Message Posts by Cancer
I just do not understand why I need to be contacted ... if he has no intention of
communicating...I take one step foward and ten backwards wherever he is concerned...
communicating...I take one step foward and ten backwards wherever he is concerned...
There are thrills, excitment, and love....
But once you have been torn to shreds and sewn back together too many times
there is just too much damage done for repair.
I think that I can actually say and mean it, I am completely turned off by
my recent incident with my ex libra ... I am not angry, just confused and mentally exhausted by his behavior and I am so ready to change this pattern.
I welcome all advice that anyone thinks would help. This my question should I put on a face that I am happy or that I am upset. Why do I need to do anything? because I despertly want closure from this nighmare I am in. He won't let me do that.
But once you have been torn to shreds and sewn back together too many times
there is just too much damage done for repair.
I think that I can actually say and mean it, I am completely turned off by
my recent incident with my ex libra ... I am not angry, just confused and mentally exhausted by his behavior and I am so ready to change this pattern.
I welcome all advice that anyone thinks would help. This my question should I put on a face that I am happy or that I am upset. Why do I need to do anything? because I despertly want closure from this nighmare I am in. He won't let me do that.
hey there...
I said doing good hope you are too , answered his question and that was it. I asked how he was... and what was up?
Then... nothing
Saw him online and not even a hello, ran into him at work "ice man" not exagerating...
saw him online on that day, and asked him what his problem was, I wanted to know.... I am so disgusted with myself!!!! not kidding
His reply "I dont know what your talking about, I will get in touch with you soon""i've been so busy, and I've had sooooooo much to do"
I just want to go back to a few weeks ago when I had actually found myself in a good place. This whole thing started because I had to respond to his email, an email which I still do not understand why was sent since he had no intention of remaining polite.
not only does he not have a drop of remorse for anything he has done, he continues to play these games.
I can never leave well enough alone, clearly he was testing me to see if I would respond, once he got that, it was .... adios again.
Changing my name to Stupid.
You were all right....and I blew it with that nice pisces because of course I've been such a grouch
I said doing good hope you are too , answered his question and that was it. I asked how he was... and what was up?
Then... nothing
Saw him online and not even a hello, ran into him at work "ice man" not exagerating...
saw him online on that day, and asked him what his problem was, I wanted to know.... I am so disgusted with myself!!!! not kidding
His reply "I dont know what your talking about, I will get in touch with you soon""i've been so busy, and I've had sooooooo much to do"
I just want to go back to a few weeks ago when I had actually found myself in a good place. This whole thing started because I had to respond to his email, an email which I still do not understand why was sent since he had no intention of remaining polite.
not only does he not have a drop of remorse for anything he has done, he continues to play these games.
I can never leave well enough alone, clearly he was testing me to see if I would respond, once he got that, it was .... adios again.
Changing my name to Stupid.
You were all right....and I blew it with that nice pisces because of course I've been such a grouch
Cancer and Libra cannot even be friends. After holding my ground with a certain libra that broke my heart not too long ago, I decided that I would give in and respond to a shallow "trying to be friendly" email. What possessed me ? why, why WHY did I do that? I was doing so well, until I ran into that person at work, and felt uncomfortable at not having responded. He did all the damage to the relationship, and I am the one feeling guilty about not responding to a lame email...... somebody smack me!!! lol
Anyway my libra people here will not be suprised that of couse he did not respond, and I was like ok....WHY WRITE THEN??
Hi there,
First off I need to thank all of you for the feedback.
Youve each made valid points... joining this forum has helped ALOT!!!!
I've been agressively pursuing him for along time, I'm no angel but the truth here is he had my heart and did put me on the backburner plenty of times...
I havent done anything, yest i typed a reply and came close to sending it,then I remembered the picture of them....and deleted my reply.
Its too soon, I'll trip over myself and show him that I'll take anything he gives me. I do believe he thinks " I can have her anytime I want"....
Maybe in time I can be just a friend (doubting that now)
On a happier note there is adorable pisces man in the picture who seems to be a AMAZING!!!! lets see...
I just found out my rising sign is a virgo... now I have to read up "them"... lol
First off I need to thank all of you for the feedback.
Youve each made valid points... joining this forum has helped ALOT!!!!
I've been agressively pursuing him for along time, I'm no angel but the truth here is he had my heart and did put me on the backburner plenty of times...
I havent done anything, yest i typed a reply and came close to sending it,then I remembered the picture of them....and deleted my reply.
