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I'm right there with ya, OceanDeep. When I love someone, it's forever. Even if the relationship ends, I'll always be there for them as a friend. Some people may think me pathetic, but I just have a big heart, therefore a lot of love to give. Regardless of the circumstances, I met someone who meant a great deal to me and made me feel something I've never felt before. It's only been a few months since that relationship ended. I'm not interested in being criticized, only in finding a way to let go of hope and grab onto acceptance so I can move on with my life without thinking of and missing him a million times a day.
Wow, very well said, WaterboyCancepio. As I was reading your post I was thinking about items I'm attached to because they hold some sort of emotional memory. (Here comes the sickeningly pathetic part so brace yourselves) I was thinking about a shirt I have because every time I put it on I think, "This is what I wore the last time I saw him." *gag*
I eagerly await the day I no longer pretend I'm okay without him because I really will be. Eventually. At some point. In the future. Very distant future...
Dammit.
I eagerly await the day I no longer pretend I'm okay without him because I really will be. Eventually. At some point. In the future. Very distant future...
Dammit.
When I was a teenager I made a list of traits of my perfect man. My Gemini was everything on the list. We connected instantly and couldn't believe how much we have in common. When we had known each other for days it felt like years. We stayed up all night talking. Even though he had to back out on dates because of work (he's very dedicated to his job), he would find time to see me after. I was in Heaven every time I was in his strong arms. I loved the way he used to look at me, with such intensity, heat, and adoration. We are opposites in a good way. There's a lot I can learn from him. He balanced me out. Everything just felt right. He finished my sentences, knew what I was thinking or feeling, and is just such a great guy. I get the disappearing act having pulled it a few times myself. I'm a very understanding person. Hell, I'm still best friends with my ex-husband and he cheated on me throughout our entire marriage.
I used to roll my eyes when I heard someone say when they met their fiance/husband they knew that was the man they'd marry. Then it happened to me. After only maybe a week or 2 of knowing him I told my coworker, "I know this sounds crazy but I think I'm going to marry him in a couple years. I can really see myself being with him forever." Even now I know how crazy that is. But he told me the same thing. I think that's what scared him. He thought he was ready but while we were apart must have decided he isn't. I hear Gems get over things very quickly. I envy them for that.
I used to roll my eyes when I heard someone say when they met their fiance/husband they knew that was the man they'd marry. Then it happened to me. After only maybe a week or 2 of knowing him I told my coworker, "I know this sounds crazy but I think I'm going to marry him in a couple years. I can really see myself being with him forever." Even now I know how crazy that is. But he told me the same thing. I think that's what scared him. He thought he was ready but while we were apart must have decided he isn't. I hear Gems get over things very quickly. I envy them for that.
I'm just looking for a way to finally reach acceptance in the grieving process rather than loop through the other 4 stages over and over again. The stupid side of me holds onto hope he'll come back someday while the other says it's not gonna happen, forget him! I am in a constant battle with myself and I'd really like for it to stop.
Not long, but it was intense. We had both been single for awhile and when we met we found we have just about everything in common, we stayed up all night talking, and I guess we got caught up in the excitement. He was talking like we'd be together forever. I think his other side took over while we spent some time apart. He never came back. I'm trying to move on but right now I compare every man to him and they don't come close.
12 years is a long time. I had an on/off relationship with a Capricorn. I thought he was what I wanted until the Gem guy came into my life. He made me forget about the Cap in just a few days. Kills me we didn't take things slowly like we wanted to. I don't think I'll try anything with another Gem. Not if falling hard and fast then running away is their norm. (I'm a Cancer, btw)
12 years is a long time. I had an on/off relationship with a Capricorn. I thought he was what I wanted until the Gem guy came into my life. He made me forget about the Cap in just a few days. Kills me we didn't take things slowly like we wanted to. I don't think I'll try anything with another Gem. Not if falling hard and fast then running away is their norm. (I'm a Cancer, btw)
The first time I fell in love it took me 12 years to get over the guy, and that's only because I met the man of my dreams. Unfortunately he got freaked out because our relationship was too much too fast and pulled a typical Gemini disappearing act. My head understands but my heart won't let go.
Have you struggled with this as well? How did you finally let go and move on?
Have you struggled with this as well? How did you finally let go and move on?
I agree with both of you (except the "idiot" part because you're not an idiot). I hope everything works out for you!
Thank you, Ariana. I know if he does (and everyone on here tells me he won't) it won't be anytime soon. I'm just doing my thing: working, going to school, and taking care of my daughter, trying to stay busy and positive. I'd by lying if I said I'm not holding onto the hope that somewhere down the road, whether it be months or a year, he'll think of me and miss me and maybe want to chat and catch up. A lot of people say I got played too, but I believe he really did care. I just should've backed off when he asked me to. Hopefully things will work out for us both!
Wow, this sounds familiar.
I was in a similar situation. I met the man of my dreams (or so I thought) and things were wonderful until we got into a disagreement and I got the "we need time apart" statement too (yes he's a Gemini). I'm also a Cancer so I had a hard time with the whole "space" thing and pushed him away by texting too much. Of course I hate myself now. Everyone says he's not coming back so I have to move on.
I hope things work out for you! Good luck!
I was in a similar situation. I met the man of my dreams (or so I thought) and things were wonderful until we got into a disagreement and I got the "we need time apart" statement too (yes he's a Gemini). I'm also a Cancer so I had a hard time with the whole "space" thing and pushed him away by texting too much. Of course I hate myself now. Everyone says he's not coming back so I have to move on.
I hope things work out for you! Good luck!
I'm with you, Crabmoon! After my Gem requested a break I did a ton of research to understand him and I'm very grateful for all the info out there. I've learned not to be too clingy or emotional, and not to get upset when he cancels on me last-minute or needs space. Course it doesn't really matter now. It's been a month and I haven't heard from him - and today's my birthday! I think that's a pretty good indication that he's no longer interested. Sucks...
How'd it go?
Everyone says we're too different to make it work, but I think anything's possible. Tell me your story!
Everyone says we're too different to make it work, but I think anything's possible. Tell me your story!
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The first time I fell in love it took me 12 years to get over the guy, and that's only because I met the man of my dream
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How'd it go? Everyone says we're too different to make it work, but I think anything's possible. Tell me your story!
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Joined: Jul 15, 2012 · Topics: 2 · Posts: 29