Ok so, long story. Shoutouts to anyone who sticks around long enough to read this shit.
I’m a sag guy, in a long distance relationship with a Scorpio woman. She’s older than I, and we actually met three years ago today on the Internet (yeah yeah). The beginning of our getting to know each other felt like we’d known each other our whole lives (her words). We texted 24/7, and even managed to get a few phone calls and FaceTime sessions in. It took her a while, but little by little, it became apparent she had feelings for me, which I knew I had feelings for her too. Over the next few months, we really really got to know each other. Talks of childhood traumas, relationships of the past, favorite this or that, you name it, we talked about it. She used to send me selfies for days too. A few months passed, and she eventually came out to see me. To say I was enamored by her physical presence, is a massive understatement. We spent a night, eating pizza and watching the office, we went hiking, we got to really spend time together. And it was probably one of the best times of my life, no exaggerating or anything. After she’d left, we’d pretty much told each other we loved each other, and that was that. The feeling floodgates were open on both ends. The conversations got deeper, and the love got stronger, but she always felt distant. And it confused and kinda intimidated me. Eventually, I flew out to see her, and that’s really when the physical aspect of our relationship became explosive( any sag/Scorpio couples, y’all know what I’m talking about). After I left and went home, the feelings, which I didn’t think could be a thing, got deeper and deeper. Deep conversations of love, and connection, and she told me more and more about things from her past, that she hadn’t even told her family or her best friends.
Fast forward to this year. I moved in with my best friend in a different state. At the beginning of this year, we’d discussed me moving out there with her after this year was over. This year for our individual lives, hasn’t been pretty. She’s had shit happen, I’ve had Shit happen. The love hadn’t dwindled. We sent each other presents, and hand written love letters early this year. At a point in time she told me “you give me what I need”. She’s given me support when my grandfather passed away, and she’s been a constant in my life really since we met. She has a lot of physical issues, so she’s on the pill for the time being, and it’s made her hormones go nuts. She’s said she’s felt “bat shit crazy” a lot, and it’s rrally made her super depressed. A few weeks ago, she said she needed space. She said she loved me, more than she could imagine loving someone else, and she’s said that multiple times. She said I was “her person” and I’d always be so. And I’ll admit, prior to that, I said somethings I deeply deeply deeply regret saying, and I feel as though her needing space is because I hurt her(which is probably is). We keep in contact everyday, and in this, she’s told me she’s going through some scary shit, and she has nothing to say to me, or anyone else. But, she still keeps me updated on other aspects in her life(work, family stuff, she’d gotten a new tattoo and showed it to me). I love this woman. Truly, madly deeply love this woman. The last few weeks have been absolute hell, but I can’t leave her. I’m still there to listen and offer my two cents when I feel like I should give it. She seems like she’s in a super dark place right now, and I’ve done my research, and read that timely, this happens to Scorpio women. I’m not understanding the aspect of space if we talk everyday still, even if the texts are hours and hours apart. We still tell each other we love each other, but all the other stuff seems to be on a shelf, so to speak. There was a point in time where she made it very clear she wanted to be with me forever, and there were a few other things that were discussed that I won’t go into detail about, but they made me think “wow, maybe she’s really serious”. She got a new position and work, where she’s basically a comanager, so that’s stress ontop of her depression ontop of her hormones being crazy.
If anyone has anything to add it any insight or anything, that would be super appreciated. My family all think I should leave her, that she’s “sucking the life” out of me, and a freind of mine is convinced it’s all bullshit, and she’s fucking someone else. I stick to my intuitions, but I’m also a pretty distrusting person, so that in itself is a load of fun.