Iamnobody joined September 21, 2011
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I would freak out if it was someone I had strong feelings for. It has to be made clear that sometimes the disappearing act isn't done on purpose, we just value our private time a lot.
Posted by R1g0rM0rT1s
do you still have any contact with this girl? do you mix in the same circles? is there perhaps a way of just getting together with a view of becoming friends? it's just that if you see her again, you may realise that your feelings weren't quite you thought they were and you'll get a better perspective of things. that's what i would do if it had been that long and i still wasn't over someone. re-opening the wound sometimes brings about a speedy conclusion to things
I've actually had that happen a few times. Yes we share the same social circles and there was once I was at a bar and turned out she was working there as a hostess. During her break, she asked me to have dinner with her and so I did. We had a chat, caught up; it wasn't as intense at it seemed in my head. In fact at that moment in time I was perfectly fine with being friends as I thought "hey, I don't think my feelings for her are as strong as I imagined they were". But a few months after that I started missing her again and idealizing her and the relationship, putting her on a pedestal. Could that be my problem? Is it all in my head?
I got lucky when I met my most recent ex. I had dated a girl before her but she was the first to make me feel a kind of happiness I'd never felt. I'm a quiet, introverted guy (scorpio) and kept to myself a lot. Because of this I never had many friends and had very low self-esteem. But it was in high school when my ex, the prettiest girl in school then, had her eye on me. I got to know about it and wasted no time in making my move, though powered false confidence. The times I spent with her were the best I'd ever had, and I can honestly say I was in love. I got too attached. Things eventually went sour after the honeymoon period was over and we parted ways. That was 3 years ago. My life went back to being dark and lonely, my self-esteem back to sh*t. I was diagnosed with depression. Even suicidal at one point. And it hasn't been the same since I had a taste of that kind of happiness. Maybe that's why I can't move on.
to be honest i find myself imitating a handful of people too. but only the ones i really admire. less of copying, more of trying to obtain a similar trait to them.
Couldn't agree with meeow more.
Its said us scorps have very strong intuition and i don't disagree. Many a time i've had strong hunches about someone or a situation, which turned out to be right and all i could say was "i told you so". But what if this hunch was something that involved you and someone else personally; emotionally. You somehow get the gut feeling that you're right about this person, yet you can't go all out and accuse them of things because you'd look like a bit of a nut, wouldn't you? I've had this happen before and i couldn't treat the person the same, all i could do was seethe in my gut instincts and suspicions. Have you ever had that happen? And how did you handle the situation?
Don't bother with their childish drama! Just lock your profile, delete those 2 morons if they're on your friend list and live your peaceful life.
You're not alone. I've observed people being fake and hypocritical towards each other from teenhood to adulthood. It never ends and I guess what everevolvingepithet said is true; we're more suspicious and a little paranoid as to whether others are doing the same to us. That's why we feel the want to cut ourselves off from the world and just stick with the people we trust. I feel the exact same way.
Good to know someone else has been through it and survived, what with our scorpio emotions and all. Currently this girl is giving me attitude for something that I have no clue about, probably something she thinks I did. And i'm getting attitude and all kinds of mean comments from her without even having a normal adult confrontation first. Jesus. Having that on off switch helps sometimes if only I knew how to utilize it.
How about if you overestimated this person, thought they had changed, but learnt that it was just an act. That they would seemingly forever be a flirt even when they were settled down. And that they were using you. How does one get over that? Especially if you fell hard for the person.
Hey i've libra bits in the mix as well. Thankfully I don't have the pmt part lol.
That's true. I guess in my case I admired qualities about her that I lacked. Such as her discipline and her logical way of thinking without emotions clouding over. Her social way with people. I'll just have to try because I don't see it working out for us again, even though I really wish it could.
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