firywetair joined September 11, 2013
37 years old female
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Posted by feby16aqua
Check this out...and yes.
http://www.elbertwade.com/page154.html
cool..thanks!
Posted by feby16aqua
It's very important. Even an hour can make a difference.
and few minutes?
Hi all. I need to know how much difference does a less accurate time can make to the placements in the chart.
Posted by aquapiscescuspPosted by firywetairPosted by aquapiscescusp
I went out with a Virgo, he bored me to death. I broke up with him 3 times.
I had read about all those compatiblity between aqua n virgo saying things like it can be best or worst. i din't bother and chose to accept the best part and ignore the worst part since i valued our relation more than that. but now what i read seems more true than not since whats happening between us is just extremes of good and bad. the good part is the best and bad part is the worst. its a roller coaster!
Find a good place in your relationship, avoid the conflicts for awhile, focus your energy on other things -- instead of on him or the relationship. Try that for awhile, see how you feel.click to expand
The way i like to handle is to just retreat for sometime without any interaction with the concerned person..and let time and slow thought process bring clarity to how to deal with the situation..now retreating itself becomes another issue for him...what would happen when a person is already trying to solve a problem and a new problem in the same area crops up..isn't it overwhelming..but last night when we spoke i did not speak much he wanted to know y i did not say anything coz i have seen the consequences of expressing before..he was upset and said that i get back to him when i wish to talk..n disconnected..but i know that its easy for him to say that and if i actually take some days to get back..within those days ill have emotional blackmailing texts coming in..i can't have peace basically!
Posted by firebunny
The thing is, you're already married with him. You have to focus on your long-term commitment rather than complain about these "worst" parts. There's a way to handle these things. The way I handle these is to reflect and ponder upon it deeply. Analyze the situations and try to understand things more. It's not that you have no choice but it's just that divorcing is just a bad choice...
The way i like to handle is to just retreat for sometime without any interaction with the concerned person..and let time and slow thought process bring clarity to how to deal with the situation..now retreating itself becomes another issue for him...what would happen when a person is already trying to solve a problem and a new problem in the same area crops up..isn't it overwhelming..but last night when we spoke i did not speak much he wanted to know y i did not say anything coz i have seen the consequences of expressing before..he was upset and said that i get back to him when i wish to talk..n disconnected..but i know that its easy for him to say that and if i actually take some days to get back..within those days ill have emotional blackmailing texts coming in..i can't have peace basically!
Posted by aquapiscescusp
I went out with a Virgo, he bored me to death. I broke up with him 3 times.
I had read about all those compatiblity between aqua n virgo saying things like it can be best or worst. i din't bother and chose to accept the best part and ignore the worst part since i valued our relation more than that. but now what i read seems more true than not since whats happening between us is just extremes of good and bad. the good part is the best and bad part is the worst. its a roller coaster!
ceu i really appreciate the time, energy and efforts you have put into typing that whole thing. I agree with you on most points. Just to remind what i said before, the fact that you know he has those qualities is because i appreciated them in the posts, so i very well honor them, however, as you said i do have other important needs. I know not everything can be fulfilled and there are compromises but sometimes for a human being when the needs they value are not satisfied, the other qualities lose their essential value or so it appears.
One more thing, w.r.t me fulfilling his needs. yes there are a few things that i know he values and he communicates to me and i listen and understand and try to go out of my way to do so. I expect the same from him. And in fact, thanks to our open communication, i know well what his needs and desires are, and i have done everything to meet those, but, at some point, when it comes to some of my needs that i hold close, and when i try to express those he says that im making him feel guilty..thats where i hold myself back and just swallow it up...then on another occasion when i try to talk about it in a relaxed, gentle manner so as not to offend him, he again doesn't welcome it and all sorts of subtle emotional blackmailing begins which makes me feel choked as i end up feeling that i can't be understood. then what happens when a person feels she will not be understood, she never expresses her desires and frustration keeps building up inside and then at some point it just explodes.
One more thing, w.r.t me fulfilling his needs. yes there are a few things that i know he values and he communicates to me and i listen and understand and try to go out of my way to do so. I expect the same from him. And in fact, thanks to our open communication, i know well what his needs and desires are, and i have done everything to meet those, but, at some point, when it comes to some of my needs that i hold close, and when i try to express those he says that im making him feel guilty..thats where i hold myself back and just swallow it up...then on another occasion when i try to talk about it in a relaxed, gentle manner so as not to offend him, he again doesn't welcome it and all sorts of subtle emotional blackmailing begins which makes me feel choked as i end up feeling that i can't be understood. then what happens when a person feels she will not be understood, she never expresses her desires and frustration keeps building up inside and then at some point it just explodes.
Thanks people for your kind inputs..ill be putting up birth charts of both of us soon and would need the astro experts' help in helping me see things astrologically as well 
Posted by tizianiPosted by firywetair
I get exactly what ur telling..i guess thats the phase i am at too..
If you can trust him with that feeling and talk about it and if he can listen and understand, then you have yourselves a marriage, I guess. No relationship ever turns out how "it's meant to be" and that's the good thing about it. It's never predictable.
What you're challenged to do is never immediately obvious unless you give it time to really see where you both stand.click to expand
yep..i get it..i got to do some thinking and rethinking now.
Posted by truecapPosted by firywetair
Posted by tiziani
Think about this: If you divorce him, you'll quickly find out the single scene is not all its cracked up to be and before long you're going to be looking for a man who will give you.....guess what....."stability, family, children" and love, dependability, financial security, intellect, and status.
I hope you're not back here complaining "there aren't any good men out there"....
Really. Come on. Think about it. You're better off working on spicing things up, throwing some new adventures into the marriage and creating some fun situations. Why does he have to do all the work? It sounds like you've got a good man....try appreciating him.click to expand
No doubt he is a good man..he gives me security, stability..all that a woman would want from a stable, secure relationship...and losing all that is just what i fear and the reason why im in no haste to take impulsive decisions...i may sound selfish but one main reason y i havn't take any serious step is that he won't be able to take it and thats my biggest worry...
and i get you and most people here..guess i should not give up and continue trying to spice up things..which i had stopped doing.
I get exactly what ur telling..i guess thats the phase i am at too..
Posted by tiziani
Funny thing is i wanted stability, family and children with this person when i decided to marry him..and that was some years back..have i regressed..lol
Funny thing is i wanted stability, family and children with this person when i decided to marry him..and that was some years back..have i regressed..lolPhotos
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