Message Posts by TeresaT
I really appreciate the advice, especially on stuff he and I can do together. I just want to ensure that he knows that this is a no-booty call zone. What he did borders on that (sex + sleep + little interaction, then leaving). And I learned the hard way that if you put up with something that doesn't make you happy, then if you complain about it later, you have no leg to stand on. I don't want half of him. He works very hard, which I understand and respect, and if he needs his rest, no problem. When anyone spends time with me, I expect that a) they want to and b) they have the time to give of themselves to me. I don't know how to have this conversation with him. Maybe I won't have to, instead if something similar happens just tell him to go home and get some sleep and get at me when he is rested.
I understand that. I guess for me, maybe it's a Virgo thing or a girl thing, not sure, I do it all the way or not at all. I told him with the storm, tonight might not be a good night. If he was that tired, which I completely understand with his schedule, it would've been better for me if he'd just gone home, chilled there and got at me when he was 100% and could spend some time. Again, not sure if it's Virgo thing or female thing, but that's kinda how I feel. I have canceled engagements, dates, etc. if I wasn't feeling all the way right. To me, I need to be at 100% to do anything justice so I guess that is what I am used to. It is nice that tired as he was he still wanted to see me but the result was that we spent half hour together where he's just flipping through the TV and falling asleep because he is so tired. He should've just gone home, honestly.
Maybe I can suggest somehow that getting together on the weeknights won't work. Thing is, he hates a liar (me too) and I am usually free on tuesday and thursday nights. Maybe I should find something to do those days so I'm not lying when I say I am busy.
Leokitten, thank you for your response.
Maybe I can suggest somehow that getting together on the weeknights won't work. Thing is, he hates a liar (me too) and I am usually free on tuesday and thursday nights. Maybe I should find something to do those days so I'm not lying when I say I am busy.
Leokitten, thank you for your response.
Also, I'm not even sure why I'm really mad, but maybe I'll hit up the Virgo board for some insite into that.
Need some help here, yall. Dating a Scorpio about 4 months now, so it's new, but we are exclusive. Something happened tonight that bothered me, but I'm not real sure why it bothered me to be honest so I want some advice on how to deal. I'm a Virgo by the way.
He calls, says he wants to chill tonight. We're heading for a real winter storm so I suggest we make plans contingent on the weather. Later, he suggests he stop by after he gets off his 1st job and have dinner at my place which is on the way to his 2nd job. I say that's cool. He gets there, and he gives me that LOOK (and if you dealt with Scorpios yall know what I mean), so we mess around for a little bit. He works manual labor and said his back was hurting him a little so I give him a massage and he falls asleep. He brought dinner (Chinese), so I put that to the side for when he wakes up, which is 2 hours later - he has to be at work a half-hour later than that. So he wakes up, we eat, and he's like "I gotta go," and I get upset. We end up only having a half-hour together.
But I know he has to go to work, so I just say bye. He must've known I was feeling a certain way because he calls me when he gets to work. I tell him I'm gonna lay down (true) and he just says "Ok, bye." and hangs up. So he knows I'm upset, but the thing is, I'm not real sure why I'm upset. Probably because he fell asleep, but he works three jobs (only two tonight, but he worked all three yesterday), and I know he was tired. I guess I just don't want this to become habit, where he feels like he can come over, mess around, sleep, eat real quick and jet. Do I just say that to him? I have a good (gay) male friend I talk to and he said that if I say all that to a guy who went out of his way to see me when he was obviously tired, I'll seem high maintenance. But I'm Virgo and I can't not be me. I was disappointed. If he was gonna come over, I would hope he'd want to spend some quality time and it just felt like halfway a booty call, I don't know. I appreciate any help, I don't know many Scorpio men or otherwise.
He calls, says he wants to chill tonight. We're heading for a real winter storm so I suggest we make plans contingent on the weather. Later, he suggests he stop by after he gets off his 1st job and have dinner at my place which is on the way to his 2nd job. I say that's cool. He gets there, and he gives me that LOOK (and if you dealt with Scorpios yall know what I mean), so we mess around for a little bit. He works manual labor and said his back was hurting him a little so I give him a massage and he falls asleep. He brought dinner (Chinese), so I put that to the side for when he wakes up, which is 2 hours later - he has to be at work a half-hour later than that. So he wakes up, we eat, and he's like "I gotta go," and I get upset. We end up only having a half-hour together.
But I know he has to go to work, so I just say bye. He must've known I was feeling a certain way because he calls me when he gets to work. I tell him I'm gonna lay down (true) and he just says "Ok, bye." and hangs up. So he knows I'm upset, but the thing is, I'm not real sure why I'm upset. Probably because he fell asleep, but he works three jobs (only two tonight, but he worked all three yesterday), and I know he was tired. I guess I just don't want this to become habit, where he feels like he can come over, mess around, sleep, eat real quick and jet. Do I just say that to him? I have a good (gay) male friend I talk to and he said that if I say all that to a guy who went out of his way to see me when he was obviously tired, I'll seem high maintenance. But I'm Virgo and I can't not be me. I was disappointed. If he was gonna come over, I would hope he'd want to spend some quality time and it just felt like halfway a booty call, I don't know. I appreciate any help, I don't know many Scorpio men or otherwise.