Message Posts by AquaScorpio9
Posted by lisabethur8That's very kind of you to say so hahaPosted by AquaScorpio9you're very prim and proper.Posted by lisabethur8Well, we're clearly two different people interested in researching different things. Hahaha you love to take a dig at people don't you? At least your language certainly suggests so!Posted by AquaScorpio9Posted by lisabethur8Also that's a really interesting piece of information about Abraham Lincoln!Posted by AquaScorpio9Posted by lisabethur8I admit my answer was very generic and restricted to Sun Sign stereotypes. Technically you'd have to look at the entire birth chart.Posted by AquaScorpio9ya'll need to look at the moon for emotions. lol that's what every astrologer keeps saying.
All signs are capable of feeling emotions, some just choose not to show it.
I agree that Virgo, Capricorn and Aquarians are the most unlikely to show their real emotions. They do feel it but have trouble/don't like expressing it i.e. crying for most of them is seen as a sign of weakness and the last thing they want to be perceived as is vulnerable and weak. Thus they earn the reputation for being cold and out of touch with their emotions.
Also, I have a Capricorn moon but I'm very open, expressive and in touch with my emotions. I definitely don't match the typical Capricorn mooner.
that's why i like to look at Terrace House and the real life interactions of people who don't know astrology so they are NOT "biased" and they just think this way...i want to see the realness of people without their knowledge. and see how they interact. the knowledge may interfere...
your combo is really cold though lol
unless you are dominant water/fire, ......
cause Abraham Lincoln is domiannt Pisces and Sagittarius, even though he is Aqua sun/Capricorn moon and he was loved alot.
yeah it's called research.
i'm surprised you didnt research him since you are that combo or at least alot of aqua suns.... maybe you are new to astrology
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Posted by lisabethur8It takes a lot more than that to upset mePosted by AquaScorpio9huh?Posted by lisabethur8Oh dear, don't be upset. This site is meant for people to share their personal views on astrology and talk about astrological topics.Posted by AquaScorpio9Posted by lisabethur8I admit my answer was very generic and restricted to Sun Sign stereotypes. Technically you'd have to look at the entire birth chart.Posted by AquaScorpio9ya'll need to look at the moon for emotions. lol that's what every astrologer keeps saying.
All signs are capable of feeling emotions, some just choose not to show it.
I agree that Virgo, Capricorn and Aquarians are the most unlikely to show their real emotions. They do feel it but have trouble/don't like expressing it i.e. crying for most of them is seen as a sign of weakness and the last thing they want to be perceived as is vulnerable and weak. Thus they earn the reputation for being cold and out of touch with their emotions.
Also, I have a Capricorn moon but I'm very open, expressive and in touch with my emotions. I definitely don't match the typical Capricorn mooner.
that's why i like to look at Terrace House and the real life interactions of people who don't know astrology so they are NOT "biased" and they just think this way...i want to see the realness of people without their knowledge. and see how they interact. the knowledge may interfere...
your combo is really cold though lol
unless you are dominant water/fire, ......
cause Abraham Lincoln is domiannt Pisces and Sagittarius, even though he is Aqua sun/Capricorn moon and he was loved alot.
If you want real life interactions, why don't you follow your own advice and talk to people in person instead of getting upset with me here?
Seeing as you know about Moon signs and the stereotype behind my Sun-Moon combination, I imagine you can't be completely unbiased yourself so careful there. I'm sure you're familiar with the saying, "pot calling the kettle black"
i'm not upset. just having convo too and pointing out stuff.
i can have a long decent conversation about this stuff too in real life with people, but not about astrology.
but people around me don't get sensitive and upset about it. we all respect our views and are open to it.click to expand
I think you meant we all respect each other's views and yes I agree, we should!
Posted by lisabethur8Well, we're clearly two different people interested in researching different things. Hahaha you love to take a dig at people don't you? At least your language certainly suggests so!Posted by AquaScorpio9Posted by lisabethur8Also that's a really interesting piece of information about Abraham Lincoln!Posted by AquaScorpio9Posted by lisabethur8I admit my answer was very generic and restricted to Sun Sign stereotypes. Technically you'd have to look at the entire birth chart.Posted by AquaScorpio9ya'll need to look at the moon for emotions. lol that's what every astrologer keeps saying.
All signs are capable of feeling emotions, some just choose not to show it.
I agree that Virgo, Capricorn and Aquarians are the most unlikely to show their real emotions. They do feel it but have trouble/don't like expressing it i.e. crying for most of them is seen as a sign of weakness and the last thing they want to be perceived as is vulnerable and weak. Thus they earn the reputation for being cold and out of touch with their emotions.
Also, I have a Capricorn moon but I'm very open, expressive and in touch with my emotions. I definitely don't match the typical Capricorn mooner.
that's why i like to look at Terrace House and the real life interactions of people who don't know astrology so they are NOT "biased" and they just think this way...i want to see the realness of people without their knowledge. and see how they interact. the knowledge may interfere...
your combo is really cold though lol
unless you are dominant water/fire, ......
cause Abraham Lincoln is domiannt Pisces and Sagittarius, even though he is Aqua sun/Capricorn moon and he was loved alot.
yeah it's called research.
i'm surprised you didnt research him since you are that combo or at least alot of aqua suns.... maybe you are new to astrologyclick to expand
Posted by cancersaurusMy heart really aches for you, break ups are awful!Posted by AquaScorpio9Thank you for your kind words and advice. I also thought we were an excellent match from the beginning but the lack of good communication was eating away at our relationship throughout the months and now at the end of it I feel sad but also somewhat relieved.
I'm sorry to hear this, I find Cancer and Pisces such a beautiful, classic match. Your two Taurus moons would've been tricky though, lot of room for disagreement.
The break up process differs for girls and guys. Girls usually get hit with the full impact of the break up early on but then are able to bounce back. Guys go through phases of self-denial and burying their emotions (pretending they're fine with the break up) before eventually feeling the impact much later on. Now would be a good time to expand your network so that you have your support/people to talk to when you need them.
Time will heal everything. Focus on improving yourself and your life by hanging out with your friends (steer away from any self-destructive behaviour), doing activities you enjoy and living life. I don't have any personal experience with this but I've seen plenty of my friends in your position.
All the best and stay strong!
I also kind of want her to realise she misses me in a few months so we can try again, I honestly feel like we could have been great together if we could work on communication but I don't want to think like this as that would make it very hard to move on and possibly meet someone who may be a better match for me. I also don't think that would happen as she has always been very reserved about telling me how she feels so even if she ever did think she wanted me back she most likely would never, ever tell me.
As a girl who is obviously emotional I expected to be devastated and to be crying non-stop but I don't feel that way at all because the past few weeks have been incredibly draining because of her and I guess I just don't have the energy right now to go through the emotions I should be going through?
It's very confusing at the moment
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I think you already have a clear idea on what you should do, it sounds like you've done quite a bit of reflecting. You're right, thinking about the what-ifs will hold you back and make you reminiscence what you two used to have. If you want to move on, you'll have to give yourself time to let go. You can't guess what she's thinking or doing, you have to focus on you. After all, you deserve to be happy
At the moment you might be emotionally exhausted from everything you went through before the break up. Your emotions will eventually catch up to you but that's ok, it's healthy to cry and be upset. In fact, it's healing! For now, don't worry about why you're not reacting the way you thought you would. Instead, take the opportunity to connect with people who care about you and remember, you deserve to be happy
Posted by lisabethur8Also that's a really interesting piece of information about Abraham Lincoln!Posted by AquaScorpio9Posted by lisabethur8I admit my answer was very generic and restricted to Sun Sign stereotypes. Technically you'd have to look at the entire birth chart.Posted by AquaScorpio9ya'll need to look at the moon for emotions. lol that's what every astrologer keeps saying.
All signs are capable of feeling emotions, some just choose not to show it.
