Posted by champranger

Posted by truecap

Doesn't take long to learn how to word things. I remember my first few months of posting. Whew!!!

lol, I mean be as concise as possible ... the more holes you leave, the more people will question you, no?

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Posted by champranger

Posted by librascale75

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Posted by librascale75
Thanks sis, this is truly a rough crowd, with the exception of TruCap, my lord

I apologize if I was contributing to this tough crowd.
However, he has made his decision and the more you think about him, the harder it will be for you to move on.
Also, I think you missed capinc's reference to the movie, about a protagonist guy who chose a lady who had more stability, over a lady that he had emotional connection with.

I didn't miss capinc reference to the movie, i'm definitely going to check it out. I understand a choice was made, only was trying to figure out how that choice came to be, so I will definitely check out the movie and all the responses geared toward my question as a step towards closure. Sometimes unanswered questions makes things a little harder, but I'm glad my sister talked me into posting this thread

Good luck!
Also I agree with truecap about this board. Be careful how your posts are going to come off. Many misunderstandings happen here.

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Posted by champranger

Posted by librascale75
Thanks sis, this is truly a rough crowd, with the exception of TruCap, my lord

I apologize if I was contributing to this tough crowd.
However, he has made his decision and the more you think about him, the harder it will be for you to move on.
Also, I think you missed capinc's reference to the movie, about a protagonist guy who chose a lady who had more stability, over a lady that he had emotional connection with.

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Posted by TwirlingStrawberry
so, now what?

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Posted by champranger

I think a lot of people can fall out of love. What's wrong with it? Love is not something you can control. If it's gone, it's gone.

We were together since HS, as we got older we realized we wanted different things, whats so gross about that. What is wrong with you, smh

Um, I was saying there was nothing wrong with falling out of love. How did you interpret my post?

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Posted by TwirlingStrawberry

Posted by M
"He is currently in a relationship. She's the epitome of his 'ideal' prospect for a wife."
Nothing permeates this. Since this is the case, you need to respect that as the life he's chosen.
"I believe that he still loves me. I could feel it. In his eyes, presence, and movements."
Love is not black and white. You could be a special someone to him, that does not equate to someone he's going to jump ship for. If you believe he's still in love with you beyond that, it falls on him to come around. It was, after all, his decision to make the change.

can I requote this for good measure....first post....from a cap man.

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Posted by tripleCap

Posted by tiziani
Some of you are very foolish in presuming to know men more than men themselves. Life eh.

+1

@Lisabethur8
You need to chill with all of your assumptions.
Are you PMSing?

i got what i got from it. She fell out of love from her marriage. that's just gross. Unless her ex husband BEAT the shit out of her daily, and cheated on her daily, then i see where she left him because it's TOXIC. but she just left cause of falling out of love? what? His beer belly and aging got to her? *smh*

I think a lot of people can fall out of love. What's wrong with it? Love is not something you can control. If it's gone, it's gone.

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Posted by librascale75

So my question to all you Capricorns,
Were you ever in a situation when you chose to follow your heart (emotions) with someone you did not see stability or longevity with? Did you decide to take that risk anyway? What prompted you to take that risk?
Another question,
Were you ever in s a situation when you married someone just for stability without feeling any emotional connection to them initially....but grew to love them afterwards?

y
Good question! Been with a Cap fwb for 9 months, hopefully my experience will help you.
Cap men do not normally go for a person that does not have "potential" to turn into more!
For example, if they have built a life with the person first for whatever reason (that person has a good career, they seem to get along fine, have mutual friends, etc.), he may want to pursue love.
Vice versa...if he loves that person, he will want to build a great life...see what I mean..?
They kind of want it all, and will work hard at it
Yes, he has followed his heart when he saw some potential. No, he has not grown to love the person afterwards.
I had a conversation with him this weekend that he should not do that anymore because he has ended up hurting people as a result. He agreed and said he shouldn't have to want to change the person he's with so much, or the other way around because that means they are wrong for each other.
Yes, he has taken big risks in love, but very very rare. If you want more details, feel free to PM me.

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