eirealainn joined October 28, 2014
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The only thing he constantly complained about in me was that I would get too jealous. He was very flirty and admitted it. So with that in mind, I'm happy we're not together because it secretly drove me crazy. I even had a girl at a party warn me to watch out for his flirty tendencies!!
I showed him love the best way I knew. Yes I was and still am not perfect. Also I'm in my early 20's so I don't have a ton of experience in love. Mistakes are meant to be made. But I never made him feel I didn't love him. I made sure of it. He never complained about that either. He wasn't lacking.
He lost his job and was unemployed for a month. He hid that from me for a while. Then when I realized he was very low on funds, I bought him groceries and lent him some money. He was too shy to ask for it, but I sensed it and he said he was really grateful. He said it had been a rough couple of months for him but I was patient with him and he was thankful for that.
He tells me he loves me... but girlfriend is too strong of a word? He was a jerk, plain and simple.
The love from a Scorpio woman is deep and a lot of people can't handle it.
I showed him love the best way I knew. Yes I was and still am not perfect. Also I'm in my early 20's so I don't have a ton of experience in love. Mistakes are meant to be made. But I never made him feel I didn't love him. I made sure of it. He never complained about that either. He wasn't lacking.
He lost his job and was unemployed for a month. He hid that from me for a while. Then when I realized he was very low on funds, I bought him groceries and lent him some money. He was too shy to ask for it, but I sensed it and he said he was really grateful. He said it had been a rough couple of months for him but I was patient with him and he was thankful for that.
He tells me he loves me... but girlfriend is too strong of a word? He was a jerk, plain and simple.
The love from a Scorpio woman is deep and a lot of people can't handle it.
This Cancer guy was so persistent and sweet in the beginning. Then came the rollercoaster.
Finally, we decide to end it amicably and go our separate ways, with hopes of friendship in the future.
Two days later I find a letter under my apartment door from him, saying he doesn't want to give up and that he was trying so hard to be monogamous after not being for so long but he knows that this is what he needs. He also outlined all the things he loves about me and how I challenge him, am patient with him and help him grow and how he wants to do that for me. He tells me he loves me.
So I take him back. All is well.
Then he's helping me move. As we're loading my couch onto the truck, I cheese and say "you have a strong girlfriend, huh?"
He says "What girlfriend?"
DUMBFOUNDED.
I say what am I just another girl? He says no you're special but girlfriend is a strong word.
I decide not to make a huge fuss and finish moving. I make a mental note to discuss later. After we're done, I tell him I want to treat him to margaritas for helping me. He keeps poking me on the walk there (immature I know) and when I go to give him a playful shove, I accidentally swipe him in the eye. He BLOWS up and I apologize profusely> He says he thinks I did it on purpose and then said "I would knock you out right now if I could'' He tries to clarify he means if I were a guy.
So of course it's completely over now.
I honestly have never met someone so bipolar.
Is this normal Cancer behavior?!
I'm a Scorpio so I thought this would work..
He's a Cancer sun and moon, with Taurus venus an Aries mars.
Finally, we decide to end it amicably and go our separate ways, with hopes of friendship in the future.
Two days later I find a letter under my apartment door from him, saying he doesn't want to give up and that he was trying so hard to be monogamous after not being for so long but he knows that this is what he needs. He also outlined all the things he loves about me and how I challenge him, am patient with him and help him grow and how he wants to do that for me. He tells me he loves me.
So I take him back. All is well.
Then he's helping me move. As we're loading my couch onto the truck, I cheese and say "you have a strong girlfriend, huh?"
He says "What girlfriend?"
DUMBFOUNDED.
I say what am I just another girl? He says no you're special but girlfriend is a strong word.
I decide not to make a huge fuss and finish moving. I make a mental note to discuss later. After we're done, I tell him I want to treat him to margaritas for helping me. He keeps poking me on the walk there (immature I know) and when I go to give him a playful shove, I accidentally swipe him in the eye. He BLOWS up and I apologize profusely> He says he thinks I did it on purpose and then said "I would knock you out right now if I could'' He tries to clarify he means if I were a guy.
So of course it's completely over now.
I honestly have never met someone so bipolar.
Is this normal Cancer behavior?!
I'm a Scorpio so I thought this would work..
He's a Cancer sun and moon, with Taurus venus an Aries mars.
However I believe it is absolutely normal to worry what society and others think of you.
At our core, humans are tribal.
So some consideration of what others think is necessary to advance in life.
It can be a bit of a struggle to not lose your own identity in the process.
At our core, humans are tribal.
So some consideration of what others think is necessary to advance in life.
It can be a bit of a struggle to not lose your own identity in the process.