I agree that Virgo, Capricorn and Aquarians are the most unlikely to show their real emotions. They do feel it but have trouble/don't like expressing it i.e. crying for most of them is seen as a sign of weakness and the last thing they want to be perceived as is vulnerable and weak. Thus they earn the reputation for being cold and out of touch with their emotions.
Also, I have a Capricorn moon but I'm very open, expressive and in touch with my emotions. I definitely don't match the typical Capricorn mooner.
that's why i like to look at Terrace House and the real life interactions of people who don't know astrology so they are NOT "biased" and they just think this way...i want to see the realness of people without their knowledge. and see how they interact. the knowledge may interfere...
your combo is really cold though lol
unless you are dominant water/fire, ......
cause Abraham Lincoln is domiannt Pisces and Sagittarius, even though he is Aqua sun/Capricorn moon and he was loved alot.click to expand
Posted by lisabethur8Oh dear, don't be upset. This site is meant for people to share their personal views on astrology and talk about astrological topics.Posted by AquaScorpio9Posted by lisabethur8I admit my answer was very generic and restricted to Sun Sign stereotypes. Technically you'd have to look at the entire birth chart.Posted by AquaScorpio9ya'll need to look at the moon for emotions. lol that's what every astrologer keeps saying.
All signs are capable of feeling emotions, some just choose not to show it.
I agree that Virgo, Capricorn and Aquarians are the most unlikely to show their real emotions. They do feel it but have trouble/don't like expressing it i.e. crying for most of them is seen as a sign of weakness and the last thing they want to be perceived as is vulnerable and weak. Thus they earn the reputation for being cold and out of touch with their emotions.
Also, I have a Capricorn moon but I'm very open, expressive and in touch with my emotions. I definitely don't match the typical Capricorn mooner.
that's why i like to look at Terrace House and the real life interactions of people who don't know astrology so they are NOT "biased" and they just think this way...i want to see the realness of people without their knowledge. and see how they interact. the knowledge may interfere...
your combo is really cold though lol
unless you are dominant water/fire, ......
cause Abraham Lincoln is domiannt Pisces and Sagittarius, even though he is Aqua sun/Capricorn moon and he was loved alot.click to expand
If you want real life interactions, why don't you follow your own advice and talk to people in person instead of getting upset with me here?
Not everyone in life is going to agree with you. Seeing as you know about Moon signs and the stereotype behind my Sun-Moon combination, I imagine you can't be completely unbiased yourself so careful there. I'm sure you're familiar with the saying, "pot calling the kettle black"
Posted by lisabethur8I admit my answer was very generic and restricted to Sun Sign stereotypes. Technically you'd have to look at the entire birth chart.Posted by AquaScorpio9ya'll need to look at the moon for emotions. lol that's what every astrologer keeps saying.
All signs are capable of feeling emotions, some just choose not to show it.
I agree that Virgo, Capricorn and Aquarians are the most unlikely to show their real emotions. They do feel it but have trouble/don't like expressing it i.e. crying for most of them is seen as a sign of weakness and the last thing they want to be perceived as is vulnerable and weak. Thus they earn the reputation for being cold and out of touch with their emotions.click to expand
Also, I have a Capricorn moon but I'm very open, expressive and in touch with my emotions. I definitely don't match the typical Capricorn mooner.
I'm sorry to hear this, I find Cancer and Pisces such a beautiful, classic match. Your two Taurus moons would've been tricky though, lot of room for disagreement.
The break up process differs for girls and guys. Girls usually get hit with the full impact of the break up early on but then are able to bounce back. Guys go through phases of self-denial and burying their emotions (pretending they're fine with the break up) before eventually feeling the impact much later on. Now would be a good time to expand your network so that you have your support/people to talk to when you need them.
Time will heal everything. Focus on improving yourself and your life by hanging out with your friends (steer away from any self-destructive behaviour), doing activities you enjoy and living life. I don't have any personal experience with this but I've seen plenty of my friends in your position.
All the best and stay strong!
The break up process differs for girls and guys. Girls usually get hit with the full impact of the break up early on but then are able to bounce back. Guys go through phases of self-denial and burying their emotions (pretending they're fine with the break up) before eventually feeling the impact much later on. Now would be a good time to expand your network so that you have your support/people to talk to when you need them.
Time will heal everything. Focus on improving yourself and your life by hanging out with your friends (steer away from any self-destructive behaviour), doing activities you enjoy and living life. I don't have any personal experience with this but I've seen plenty of my friends in your position.
All the best and stay strong!
All signs are capable of feeling emotions, some just choose not to show it.
I agree that Virgo, Capricorn and Aquarians are the most unlikely to show their real emotions. They do feel it but have trouble/don't like expressing it i.e. crying for most of them is seen as a sign of weakness and the last thing they want to be perceived as is vulnerable and weak. Thus they earn the reputation for being cold and out of touch with their emotions.
I agree that Virgo, Capricorn and Aquarians are the most unlikely to show their real emotions. They do feel it but have trouble/don't like expressing it i.e. crying for most of them is seen as a sign of weakness and the last thing they want to be perceived as is vulnerable and weak. Thus they earn the reputation for being cold and out of touch with their emotions.
Cancer - beware of the silent treatment!
Fire signs generally don't hold grudges, but if you wound a Leos pride, they will hold a grudge and label you an enemy.
Librans don't like holding grudges and even if they do, you can't tell!
The Mercuries Gemini and Virgo, they don't like holding grudges but they always fail to meet their holy expectations. They fake it but can't make it.
Fire signs generally don't hold grudges, but if you wound a Leos pride, they will hold a grudge and label you an enemy.
Librans don't like holding grudges and even if they do, you can't tell!
The Mercuries Gemini and Virgo, they don't like holding grudges but they always fail to meet their holy expectations. They fake it but can't make it.
Oh man, chances are that fight you guys had has always been on his mind. Scorpios are stubborn and we hold onto the past even though its toxic. Personally, if I did someone important to me wrong in the past (and apologised wholeheartedly then), I'd still not be able to forgive myself unless I received their heartfelt forgivenss. If they don't, I can never really move on from that incident.
He's obviously aware of his actions and the impact it had on your relationship. He's taken a while to apologise probably because he wasn't ready to face the music up until now. Scorpios aren't the best at opening up about their emotions and admitting they're wrong, especially the guys.
I've had two cases like this in my life, both with Taureans haha! The first was my high school best friend who I fell out with for stupid reasons (puberty days, mood swings and hot/cold behaviour). I apologised to her repeatedly and felt the guilt all throughout my highschool life (around two years of friendship, three years of guilt or vv). I hate hurting people so much it upsets me when I unintentionally do.
Second time was first year uni. A good friend of mine had a crush on me but couldn't bring himself to ask me directly so got our friends to. I turned him down but the message was passed on to him by our friends so who knows how that would've went. He's been giving me a hard time ever since and only recently (couple of years after) did I actually bump into him did I sit down and clear the air.
My experience with Taureans is that once you reject or hurt them you can never repair the damage.
He's obviously aware of his actions and the impact it had on your relationship. He's taken a while to apologise probably because he wasn't ready to face the music up until now. Scorpios aren't the best at opening up about their emotions and admitting they're wrong, especially the guys.
I've had two cases like this in my life, both with Taureans haha! The first was my high school best friend who I fell out with for stupid reasons (puberty days, mood swings and hot/cold behaviour). I apologised to her repeatedly and felt the guilt all throughout my highschool life (around two years of friendship, three years of guilt or vv). I hate hurting people so much it upsets me when I unintentionally do.
Second time was first year uni. A good friend of mine had a crush on me but couldn't bring himself to ask me directly so got our friends to. I turned him down but the message was passed on to him by our friends so who knows how that would've went. He's been giving me a hard time ever since and only recently (couple of years after) did I actually bump into him did I sit down and clear the air.
My experience with Taureans is that once you reject or hurt them you can never repair the damage.
The above are two possibilities why he's all of a sudden cold with his communication. You've got to make a decision here. There's no point guessing what's happened to him, that's going to get you no where.