Its too soon, I'll trip over myself and show him that I'll take anything he gives me. I do believe he thinks " I can have her anytime I want"....
Maybe in time I can be just a friend (doubting that now)
On a happier note there is adorable pisces man in the picture who seems to be a AMAZING!!!! lets see...
I just found out my rising sign is a virgo... now I have to read up "them"... lol
Some of you may remember I discussed a certain libra in my life recently.
A few weeks ago I had heard what I thought was the last of him, especially since he sent a photo of him and his new girl, and I had sent an email wishing him best of luck to which I got no reply.
He saw me online several times, and I did not make an attempt to speak to him, as much as I wanted to I just stayed on line without any attempt to say hi.
Last night he emailed me a hello, acknowledged we havent spoken for a while , and a question about how I was doing....
I have yet to reply, I don't know but it felt so great to hear from him, but I feel great resisting to reply. I don't think he wants anything but to be friendly again, he is not used to me staying out of touch and not responding, or pursuing him.
A part of me wants to say HIIIIIIIIIIII!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! HOW ARE YOU?????
MISSED YOU !!!!!!!!!!!!!lol
Maybe I should respond and just be freindly and polite.....rather than be rude and appear to be angry...
A few weeks ago I had heard what I thought was the last of him, especially since he sent a photo of him and his new girl, and I had sent an email wishing him best of luck to which I got no reply.
He saw me online several times, and I did not make an attempt to speak to him, as much as I wanted to I just stayed on line without any attempt to say hi.
Last night he emailed me a hello, acknowledged we havent spoken for a while , and a question about how I was doing....
I have yet to reply, I don't know but it felt so great to hear from him, but I feel great resisting to reply. I don't think he wants anything but to be friendly again, he is not used to me staying out of touch and not responding, or pursuing him.
A part of me wants to say HIIIIIIIIIIII!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! HOW ARE YOU?????
MISSED YOU !!!!!!!!!!!!!lol
Maybe I should respond and just be freindly and polite.....rather than be rude and appear to be angry...
Oh, and then you have the Libran's who don't say anything at all...
lol... that describes my no longer libra friend...
The only reason I know he is alive is because I saw him online...oh well
lol... that describes my no longer libra friend...
The only reason I know he is alive is because I saw him online...oh well
Agreed..libra's give some good luvin'
please don't remind me ....
lol
please don't remind me ....
lolChatz....
Yup friendship with libra is amazing....
I miss my beautiful libra more than anything these days, but I am glad you are enjoying this new found friendship with yours.
Yup friendship with libra is amazing....
I miss my beautiful libra more than anything these days, but I am glad you are enjoying this new found friendship with yours.
Queenscorpio~ I don't know.... your right, but how can a person make clean break with a person they love if that other person keeps wanting more... it has not been easy...
I really feel like I have been used, he wanted me as a friend, but he also liked knowing he could have me... its that simple and that pathetic...
Obviously its a rude awakening....
Anyway, can you recommend a site where I can learn more about my chart, moon, and all things CANCER I just want to bury myself in anything but thinking about him and how happy he is...
I really feel like I have been used, he wanted me as a friend, but he also liked knowing he could have me... its that simple and that pathetic...
Obviously its a rude awakening....
Anyway, can you recommend a site where I can learn more about my chart, moon, and all things CANCER
I just want to bury myself in anything but thinking about him and how happy he is...Yes, it is a game. You're clearly using emotionally manipulative tactics, and attempting to confuse him as well, what's the point in knowing that he misses you? Isn't the point to end up, having him w/ you, and not off somewhere thinking about you?
Wysdum,
This is not true.
I love him, I am hurt and devastated....
the point in knowing that he misses me ( which I now know he does not) is a validation that there was something real between us and that I did not just spend all this time on a person who I gave so much to for absolutely nothing... when I had him as a friend I could at least feel good about good times together....now I have nothing
Hi,
I have been telling him one thing and acting a different way because I felt it was the only way to communicate with him without arguing. I just want to say that be it freindship only or more than friends is not what I want. This is how it had to be, I would have loved to be more than friends continuously, but thats not what he has wanted.
rather than lose him completely I accepted that which i see now has not helped at all.
I have always felt like I had been clear on all aspects of my feelings towards him.
the summer was a slap on the face for me, I never not have time for him.Yet he does as he [pleases and I know this is who he is and its my problem that I have accepted this.
It is over between us, I know this for a fact. Last week he sent me a picture of himself and a girl he met while he was away. My gut told me that he honestly did not send me that picture to hurt me, to him it was just a normal thing.He saw nothing wrong with that, all I could do is say ... goodluck ....
