Message Posts by GoatLady
It feels like it took eternity to read through all this, and towards the end I felt hated!
Sheesh! I asked for advice, not to be verbally asassinated
I had a good talk with my Scorp yesterday, and he let me know how his superior way annoyed others. He said its because he likes to feel he's always right, in control, and the winner, even when he's wrong. He also said sorry if it made me feel bad.
Sheesh! I asked for advice, not to be verbally asassinated
I had a good talk with my Scorp yesterday, and he let me know how his superior way annoyed others. He said its because he likes to feel he's always right, in control, and the winner, even when he's wrong. He also said sorry if it made me feel bad.
Posted by ellessque
welcome back!
and as promised, i'm truly sorry if i offended you.
you can pull your charts at www.cafeastrology.com, you don't need the birth time, just the year and where you were born. if you want me to help you, i can do it privately thru a pm and then we can post it on the board.
My Venus is Pisces and his Venus is Scorpio whatever that means lol
Posted by ellessque
welcome back!
and as promised, i'm truly sorry if i offended you.
you can pull your charts at www.cafeastrology.com, you don't need the birth time, just the year and where you were born. if you want me to help you, i can do it privately thru a pm and then we can post it on the board.
Thank you, I will go and take a look.
Posted by kstarks12Posted by GoatLady
He does communicate, he texts and calls around 30 times a day, its just cold and unemotional. We see each other about once a month.
Please tell me that you two live in separate states because if not, yes. you ARE his booty call.
uggh i hate scorpio men. yucckkkkk!!!!click to expand
We live around 250 miles from each other
Posted by ellessquePosted by lnana04
So, elle if she straight up asked "are you seeing anyone else?" would he give an honest answer?
no, he won't. because it is obvious that she is holding something back and he will not be exposed, under any circumstance.
he's either a major player or he is not getting what he needs from her.
I think she is overexaggerating her affection a bit. those may be things she "wanted" to share but was afraid,
I think it is safe to say she is not that affectionate, especially if he didn't make the "first" move and hasn't reciprocated the feelings.
caps are extremely guarded until they feel safe. she obviously doesn't feel safe.
i'd be interested to see their charts. she has some pisces in her chart, I'm sure of it.click to expand
I don't know anything about charts. He is Nov 13 and I am Jan 18. Don't know times and stuff.
Posted by lnana04Posted by Shaka_laka_boomboom
As far as my experience goes, Capricorn females do normally become more expressive as the relationship evolves and they feel more comfortable and trust their partner more, so Im not sure your argumet is strong enough Inana. In many cases Capricorn women become even clingy, resembling their opposite Cancer females.
I agree that we can become clingy, but as you said, it usually comes with time. How much time is up in the air, so my point is since we are more often then not called "cold" how can people assume someone being cold to us means they don't care, when can be the same, initially, at times to others?
I can see how his actions indicate that he's not into her, but you can never know if he's mimicking what he feels her behavior is towards him.click to expand
Thank you for being decent to me. Yes, I'm very wary about showing my feelings, so far I've only got as far as telling him I miss him, but inside I want to tell him more. I'm scared to say anything because he's expressed how he's been hurt in the past, and because he has this cool distance to him. What confuses me is he always makes excuses to call, its not like he can call and just launch into a conversation about his day, he calls about something business like and trivial and then goes into conversation, or calls to say hello and hangs up like he's really shy. The thing is, is the more he does this the more distant I become because I don't want my feelings hurt.
Posted by wsigaf
it depends..
what are you expecting from this situation ?
I want what we have now, I just want to know if he cares, or if this is how Scorpio men behave. He's been badly hurt in the past, so have I. I just wondered if Scorpios are always cold like this and distant.
Posted by P-Angel
Why don't you try ........... living for yourself, rather than waiting with bated-breath for him to want you emotionally?
Go find something you enjoy, do it, and when he calls tell him you are doing this because you LIKE it ... good bye, hang up.
and STOP TAKING YOUR FUCKING PANTIES OFF FOR A MAN WHO DOESN'T CARE ABOUT YOU .. for christs sake
I think you're misunderstanding, or I'm not explaining it right. I don't hang around waiting for him, I do have a life. When I'm not home and he texts me on my cell he'll write something like 'who gave you permission to go out' but he's writing it as a joke almost like he's hiding deeper feelings. I guess I'm no good at explaining myself.