If you like him, YOU take the initiative and talk to him. No one wants to be the one who always makes the effort, regardless of signs.
If you like him, YOU take the initiative and talk to him. No one wants to be the one who always makes the effort, regardless of signs.
Both are passionate, intense people who match each other's high energy. You'll be great at motivating each other and being a terrific team. Scorpio will appreciate Aries' open nature, blunt honesty and reckless, daring spirit. Aries will appreciate Scorpio's passion and deep understanding and find that Scorpio is an amazing source of advice and emotional support.
However, you'll having two intense and opinionated people means you'll butt heads easily and fights will be fierce and terrifying. Good thing is that the Aries counterpart doesn't hold grudges and will wonder why Scorpio is still resentful towards them about something they did wrong months ago. Scorpio also needs to open up when they're unhappy because they tend to bottle up their fears and worries - which is something that pisses Aries off like nothing else.
If you're willing to put in the work, this definitely can work.
However, you'll having two intense and opinionated people means you'll butt heads easily and fights will be fierce and terrifying. Good thing is that the Aries counterpart doesn't hold grudges and will wonder why Scorpio is still resentful towards them about something they did wrong months ago. Scorpio also needs to open up when they're unhappy because they tend to bottle up their fears and worries - which is something that pisses Aries off like nothing else.
If you're willing to put in the work, this definitely can work.
Generally, Taureans are more straightforward in their thinking and actions whereas Scorpios have a more convoluted thought process and thus, our actions and words don't often represent our thoughts well enough.
Now, Scorpios can be prone to playing games (making you work hard to win him) sometimes but I think if he says he doesn't want you straight out, then he probably isn't interested. I don't know enough to put my finger down. If you're not sure or if there are other factors in the situation that might affect the situation, why not ask him and confirm where he stands? Is that what you're asking?
Now, Scorpios can be prone to playing games (making you work hard to win him) sometimes but I think if he says he doesn't want you straight out, then he probably isn't interested. I don't know enough to put my finger down. If you're not sure or if there are other factors in the situation that might affect the situation, why not ask him and confirm where he stands? Is that what you're asking?
Tests do vary but they mostly want to see if you're wife/marriage material. They see how we respond in certain situations, what you're willing to do for them, how you are like around their family and friends (and if they like you) and if we're able to do certain things to their high standard.
Sometimes they're pretty generic things that we all look for, they just hold higher standards than most. Other times, they go overboard with their testing. For instance, on his list might be "can she cook well enough for me?" and will secretly test your skills (you might wonder why he's such a lazy bastard whose always coming over to your place expecting food but he's apparently just testing you).
Taurus is in for the long haul and want to know if you're right for them. That's why they test. Whether you love it or hate, you'll have to put up with it if you like him.
Sometimes they're pretty generic things that we all look for, they just hold higher standards than most. Other times, they go overboard with their testing. For instance, on his list might be "can she cook well enough for me?" and will secretly test your skills (you might wonder why he's such a lazy bastard whose always coming over to your place expecting food but he's apparently just testing you).
Taurus is in for the long haul and want to know if you're right for them. That's why they test. Whether you love it or hate, you'll have to put up with it if you like him.
Tall, intelligent men on the slimmer end. Signwise, it's all over the shop. I'm definitely a sucker for tall guys.
Posted by Aquarian_sunshineYeah don't let him manipulate you into thinking the fault lies with you. Maybe if you took a different approach - how would he respond to you saying "I miss you"/didn't direct it so that it's serious/confrontation but more of a humourous "hey so what have you been up to lately mister? I've been missing you heaps...." Some guys panic if they feel confronted (that or it's guilt) and everything that comes out of their mouth sounds cold/ridiculous.Posted by AquaScorpio9he never has that energy for deeper conversations.n if i insist on discussing this matter,he will stay on call bt act indifferent as if im talking to myself n make me feel like its my problem that i dont trust him.
I'm sorry to hear you are having trust issues. I don't have any personal experience with Cancer men but I hope he isn't cheating! I know it's hard when you can't see him and it's easy for us ladies to jump to the conclusion: he must be cheating on me. Whatever the truth is, you'll have to confront him about it because it's obviously something that's been on your mind for a while and the sooner you get that clarity, the better. Open up about your feelings, tell him you miss him and want to have a longer conversation sometime when he has time so you can properly catch up and bring it up when he sounds like he's normal/in a good mood. Don't let his moodiness distract you from your worries, you have a right to know.click to expand
I'm sorry to hear you are having trust issues. I don't have any personal experience with Cancer men but I hope he isn't cheating! I know it's hard when you can't see him and it's easy for us ladies to jump to the conclusion: he must be cheating on me. Whatever the truth is, you'll have to confront him about it because it's obviously something that's been on your mind for a while and the sooner you get that clarity, the better. Open up about your feelings, tell him you miss him and want to have a longer conversation sometime when he has time so you can properly catch up and bring it up when he sounds like he's normal/in a good mood. Don't let his moodiness distract you from your worries, you have a right to know.
Posted by Capricorngirl1111Oh yeah, some places are strict like that - was worth a shotPosted by AquaScorpio9Thank you! We aren't allowed to date at our work LOL....so we are a secret but people can tell our chemistry and I'm sure she can tell. I heard rumors about them from many people. And I can see the rumors being true by the way she acts with him. But he denied it to me. He tells me I have no one to worry about. I feel like she's trying to either tell me about them or get info from me about me and my bf.. me and my bf both can't openly talk about our relationship so it makes it harder but we are figuring out a way to make that work
Leos make it their mission to know all about your business, they can be so relentlessly nosy that it just gets uncomfortable/inappropriate haha.
It's definitely an awkward situation having to work alongside your boyfriend and a potential past hookup. Have you told him how it makes you feel and what he can do to give you reassurance i.e. when he talks to her, he talks about you two, he displays photos of you guys in his office etc.? If only you could pack her in a box and ship her across the water! I find it strange that he denied the relationship, how did you know he was with the 44 y/o?
You're right to suspect her, I would too. If she does have an ulterior motive, you probably want to tell her as little as possible and twist the conversation onto her. "What did you guys do last weekend?" "Stayed home. You?" "Where are you planning on going next holidays?" "Not sure, haven't decided yet." Play dumb if need be, that's what I do. I love tricking people into think I'm absent minded when in fact, I just saved myself from having to answer questions for another hour. Try to distance yourself from her (and get your bf to as well) in the nicest way possible before she starts tailing you.click to expand
I believe you, she probably did have something going on. Maybe she's still not over it and wants to clarify for herself just how serious you two are (my Monopoly money's on her wanting to suss out info from you). Either way, be polite when you see her but try to stay away from her. Maybe he's denying it because he doesn't want you to worry/do anything about it and because he might a bit ashamed of it too. Have faith in your boyfriend, he's on your side if anything goes haywire with this woman. Best thing to do is to look for work elsewhere (or better yet, move her away!) or get married, but what a tricky situation!
All signs are capable of cheating but generally the ones that get mentioned a lot are: Libra, Gemini, Sagittarius, Aries, Cancer, Taurus, Scorpio?
I believe most cheaters are emotionally immature and/or unhappy in their current relationship.
Some (Lib, Gem, Sag, Aries) might cheat due to their sociable and charming nature. They enjoy attention and living through their social circles and strangers so they don't like being pinned down in a relationship (especially if they're young). If they find someone better or more interesting, they might just jump onto their boat.
Taurus/Scorpio might do it out of spite to get even with their partner? - I actually don't know why these names get thrown out there haha, maybe someone else can explain the "why" part better. I'm curious to know too
I believe most cheaters are emotionally immature and/or unhappy in their current relationship.
Some (Lib, Gem, Sag, Aries) might cheat due to their sociable and charming nature. They enjoy attention and living through their social circles and strangers so they don't like being pinned down in a relationship (especially if they're young). If they find someone better or more interesting, they might just jump onto their boat.
