Message Posts by SoInLOVE
Do any of you ever say how to really feel?
Virgo Ladies, what can a person do to really get to your heart. I know you don't show it, but what little things or big things just really me A LOT to you. What really gets your emotions going inside?
Cancerians! Whats the greatest thing anyone has ever said to you, that either
-Turned you on
-or made you wonderfully emotional during or after sex?
What made you feel definitely, loved safe or secure?
Also, Have you cried after sex?
-Turned you on
-or made you wonderfully emotional during or after sex?
What made you feel definitely, loved safe or secure?
Also, Have you cried after sex?
Posted by enfant_terribleBut you're on here... Looks like you might want to reconsider your life choices.Posted by SoInLOVEIt's official. The average age on DXP is 14
Do cancer women like to be asked to be kissed? If "no," what the best way to approach a kiss with a cancer, And whats the sexiest thing a person can do when kissing a cancer?click to expand
Posted by EffervescentReally?! A wet finger in her ear?! That's Sexy?!
Lick your index finger and twirl it around in their ear.
And then lay a wet one on them. Make sure you use a lot of tongue so that their upper lip becomes moist x
Good luck x
Do cancer women like to be asked to be kissed? If "no," what the best way to approach a kiss with a cancer, And whats the sexiest thing a person can do when kissing a cancer?
And is it directly after an argument, or after you do your disappearing act? How does it go for you?
Posted by CancerOnTheCuspPosted by rabidtalkerPosted by SoInLOVE
Not to hurt feelings of course, but just to show youre not gonna be subservient, and submissive. A way you can accept.
You want to be careful about this, librans do this a lot and it does not sit well with cancers and they will recognize a power play from a mile away. Now depending on her placements she may let you "win" this one but you will have chipped away at something that could have been solidified. I know of several libras who have done this and they were extremely surprised after the 10th time of how quickly the door was slammed in their face......... Also, once the argument is settled and over DO NOT make any sly "gotcha" or "told you so" comments afterwards, treat it as settled and over.
^^This.
I've seen Librans pull the same crap as you describe. Not all, but I've seen it.click to expand
Pull what "crap?" I dont see how its crap? I dont want to argue (I am a Libra after all). I cant stand arguing, its a pain in the ass, and FEELS Horrible. I just know that as a couple we're gonna argue (and she LIKES to "Fuss," as she puts it). The last time she tried to provoke something, She was mad at me, and wast talking to me, I didnt even know she was mad. So she text this video, creatively telling me she wasnt talking to me. I thought it was really cute the way she went about it. I told her it was cute (and not in a condescending way), and she didnt know how to react. She told me, she thought we were gonna at least "fuss" about it, and then make up. I dont want her to get bored, So if we HAVE to, I dont want her to think Im weak, and I definitely dont want to hurt her feelings. I dont argue or even lightly argue aka "fussing" (I guess). Im just trying to find the balance here. No "Crap" to be pulled.
Posted by MoonArtist
Why does the argument have anything to do with being or not being submissive?
Im a Libra, I dont care to argue... She however likes to "Fuss" (as she puts it). I'm However ppl feel like others who dont argue are boring. If I do argue I dont want to cross and hurt her feeling and I dont want to just plan out submit. Im just trying to find the balance with Cancer.
Im dealing with a Cancer with a Leo moon. I'm a Libra with Sag moon. I prefer not to argue at all, but evidently ppl like to "fuss" at each other (i guess so thing dont "get boring" in the relationship. But a Cancer is a delicate subject. I have no ideas what the boundaries are.
Not to hurt feelings of course, but just to show youre not gonna be subservient, and submissive. A way you can accept.
Posted by duchesslibro
Very dedicated, obsessive, I've never experienced indecisiveness in love, I've always tried hard to make the relationship i was in work.... maybe the difference for me is my Mars is Capricorn, I don't give up and i want a traditional relationship. I even have Gemini Moon too, so my chart blows the Libra/Gemini Moon/ Scorp Venus being cheater/secret affairs assumption away. I bet those Lib/Scorp Venus people have flakey Mars placements.
Yeah I have Leo mars, and Im super loyal. I only want my relationships to work. I have NEVER cheated, and only have eyes for the person Im with. Sometimes I wish scorpio wasn't my venus, so I wouldn't think about the person I'm with so much, because I can't seem to find someone who loves as deeply as I do, and I get deeply wounded in the end.
Posted by Gemican01
My hubby is a libra we have been together a long time and even have an Aquarius son together.
Coming from my cancer self, he is something else...I love him to death but the things that bother me about him:
He is sooooo slow he can take all day to do something and I have little patients and when he gets into a rut he is soooo self centered and probably the worst of all he never takes responsibility for his wrong doings and just plays stupid and ditsy instead.
