InfiniteBliss joined March 12, 2010
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I can completely relate to this. I could never figure out why considering my chart is primarily Fire/Air. But yeah. I think when we really really love someone but we don't have a full grasp on them, we become jealous/possessive/needy, ect. It may have a lot to do with the "chasing" aspect. But honestly, I've had deep feelings for this one guy who was extremely emotionally detached. I told him that I just needed to feel like he really wanted me. I can't figure it out but I think it may have been like a security thing. Maybe we see something in ourselves and how destructive it is to people who are emotionally attached to us, that when we become emotionally involved we need instant reassurance in the relationship. It's not really a control thing, I don't want to control someone. It's more of a "I really love you. So I need to know how you feel before I jump into this and get hurt. Are you going to faithful? Are you reassured in your love for me? Are you going to tell the world about me and be proud, even when it means you have to proudly tell the super pretty colleague of yours who is also interested in you?" I think when we become emotionally involved to that extent, more then anything we need to be rest-assured in the loyalty of the other individual. If we are reassured that they do care, they are faithful, and proud of what they have in us. We can sleep easier at night and so can they. haha. When we truly trust someone else consider your freedom ALL yours. We will not be clingy or needy.You're free to come and go as you please. We want the same. But we will remain faithful and you will still have our love. But back to the guy who was emotionally detached, or so he acted. Eventually I got tired of trying to figure out if he really had any passion for me and moved on to someone else after 3 years. I know some Sagittarians will chase for a lifetime trying to get that guy who plays the game well. But eventually you realise it's just not worth it. About a year and a half into the relationship I saw no change and I started thinking I don't really know how he feels because he never displays it. I got worked up because I thought that meant he didn't care and was with someone else. It ate me alive for the longest time. I kept waiting for him to show how he truly felt and he didn't. I broke it off with him and it nearly killed him. He said that he cared but he just never showed that he did and he was sorry. By then my neediness was gone and it was too late for him.
I can act emotionally detached. I will act like I am the girl next door/best friend and that he is free to leave at any moment. Truth is when I say he is free to leave at any moment it's b/c I really like him. haha It sounds weird. But I will also flirt in a bizarre fashion too if I like the guy. Everything will feel really "airy" (ha) I feel like the more detached I act the more they seem to chase after me. I also find that in relationships I am attracted to a guy who is very unique and intelligent. He has to have a bizarre style yet not be even trying.
Posted by amethyst2002
Okay first off, someone get this guy a midol.
Second, I'd think if he TRULY loved you and all that other stuff he's spewing, then your past wouldn't be stopping him. I'd think if you loved someone THAT much, you'd be able to look past things like what you mentioned. Wtf.
That's what I felt too. But I think that putting myself in his shoes for a minute. I can see why he may be reluctant. He feels like he is all alone in the experience. And it might make him feel a little insecure and afraid he may not be good enough too. I think he feels that him putting down his guards would require a lot more then me putting down mine. He is all alone in this and I think he wanted the lover that could share the first time excitement and experience with him. And only him. Thing is I do love him. And I know he really loves me. I just don't know how to help him get over this psychological block and to just not be afraid. I am willing to wait everything out because I know one day he'll realise he was my number one all along. I told him that I knew he really is in love with me and that he'll remain faithful because deep down he knows that I really love him and he knows he loves me. But I told him if he needed space and time to figure things out that I was more then willingly to give it to him. He told me he just wanted to be with me but it will take time for him to learn to accept the past is the past and move on. He told me he just over-thinks everything.
* when I say played I don't mean cheated on. I mean more like am I just putting myself up for my emotions to be thrown around.
I met this Aries guy and we hit it off well. Everything was perfect then out of the blue he tells me that he can't love me as much as he desperately wants to because he can't get over my past. I've had sexual partners in the past and I was his first sexual partner. He cannot get over my past at all and he feels terrible about it. He keeps telling me he is insane for thinking this and he keeps asking me what is wrong with him. He said that he has all this love for me that is just so extreme but he is bitter about my history and that he'll never be "#1". I can understand why he feels this way but I really need him to know he is the ONLY ONE in my eyes. I told him if he felt this terrible about it then to let me go and I'll find someone who will truly love me. I've had a bad history with my dad growing up and I felt like I do deserve a chance at happiness. I told him it was also not fair that I was giving all I had for him just to sit on the sidelines. So I told him I will move on then if this is preventing him from truly forming the greatest bond possible with me. If this is our stopping point, then I am not going to sit around and wait.
He told me that part of him really wants to see me happy because after everything in my past, I do deserve a man that treats me like a goddess. But then part of him realises that no one can love me the way he does and he feels like I would be cheated and hurt of the love I deserve because only he has that true love for me. He told me no guy can love me the way he does, only he can protect me, and I am his "other half"(?)