Taurus/Scorpio might do it out of spite to get even with their partner? - I actually don't know why these names get thrown out there haha, maybe someone else can explain the "why" part better. I'm curious to know too
Leos make it their mission to know all about your business, they can be so relentlessly nosy that it just gets uncomfortable/inappropriate haha.
It's definitely an awkward situation having to work alongside your boyfriend and a potential past hookup. Have you told him how it makes you feel and what he can do to give you reassurance i.e. when he talks to her, he talks about you two, he displays photos of you guys in his office etc.? If only you could pack her in a box and ship her across the water! I find it strange that he denied the relationship, how did you know he was with the 44 y/o?
You're right to suspect her, I would too. If she does have an ulterior motive, you probably want to tell her as little as possible and twist the conversation onto her. "What did you guys do last weekend?" "Stayed home. You?" "Where are you planning on going next holidays?" "Not sure, haven't decided yet." Play dumb if need be, that's what I do. I love tricking people into think I'm absent minded when in fact, I just saved myself from having to answer questions for another hour. Try to distance yourself from her (and get your bf to as well) in the nicest way possible before she starts tailing you.
It's definitely an awkward situation having to work alongside your boyfriend and a potential past hookup. Have you told him how it makes you feel and what he can do to give you reassurance i.e. when he talks to her, he talks about you two, he displays photos of you guys in his office etc.? If only you could pack her in a box and ship her across the water! I find it strange that he denied the relationship, how did you know he was with the 44 y/o?
You're right to suspect her, I would too. If she does have an ulterior motive, you probably want to tell her as little as possible and twist the conversation onto her. "What did you guys do last weekend?" "Stayed home. You?" "Where are you planning on going next holidays?" "Not sure, haven't decided yet." Play dumb if need be, that's what I do. I love tricking people into think I'm absent minded when in fact, I just saved myself from having to answer questions for another hour. Try to distance yourself from her (and get your bf to as well) in the nicest way possible before she starts tailing you.
Yes, I think there would be natural chemistry between you two. Or at least, it would be very easy to talk to each other - the sort of relationship where you become friends first.
Cap Moon: Virgo, Taurus, Scorpio, Pisces moons
Pisces Venus: Cancer, Scorpio venus
Not based on experience, just pure speculation
Pisces Venus: Cancer, Scorpio venus
Not based on experience, just pure speculation
Chase her if you like her and leave her alone if you're not that into her.
If you do like her, you'll have to be upfront and initiate because she won't! A Scorpio is shy/hesistant about initiation so they let you know their interest in subtle ways and sometimes are prone to playing games to test your level of interest etc. Don't try to read into her actions (she doesn't want to lead that's why she acts the way she does), it'll confuse you and by all means, don't play games back with her!
If you do like her, you'll have to be upfront and initiate because she won't! A Scorpio is shy/hesistant about initiation so they let you know their interest in subtle ways and sometimes are prone to playing games to test your level of interest etc. Don't try to read into her actions (she doesn't want to lead that's why she acts the way she does), it'll confuse you and by all means, don't play games back with her!
All Taureans will act differently depending on the situation but a Taurus never forgets and never really forgives either.
Winning a Taurus back will depend on the severity of the damage done and where he/she has progressed in life. Your best bet is talking to the Taurus only if the break up was relatively recent (over a few days old but less than a few months old) and he hasn't moved on yet. They're not made of stone, they'll hear you out for sure but might not give you the answer you want to hear. If a Taurus is in a committed relationship with the right (new) person/ someone they see as a trade-up, they won't ever look back and mess up what they have now.
Regardless of your situation, my advice would be this: why sit around waiting for someone to take you back when there are plenty of fish in the sea? Life's too short for drama and messy relationships, you owe yourself something real. In my experience, the Gemini-Taurus pairing is very difficult to say the least.
Winning a Taurus back will depend on the severity of the damage done and where he/she has progressed in life. Your best bet is talking to the Taurus only if the break up was relatively recent (over a few days old but less than a few months old) and he hasn't moved on yet. They're not made of stone, they'll hear you out for sure but might not give you the answer you want to hear. If a Taurus is in a committed relationship with the right (new) person/ someone they see as a trade-up, they won't ever look back and mess up what they have now.
Regardless of your situation, my advice would be this: why sit around waiting for someone to take you back when there are plenty of fish in the sea? Life's too short for drama and messy relationships, you owe yourself something real. In my experience, the Gemini-Taurus pairing is very difficult to say the least.
Aww, I think two Cancers togther would be adorable! Don't stop communicating with each other before February. If texting is getting impersonal, why not ask to add her on a social media platform i.e. Facebook (you can learn more about what she's like) or Skype? That way you guys can still talk but it's taken to a whole new level cause you can video call each other.
I'm sorry to hear that you were with such a nightmare of a guy. Don't let him take away your self-esteem, he doesn't deserve someone as kind and patient as you. He's got deep-rooted issues to treat you in such a way and you should not have to put up with someone who keeps putting you down. To find love you will have o learn how to trust and open up eventually but remember: not every man or Gemini is like him (he's just one really rotten apple and you were just unlucky to have stumbled across it, I mean him haha). Find someone who will value how beautiful and special you are.
Posted by CancerGirlLondonHello @CancerGirlLondon! Oh, you flatter mePosted by AquaScorpio9Hello again AquaScorpio9Posted by CancerGirlLondonYou are most welcome, lovely!
Hello AquaScorpio9.
It was so lovely of you to write such a considered reply. I feel very low right now and your kindness has lifted me a little.
Yeah, my Cap knew about the job situ. And he could see I was, and am, doing everything possible to drag myself out of it.
But he didn't know how badly I have been struggling financially. I gave him a hint but didn't do the full reveal. And I never said I was depressed in a clinical sense. Just said I was downhearted or similar. I definitely played it all down.
Thing is....he is financially in a really great place. He is excellent with money and practical and unemotional and he is super close to his family etc so I felt embarrassed being the open one...the one with her heart on her sleeve, the one who is bad with money, the one from the dysfunctional family.
A couple of months in I told him about some very serious issues from my past and he listened and was calm and gave me a hug but he had NOTHING to say about it all. No reaction. No discussion. I guess it made me less likely to open up.
I've managed to stop myself from contacting him today. So that's eight days of nc now.
I couldn't take it if he said he didn't want to give this another go or that he has started dating someone new so I feel it's better to be crablike and hide away in my shell. Better than feeling even more potential pain.
Star sign or no start sign, in my experience wild horses can't stop a man who is in love. Especially if he feels he is losing the best woman in his life. So I'm secretly hoping he is the one to reach out. Or that 'what's meant for you won't pass you by'.
Our last messages were me saying 'I would never have a bad word to say about him' and him saying he 'hoped I meant it when I said we can be friends one day because I'm one of his favourite people now'.
I feel stuck.
There's no need to feel ashamed and tuck away your problems because of the differences between your life and his. Remember, he chose you for a reason. He sees something special in you, something that is greater than anything superficial like money and status etc. Capricorns are darn fussy when it comes to even who they want to date so he must hold you to a high regard. Have faith in yourself!
It seems that from the last time you opened up to him, he did really want to help you he just didn't know the right words to say. His hug demonstrated the words he wanted to express. I think he was aware of the pain and knew it wasn't the place for his constructive advice, it was a situation that warranted comfort and support. And Cappies are hilariously petrified of saying words of comfort and love! They're like cats near water. Most men (regardless of signs) can also be dense when it comes to reading our hints and signals. You'll be amazed at how they take what we say at face value so later when it backfires and you're surprised he didn't get your cue or body language, they would just look confused and say "but I'm just repeating what you said!"
Taking a bit of a timeout isn't all bad but if you want him back, you should probably reach out to him sometime soon when you feel ready. Take baby steps if you need to. I know you're hoping he will initiate but think of it from his perspective. He cares about, knows you are experiencing hardships and that for some reason, you have pushed him away. How does he reach out to you then when he doesn't know the full story? You two are both people who are afraid of being hurt and can build your walls up in defense. But the beautiful thing is, there is no animosity or outside drama, it's just the two of you and the ball's in your court.
