Message Posts by geminibunny
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Would you rather be in a sexless marriage or be on your own?
I have good friends who are scorpios. But dating wise, uh uh. I'd stay the heck away. The only water sign I can deal with are Cancers.
I miss my cancer. I miss the qualities of the person. But I don't miss the difficulties in communication we had. Our communication style s were completely different. It was like pulling teeth and I'm not a dentist.
Posted by Amsole11
At least your cancer guy told you not to text... Mine just disappeared without a word. :/
Mine also just disappeared after promising me he wouldn't.
I'm not sure which is better. To get a "delete me" text or to get the disappearance. Both hurts like hell.
since your first post about him 3-4 months ago it's been down hill from there. he has not sounded like he was going to be long term material.
I learned this in high school. High school teaches u a lot about relationships. hahaa people never grow up. playing the he said she said games.
If I were you and I wanted info, I'd get it and then not tell him what I heard. I would not need confirmation of such intel. LOL. take it or leave it. believe it or not. Asking him is pointless because guys will lie lie lie to get away with anything. Now you've gotten worried whether the info was truth or not and you even asked him to confirm the hideous girl allegations? ...uh...big no no. I think it is most funny that you asked him to confirm the intel. That's the most hilarious part about this. You're creating this drama woman. YOU are what is behind all this hoopla. He's acting as he should be acting. He's being normal if he is frustrated. What man wouldn't.
If he was seemingly angry that you've been chatting with others about him...you are losing points girl
yea. You're all like it if he doesn't want you, then he can't stop you from chit chatting about him...um...well...understand that no matter what you do, your business or his, if he sees it he will be judging you as to how well you fit into his life and if you are a good long term material or not. If I were you I'd shape up and be on good behavior.
It's not about you having the freedom to do what you want. But if he WAS your boyfriend, would you go around talking to people about him? And even if you did, would you tell your own boyfriend what other people thought of him? Or calling his sexual conquests hideous? hah. If I were him I'd be like..this chick has a big mouth....and nip it in the bud. Sorry...just sayin...but most people have a sense of privacy and decorum about this sorta thing. A lot of guys don't like their future girlfriends be so catty or talkative about this sorta stuff. He might now think you are gossipy.
It's not about you having the freedom to do what you want. But if he WAS your boyfriend, would you go around talking to people about him? And even if you did, would you tell your own boyfriend what other people thought of him? Or calling his sexual conquests hideous? hah. If I were him I'd be like..this chick has a big mouth....and nip it in the bud. Sorry...just sayin...but most people have a sense of privacy and decorum about this sorta thing. A lot of guys don't like their future girlfriends be so catty or talkative about this sorta stuff. He might now think you are gossipy.
let's say he did fuck that ugly chick. u still wanna fuck him don't u? hah. you'd want him no matter who he fucked. admit it. face it. he's the one choosing to be committed to you or not. maybe he doesn't like you chit chatting so much and this is all a test to see if you are true relationship material. seems like he's getting frustrated with you for being so chatty with other people about his business.
You sound extra shallow calling this other girl hideous and such. Tsk Tsk. ugly on the inside is worse. and who cares who he fucked in the past. seriously. and even if he did fuck her so what if she was gorgeous or ugly. really people....SMH
I do love me some Cancers but when it comes to Cancer guys I like, what I dislike most is that they never tell me what's on their minds. They make me work harder. They make me pry them open and it is like pulling teeth. It's like I don't have the magic words and it just frustrates me. I can be patient. I can be loving. I can be everything that I know is good but that is still not good enough.
Even when I'm gentle. Even when I'm patient. Even when I am willing to listen and work through things. Even when I am willing to give them tons of affirmations. Even when I knock down my walls and let them see right through me. Even when I can be sweet, nurturing, sexy, heartfelt, caring, etc...I'm just never good enough.
With that being said, I do really like Cancer guys. I wish I could meet one that would just click with me for reals and not run away or disappear.
Even when I'm gentle. Even when I'm patient. Even when I am willing to listen and work through things. Even when I am willing to give them tons of affirmations. Even when I knock down my walls and let them see right through me. Even when I can be sweet, nurturing, sexy, heartfelt, caring, etc...I'm just never good enough.
With that being said, I do really like Cancer guys. I wish I could meet one that would just click with me for reals and not run away or disappear.
so true thank you. and I did learn it in a very hard way.
Just started talking to a new Aries today with Cancer rising and aqua moon. LOL wish me luck
Also caught up with a Sag who is very responsive.
Also caught up with a Sag who is very responsive.
So I asked him straight off the bat if he likes to disappear and he said yea he does. LOL
I just got over my last disappearing Cancer and now this...let's see where this goes.
I'm always falling for this type of dudes....FML
I just got over my last disappearing Cancer and now this...let's see where this goes.
I'm always falling for this type of dudes....FML
no
Yea...I still love Cancers. I still have very awesome friendships with them. I still have feelings for him even tho he's gone. Nobody's perfect and I accept that.
I do know what he wants and why he's probably pissed off at me because I guess in a way I am holding back. He wanted to meet and be FWB and I don't know if I'm comfortable with the whole FWB thing. Guys these days just wanna slip comfortably into a FWB situation and not fully commit. So I'm holding way back cuz I need more than just casual sex and so I'm not putting out. This is a guy thing..not a sign thing.