He told me he feels like there is this large amount of love in him that he is so desperate to shower me with but the past is preventing it and it's breaking his heart. I don't know what to do. Is this normal of Aries? Should I stick it out? Or does it sound like I am just being played?
He told me that part of him really wants to see me happy because after everything in my past, I do deserve a man that treats me like a goddess. But then part of him realises that no one can love me the way he does and he feels like I would be cheated and hurt of the love I deserve because only he has that true love for me. He told me no guy can love me the way he does, only he can protect me, and I am his "other half"(?)
He told me he feels like there is this large amount of love in him that he is so desperate to shower me with but the past is preventing it and it's breaking his heart. I don't know what to do. Is this normal of Aries? Should I stick it out? Or does it sound like I am just being played?
I last for about 2 years max.
Posted by orkdoop
I want him to fall in love with me so badly..because true love for an Aries man is so pure and perfect..like they are perfectionist when it comes to really loving someone. and they don't settle for less..and if he could love me like that I would feel perfect in everything else...
wow that sounded crazy...
It's true their love is perfect when they are really in love. As my boyfriend put it, "If an Aries doesn't feel he has found his soulmate/other half he will always keep one eye open and options available." If you're not it, then you're not it and there is nothing that can be done. You can offer him the chase but eventually when Aries get what they want, they don't want it anymore. It feels like there has to be a balance between the chase and being truly in love. I think they work best with very independent women but also women with a "damsel in distress" appeal to them. Thing with Aries men is that they can't seem to quite grasp that their perfect woman may be nonexistent lol. It seems like they expect an airbrush model with complete perfection in every possible aspect, who also happens to be a virgin and a wh*re. When they realise that their princess has a lot of flaws, they are turned off. It's weird. I sometimes feel like Aries in love is a fantasy for awhile and then they snap back to reality. Yet, leaving you really confused to what you did wrong. And leaving you with promises they thought they could keep. Best thing is when they are "drunk in love" it's best for you to keep grounded. If he isn't going anywhere with you, realise that there are more Arian fish in the sea and you could be some Aries "perfect love" one day. If an Aries really wants you in his future and cannot be without you, he will let you know in every possible way.
Posted by sagiluv
InfiniteBliss,
My 1st was an Aries and it was mind Blowing every time!! I'm Surpised you're wasn't working all that hard towards pleasing you. I'd say give him a second chance and go from there
I think he was trying to please me. It was his first time. So maybe a performance thing? I really love the guy though. I found he is very sensual and gentle though. But just being in his arms is mind blowing enough for me.
So true. I just had my first kiss experience with an Aries. Oh my god. It was his first kiss. Oh my god. He is divine. It's something about those gorgeous lips and they're just so delicious and perfect.
Tell them it starts 2 hours before it really does. And then 10 minutes before the 2 hours limit call them up and start panicking. hahaha. So if it's a movie at 10pm tell them it starts at 8pm. At 7:50pm call them and panic. They'll rush. When they get there, say "Oh my bad! I was mistaken it doesn't start for another hour and a half."
Oh dear. Haha. I am a Sagittarius. I don't know if the females count. But I can go all day and night. But I think it's super hard for a Sagittarius to find that one life changing orgasm lol! But we do have multiple shallow ones. Has anyone had experience with an Aries before? I was seeing this Aries guy and I slept with him a couple of weeks ago. I was expecting mind blowing sex but it wasn't. Maybe they are shy in bed at first? Idk.
I hate to be the one to break the news to you. But you need to move on and fast. When a Sagittarius is over someone, she is completely over them. There is nothing left and she feels no reason to stick around any longer. I hate to say this but the reason why she probably told you she loved you was because she was afraid of hurting you but at the same time a little hesitant to throw away what she had with you for someone else. So in a way she is being completely selfish and yet at the same time trying to avoid hurting you. She thinks that with avoidance you'll just disappear. With a Sagittarius it's either 100% in or nothing. If she is not there 100% , she is not yours truly. She won't call you back and even if she does it will be strictly as friends to be nice. For some reason Sag will always try to be friends with an ex she feels she may have hurt. Even if she comes back it's only due to fear of the future because she is so used to you. She will probably test the water again with you (ex., try and get back with you) come to realise you're really not what she wants and then she will leave again. Avoid answering her calls and take some time to move on. Just pick up you're life and let her know she isn't the center of it. She will freak out you've moved on so quickly and start to question if you really loved her and she might try to come back. But keep moving on. She won't ever stick around. And you do deserve happiness.
This is coming from a Sagittarius who has been in this situation with a Libra guy and a Scorpio guy before when she was younger. And I have observed this a thousand times in other Sag friends relationships.
This is coming from a Sagittarius who has been in this situation with a Libra guy and a Scorpio guy before when she was younger. And I have observed this a thousand times in other Sag friends relationships.
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I met this Aries guy and we hit it off well. Everything was perfect then out of the blue he tells me that he can't love
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