It's easy to do what makes you feel safe but in order to be happy or at least, find clarity, you'll have to be brave once again and reach out to him. I daresay the same thoughts are going through his mind and he's hoping to hear from you. But remember, if you do start over with him to be honest and upfront this time around. Give him a chance to be there for you. If he loves you, he will accept you for who you are. Isn't it better to give him another chance than to pass him by and wonder how it might've been? Good luck!
I really haven't got the hang of how to reply to people on this thing without quoting their entire post first?!
Thank you again for your wisdom. Really I mean that. You come across as wise and level headed and warm.
I haven't reached out to him. I'm paralysed with fear for some reason. I think I have it engraved in my head that the 'no contact rule' is the best way to deal with anyone after a break-up, even if you want them back. Sometimes especially if you want them back. Absence makes the heart grow fonder and all that.
But you and that Goat poster above are right. If I don't try I won't ever know. So I just feel absolutely torn.
I am obsessively thinking about him dating other people and it hurts so badly. But maybe that's just my ego talking.
I feel dumb for dumping such a lovely guy. But something made me do that. Well..a series of things did. Yes there was the depression and money issues etc. But also there were small incompatibilities of life style . I have a dog and am animal crazy and he is the total opposite. I'm Bohemian and love old things and the odd binge drink while he is super conservative and likes modern new things. I won't bore you with the entire list but what I'm saying is that I don't think anyone pushes someone away for no reason especially if that person is absolutely lovely like this guy. So I'm hoping that my guy instinct has forced me into action here . And that one day I will look back and see that it was all for the best.
I just would love to fall in love. Mutual, wonderful, compatible love. But as the years roll on I just don't think it will ever happen for me.
I'm told I'm attractive. I was scouted by model agents as a teen. I have low self esteem but I hide it well. I'm warm and funny, generous and clever. I have a lot to offer. But I'm 38 and it hasn't happened and I'm fast losing hope.click to expand
I'm still learning as well but I think if you quote me or type in @(insert username), I'll get a notification from you? Of course you have your reasons for making the decision to separate from him. You are going through a very difficult time and having a strong support must be so important to you as well as time away to reflect and clear the mind. I truly believe that you should never let age restrict you from pursusing your dreams. I'm sure if you've set your heart on finding love, you will. You have a beautiful personality too and you should be proud of your accomplishments and amazing qualities! The one piece of love advice I stand behind 100% and tell all who ask is that: love comes when you least expect it.
But I have to ask, are you thinking of letting him go for good? I agree after you break up with someone you would avoid contacting them but that's only if you are absolutely sure you don't want them back. By engaging in the 'no contact rule,' you are essentially closing the door on him and the possibility of a re-connection. This no communcation also creates room for our imagination to go on overdrive and we always think of the worst! But don't let it get to you and ask yourself, "would he really do that?" and regardless of the verdict, say to yourself "I'm not going to let that affect me. It's just in my head." Please don't let your own fears and imagination hurt you. I know this is only my opinion and you can absolutely say "I don't agree!" but it takes two to tango and I think when you're both silent but you have second thoughts about breaking it off with him (and he's not apparently seeing someone else), there's a huge risk of an opportunity passing.
In the end, only you can make that decision. I've just given you my opinion on two paths you can take. One, is to be optimistic in finding love and two, is to find the courage to reach out to Mr. Cappie.
You mentioned something about small incompatibilities and this is something I have real life experience in! My partner's also lukewarm about dogs/animals whereas I love dogs and I am also animal crazy. I decided it would be weird if he talked/pampered dogs the way I did haha so long as he's not against having dogs in the future, I can roll with that
My partner and I also study entirely different courses at uni (we're at opposite spectrums) and our interests couldn't be more different (it's cliche almost) but I love that I can learn and appreciate what he's into and show him what I'm passionate about. Not always easy but I believe small incompatibilities can be overcome Posted by CancerGirlLondonYou are most welcome, lovely!
Hello AquaScorpio9.
It was so lovely of you to write such a considered reply. I feel very low right now and your kindness has lifted me a little.
Yeah, my Cap knew about the job situ. And he could see I was, and am, doing everything possible to drag myself out of it.
But he didn't know how badly I have been struggling financially. I gave him a hint but didn't do the full reveal. And I never said I was depressed in a clinical sense. Just said I was downhearted or similar. I definitely played it all down.
Thing is....he is financially in a really great place. He is excellent with money and practical and unemotional and he is super close to his family etc so I felt embarrassed being the open one...the one with her heart on her sleeve, the one who is bad with money, the one from the dysfunctional family.
A couple of months in I told him about some very serious issues from my past and he listened and was calm and gave me a hug but he had NOTHING to say about it all. No reaction. No discussion. I guess it made me less likely to open up.
I've managed to stop myself from contacting him today. So that's eight days of nc now.
I couldn't take it if he said he didn't want to give this another go or that he has started dating someone new so I feel it's better to be crablike and hide away in my shell. Better than feeling even more potential pain.
Star sign or no start sign, in my experience wild horses can't stop a man who is in love. Especially if he feels he is losing the best woman in his life. So I'm secretly hoping he is the one to reach out. Or that 'what's meant for you won't pass you by'.
Our last messages were me saying 'I would never have a bad word to say about him' and him saying he 'hoped I meant it when I said we can be friends one day because I'm one of his favourite people now'.
I feel stuck.
There's no need to feel ashamed and tuck away your problems because of the differences between your life and his. Remember, he chose you for a reason. He sees something special in you, something that is greater than anything superficial like money and status etc. Capricorns are darn fussy when it comes to even who they want to date so he must hold you to a high regard. Have faith in yourself!
It seems that from the last time you opened up to him, he did really want to help you he just didn't know the right words to say. His hug demonstrated the words he wanted to express. I think he was aware of the pain and knew it wasn't the place for his constructive advice, it was a situation that warranted comfort and support. And Cappies are hilariously petrified of saying words of comfort and love! They're like cats near water. Most men (regardless of signs) can also be dense when it comes to reading our hints and signals. You'll be amazed at how they take what we say at face value so later when it backfires and you're surprised he didn't get your cue or body language, they would just look confused and say "but I'm just repeating what you said!"
Taking a bit of a timeout isn't all bad but if you want him back, you should probably reach out to him sometime soon when you feel ready. Take baby steps if you need to. I know you're hoping he will initiate but think of it from his perspective. He cares about, knows you are experiencing hardships and that for some reason, you have pushed him away. How does he reach out to you then when he doesn't know the full story? You two are both people who are afraid of being hurt and can build your walls up in defense. But the beautiful thing is, there is no animosity or outside drama, it's just the two of you and the ball's in your court.
It's easy to do what makes you feel safe but in order to be happy or at least, find clarity, you'll have to be brave once again and reach out to him. I daresay the same thoughts are going through his mind and he's hoping to hear from you. But remember, if you do start over with him to be honest and upfront this time around. Give him a chance to be there for you. If he loves you, he will accept you for who you are. Isn't it better to give him another chance than to pass him by and wonder how it might've been? Good luck!
Posted by wildflowerThanks for filling me in @wildflower. I think I've got a clearer picture now. My partner's a Taurus too btwPosted by AquaScorpio9Thank youPosted by wildflowerI'm not getting enough context here for me to lend my voice in.
I feel like I'm getting mixed signals from the universe on how to proceed with my taurus.
My heart & mind are positively forward and honestly, my hopes are high. I love him. We've been broken up but slowly and surely reconciling. Slowly and surely we talk more and I can feel his love for me, and just being responsive and communicating is great.
