asked him what had happened, he sajd he drank too but was perfectly able to recall all the facts
We still kept meeting each other for a month, in secrecy, and I was secretly hoping he would change idea. Eventually it all ended and I had a depressive episode which led me to seek a psychologist and I was able to process what really went on that night.
Now I've seen him going around like a couple with some girl and I feel even more used. I want to do something but I am still unsure of what. People have been telling me to report what happened to the police and I am torn between that or whatever else.. I have already tried to talk to him but when I messaged and asked him to, he refused because I lately hadn't greeted him back so he wasn't interested in really knowing what was going on.
What would yall do in my place?
I used to attract a lot of Aquas and Aries.
Annoying.
Annoying.
I like guys with beautiful, intense eyes. Thick lips are a must for me ? and I don't despise a cute nose. I don't like too slim or sharp faces. And the body is okay as long as it is healthy, even though I do prefer some meat on my man ?
Libra sun, libra moon, scorpio venus
Libra sun, libra moon, scorpio venus
Ivy - The Survivor
September 30 - October 27
Among other cherished qualities of the Ivy Celtic tree astrology sign, most prized is your ability to overcome all odds. You have a sharp intellect, but more obvious is your compassion and loyalty to others. You have a giving nature, and are always there to lend a helping hand. You are born at a time of the waning sun so life an be difficult for you at times. This sometimes seems unfair because it appears that obstacles are coming at with no prompting on your part. Nevertheless, you endure troubling times with silent perseverance and soulful grace. Indeed, Ivy signs have a tendency to be deeply spiritual and cling to a deep-rooted faith that typically sees them trough adversity. You are soft spoken, but have a keen wit about you. You are charming, charismatic, and can effectively hold your own in most social settings. Ivy signs are attracted to the Celtic tree astology sign of Oak and Ash signs.
September 30 - October 27
Among other cherished qualities of the Ivy Celtic tree astrology sign, most prized is your ability to overcome all odds. You have a sharp intellect, but more obvious is your compassion and loyalty to others. You have a giving nature, and are always there to lend a helping hand. You are born at a time of the waning sun so life an be difficult for you at times. This sometimes seems unfair because it appears that obstacles are coming at with no prompting on your part. Nevertheless, you endure troubling times with silent perseverance and soulful grace. Indeed, Ivy signs have a tendency to be deeply spiritual and cling to a deep-rooted faith that typically sees them trough adversity. You are soft spoken, but have a keen wit about you. You are charming, charismatic, and can effectively hold your own in most social settings. Ivy signs are attracted to the Celtic tree astology sign of Oak and Ash signs.
So that's why I'm feeling weird lately? Oh heeell..
Posted by Capri-sunI have the desire to love.
I'm the same way. The desire to love has to outway the fear or desire to stay closed. Pace yourself while dating and have clarity on what it is you want. Then take baby steps towards it.
I realized I am scared by how much I am able to love someone. Because of the depth of my feelings I am scared to fall in love again and risk feeling hurt like hell... Because It does feel like hell. Thing is I dont want to live without love. I feel kind of doomed, I can't take love lightly. This doesn t mean I'm all serious and boring about it, or even clingy, quite the contrary, but once I love, inside it starts feeling crazily intense. Other people almost don't exist, romantically speaking. I don't know how to handle all this; does it mean never loving again or finding someone who could love the same way I do? How can I handle this energy. This passion.
It hurts so much.
It hurts so much.
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