Posted by wsigafPosted by GoatLady
So why does he call me so many times in the day and night? Do you keep constant contact with people you hate, ask them what they're doing, where they are if they can reach you at home and stuff?
Dude wants to check if noone else is hitting what's between your legs.
In his mind, *you* are *his* property.click to expand
Is that good or bad?
He does communicate, he texts and calls around 30 times a day, its just cold and unemotional. We see each other about once a month.
So why does he call me so many times in the day and night? Do you keep constant contact with people you hate, ask them what they're doing, where they are if they can reach you at home and stuff?
Posted by GoatLadyPosted by QuietSt0rm
It could go either way.. are there any more specific details to share? Does he ever warm up to you at all, even just a little bit? Or does he always give you the cold shoulder?
I can be reserved/closed off in the beginning, but once I start to catch feelings for someone and I know they feel the same, I can relax and be myself. Which is a little more on the mushy/affectionate kind.
But there are so many things that can tie into this. He may not be expressive/affectionate because of something that happened in his childhood. Or he might just not be all that emotional. It could go both ways.. Your post is kinda vague, so it's hard to tell.
How long have you been seeing him?
Your relationships must have been way ahead of mine. He never asks when he should call, he does it even if its at 2am in the morning and he expects me to drop everything for him, so he is controlling. Sometimes he will text first about something irellevant almost like its a build up to being able to call. When we speak on the phone its very cold and business like unless he's talking on a subject he enjoys, and I've noticed he always tries to put me down like he gains a feeling of superiority by doing it. I ignore it because I figured he has confidence issues, which he does, but he does like to analyse and rip apart anything that I enjoy, even if its a simple thing like I movie I liked watching.
He's never said he misses me, likes me, or loves me. And now I'm kinda working on the actions speak louder than words.
The only thing he has ever initiated is the first time we had sex, and he always kisses me goodbye which doesn't consist of passionate snogs but several pecks on the cheek or mouth, but, he does sometime come back from the direction he was walking in, or get out of his car to give me more pecks.
I'm just really confused.click to expand
Been seeing him since April.
Posted by QuietSt0rm
It could go either way.. are there any more specific details to share? Does he ever warm up to you at all, even just a little bit? Or does he always give you the cold shoulder?
I can be reserved/closed off in the beginning, but once I start to catch feelings for someone and I know they feel the same, I can relax and be myself. Which is a little more on the mushy/affectionate kind.
But there are so many things that can tie into this. He may not be expressive/affectionate because of something that happened in his childhood. Or he might just not be all that emotional. It could go both ways.. Your post is kinda vague, so it's hard to tell.
How long have you been seeing him?
Your relationships must have been way ahead of mine. He never asks when he should call, he does it even if its at 2am in the morning and he expects me to drop everything for him, so he is controlling. Sometimes he will text first about something irellevant almost like its a build up to being able to call. When we speak on the phone its very cold and business like unless he's talking on a subject he enjoys, and I've noticed he always tries to put me down like he gains a feeling of superiority by doing it. I ignore it because I figured he has confidence issues, which he does, but he does like to analyse and rip apart anything that I enjoy, even if its a simple thing like I movie I liked watching.
He's never said he misses me, likes me, or loves me. And now I'm kinda working on the actions speak louder than words.
The only thing he has ever initiated is the first time we had sex, and he always kisses me goodbye which doesn't consist of passionate snogs but several pecks on the cheek or mouth, but, he does sometime come back from the direction he was walking in, or get out of his car to give me more pecks.
I'm just really confused.
I'm head over heels for my Scorpio man and always tell him I miss him and stuff when we talk on the phone, but he has never once been affectionate in words with me, or to my face. Is that normal? We've been seeing each other since April.
Sex is great, really intense, but it always feels like I'm the one doing the running. Don't get me wrong, I don't crowd him out or nag him, we have our own homes, I'm just wondering if his lack of affection, apart from when we have sex, is because he isn't into me? HELP! He can be quite shy, but on the phone he talks to me like i'm a business colleague.
Sex is great, really intense, but it always feels like I'm the one doing the running. Don't get me wrong, I don't crowd him out or nag him, we have our own homes, I'm just wondering if his lack of affection, apart from when we have sex, is because he isn't into me? HELP! He can be quite shy, but on the phone he talks to me like i'm a business colleague.