However, as Scorpio, I am constantly looking for signs and I'm not sure if I keep getting signs to continue or to stop. It plagues my mind a little bit. But dealing w a Taurus is so different, he operates differently I am learning, so getting back together makes me feel like I am doing more than I should. My experience has always been that the guy pursues the woman and honestly, if an ex and I broke up they'd chase and beg me. Taurus is not like that. He is warming up it seems, keeps me close but not too close, in person he is magical but when we are apart, conversation are very regular lol I guess I shouldn't complain.. I'm just trying to understand him. I have surrendered to him. I love him, I can't even explain the attraction on a cellular level.
This creates hesitation for me... I would like reassurance from him to know what page we are on. Or if I should just let go... but I don't think I should let go bc I see so much progress. I also require constant reassurance so I'm trying to avoid being clingy/needy, it's just a security thing. I'm scared to be a nuisance. Annoying.
Idk if it's a Scorpio thing but I do not know how to be forward with my feelings, they overwhelm me so I assume they overwhelm you, so I hide my feelings and mask them and instead I push ppl away bc they see I am too aloof, nonchalant and uninterested.
What advice can you give me??? How can I differentiate getting back w a bull vs other signs? What are clear signs that he might be interested in us again? Threads here have me in fear of ending up in his harem. Also what can I do or continue doing to keep progressing in a positive way...?
I wish I could read his mind honestly.
He is a Taurus sun, cap moon, Aries Venus
How have you two been interacting post break up (via social media, text messaging, in person), how frequently and when did you first come back to speaking terms post break up? Have you two met in person since? Are you two in the same city? What was the reason (you don't have to get into specifics if you're not comfortable) you broke up in the first place?
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Well we broke up because he was struggling financially and he said he wasn't making me happy, that someone else would be better for me and he needed to focus on making money and his passion. I did not understand this but our break up was so sweet and we both cried and held hands, I didn't know what to do, to accept it or not? bc why make someone who doesn't want to be with you (clearly by breaking up with me) stay?
I do not break up with someone unless I see no future between us.
Our interaction seems to be consistent, via text mostly. Sometimes social media. since we broke up, we would still talk a few times a week. I noticed that the longest he would go without reaching out is 2 weeks, max 3. Just to say hi or check in or whatever but he was also very vague and short. We would still see each other, also every 2 weeks but it was in social settings. I did try the NC thing for 30 days and when we started talking again, things changed a bit.. more responsive, more communicative, etc.
We did get together a couple of times alone afterwards-
1st time: he was sick and I took care of him, he tried to talk about the break up but I didn't want to really go there as it just brought back a lot of negative feelings and honestly I was scared he would tell me he still didn't want to be with me. So we avoided it and had a wonderful night.
Another time: we had been talking for a week daily, and I wanted to see him, talk. But he retreated and honestly, I got fed up so I sent him a long msg telling him that I get it, he doesn't want to be with me and I wrote him a note wishing him well, that our chemistry and love was too real for me but i understood and was letting go. So then he tells me he felt the same for me and he was just going through a really hard time (depressed, financially struggling, alone, missed his family) I went over and I told him I was there for him, we talked but not too much about us, he did say he just couldn't be in a relationship.
So I created a little bit of distance after that, to let him sort himself out.This might be TMI but we always had fantastic amazing sex but that night, I could feel his pain, his sorrow, it made me deeply sad, I cried when I got home. I noticed a lot of alcohol around his house and beer bottles in his shower, I got very worried. So I felt he did need time for himself. I did tell him I didn't want to be strangers and we could be friends. Idk how he felt about that since he didn't say anything just accepted it and kissed me, said thank you for coming over.
Since then, he came over last week and things have done a full shift. What happened was he made me so upset/hurt one day that I finally burst & went off on him. I told him that I was really hurt by him, I was loyal and supportive and trying so hard for us and he was treating me like a stranger in front of my friends (long story but it was humiliating) /not replying/wouldn't come over for dinner (lol) that he was not loyal. (I felt as if he was stringing me along and I was fed up) He started saying sorry, that he didn't realize I felt that way and he had been so busy but he did want to see me. We started talking a lot more, He left for a trip and the day after he came back, brought me a gift and came to see me......
it was wonderful and here I am.click to expand
It's clear that the two of you care about each other very much even post a very reluctant break up. I'm sad to admit but he sounds very broken. But unlike other break up stories I see now and then, he is a responsible, decent man. He made a difficult choicing knowing that he was struggling immensely and believed if a man cannot even support himself financially and get back on his feet, how can he possibly look after the people he loves? As much as he loves a partner to take care of him, he's guilt-ridden by his own situation.
I do believe there's a good chance you two will rekindle your relationship after he has found financial stability/sort himself out. You two have been talking on friendly terms regularly - that's an excellent sign! I think it's very apparent that he still harbours romantic feelings for you and has demonstrated them to you. Actions speak louder than words and there are many examples of where he has (gifts, thinking of you, putting your feelings and needs first by obliging, keeping the lines of communication open and he even told you he wanted to see you). You absolutely shouldn't doubt yourself, from what I've read, this man cares about you so much! He wouldn't do anything to hurt you or play games with you. You've found yourself a gem of a man, guess that means you're also quite a special lady! Be patient with him and trust that he means well. I know us Scorpio ladies are prone to overthinking and conjuring up some of the worst scenarios in our head "to prevent the fall." It's easy for us to believe in our own fantasies (because we've got such a scarily good imagination) but when it does happen, ask yourself "will this really happen in reality? Is he that kind of guy? Has he ever done anything to make me doubt his sincerity etc.?" Don't let your doubts cloud what's right in front of you! There's nothing wrong with staying alert but sometimes, you have to trust.
All the best!
Hi and welcome
I'm so sorry to hear about your break up. You've been coping with such a difficult situation, I can't imagine the amount of emotional stress you must be under! Was he aware of your situation or how you felt about it at all? You've put on a brave face for him but the thing is, that mask of bravery isn't meant to be a permanent solution.Telling the truth helps. Even if he hasn't uttered the word "love" yet, he still cares about you and would definitely respond differently if he was more aware (he probably picked up that you were hiding something, he just didn't want to mention it). Were you afraid of what he would think of you if you told him that you were having financial difficulties and was under a lot of stess because of it?
I understand that you would've wanted to be a bit guarded when you were hesitant about his feelings. Unfortunately yes, Capricorns keep most of their cloud nine, euphoric feelings inside and it takes them a looooong time before they start to really express their love (they'll be extremely low key in the meantime). They are incredibly guarded, excellent judges of character, terrified of being hurt/rejected and therefore, are reluctant to make risky moves.
So what can you do? I would keep in touch with him if I were you. Send him friendly messages first - like what you got up to today, ask him how he's doing etc. and when you guys are talking regularly/ you have a good feeling about it (could even be how fast he responds. Ie. if it takes him days to get back to you for no particular reason, hold fire) then you can start to say things like "I miss you" or "do you want to catch up sometime?"
I'm so sorry to hear about your break up. You've been coping with such a difficult situation, I can't imagine the amount of emotional stress you must be under! Was he aware of your situation or how you felt about it at all? You've put on a brave face for him but the thing is, that mask of bravery isn't meant to be a permanent solution.Telling the truth helps. Even if he hasn't uttered the word "love" yet, he still cares about you and would definitely respond differently if he was more aware (he probably picked up that you were hiding something, he just didn't want to mention it). Were you afraid of what he would think of you if you told him that you were having financial difficulties and was under a lot of stess because of it?
I understand that you would've wanted to be a bit guarded when you were hesitant about his feelings. Unfortunately yes, Capricorns keep most of their cloud nine, euphoric feelings inside and it takes them a looooong time before they start to really express their love (they'll be extremely low key in the meantime). They are incredibly guarded, excellent judges of character, terrified of being hurt/rejected and therefore, are reluctant to make risky moves.
So what can you do? I would keep in touch with him if I were you. Send him friendly messages first - like what you got up to today, ask him how he's doing etc. and when you guys are talking regularly/ you have a good feeling about it (could even be how fast he responds. Ie. if it takes him days to get back to you for no particular reason, hold fire) then you can start to say things like "I miss you" or "do you want to catch up sometime?"