Here's an excerpt:
"My efforts yielded many friends and filled my calendar with fulfilling activities. I went on Internet dates, speed dates and blind dates. I had great hair and a confident smile. But I was still alone. And in the dark of Saturday night, I still asked myself, ???What??s wrong with me???
Mark and I dated for a month before I revealed my shoddy relationship r?sum?. When I did, he shrugged. ???Lucky for me,?? he said, ???all those other guys were idiots.??
And that was it. To Mark, I was not a problem to solve, a puzzle that needed working out. I was the girl he was falling in love with, just as I was falling in love with him.
Six years later, this past June, he and I celebrated our first wedding anniversary. My close friends ??? the ones with whom I had shared many impromptu therapy sessions ??? had come to the wedding in a small Brooklyn park. And so had their husbands.
Did we find love because we grew up, got real and worked through our issues? No. We just found the right guys. We found men who love us even though we??re still cranky and neurotic, haven??t got our careers together, and sometimes talk too loudly, drink too much and swear at the television news. We have gray hairs and unfashionable clothes and bad attitudes. They love us, anyway.
What??s wrong with me? Plenty. But that was never the point."
"My efforts yielded many friends and filled my calendar with fulfilling activities. I went on Internet dates, speed dates and blind dates. I had great hair and a confident smile. But I was still alone. And in the dark of Saturday night, I still asked myself, ???What??s wrong with me???
Mark and I dated for a month before I revealed my shoddy relationship r?sum?. When I did, he shrugged. ???Lucky for me,?? he said, ???all those other guys were idiots.??
And that was it. To Mark, I was not a problem to solve, a puzzle that needed working out. I was the girl he was falling in love with, just as I was falling in love with him.
Six years later, this past June, he and I celebrated our first wedding anniversary. My close friends ??? the ones with whom I had shared many impromptu therapy sessions ??? had come to the wedding in a small Brooklyn park. And so had their husbands.
Did we find love because we grew up, got real and worked through our issues? No. We just found the right guys. We found men who love us even though we??re still cranky and neurotic, haven??t got our careers together, and sometimes talk too loudly, drink too much and swear at the television news. We have gray hairs and unfashionable clothes and bad attitudes. They love us, anyway.
What??s wrong with me? Plenty. But that was never the point."
Posted by thinktoomuch
... I??m 29 years old and have never been in a serious relationship.
I did have a boyfriend at 15, and then another at 15But since then: no.
I gotta say, it??s kinda hard to tell strangers, because I worry I will be judged. I can tell peope wonder, what the hell is wrong with me. I told some today, that I probably didn??t want it enough, but is that really true?
I know many women same age, who have been single forever.. Why is that!?
One just never hooks up with anyone (libra), me (scorp-sag cusp) I fall madly in loe with one every 3-4 years, that don??t really want me, and the guys that do want me, freak me the fuq out and I??m not attracted to them. My aries friend has had kinda the same story as me, only she have gone through more guys and I guess never was so deeply involved with them or better at moving on. Now she is in a relationship with a guy, but he sexted another woman and she accepts that. !!!! I was very surprised! My capricorn girl is picky too, she talks alot about getting out there but hardly ever does. Piches girl gor a depression and is single - guys and friends always leave her. Other two aries girls have both bee single always too and rarely meet anyone.. My taurus friend also goes through not a lot but some guys, that don??t want her.
!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I know for myself, I haven??t known myself enough to say 'stop' some times, my feelings take over. I guess I haven??t really known, what I wanted, ??cause I never thought, I could get it anyway. Now I think, that if I don??t dream about it, I??ll really never ever ever get it! .... But that doesn??t help me meet anyone...
I just don??t understand, how come I know so many women around my age, that are always talking about "some guy" or non, but not a guy that really wants them. ... I just don??t understand it... Anyone?
PLEASE read this article, OP
I hope it soothes your soul
It's about how sometimes, it's not you.
You just haven't found the right guy.
http://www.nytimes.com/2011/09/25/fashion/sometimes-its-not-you-or-the-math-modern-love.html?rref=collection&
Does that mean much?
he's 24, i'm 22
Thanks for the advice I'm happy now because we talked and he said the feelings are just as strong but the fact is he has trust issues from his previous relationship 6 months ago and that I am most likely moving state for college in the fall. It will be much harder to detach then and we both don't think we could ever be in a long distance relationship, with anyone. I said to him one day I hope we can be friends and he said he knows it will take time and he will be there whenever I'm ready.
Since I still like him so much right now I'm scared to think we will totally drift apart.
I have to remember NOT to give in an invite him to hang out in a few weeks or a month when I'm feeling better, because I know I won't be able to resist him.
Capricorn moons are VERY guarded! Just like Cancer moons.
