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Kris85 joined May 20, 2010
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I believe that when a man is distant that the best thing is to leave them alone. Find things to do and date. The more you go after him whether it is the phone, email, texting, etc - the more they are likely to think you are not in control of your emotions - Most particularly if you are asking them what is wrong, or accusing them or anything that would put them on the defensive. It doesn't take much to put them on the defensive.
Think about it - if you even had a friend who acted that way (bothering you) wouldn't you try to avoid them? Take a break and do some things that you enjoy and let it go. Chances are he will wonder after awhile what you are doing and how come you can just go on with your life and forget him.
You are a special person and don't forget it! Special people don't need other people to feel special.
I have a guy-friend who I had a heated discussion with and although I wrote him one email afterwards, the email was without emotion. I did not accuse him, or make any references to what he did or didn't do. He had misunderstood something I had said and the conversation got out of control - I honestly didn't understand what the argument was about but stumbled around and finally got frustrated. I wrote the email 2 days later to present what my statement had meant. Maybe an email to a sweetheart like that could be in order if you are cooled off - but to bug him or expect something from him....not cool. NEVER sound or present yourself as desperate or clingy.

I love my Aquarius man very much also. We have known each other for nearly 5 years. Although I would love a REAL romantic relationship we live many miles apart, and I have settled for a friendship. Even then, it is not easy to keep it steady.
He is full of drama. Oddly enough I am a Leo, and I am not a drama Queen. In fact, I prefer to keep the peace in every type of relationship, so I do the same with this one. I can talk about anything at all, and I take lots of his advice as it has assisted me greatly. Although Leos are known for ego - his leading me is just fine.
Both of us are very independent as our signs so state. I do like compliments but don't lack my own confidence at all. He doesn't give alot of compliments, but when he does I note it and thank him and let it go. I know through what I feel that he thinks highly of me and he is crazy about me.
We talk on the phone alot except when we have a "break". These breaks can last a few weeks to a few months to a few years. Over the times we have come to know each other pretty well in spite of the breaks. Unfortunately, he can rile up the relationship and when that happens he can't work himself out of it. It takes alot to rile me up, but he can push buttons when he is fiesty and he gets pretty personal when he does. I know, I know, that is because he cares enough to be bothered, but it is wearing. At no time has it changed how we respond when we get back together. It seems a shame that we can't just make a go of it and get married. Who knows what the future will bring.
I usually leave him alone during these breaks - he is not out looking for anyone else as he has over time come to know that not many people can tolerate his pecularities for very long. He is compulsive-obsessive and drives himself crazy with it. Doesn't bother me much as it is about him and not me - he likes that about me, but when he gets going on me I am very verbal. Usually when I feel strongly about something that has happened between us, I wait a few days then I write a very logical well thought out email - I never get emotional, never get accusatory, but simply state my own feelings objectively and very straightforward. My thinking is pretty logical. It blows him away and he has no words..something that he typically does not lack. smile
I have surprised him on occasions, and since I am good at keeping secrets he is totally blown away. I sent him a gorilla one time (a person dressed up) who arrived

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