He never responded to my last email in terms of what I said. I think that email made it easy for him to finally walk away, I made an assumption that was true, he was in fact busy with "other people" and just could not contact me to tell me. I think I gave him the freedom he wanted. Now he is finally happy and I have never been so angry in my life.
But I deserve this for being a complete fool. The worst part of this for me is that I will be running into him at work occasionally, and I would rather put needles in my eyes (or his) hahaha....
Thanks for the positive advice... hope you are all doing better than me !!!!!
I have been telling him one thing and acting a different way because I felt it was the only way to communicate with him without arguing. I just want to say that be it freindship only or more than friends is not what I want. This is how it had to be, I would have loved to be more than friends continuously, but thats not what he has wanted.
rather than lose him completely I accepted that which i see now has not helped at all.
I have always felt like I had been clear on all aspects of my feelings towards him.
the summer was a slap on the face for me, I never not have time for him.Yet he does as he [pleases and I know this is who he is and its my problem that I have accepted this.
It is over between us, I know this for a fact. Last week he sent me a picture of himself and a girl he met while he was away. My gut told me that he honestly did not send me that picture to hurt me, to him it was just a normal thing.He saw nothing wrong with that, all I could do is say ... goodluck ....
He never responded to my last email in terms of what I said. I think that email made it easy for him to finally walk away, I made an assumption that was true, he was in fact busy with "other people" and just could not contact me to tell me. I think I gave him the freedom he wanted. Now he is finally happy and I have never been so angry in my life.
But I deserve this for being a complete fool. The worst part of this for me is that I will be running into him at work occasionally, and I would rather put needles in my eyes (or his) hahaha....
Thanks for the positive advice... hope you are all doing better than me !!!!!
Emotional pain~ I usually zone out and stay quiet .
Physical pain~I usually try to forget by staying busy.
hope you feel better Queenscorpio...
Physical pain~I usually try to forget by staying busy.
hope you feel better Queenscorpio...
Zlatina,
Thanks
....so damn hard to be in involved this situation
If only he wasn't so gorgeous, were talking one deliscious man !!!!lol
No contact from him in days since I wrote a goodbye a few days ago.
I would love to hear from him, but I am holding my ground and hope its for the best.
let me fill you in on what has occured recently,early June we decided to remain friends, I wished him a great summer and he the same, by mid june he was back to telling he loved how I looked... so I said to myself, ok here we go again, after listening to him whine about how he was having a hard time at work and in other areas of his life for months, I honestly was ready for a vacation from his ups and downs. Nothing happened between us that month, we left it at have a great summer see you when you get back,but will be in touch through text and email which is our norm. As July passed I became infuriated at not hearing from him, and when I finally did there was no "I missed you, no apologies for being so cold.... I told him " nice to know where you hold me on your list of priorities... at the bottom!!! " no response from him, days passed and when he sees me online he tries to open a convo with no regard to any of my issues, so I bring it up and he gives me this pathetic " this summer was my best summer, I focused on myself" and I was like :O OMG !!!! I can't be hearing this....
so I ended our chat politely, and wrote and sent him an email saying how glad I was that he had the time to think of himself, and that I was glad that he moved on and that if he had met someone else, goodluck with her and my best wishes. I went on to say we had great times together, and that I am glad he ended things because it was best for both of us. I have never sent him an email ending us permanently, there have been angry emails, but there was never a permanent tone to them. I think I may have ended it.... it was not what I really wanted but... time will tell
Thanks
....so damn hard to be in involved this situation
If only he wasn't so gorgeous, were talking one deliscious man !!!!lol
No contact from him in days since I wrote a goodbye a few days ago.
I would love to hear from him, but I am holding my ground and hope its for the best.
let me fill you in on what has occured recently,early June we decided to remain friends, I wished him a great summer and he the same, by mid june he was back to telling he loved how I looked... so I said to myself, ok here we go again, after listening to him whine about how he was having a hard time at work and in other areas of his life for months, I honestly was ready for a vacation from his ups and downs. Nothing happened between us that month, we left it at have a great summer see you when you get back,but will be in touch through text and email which is our norm. As July passed I became infuriated at not hearing from him, and when I finally did there was no "I missed you, no apologies for being so cold.... I told him " nice to know where you hold me on your list of priorities... at the bottom!!! " no response from him, days passed and when he sees me online he tries to open a convo with no regard to any of my issues, so I bring it up and he gives me this pathetic " this summer was my best summer, I focused on myself" and I was like :O OMG !!!! I can't be hearing this....
so I ended our chat politely, and wrote and sent him an email saying how glad I was that he had the time to think of himself, and that I was glad that he moved on and that if he had met someone else, goodluck with her and my best wishes. I went on to say we had great times together, and that I am glad he ended things because it was best for both of us. I have never sent him an email ending us permanently, there have been angry emails, but there was never a permanent tone to them. I think I may have ended it.... it was not what I really wanted but... time will tell
"was easier for him to have confrontation about issues"
meant to say easier for him to NOT have confrontation about issues...
meant to say easier for him to NOT have confrontation about issues...
