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Posted by moodycrab712
I do that all the time. If I like someone ill pursue them but after a certain point if I feel like im doing all the work then ill fall back some to see if you'll step up. So step up. Start initiating conversations, ask her on a date.
But by doing this, won't you give the other party the wrong idea that you may not be interested? What happen when they really think that you are not interested in them and give up?
Posted by aquavita
why are YOU not initiating contact
Actually, many times I wanted to but I was just worried if she will find me too pushy. Furthermore, she used to be the one who initialed to contact me in the beginning but suddenly her attitude changed. This also makes me wonder if she has lost interest or anything. Thus causes me to hold back about contacting her.
Posted by notyourtype
In the 2 hr long phone conversation you guys had, she never addressed the reason why her communication has been less frequent?
Hi. No we didn't actually touched on this. Basically we were telling each other what kinda person we are when we are in a relationship. Briefly she just said sometimes she will behave like that certain point of time but she's harmless.
I've know this cancerian girl when I play soccer with my group of guys friends. She works at the soccer ground. Even we have seen each other many times, but we were just like "hi", "bye" friend. Until recently when she was talking to my friends, I sat beside them and we did talked a bit. The following week, she asked my friend for my number and she contacted me. We hit off very well with text messages, then she started calling me and we talk on the phone. She will always be the one who initial the contact. Things were going well for both of us but one day she suddenly stopped contacting me. I felt affected, so I texted her and asked her if there's anything wrong, and she replied that there's nothing wrong. The following day, she texted me again and asked me if I'm still affected and I said yes. She asked me don't feel that way and we chatted for a while. Still, she don't contact me like how she used to be. So a few days later, I wrote a long text and confessed to her that I like her and this feeling has been making me feeling sad when we don't communicate like how we used to be. Upon reading my message, she called me immediately and tell me that she will not ignore me and she went on telling me more about herself and what's her expectation in a relationship. We talked for 2 hours on the phone telling each other about our life and what we expect in a relationship. However after we hang up, there's still no contact from her. I am really confused by her actions, is this girl interested in moving our friendship to the next level? And why is it that she call me immediately after I confessed to her. I'm a guy that when I like a girl, I don't dare to show too much to her if she is not responding or showing much interest and this is making me crazy. Please help. Btw, I'm a gemini.
I've know this cancerian girl when I play soccer with my group of guys friends. She works at the soccer ground. Even we have seen each other many times, but we were just like "hi", "bye" friend. Until recently when she was talking to my friends, I sat beside them and we did talked a bit. The following week, she asked my friend for my number and she contacted me. We hit off very well with text messages, then she started calling me and we talk on the phone. She will always be the one who initial the contact. Things were going well for both of us but one day she suddenly stopped contacting me. I felt affected, so I texted her and asked her if there's anything wrong, and she replied that there's nothing wrong. The following day, she texted me again and asked me if I'm still affected and I said yes. She asked me don't feel that way and we chatted for a while. Still, she don't contact me like how she used to be. So a few days later, I wrote a long text and confessed to her that I like her and this feeling has been making me feeling sad when we don't communicate like how we used to be. Upon reading my message, she called me immediately and tell me that she will not ignore me and she went on telling me more about herself and what's her expectation in a relationship. We talked for 2 hours on the phone telling each other about our life and what we expect in a relationship. However after we hang up, there's still no contact from her. I am really confused by her actions, is this girl interested in moving our friendship to the next level? And why is it that she call me immediately after I confessed to her. I'm a guy that when I like a girl, I don't dare to show too much to her if she is not responding or showing much interest and this is making me crazy. Please help. Btw, I'm a gemini.
Posted by KittyKnitter
she wants to be with you but she might also want things her way. if she values you, it's time for her to show it as well as say it. her pride or her insecurity is getting in her way. someone with low self esteem doesn't believe they deserve you, someone with too much thinks they can boss you around and maybe play mindgames. leos typically are possessive but jealousy can mean a red flag. people who are insecure often want to own the people they can control the most, those closest to them with mindgames and passive-aggressiveness.
decide what your bottom line is. you want to be respected and appreciated. what can she do and say that will show you that she really does care and it has to be consistent. can she give you that? put herself on the line so you can see her vulnerable? and hold her responsible for her actions. if it was a misunderstanding then you can work things out but if the big issue is that she isn't happy with herself, that is a big red flag for any relationship. she says she misses you. i would ask her to show it as well as say it. actions speak louder than words but you need the words too.if you have a list of things that bother you, then you should talk about all your issues honestly and openly. she should be agreeable to this but might run away from it. the thing is, if you cannot talk about what bothers you and get straight answers, she is attempting to keep control of things and you cannot be controlled that way. now is the time to start talking, to learn how things can be better between you. you might do that before you go back and get into the same situation again. at least that is what i would do.
Thanks Kitty. Yes I agree with what you said. But somehow I just find that maybe she's too prideful that she refused to show it thru her actions? Or perhaps she's just saying those things just to hold on to me? I don't know.
It's been about 3 weeks since we broke off. We had a misunderstanding over some minor jealousy matter and she wanted to break off. Since the breakup, she still texted me almost everyday. Showing concern by reminding me to take my meals, sometimes telling me goodnight. There were a few occasions whereby I threw the questions to her as if she really want to let me go and let me find a new love (coz sometimes when we were arguing about our relationship matter, she just say forget about her and find someone worth my love). But she just don't wanna answer that question. Last week when we had a 3 days of non contact, she got emo on the 3rd day and posted some emo stuffs on her Facebook. And also posted a Korean song "Don't Leave" twice. I've more or less gave her an ultimatum that I won't say or do anything anymore to salvage this relationship if she still adopt that "heck care" attitude. I've asked her many times that if she do not want this love anymore, I will just move on. But she simply won't wanna give an answer, instead indirectly she is telling me not to go. Yesterday, she suddenly texted me and tell me she misses me. I'm confused. Please help.
Posted by ImprisonmentPosted by geminichooPosted by Imprisonment
Good to hear that things are improving. How's her ex boyfriend situation?
Hi imprisonment, actually I'm not sure if he is still contacting her, but I know it's something that I can't stop. As what she told me, she can't stop those ppl from contacting her, but she knows what's she's supposed to do.
I remember you mentioning she may have still had feelings for him. Did she say anything about it?click to expand
No she didn't. In fact, when she was with me, she didn't contact him. It was him who keep contacting her.
Posted by tizianiPosted by geminichoo
And she asked me out last night. Just a simple date when we went for a supper and a massage after that. I sent her home after that, and we just hugged each other goodnight.
yes, excellent. Air signs always have the higher groundclick to expand
@Tiz, let's just wait and see how things evolve and see if she's genuine.
Posted by tizianiPosted by geminichoo
And she asked me out last night. Just a simple date when we went for a supper and a massage after that. I sent her home after that, and we just hugged each other goodnight.
yes, excellent. Air signs always have the higher groundclick to expand
Posted by Imprisonment
Good to hear that things are improving. How's her ex boyfriend situation?
Hi imprisonment, actually I'm not sure if he is still contacting her, but I know it's something that I can't stop. As what she told me, she can't stop those ppl from contacting her, but she knows what's she's supposed to do.
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