I'm happy now because we talked and he said the feelings are just as strong but the fact is he has trust issues from his previous relationship 6 months ago and that I am most likely moving state for college in the fall. It will be much harder to detach then and we both don't think we could ever be in a long distance relationship, with anyone. I said to him one day I hope we can be friends and he said he knows it will take time and he will be there whenever I'm ready. Since I still like him so much right now I'm scared to think we will totally drift apart.
I have to remember NOT to give in an invite him to hang out in a few weeks or a month when I'm feeling better, because I know I won't be able to resist him.
Capricorn moons are VERY guarded! Just like Cancer moons.
Posted by FirstDecanTaurianWomen0428
Trust me aries have agendas but not sure if your apart of it or not..lol..they will tell you the truth about whether or not what they want. They are picky. And can be direct and it seems if you bow down you get to have sex with them when convenient. When they want to. If not them move on sort of speak.
See my friend is aries with Taurus moon.. so I just kinda related Capricorn moon with Taurus moon kinda similar..
But basically we had a relationship but we never labelled it. Regardless of what he said he was looking for, he already had something with me. It bothers me that I didn't just come out and say it myself.
husband that his brother was in jail and then I just started crying. I only want the best for him in life and I want him to be happy. But I also have to take care of myself and stop playing games like I just see him as a friend who I have sex with.
This is really hard for me though.. .on some websites I'm Gemini moon, on others.. Cancer :/
This is really hard for me though.. .on some websites I'm Gemini moon, on others.. Cancer :/
Posted by Rambunctious76Posted by eirealainn
And then now... I keep nagging him about how he??s been different for like the past month. He just not the same. He acts like he doesn??t care. He said yes he??s scaled back because he knows one day I will find someone and I??ll just leave. And that it??s hard to just lose someone like that. So he said yeah, our aura has been off. Let??s just be like how you said back in November. I said I'm sorry but I don??t think that??s gonna work. I can??t be just strictly friends with you. He said maybe it wouldn't work out again and we'll end up having sex again. I said I just can't switch to friends and that it's going to take me some time. He said ok I??l leave you to contact me then. Even though I complained about him a lot it was because I was so frustrated and hurt. Hurt that I liked someone so much who wouldn??t go out on a limb for me. How the hell could of gone out on a limb for him? When many times he??s said he??s not looking for anything serious. It doesn??t matter if he said he loves talking to me, hanging out and that the sex is great. He said there are feelings in it and that we have chemistry. YET he said he??s not looking for anything serious.
Any insight on this would be great. Because even though it seems unhealthy on the outside, which it is, I deeply feel that I have a huge hole in my life right now. I don't know whether to never contact him again or not. This sucks.
PS He's Aries Sun, Capricorn Moon, Aqua Venus & Mars
So you never asked him to be your boyfriend? That you want a more serious relationship?
He scaled back and seemed like he doesn't care because you probably seem like you didn't want anything serious either. He's detaching himself from you emotionally.
I don't have a Cap moon, but I was like that with my last ex during the initial stages of our dating process. But then she pushed, and things got serious. If she hadn't pushed, I would have remained detached.click to expand
That's why today I'm laying it all out on the table for him. I'm just gonna tell him how much I care about him. I don't want to scare him at the same time. It runs deep... his brother has been in jail since he was little and I remember once there was something on tv about prisons. I casually mentioned to my sister'
And then now... I keep nagging him about how he??s been different for like the past month. He just not the same. He acts like he doesn??t care. He said yes he??s scaled back because he knows one day I will find someone and I??ll just leave. And that it??s hard to just lose someone like that. So he said yeah, our aura has been off. Let??s just be like how you said back in November. I said I'm sorry but I don??t think that??s gonna work. I can??t be just strictly friends with you. He said maybe it wouldn't work out again and we'll end up having sex again. I said I just can't switch to friends and that it's going to take me some time. He said ok I??l leave you to contact me then. Even though I complained about him a lot it was because I was so frustrated and hurt. Hurt that I liked someone so much who wouldn??t go out on a limb for me. How the hell could of gone out on a limb for him? When many times he??s said he??s not looking for anything serious. It doesn??t matter if he said he loves talking to me, hanging out and that the sex is great. He said there are feelings in it and that we have chemistry. YET he said he??s not looking for anything serious.
Any insight on this would be great. Because even though it seems unhealthy on the outside, which it is, I deeply feel that I have a huge hole in my life right now. I don't know whether to never contact him again or not. This sucks.
PS He's Aries Sun, Capricorn Moon, Aqua Venus & Mars
Any insight on this would be great. Because even though it seems unhealthy on the outside, which it is, I deeply feel that I have a huge hole in my life right now. I don't know whether to never contact him again or not. This sucks.
PS He's Aries Sun, Capricorn Moon, Aqua Venus & Mars
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