A muse a Libra,
Believe it or not I have been so direct that I actually shock myself.Not from the start, but the more our friendship grew the more at ease I was.
In the beginning I noticed he would like the idea that I felt I could not be as direct because he it was easier for him to have confrontation about issues. As the time passed he really enjoyed having me in his life, and said that to me many times.
I think I have made it so ok for him to go back and forth that any time I have become upset he retreats and acts like "what did I do wrong?" thats my responsibility I guess for allowing this. You are so right about the hearing to stay friends part,I have heard that quite a few times. I have accepted that and tried to be JUST that.
Sometimes I feel he would like me to move on, but when he sees me attempting it he starts this whole ride all over again. He knows I am crazy about him, so its never that hard for him.
We may be chatting away without any romantic or flirty type of converstions going on and he will do a 360 on me and start to discuss how much he loved what I was wearing, or he'll start to flirt like I am this new person in his life, and give me compliments which lead to him wanting to know if we could go back to more......
Anyway.... time will tell
Believe it or not I have been so direct that I actually shock myself.Not from the start, but the more our friendship grew the more at ease I was.
In the beginning I noticed he would like the idea that I felt I could not be as direct because he it was easier for him to have confrontation about issues. As the time passed he really enjoyed having me in his life, and said that to me many times.
I think I have made it so ok for him to go back and forth that any time I have become upset he retreats and acts like "what did I do wrong?" thats my responsibility I guess for allowing this. You are so right about the hearing to stay friends part,I have heard that quite a few times. I have accepted that and tried to be JUST that.
Sometimes I feel he would like me to move on, but when he sees me attempting it he starts this whole ride all over again. He knows I am crazy about him, so its never that hard for him.
We may be chatting away without any romantic or flirty type of converstions going on and he will do a 360 on me and start to discuss how much he loved what I was wearing, or he'll start to flirt like I am this new person in his life, and give me compliments which lead to him wanting to know if we could go back to more......
Anyway.... time will tell
Hi all,
I'm new to the boards and appreciate the feedback..........
I may be a moody person at times, but childishness is not a word that would describe me as a person. I think in regard to my libra friend, I've been clear on what I want and have expressed that to him many times.
Rollercoaster ride is a great way to describe the situation,The excitement and fun have been worth it at times but eventually you want to know where you stand.
Clearly I have become too accomodating in my situation.
I think I will take your advice about stepping back and stopping the chase, I have noticed that in the past he has not been able to accept me walking away completely. We agree on friendship only, and he decides its not enough, we decide on more than friends and then he decides he needs the freedom to be rude and selfserving.I would love to know that he will miss me, but at this point I can't be sure he will. I guess its something that time will tell.
I'm new to the boards and appreciate the feedback..........
I may be a moody person at times, but childishness is not a word that would describe me as a person. I think in regard to my libra friend, I've been clear on what I want and have expressed that to him many times.
Rollercoaster ride is a great way to describe the situation
,The excitement and fun have been worth it at times but eventually you want to know where you stand.Clearly I have become too accomodating in my situation.
I think I will take your advice about stepping back and stopping the chase, I have noticed that in the past he has not been able to accept me walking away completely. We agree on friendship only, and he decides its not enough, we decide on more than friends and then he decides he needs the freedom to be rude and selfserving.I would love to know that he will miss me, but at this point I can't be sure he will. I guess its something that time will tell.
I would love to get some feedback on this question I have. I have had a close relationship with a libra for a long time and just when I think I have figured out where I stand,it becomes a whole different relationship. I sometimes wonder if this person realizes the kind of confusion that he causes and if maybe this is part of a mind game. One day friends, one day friends and more, one day "ooops forgot to call for two months, sorry about that
I wonder if this person will ever make up his mind.
I wonder if this person will ever make up his mind.
It can be a mentally exhausting chase trying to figure out how to get these libra men.