Overall he is extremely submissive and sweet and I can't get enough of him, he makes me wear the pants and I really don't mind. He calms my crazy cancer storms. And when I asking him if he really loves me he always says yes of course with out a doubt and then tells me how he wouldn't even know what to do if anything ever happened to me. My Leo Venus just eats this all up.
How does he calm you? I always wonder how to calm a cancer. And as a leo venus Do you flirt with others a lot?
Im a Female Libra Sun/Sag Moon/Scorpio Venus, And She (Lol Yes She) Is a Cancer Sun/Leo Moon/Leo Venus.
Do they like the "sweetheart types" because she seems to respond more when Im a bit of a smart@ss. When Im sweet she is just not as responsive.
Do they like the "sweetheart types" because she seems to respond more when Im a bit of a smart@ss. When Im sweet she is just not as responsive.
Posted by princessacancersagittaire
well first things, we'll fall head over heels in love with librans when we meet one or we'll wanna kill them ripping their heart out trust me there is no median in this combination.
Things we'll dislike will be their fickleness, flakiness and their tendency to lie like their life depended on it! but when they sense a trouble for them they're never to be seen! they'll disappear into thin air on spotting a trouble miles away and you'll be left to weep on their own shoulders. they cannot make up their minds, heck you try asking if your dating one, a question like, "do you really like me?" and see what happens and that is a stability issue cancerians can just nottttt everrrr live with! they always think you're a sidekick and they can swap you with someone better any given time and they have like close to 0% loyalty rate. If something goes right, even if it's your idea they publicise it's theirs and if something goes wrong even if it's their mistake they'll blame it on you. serial heart breakers and they'll worm out all our secrets until bare and blackmail us with the same. oh and they'll try to get even for something you might have done like a year ago. wow i must've really known them too well lol
BUT mind you they're very good for cancerians because they can save us out of any pickle we get in and it's like our designation to get in pickles! also their gift of gab is out of the world we won't know what hit us! they are also very generous and kind and typical sweetheart types when they like us! it's easy to make them like us
LOL Cancers disappear too though. As soon as they get a little upset with you, they won't talk about anything. How are things supposed to get resolved?
OMG Obsessive, but they may not show you. They think about the person they are with every spare moment. I HATE that about me. I focus on the person Im with. I try to be the most balanced, best lover i can be. LOL Im always the best when it comes to being a significant other.
In your Experience what do you cancerians feel won't work when it comes to a relationship with a Libran?
They don't LITERALLY Shatter your heart??_ SMH People and the word "literally."
Whats your perfect intimate fantasy. Where, When, and How? And whats the sexiest thing a Partner (past or present) has ever said to you? What really stands out and stays with you?
I just want to know, because I have met SO many complaining virgo women, and Im dating This virgo woman and she complains about everything??_ And a lot of it is her fault. I feel like its to get my attention and sympathy. What do I say or do, to not come off as an a $ $ ?
Posted by TMVPosted by SoInLOVE
how *often* do you really get rattled?
Not often.
Posted by SoInLOVE
And how bad is virgo's communications skills?
Only around the complexities of verbally expressing human emotion are difficulties encountered. And maybe the want for appreciation in the things that we do.click to expand
So is it true that a person would have to pay attention to very small things?
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Chill out Auto correct assumed what I meant. I meant *OFTEN.* My Bad, Dang.
I think Virgo likes to appear unrattled, but how offend do you really get rattled?
And how bad is virgo's communications skills?
And how bad is virgo's communications skills?
Posted by virgoyum
No. I may find out later I wasn't that into the person but I don't let it go easy in my head.
What do you mean? Even if you find that you weren't that into them, you still don't let it go easily?
Posted by CluelessCancerPosted by SoInLOVE
But if you let them get too far... You might lose them. The best way to talk with a Virgo is to take them out to a restaurant with excellent food, not too crowded but with a good ambiance, and maybe a glass of wine or two. The truth starts coming out and they will open up to you. Always read between the lines. Good luck and good vibes~ feistypisces777
How do you not let them get too far?click to expand
Does this seem like a healthy way to form a bond with another human being? Always being worried about too far, too close, hurting someone feels, doing the right now.
sounds like a headache ...
Right, I don't understand. If you say you love someone, you can trust them, depend on them and you feel secure with them, why would you stray away from that? A person shouldn't have to "play a game" for life.
Posted by Feistypisces777
After the honeymoon Virgo stage, they tend to take up their personal hobbies and develop a little bit of space with you, which can be healthy... But if you let them get too far... You might lose them. The best way to talk with a Virgo is to take them out to a restaurant with excellent food, not too crowded but with a good ambiance, and maybe a glass of wine or two. The truth starts coming out and they will open up to you. Always read between the lines. Good luck and good vibes~ feistypisces777
How do you not let them get too far?
