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One of his friends has told me to quit because he wants to TRY with the other girl. But another one told me to just be patient cuz he really cares for me.
My Virgo has been on a business trip for the past 2 weeks. The last time we saw each other, I took him to a concert that he didn??t like. And he did nothing to pretend otherwise. He was so distant and almost disrespectful. I was not feeling good for personal reasons (including him) and he noticed it but just left me there while I asked if we could go for a drink afterwards cuz I needed to change my mind. He said it wasn??t a good idea cuz now he has a girlfriend ??_ WTF? So it??s been a month since we last talked. I might see him on Thursday cuz I'm going for a drink with one of his bestfriends.
What do you think? Do I stand a chance to win him back? What should I do?
From what I read, he has the typical Virgo reaction : not knowing what he wants and testing people. Is that it?
Part of me feels like I have to go and tell him he hurt me and that he has to make a choice cuz I can??t go on like that. That he has to man up and take responsibilites for his choices and actions. But it might be too radical and ???violent?? for a Virgo.
The other part feels like I should play it smart and stay around and subtly win him back. But how?
Or maybe I should just pretend nothing never happened ? Or ignore him once in a while and then pretend I never ignored him?
Should I be really understanding and just let him know that he hurt me but I forgive him? Or should I be more radical and tell him I really think he lacked respect for me and that he should man up?
Of course I won??t insult him or yell at him. That??s so not me. But I wanna be firm and let him know that I am hurt. I still don??t know if I wanna tell him I want him out of my life for now. Or don??t tell him but stay away from him for awhile?
Please. Help me.
This whole story is keeping me up at night especially since I might see him on Thursday.
I'm ready to hear anything you have to tell me. Even that I don't stand a chance. But please, give me your honest opinion and advice.
Thanks a lot.
My Virgo has been on a business trip for the past 2 weeks. The last time we saw each other, I took him to a concert that he didn??t like. And he did nothing to pretend otherwise. He was so distant and almost disrespectful. I was not feeling good for personal reasons (including him) and he noticed it but just left me there while I asked if we could go for a drink afterwards cuz I needed to change my mind. He said it wasn??t a good idea cuz now he has a girlfriend ??_ WTF? So it??s been a month since we last talked. I might see him on Thursday cuz I'm going for a drink with one of his bestfriends.
What do you think? Do I stand a chance to win him back? What should I do?
From what I read, he has the typical Virgo reaction : not knowing what he wants and testing people. Is that it?
Part of me feels like I have to go and tell him he hurt me and that he has to make a choice cuz I can??t go on like that. That he has to man up and take responsibilites for his choices and actions. But it might be too radical and ???violent?? for a Virgo.
The other part feels like I should play it smart and stay around and subtly win him back. But how?
Or maybe I should just pretend nothing never happened ? Or ignore him once in a while and then pretend I never ignored him?
Should I be really understanding and just let him know that he hurt me but I forgive him? Or should I be more radical and tell him I really think he lacked respect for me and that he should man up?
Of course I won??t insult him or yell at him. That??s so not me. But I wanna be firm and let him know that I am hurt. I still don??t know if I wanna tell him I want him out of my life for now. Or don??t tell him but stay away from him for awhile?
Please. Help me.
This whole story is keeping me up at night especially since I might see him on Thursday.
I'm ready to hear anything you have to tell me. Even that I don't stand a chance. But please, give me your honest opinion and advice.
Thanks a lot.
Hi everyone,
One of my friends recommended me this forum so I thought I might come and ask you some advices on how to handle this Virgo man.
We met in early September through a dating site (thing I had never done before). We instantly clicked and started spending a lot of time together. He was always so attentive, careful, polite, always complimenting me, buying me everything, etc. After only 2 weeks, he kissed me and we dated that night. Spent the night together but just hugging and cuddling, no sex. The next day he was perfect: called me, came by my place with a bag full of groceries cuz I had told him my fridge was empty. I was in 7th heaven.
Then after 2 days, he told me he wanted to stop everything and go back to where we were before, take our time. He also admitted he had met a girl a couple weeks before he met me (she lives 200 miles away). They had kissed one night but he didn??t want to hurt any of us so he prefered to be single for the moment while figuring things/his life out (he had lost his grandpa who he was very close to and has a lot of stress at work). He told me he really loved me and didn??t want to lose me.
So we kept seeing each other. He introduced me to all of his best friends, his colleagues. He would take me everywhere (movies, concerts, to the park, dinner, etc). His attitude hadn??t changed. He was always very tactile, holding me in his arms, hugging me, always paying for everything, etc.
Then, 2 weeks later, he suddenly told me that he wanted to be friends with me cuz he had seen that girl again and they had started dating??_ Although she lives 200 miles away, he wanted to give it a try. Of course, I was heartbroken.
Since then, he has just been on and off, blowing hot and cold. He can be so lovely to me and the next day, pay no attention whatesoever to me.
Now, I want him back. Especially that, although he pretends he wants to be friends, he always has a very ambiguous attitude. As I said, he is always hugging me, holding me in his arms, texting me, etc. A couple weeks ago, we went out and had too much to drink so I crashed at his place and ended up sharing his bed. He woke me up a couple times cuz he was spooning or stroking my hair and kissing my forehead while I was sleeping. He has even invited me to go on holiday and spend NY??E with him and his friends. On the other hand, since he started dating her, he travels the 200 miles every 2 weekends to see her and has introduced her to his brother.
One of my friends recommended me this forum so I thought I might come and ask you some advices on how to handle this Virgo man.
We met in early September through a dating site (thing I had never done before). We instantly clicked and started spending a lot of time together. He was always so attentive, careful, polite, always complimenting me, buying me everything, etc. After only 2 weeks, he kissed me and we dated that night. Spent the night together but just hugging and cuddling, no sex. The next day he was perfect: called me, came by my place with a bag full of groceries cuz I had told him my fridge was empty. I was in 7th heaven.
Then after 2 days, he told me he wanted to stop everything and go back to where we were before, take our time. He also admitted he had met a girl a couple weeks before he met me (she lives 200 miles away). They had kissed one night but he didn??t want to hurt any of us so he prefered to be single for the moment while figuring things/his life out (he had lost his grandpa who he was very close to and has a lot of stress at work). He told me he really loved me and didn??t want to lose me.
So we kept seeing each other. He introduced me to all of his best friends, his colleagues. He would take me everywhere (movies, concerts, to the park, dinner, etc). His attitude hadn??t changed. He was always very tactile, holding me in his arms, hugging me, always paying for everything, etc.
Then, 2 weeks later, he suddenly told me that he wanted to be friends with me cuz he had seen that girl again and they had started dating??_ Although she lives 200 miles away, he wanted to give it a try. Of course, I was heartbroken.
Since then, he has just been on and off, blowing hot and cold. He can be so lovely to me and the next day, pay no attention whatesoever to me.
Now, I want him back. Especially that, although he pretends he wants to be friends, he always has a very ambiguous attitude. As I said, he is always hugging me, holding me in his arms, texting me, etc. A couple weeks ago, we went out and had too much to drink so I crashed at his place and ended up sharing his bed. He woke me up a couple times cuz he was spooning or stroking my hair and kissing my forehead while I was sleeping. He has even invited me to go on holiday and spend NY??E with him and his friends. On the other hand, since he started dating her, he travels the 200 miles every 2 weekends to see her and has introduced her to his brother.
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