Posted by wildflowerI'm not getting enough context here for me to lend my voice in.
I feel like I'm getting mixed signals from the universe on how to proceed with my taurus.
My heart & mind are positively forward and honestly, my hopes are high. I love him. We've been broken up but slowly and surely reconciling. Slowly and surely we talk more and I can feel his love for me, and just being responsive and communicating is great.
However, as Scorpio, I am constantly looking for signs and I'm not sure if I keep getting signs to continue or to stop. It plagues my mind a little bit. But dealing w a Taurus is so different, he operates differently I am learning, so getting back together makes me feel like I am doing more than I should. My experience has always been that the guy pursues the woman and honestly, if an ex and I broke up they'd chase and beg me. Taurus is not like that. He is warming up it seems, keeps me close but not too close, in person he is magical but when we are apart, conversation are very regular lol I guess I shouldn't complain.. I'm just trying to understand him. I have surrendered to him. I love him, I can't even explain the attraction on a cellular level.
This creates hesitation for me... I would like reassurance from him to know what page we are on. Or if I should just let go... but I don't think I should let go bc I see so much progress. I also require constant reassurance so I'm trying to avoid being clingy/needy, it's just a security thing. I'm scared to be a nuisance. Annoying.
Idk if it's a Scorpio thing but I do not know how to be forward with my feelings, they overwhelm me so I assume they overwhelm you, so I hide my feelings and mask them and instead I push ppl away bc they see I am too aloof, nonchalant and uninterested.
What advice can you give me??? How can I differentiate getting back w a bull vs other signs? What are clear signs that he might be interested in us again? Threads here have me in fear of ending up in his harem. Also what can I do or continue doing to keep progressing in a positive way...?
I wish I could read his mind honestly.
He is a Taurus sun, cap moon, Aries Venus
How have you two been interacting post break up (via social media, text messaging, in person), how frequently and when did you first come back to speaking terms post break up? Have you two met in person since? Are you two in the same city? What was the reason (you don't have to get into specifics if you're not comfortable) you broke up in the first place?
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Posted by CaramelizedCoffeeThere's nothing to argue. This is an entirely subjective matter.Posted by AquaScorpio9No. The reason why aquas and Leo's are great together are they're both extremely self centered selfish signsPosted by CaramelizedCoffeeI have no intention of throwing anyone under the bus. There is nothing wrong with someone being emotional, sensitive or thinking with their heart, I find it quite endearing. As for the brooding and silent treatment, how that is an offence to anyone is just beyond me.Posted by AquaScorpio9Lol at you throwing cancer moon under the bus
In your case, the Aquarius's moon sign will have a stronger influence than her sun as Cancer's ruling planet is the moon. This means she's very emotional, sensitive and thinks with her heart instead of her head. Cancers are brooders and it's normal for them to give you the silent treatment after you've hurt/broken up with them. It will take them a long time to process the emotions and the reality of a break up and during that time, they're not keen on talking it out. This is because it's too hard for them to put their feelings into words. She's probably having a tougher time than you can imagine.
With the Aquarius-Libra case, Aquarius takes the reins and with an Air-Air combo, they really do "go with the wind." So it's actually a different attitude altogether. It's not uncommon for them to be done with a relationship and move on without acknowleding you or giving the time for closure.
Everyone reacts differently to a situation like yours so it could be any of the reasons you've given. It depends on so many factors such as the reason for breaking up, how serious the relationship was, who broke up with whom etc. This is just what I think.
We all know aquas behave like this cold as fuck and weak
Aquarians aren't cold internally, some give off a cold vibe because they don't necessarily enjoy letting their emotions out - it's considered messy.
Both Aquarians and Cancers are very caring by nature, they just show it in very different ways
You can't debate this fact with me
I don't find aquas caring. I find them calculatingclick to expand
Posted by CaramelizedCoffeeI have no intention of throwing anyone under the bus. There is nothing wrong with someone being emotional, sensitive or thinking with their heart, I find it quite endearing. As for the brooding and silent treatment, how that is an offence to anyone is just beyond me.Posted by AquaScorpio9Lol at you throwing cancer moon under the bus
In your case, the Aquarius's moon sign will have a stronger influence than her sun as Cancer's ruling planet is the moon. This means she's very emotional, sensitive and thinks with her heart instead of her head. Cancers are brooders and it's normal for them to give you the silent treatment after you've hurt/broken up with them. It will take them a long time to process the emotions and the reality of a break up and during that time, they're not keen on talking it out. This is because it's too hard for them to put their feelings into words. She's probably having a tougher time than you can imagine.
With the Aquarius-Libra case, Aquarius takes the reins and with an Air-Air combo, they really do "go with the wind." So it's actually a different attitude altogether. It's not uncommon for them to be done with a relationship and move on without acknowleding you or giving the time for closure.
Everyone reacts differently to a situation like yours so it could be any of the reasons you've given. It depends on so many factors such as the reason for breaking up, how serious the relationship was, who broke up with whom etc. This is just what I think.
We all know aquas behave like this cold as fuck and weakclick to expand
Aquarians aren't cold internally, some give off a cold vibe because they don't necessarily enjoy letting their emotions out - it's considered messy.
Both Aquarians and Cancers are very caring by nature, they just show it in very different ways
Posted by AerialViewHaha I sure do! Cheers xxPosted by AquaScorpio9now do you get notifications from me?Posted by AerialViewDonePosted by AquaScorpio9change your notification settingsPosted by MrR78Oh sorry, I'm new to dxpnet! I've no idea how to check if someone's replied back, luckily I checked back on my own
@Aquascorpio9 - My sun sign is Leo and I have a Libra moon.
Its quite a complicated story but the bottom line is that we have an age difference and her parents disapproved hence why we broke up. They thought I was too old for her. Our relationship was great and she admits that too. She says I am amazing etc and she was saying it a lot recently.
After we split she went back to her ex, and his parents refused her. It turns out that when she went home to speak about him, her parents said no again. She admitted realising she is too reliant on her parents opinion.
Now she is with someone else and they seem to be having difficulties and she reached out to me. What annoyed me was the fact that she hardly made and effort as it is and when she needed a shoulder to cry on I was the one. I felt emotionally used and sent her an email asking her why she finds it hard to speak to me about how we broke up, how I felt she disrespected and me and if she has any emotional issues that are unresolved and we can talk about it and clear the air. We work together so it would make things easier.
She ignored it as well as all the attempts I have made to communicate in the past. I had moved on too but when she brought up her issues, it brought back emotions for me and I did ask her to reconcile. She said I gave her lots to think about and she wanted to talk again but she didn't. She just sent me an email saying "lets be friends."
I have an expectation in friendships too, they are a 2 way street where respect is given. I feel she cant give me that, that's what annoyed me and that's why I said we cant be friends.
I have since broken up with my cancer girl because I don't feel its right to be with someone when I still have unresolved feelings for someone else. I think she is also in the same situation but is trying to move on to forget me. I fail to understand why after a year it is so hard for her to open up to me, considering she is now seeing someone else. If the feelings have gone, it should be easy to speak about unless I am wrong.
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Posted by MrR78Aw thank you kindly!
@Aquascorpio9 - Thank you for your kind words. And I am very impressed at what you wrote.
Yes it was very difficult with the parents being involved. And after speaking to my ex recently she said she has realised just how much influence her parents have on her. Firstly they didn't accept me, secondly the didn't accept her ex and now the guy she is seeing is a family introduction. So I am assuming he ticks their boxes. The problem with that is that people in general need to live for themselves, and she will realise this later in life. Its funny because they are having complications very early in the relationship and when I asked her if her problem was resolved she said it was "unresolvable". Anyways that her problem to deal with. Astrologically speaking he is a Taurus and they are not suited at all. But that's up to them. Two things will happen, either she will get engaged to him for comfort and security reasons or when the times to get engaged she may realise her freedom is going and she may reflect on things. Either way its not my problem anymore, but something tells me based on her behaviour she definitely has feelings for me.
