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I would agree with pnoklo, I think for all of a cancer's selfish tendencies, in bed, we are pleasers. We like to put you first, and take enjoyment from that. I feel that there is very little that is off limits for me sexually. Very open minded, and "kinky." I think breeching the subject with the partner is often the issue... we are shy you know, so if you show your cards I'll put mine on the table... and I often have kinkier tendencies than most would've thought.
I am a Cancer with a Gem gal, and it is difficult. Very difficult. My Gem is so full of energy, and is always go go go. I am much slower, albeit deeper it seems. Like a very young girl with an old man, though we are the same age. The good things are offset with very bad mismatches that require lots and lots of patience and work. If you are willing to roll up your sleeves, and make sacrifices, it can work... although I feel that we both believe that we are settling to some degree.
Thanks!
I am married to a gemini woman, and as a Cancer, naturally we have had our rough bits in trying to get along and understand each other. About a year ago it was about as dark as it could get... I was done, and at her daring decided to leave. When I took her up on it, she flew into a rage and became violent with me. Being sensitive anyway, I never really forgot and though things stabilized between us, they never got good again, and I feel that I have invested enough time, and must move on. I have already made that decision, however I was wondering if you ladies had any advice for me. I have much love and respect for gemini women (and my wife). I know communication is important, but I feel like with her feelings in the mix, nothing I say in conversation will make her "okay" with the fact that I want out. Any advice on how to speak with her and try to let her see that I (and I think if she were honest herself) would be happier elsewhere?
Thanks!
Thanks!
This guy sounds like a real, well, lying piece of trash who is playing with your heart. He is giving cancer men a bad name er, worse name... lose him asap.
Also @ Raerain:
I agree, super sensitive. Words really cut deep. I have had some partners that were really sharp with their words, and I let it get me down quickly.
I agree, super sensitive. Words really cut deep. I have had some partners that were really sharp with their words, and I let it get me down quickly.
Posted by pisceanpisces
Apart from general things:
Males are more prejudiced, determined (even if it does not seem), manipulative (much-much more), vulnerable and proud than Cancer females. Somehow they can 'smell the rat'. (even if there isn't...)
Women cannot focus on things when they are low.
Common things: they like talking about themselves (if you do not ask direct questions), they are open (if you do not tell them, 'please open up'), they really appreciate if you offer them something freely, and want to reciprocate. They both like and remember if you care about them.
Oh, and they like other water signs.
What I still do not know about:
1. are you aware when you are manipulative? Aren't you afraid of using it? What if someone confronts you with it?
2. When in remorse, can you focus on things at all?
3. How 'the hell' could you take in so much pain?
4. Is it a hobby to bring along your 'heartache sack'?
5. Don't you feel you overdo things?
Pisceanpisces comes through again, I respect the way that you see things.
In response for my experience in a Male Cancer body:
1. The manipulation in my life came so naturally, it took someone pointing it out to realize that's what I was doing. That not everyone tried to place two or three layers of misdirection just to get their way etc. I now use it with more caution and respect.
2. No.
3. You can get addicted to a certain kind of sadness. The extremes are intense, and in a strange way make me feel SO ALIVE.
4. No, I try not to mope. I am quite sociable, and like to be positive when in public. When I am alone, I open up my "sack"
5. Let me put it this way, I wish that many things were easier, and came more naturally to me... overdoing things may be the way that it is received, but it is rarely the intended result. I think sometimes so much introspection etc, leads to being out of touch with better communicators.
I am fairly versed in astrology, but why not expand my understanding! I was hoping the group could give me a quick synopsis of traits specific to:
1. Male Cancers
2. Female Cancers
Would love to get your guys' take on this!
1. Male Cancers
2. Female Cancers
Would love to get your guys' take on this!
Agreed. I have harbored crushes on a few scorpio women. Things would really click a lot faster if you were just nice to him. Compliment him. You think he's a genius... and that he is an amazing guy... tell him. He'll probably pass out from the rush. He will likely have been eying you too. If you are kind to him, and build from there, you will have his attention.
You respond by being ambiguous... and maybe slightly misleading. Just say, "I love youtube." 
Just kidding.
Just be honest, if it is a possibility that it could become a love situation then I agree with the Thank You response of virgosagscorpio, otherwise I would say that an honest discussion about your stance on the relationship is in order.
Just kidding.
Just be honest, if it is a possibility that it could become a love situation then I agree with the Thank You response of virgosagscorpio, otherwise I would say that an honest discussion about your stance on the relationship is in order.
I would have to say that these are all behaviors that I have exhibited with a woman. Although, she was a woman whom I wanted to impress... so I agree that the best way to go about it is to make sure that it is not a tense situation, and breech the subject. I think it is easier for cancer guys to share if there is less risk of rejection, so I agree with the complimentary lead in statement, like "How is an amazing guy like you still single" or something along those lines.
I agree with sidesteppingarguments - keep us posted!
I agree with sidesteppingarguments - keep us posted!
Quite frankly I was not expecting this sort of heat on the message board. I do not mean to impugn anyone here, as I welcome any and all opinions. I have spent a long LONG time pursuing different avenues, options, theories, and all other manner of things pertaining to my marriage, which believe it or not, is at the center of my life. I am not wanting to leave for someone else, I am wanting to leave for me. She is actually a benefactor, as pinklibra points out, "she deserves someone better" while I think that I am a good person, I agree she deserves someone better for her. There is a difference This is a decision that is weighing on me, and has been for some time.
Pisceanpisces: I appreciate all of your sentiments, and defenses. I suppose when I began to read through the forum, and read all of the reviews, I began to get defensive of some, which showed me exactly where my heart was. There I had my answer.
I truly appreciate all of the opinions, I feel like pink libra and I are just in different areas philosophically.
Pisceanpisces: I appreciate all of your sentiments, and defenses. I suppose when I began to read through the forum, and read all of the reviews, I began to get defensive of some, which showed me exactly where my heart was. There I had my answer.
I truly appreciate all of the opinions, I feel like pink libra and I are just in different areas philosophically.
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I am married to a gemini woman, and as a Cancer, naturally we have had our rough bits in trying to get along and underst
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I am fairly versed in astrology, but why not expand my understanding! I was hoping the group could give me a quick syno
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Cancer
I am new to the forum, but wish I'd have found it sooner. I am a cancer man, and fell for my Gemini lady (I know). We
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