If you say you love someone and they tick you off (Not betray or really hurt, Just kind of tick you off) do you just let them go?
AND DO YOU SAY YOU LOVE WHEN YOU REALLY DONT?
AND DO YOU SAY YOU LOVE WHEN YOU REALLY DONT?
Well I never have had a problem answering whatever questions ppl have for me. When there is nothing to hide, I believe normally we don't mind.
I cut off friendships easily if I've been done wrongfully. I love my friends and I treat them well, but once they piss me off??_ Im done. but once Ive chilled on it, and they apologize, I treat them like it never happened, but It will never been like it was with us.
Posted by tiziani
A Virgo once told me women always come back. At least once. She was right. It's rarely ever for good reasons though. Value your time.
What do you mean? You think she does just want sex or something?
Btw, wht is ur sign?
Im actually a Libra??_
Im actually a Libra??_
Posted by Clarismoris
Hahahahahaha! I laughed when i see ur post. I feel like tht something i would say to a guy! From my point of view, she misses u! I dont contact with my ex, so if she contacts u, then she still likes u. Depends on if u still like her, if u do, make move. If not, ignore her and be clear tht u only want to be friend
But how do i make sure its real, you know what I mean. Im hoping its not just something like, "she misses the sex." I want a real relationship if anything is going to happen with us again, you know? She just told me "When we broke up, it hurt me too. I never stopped loving you." Do virgoans just say things to get what they want for the moment?
My first job was at an event staffing company (Which is now a side side job). shortly after, I got a job at a shipping warehouse and Ive been working there now for 13 years.
Posted by HeavySky
Libras cannot keep jobs.
What the hell?! Im a Libra and Ive been employed with 3 different company since I first got hired at them. I have never quit or been fired.
One for 14 years
One for 13 years
and One for 5 Years
Posted by VirgoDragirl
She hates it that she ends it because that makes her a bad person. Virgo is all about perfection. Bad is not in our vocab. She is still attracted to you and now she is poking you to see if you still attracted to her. She can't live knowing someone think ill of her. So, the ball is on your side, if you want her love forever, stand your ground and make sure she knows you know that she ends it.
Okay, So let me ask you, How do I handle this? What do I say?
Ok she broke up with me over a year ago. I quietly backed up and almost never contacted her. She was go thru some things during our relationship and she was being really mean to me. It was like i couldn't say anything right. I also think she was attracted to someone else. When we broke up something kind of "hit the fan" in her personal life, she broke up with me thru text saying "i think i need to be alone." Just from her coldness and how she was treating me, I felt it coming anyway. She them said " we can still communicate." Im thinking "whats the point of a break up then" (Anyway I digress).
On her birthday last year she was SO mad at me for not wishing her a happy birthday. Lately she has been texting me randomly, sounding she like she was trying to make conversation. I got a text saying "Just wanted to say good morning." We had small conversation and I went about my business. 3 weeks later I get another text "good morning." she arbitrarily sends me a pic of her wearing this watch i bought her telling me to notice whats on her wrist. I was kind of short because I have been very busy, so I just said "you look good." a couple weeks later a get another text out of no where saying, "I just want to thank you again for getting me this watch. I really love it." Its little things like that.
A couple of days ago, I got a text saying, "I hope you're having a good night." And we text each other kind of thru the night. She was saying things like "Im proud of you" and "I like it that you still call me the name 'baby doll'"
Now is this just her wanting to be friends with me or does she want me back?
Thanks in Advance for your feedback!
On her birthday last year she was SO mad at me for not wishing her a happy birthday. Lately she has been texting me randomly, sounding she like she was trying to make conversation. I got a text saying "Just wanted to say good morning." We had small conversation and I went about my business. 3 weeks later I get another text "good morning." she arbitrarily sends me a pic of her wearing this watch i bought her telling me to notice whats on her wrist. I was kind of short because I have been very busy, so I just said "you look good." a couple weeks later a get another text out of no where saying, "I just want to thank you again for getting me this watch. I really love it." Its little things like that.
A couple of days ago, I got a text saying, "I hope you're having a good night." And we text each other kind of thru the night. She was saying things like "Im proud of you" and "I like it that you still call me the name 'baby doll'"
Now is this just her wanting to be friends with me or does she want me back?
Thanks in Advance for your feedback!
Posted by aquarius09
Your story is missing pieces. Why did he turn rude out of nowhere? It's not like harmonious and nice libras to go crazy out of nowhere. I certainly don't see that happening if you have listened to his problems and tried to help him. Only mentally unstable individuals not on their meds do that.
I agree...
Hello all...