I have a friend at work who sits next to her and he is going through some marital issues. I had a chat with him this morning and told him that he may not get his answers and to hope for the best and prepare for the worst and I learnt this from experience. He mentioned it to her and she began to panic and get defensive asking him if I told him the name of the girl who hasn't given me closure. Then she sat there in a mood all day. I fail to understand how people can move onto other people and not resolve their emotional issues from past relationships. Clearly she is still affected by me and if she was happy in her relationship then this should not be case.
I totally agree she was very dependent on me. My ex has no direction in life, I live my life my way. I meditate, train martial arts, and teach as well. I am a focussed driven person and I am currently helping a mate prepare for his first fight and we are doing this for charity. These are the traits she admires in me. Anyways getting back to the subject, the dynamic that was created for her made her feels safe, I could read her like a book, I knew what was wrong and was able to fix the issue without her saying. I appreciate that once safety goes people feel isolated and totally agree with your analogy. She did come to me with problems in the past and they were solved.
As for reaching out to her, yes I did on many occasions when I shouldn't have. I have told that girl her happiness means the world to me and if she is happy with her ex then I am happy, I have told that girl that I hold no grudges, we are good. I even said to her to have a talk so we can set some boundaries and I would cause her any issues. To every attempt I received no response. She completely blanked them all. I don't think her romantic feelings have ceased, I think that maybe they are so strong that emotionally she cant deal with them. I am shocked a year later she has made no progress. She wanted to be friends because I offer her lots of benefits, she claims she still trusts me hence she told me her problem. She is emotionally immature and has a lot growing up to do. Either way I know she knows what she has lost. Time for me to move on and find someone who is whole and deserves me and both of us can make an amazing life together.
Some people seem to believe that by falling for someone else, their own unresolved feelings from their past relatiomship will just magically disappear on their own. Unfortunately, that only gets you halfway - the other half is confronting your fears and being honest to yourself. Undigested past feelings bring so much negativity and pain into any new relationship and it not only hurts yourself but also your partner (if they genuinely care for you that is).
So I was right to assume she's rather dependent - that speaks a lot about her personality and emotional maturity but I think she definitely has the capability to change, it'll be a matter of time. Yes, what attracted her to you was your confidence and drive, she seeks it in a partner because she is aware that that is what she lacks. She basked in the warmth of your Sun (how Leo I know!) and enjoyed having someone to do the better job of looking after her wellbeing (the thinkers, worriers and doers in a relationship always have it tough - the ones that follow direction gets to take a back seat and relax).
I know you've reached out to her because she is someone who you once valued and cared for very much. But you're right, it is time to move on! Good luck!
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@Aquascorpio9 - My sun sign is Leo and I have a Libra moon.
Its quite a complicated story but the bottom line is that we have an age difference and her parents disapproved hence why we broke up. They thought I was too old for her. Our relationship was great and she admits that too. She says I am amazing etc and she was saying it a lot recently.
After we split she went back to her ex, and his parents refused her. It turns out that when she went home to speak about him, her parents said no again. She admitted realising she is too reliant on her parents opinion.
Now she is with someone else and they seem to be having difficulties and she reached out to me. What annoyed me was the fact that she hardly made and effort as it is and when she needed a shoulder to cry on I was the one. I felt emotionally used and sent her an email asking her why she finds it hard to speak to me about how we broke up, how I felt she disrespected and me and if she has any emotional issues that are unresolved and we can talk about it and clear the air. We work together so it would make things easier.
She ignored it as well as all the attempts I have made to communicate in the past. I had moved on too but when she brought up her issues, it brought back emotions for me and I did ask her to reconcile. She said I gave her lots to think about and she wanted to talk again but she didn't. She just sent me an email saying "lets be friends."
I have an expectation in friendships too, they are a 2 way street where respect is given. I feel she cant give me that, that's what annoyed me and that's why I said we cant be friends.
I have since broken up with my cancer girl because I don't feel its right to be with someone when I still have unresolved feelings for someone else. I think she is also in the same situation but is trying to move on to forget me. I fail to understand why after a year it is so hard for her to open up to me, considering she is now seeing someone else. If the feelings have gone, it should be easy to speak about unless I am wrong.
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I imagine there are many hundreds of thousands (or millions) of people who have a moon sign identical to your sun sign.
The ones that I've met I have gotten along and found common ground with but that said, I've only met a tiny percentage of my above estimate.
The ones that I've met I have gotten along and found common ground with but that said, I've only met a tiny percentage of my above estimate.
I absolutely admire your kindness and strength! It's not an easy thing to not only forgive but offer help to your man after he's gone and done some not so pleasant things. Glad there are still good people in the world Of course I'll help!
Sounds like he is going through a lot. You see the external strength of your Cancer but often they do this because internally, they feel quite the opposite (emotional instability, insecurities). Like Capricorns, they tend to give the cold shoulder or shut people out when they are going through some heavy stuff or if they've experienced emotional pain. There's an article I found which I'll link you but one lady observes that Cancers seem to struggle to adapt to today's society due to their inherent traits (such as societal views on insecurities and emotions as perceived weaknesses - completely misguided views in my opinion) and this may cause them numerous problems down the track such as a propensity for depression, escapist activities (illicit drugs etc.), overeating/overindulgence,
For your interest: https://www.thoughtco.com/cancer-zodiac-and-depression-4056250
Cancers need support and love above all else. He turns to his family and loved ones in dark times even if it is difficult for him. You've done an exceptional job telling him you want to help him through this. Keep trying to contact him, let him know that you're there and you want to help (ask him how his day was, is anything weighing him down, does he want to talk about it?). I have faith that he can definitely come around and recover from this. If he's weighed down by the guilt of his past actions for instance, let him know clearly that you've forgiven him and he should forgive himself. If not, might want to suss out what's keeping him like this. Of course don't bombard him with 500 messages a day either, he'll be overwhelmed!
Is he living with his family or can he reach them easily? I think they should really step in here and give him the support and help he needs. He can't just rely on you, this is too mammoth a task when you are so far away!
All the best.
Of course I'll help! Sounds like he is going through a lot. You see the external strength of your Cancer but often they do this because internally, they feel quite the opposite (emotional instability, insecurities). Like Capricorns, they tend to give the cold shoulder or shut people out when they are going through some heavy stuff or if they've experienced emotional pain. There's an article I found which I'll link you but one lady observes that Cancers seem to struggle to adapt to today's society due to their inherent traits (such as societal views on insecurities and emotions as perceived weaknesses - completely misguided views in my opinion) and this may cause them numerous problems down the track such as a propensity for depression, escapist activities (illicit drugs etc.), overeating/overindulgence,
For your interest: https://www.thoughtco.com/cancer-zodiac-and-depression-4056250
Cancers need support and love above all else. He turns to his family and loved ones in dark times even if it is difficult for him. You've done an exceptional job telling him you want to help him through this. Keep trying to contact him, let him know that you're there and you want to help (ask him how his day was, is anything weighing him down, does he want to talk about it?). I have faith that he can definitely come around and recover from this. If he's weighed down by the guilt of his past actions for instance, let him know clearly that you've forgiven him and he should forgive himself. If not, might want to suss out what's keeping him like this. Of course don't bombard him with 500 messages a day either, he'll be overwhelmed!
Is he living with his family or can he reach them easily? I think they should really step in here and give him the support and help he needs. He can't just rely on you, this is too mammoth a task when you are so far away!
All the best.
Ideally, we would love our men to take some initiative from time to time. I'm an advocate for taking some initiative of my own rather than playing the waiting game (especially when you're already dating him). If you want to talk to him, why not send him a "thinking of you" message asking him what he's done today, telling him how your day was, asking him if he's up for a date with you this week etc. You'll have to lead him out of his shell!