Hello everyone.
I am a Leo Woman and i am currently talking to an Aquarius Man (who is 19 yrs my senior) for about 6 weeks now.
We met online and we have not met face to face.
For the first three weeks we spoke a lot on social media about various topics. From what he does to a living to pretty deep emotional topics. Within the first two weeks of us chatting he disclosed that he really likes me and wants to take things further and that we are a perfect match. He asked a lot about my life and really showed interest. He would also mention that he wishes to take me to certain places.
However, as the weeks went along intense chatting cooled down a lot but he has told me a few times that he loves me (he says this about 3times a week) and has not lost interest and still wishes to take things further. I asked him what are the chances of him taking things further and he said 80% and the 20% is if I don’t want to take things further.
What bothers me about this man is that:
Firstly, the intense chatting that has cooled down a lot. Now he will message me first in the morning before work and then after work. I will maybe get a random message from him during the day but nothing major. Then on weekends we will chat more but not like we use to. Yes this can be attributed to the fact that he is a very busy man and I do believe that he is busy but some weekends I get the impression that he doesn’t want to really talk to me. He will hardly show interest in my day or my doings or even ask any further questions in order to get to know me better. This he did in the beginning. However when I am busy and he doesn’t get a reply from me he gets irritated and thinks that I am playing the ignoring game. This isn’t true as I am actually just busy.
Another thing is that him and I have an INTENSE sexual attraction. Lately, that is almost the only time I get a proper reaction out of him. I have however explained to him that because I have very strong emotional feelings for him I wont sleep with him unless there is a solid relationship.
Secondly, he NEVER answers my calls or calls back. I have asked him nicely to please call me or if it is late at night and I haven’t heard from him I call him. But then every time he comes with an excuse why he can’t answer and then makes a promise to call me back- which he never fulfils. Another thing is that we live in the same town and we have made countless plans just to meet for coffee but every time on the last minute he will cancel or come with an excuse why he can’t make it. I have asked him before if he is nervous to meet me and he said yes very. When I asked him why his answer was that he is scared that he will disappoint me in general. He also told me that he is scared to meet me because he is scared he loses his heart and mind and then gets hurt. I’ve decided to no longer push for a coffee date because I don’t want to sound naggy or pushy and believe that he will arrange it when he is comfortable. But at the same time I don’t want it to seem like I’m losing interest in him.
So is he slowly but surely losing interest in me or is he just taking space to figure things out and what should I do because I really have no idea.
Hello everyone.
I am a Leo Woman and i am currently talking to an Aquarius Man (who is 19 yrs my senior) for about 6 weeks now.
We met online and we have not met face to face.
For the first three weeks we spoke a lot on social media about various topics. From what he does to a living to pretty deep emotional topics. Within the first two weeks of us chatting he disclosed that he really likes me and wants to take things further and that we are a perfect match. He asked a lot about my life and really showed interest. He would also mention that he wishes to take me to certain places.
However, as the weeks went along intense chatting cooled down a lot but he has told me a few times that he loves me (he says this about 3times a week) and has not lost interest and still wishes to take things further. I asked him what are the chances of him taking things further and he said 80% and the 20% is if I don’t want to take things further.
What bothers me about this man is that:
Firstly, the intense chatting that has cooled down a lot. Now he will message me first in the morning before work and then after work. I will maybe get a random message from him during the day but nothing major. Then on weekends we will chat more but not like we use to. Yes this can be attributed to the fact that he is a very busy man and I do believe that he is busy but some weekends I get the impression that he doesn’t want to really talk to me. He will hardly show interest in my day or my doings or even ask any further questions in order to get to know me better. This he did in the beginning. However when I am busy and he doesn’t get a reply from me he gets irritated and thinks that I am playing the ignoring game. This isn’t true as I am actually just busy.
Another thing is that him and I have an INTENSE sexual attraction. Lately, that is almost the only time I get a proper reaction out of him. I have however explained to him that because I have very strong emotional feelings for him I wont sleep with him unless there is a solid relationship.
Secondly, he NEVER answers my calls or calls back. I have asked him nicely to please call me or if it is late at night and I haven’t heard from him I call him. But then every time he comes with an excuse why he can’t answer and then makes a promise to call me back- which he never fulfils. Another thing is that we live in the same town and we have made countless plans just to meet for coffee but every time on the last minute he will cancel or come with an excuse why he can’t make it. I have asked him before if he is nervous to meet me and he said yes very. When I asked him why his answer was that he is scared that he will disappoint me in general. He also told me that he is scared to meet me because he is scared he loses his heart and mind and then gets hurt. I’ve decided to no longer push for a coffee date because I don’t want to sound naggy or pushy and believe that he will arrange it when he is comfortable. But at the same time I don’t want it to seem like I’m losing interest in him.
So is he slowly but surely losing interest in me or is he just taking space to figure things out and what should I do because I really have no idea.