I just wanna get some input on what this mean... (Bare with me) Im a woman and my virgo ex gf and I broke up in February. Now when we broke up, I believe she put me in the "friend zone." Directly after the break up, I never contacted her. I just tried to work to separate myself and get over her. Almost every time we spoke she contacted me. The one time I did contact her (A month later), I told her about how she was acting toward me toward at the end of our relationship (She was being really mean and cold, and had an attitude for no reason, I was nothing but supportive of her). 2 days Later, I get a text from her saying,
Her: "I want to apologize for how I made you feel toward the end of our relationship. Ive been thinking about it. I wasnt fair to you. You were there for me more than anyone has been."
Me: "Its appreciated"
And that was the end of that. She still would randomly hit me up, informing me about things going on in her life. I gave brief answers because I was still in love with her and it was hard to accept being friends. (I still miss her).
Anyway... 4 months have gone by since Ive last spoken to her in any way. Her birthday passed at the end of August but I didn't send her bday wishes. My birthday passed a few days ago, and she text me "Happy birthday," and I was so shocked
Me: "I wasnt expecting that, I appreciate it."
Her: "Youre welcome."
I didnt say anything else. 2 days later, I get a another text from her and she sounded kinda mad, saying,
Her: "You know, Let me just say this. Of all the ppl I expected not to wish me a happy bday, I didnt think you'd be one of them, Ever (her ex before me) sent me a happy bday. I didn't expect it to play out like that. I see I was wrong."
I actually sent a text back saying I thought of her, and I hoped she had a good day, but I figured she forgot about me. I didnt know if it was appropriate to say anything. Then I said "For my assumptions... I will apologize."
Her: "I accept your apology"
Me: Good Times
I didnt say anything else... Now 2 days later (Today), I get a text from her saying, "So how have you been?"
I havent text her back yet because I havent had the time just yet, and It all confuses me.
My questions are... After everything... As a virgo... What do you think this means? Does she just miss me and want to be my friend? Or Is it possible she misses me in the manner of a relationship? AND If this is a possibility, How do I NOT mess it up a
I just wanna get some input on what this mean... (Bare with me) Im a woman and my virgo ex gf and I broke up in February. Now when we broke up, I believe she put me in the "friend zone." Directly after the break up, I never contacted her. I just tried to work to separate myself and get over her. Almost every time we spoke she contacted me. The one time I did contact her (A month later), I told her about how she was acting toward me toward at the end of our relationship (She was being really mean and cold, and had an attitude for no reason, I was nothing but supportive of her). 2 days Later, I get a text from her saying,
Her: "I want to apologize for how I made you feel toward the end of our relationship. Ive been thinking about it. I wasnt fair to you. You were there for me more than anyone has been."
Me: "Its appreciated"
And that was the end of that. She still would randomly hit me up, informing me about things going on in her life. I gave brief answers because I was still in love with her and it was hard to accept being friends. (I still miss her).
Anyway... 4 months have gone by since Ive last spoken to her in any way. Her birthday passed at the end of August but I didn't send her bday wishes. My birthday passed a few days ago, and she text me "Happy birthday," and I was so shocked
Me: "I wasnt expecting that, I appreciate it."
Her: "Youre welcome."
I didnt say anything else. 2 days later, I get a another text from her and she sounded kinda mad, saying,
Her: "You know, Let me just say this. Of all the ppl I expected not to wish me a happy bday, I didnt think you'd be one of them, Ever (her ex before me) sent me a happy bday. I didn't expect it to play out like that. I see I was wrong."
I actually sent a text back saying I thought of her, and I hoped she had a good day, but I figured she forgot about me. I didnt know if it was appropriate to say anything. Then I said "For my assumptions... I will apologize."
Her: "I accept your apology"
Me: Good Times
I didnt say anything else... Now 2 days later (Today), I get a text from her saying, "So how have you been?"
I havent text her back yet because I havent had the time just yet, and It all confuses me.
My questions are... After everything... As a virgo... What do you think this means? Does she just miss me and want to be my friend? Or Is it possible she misses me in the manner of a relationship? AND If this is a possibility, How do I NOT mess it up a
Posted by VirgoYawn
Sounds rough bro, you guys have only been dating for about a month but you said you loved her, how long have you known each other before you guys dated? Were you guys friends first or just jumped into it? You said she is a Virgo so most likely sure she did an awful lot of thinking and analyzing before she agreed to date you lol that's what I do. Anyway, you should tell her that you can't be her friend because you'll always want to be more then a friend. If she only wants you as a friend then you need to move on. Trust me man, you don't want to be in the friend zone, it will only delay you of getting better.
We were together for 5 months... Knew each other for 6. It was like we were together for the whole 6 months. She actually came approached me and wanted to be with me. We said the "i love you's" after almost 3 months. I love and miss her too damn much... Every time she texts me, it delays my getting better. Its like Im starting to do better and out of no where I get a message.
If she just wants to be friends like VullcanLazz said, Is there anyway to get out of the "friend zone?" And get back together?