Posted by DazedScorp

Posted by buckdich
Hi Dazedscorp,
I know that people aren't harping on the poly idea, that it was about not being truthful. But that's exactly the mistake I realize I made. I know that it was the lying that got me into this pickle. My fault, 100% . I get it.
So when I acknowledge the mistake, it sucks to have people bashing me for it again and again and again...instead of focusing on what to do moving forward.
If we all tormented ourselves about mistakes we made rather than focusing on the future, nobody would get anywhere.

It's great that you realize your mistake.
But I also want you to understand, that this Scorps behavior is not going to change... At least for a rather long time. He doesn't trust you, but for whatever reason, he's willing to ride along.

1. You reinforce to this Scorp that you made a mistake, and that you were wrong to lie to him. You didn't mean to lose his trust, but that you will work hard to regain it.
2. You cut your loses and move on.
And I give you option two, because it could be days, months, or years before you regain his trust. And if you can't handle that, it's time to walk.
He's going to hold that mistake against you. Not everyone is willing to go through that, so ultimately... It's your decision. But please don't place blame on him for his actions. That's all I ask.

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Posted by Ellybean

Posted by buckdich
I'm 23...still learning by trial and error.

This should be the big thing than. Dating is all about learning what you can and cannot handle. Chill a bit. It's not a race, there's no finish line and you shouldn't stress so early in a dating relationship. Take each experience as a time to reflect on what didn't work with that person, but also on what you might need to work with and change about yourself. Some of the most important relationships in your life might end up being the ones that didn't work out because they made you a better person and more fulfilled when you get to meet someone and find something that works.

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Posted by Ellybean
Oh dear OP.
At least there's not three Scorps anymore. Still from the way you talk, it seems you are incompatible with this guy. It seems like he annoys you and exhausts you more than interests and inspires you. I'd concur with the consensus you should take time to not date, or at least exclusively. Being single and 'celibate' can be a very rewarding time on one's life. Dating different people is fine too, just don't ever lie if someone asks you are dating others, no matter what the sign of the guy. And a bit of personal wisdom, Scorp guys might just not be your thing. We're not for everyone, that's for sure, so you might want to consider that.
And also, being honest, what he's doing is not really that big of a deal, save that the whole 'oh you don't have to sign out' thing is a bit weird/creepy. But other than that, he's not doing anything different than just about any other scorpio. We love to know everything about the person we're interested in. It's supposed to be a compliment really. We like to know, because you interest us and we want to know the entirety of you, your soul and all it's components. If that's not your cup of tea, you might want to consider a more light-hearted and less probing type in love.

Posted by BigGirlPanties
I agree with Shethedclawa...a lack of humility is your problem.
Being so aarrogrant as to rationalize being a liar because your honesty causes others pain? Please....your not God and just not that powerful.
But, karma will one day teach you a few things, perhaps.