I bet if I sent him a half naked pic like he wanted and asked for, I'd get his attention again. But I'm gonna keep it classy and not do that. I'm not one to try and keep a man by throwin my titties out there. Hah. Sigh...I'm not that desperate. Just cracks me up tho...cuz I know I could get him back but I don't think I'd want to go down that route again.
I do know what he wants and why he's probably pissed off at me because I guess in a way I am holding back. He wanted to meet and be FWB and I don't know if I'm comfortable with the whole FWB thing. Guys these days just wanna slip comfortably into a FWB situation and not fully commit. So I'm holding way back cuz I need more than just casual sex and so I'm not putting out. This is a guy thing..not a sign thing.
I bet if I sent him a half naked pic like he wanted and asked for, I'd get his attention again. But I'm gonna keep it classy and not do that. I'm not one to try and keep a man by throwin my titties out there. Hah. Sigh...I'm not that desperate. Just cracks me up tho...cuz I know I could get him back but I don't think I'd want to go down that route again.
Well, I'm not really waiting...Gemini don't really wait....after 1 month of that ignoring shit I was pretty much done. This gemini just likes to fantasize about good times cuz that Cancer kept coming back and promising he wouldn't disappear again and again. My venus in Taurus is what was holding me back from moving on big time because I really wanted this to work, badly. But anyway, that's over now.
You are absolutely right, I probably did say some rude shit since the beginning like from the getgo and I rarely apologized for shit I said or did anyway. That boy was real sensitive and everything I said was like taken out of context. I did kind of felt like a wet nurse while walking on egg shells. But hey..I did really really like this person. I admit to that. He did get me interested for almost a year. He did keep it hot when he cared to show up.
And you were right again because I did tell him good bye last May and I didn't stick to the bye part and he came back full blast in June so it was a draggy draggy thing that just wouldn't quit.
One thing I don't agree with tho, is that I do think that Cancers are capable of tremendous love. I have very close cancer friendships with both sexes and they are full of love...how they dispense that love...well that's another matter altogether. This one tho, he just ain't got it for me anymore..that's all. I accept defeat and I failed and whatever that means I don't know. But this time though, if he ever does come back and makes promises again, I wouldn't be able to trust him as I did before. Stuck my hand out on the fire way too long and now I'm burnt to a crisp.
Moving on. There is a really nice quiet and withdrawn softie Aqua who needs my attention and I've got a Leo roommate who isn't a narcissist but just a cute pooty cat.
You are absolutely right, I probably did say some rude shit since the beginning like from the getgo and I rarely apologized for shit I said or did anyway. That boy was real sensitive and everything I said was like taken out of context. I did kind of felt like a wet nurse while walking on egg shells. But hey..I did really really like this person. I admit to that. He did get me interested for almost a year. He did keep it hot when he cared to show up.
And you were right again because I did tell him good bye last May and I didn't stick to the bye part and he came back full blast in June so it was a draggy draggy thing that just wouldn't quit.
One thing I don't agree with tho, is that I do think that Cancers are capable of tremendous love. I have very close cancer friendships with both sexes and they are full of love...how they dispense that love...well that's another matter altogether. This one tho, he just ain't got it for me anymore..that's all. I accept defeat and I failed and whatever that means I don't know. But this time though, if he ever does come back and makes promises again, I wouldn't be able to trust him as I did before. Stuck my hand out on the fire way too long and now I'm burnt to a crisp.
Moving on. There is a really nice quiet and withdrawn softie Aqua who needs my attention and I've got a Leo roommate who isn't a narcissist but just a cute pooty cat.
That's the funny thing. that you're saying that I let this fall apart. Placing the blame on me. No. Not happening. I kept the ball rolling for as long as I could. What works for you might not work for everyone else. I kept on messaging even for 4 months of being ignored by him. So I won't let you tell me that it's my fault or that this one is on me. I don't need blaming. I admit my defeat. It is done and over. He's not interested and if he is, he's not showing it. I kept showing my interest level by constantly messaging every few days to every few weeks, which is still fairly high, but he is the one not responding to me.
Different strokes for different folks. Your method of communication was via phone. Mine was via text messages.
I've been texting him consistently for almost a year now. I still tell him how much I miss him and how I would gladly accept him back whenever he's done dealing with whatever he's dealing with. He's told me he gets sad and moody. I understand. I let him be. I wait days. I wait weeks. I wait months. Usually he came back and things go back to normal and we're good again. This time, no go. I don't know if he is gone for good. But I sure as hell won't take the blame for this one. I kept the ball rolling. He dropped it.
Different strokes for different folks. Your method of communication was via phone. Mine was via text messages.
I've been texting him consistently for almost a year now. I still tell him how much I miss him and how I would gladly accept him back whenever he's done dealing with whatever he's dealing with. He's told me he gets sad and moody. I understand. I let him be. I wait days. I wait weeks. I wait months. Usually he came back and things go back to normal and we're good again. This time, no go. I don't know if he is gone for good. But I sure as hell won't take the blame for this one. I kept the ball rolling. He dropped it.
@geminicandle we're just adaptable and mutable so that's why. I have some earth in my chart and I've liked the dirt signs too but they didn't stick either. Too boring for me.
I have very little water. I liked a few water signs but no go. Not sexy much. I am just about done obsessing over a Cancer guy...ugh..I really really liked him because he was seemingly extremely sexy (whenever he pretended to be nonchalant and let go of his inhibitions and fears to be with me), but he was somewhat of a drip and a wet rag all at once. Lovely person when he tried his best at being normal. But his moodiness was exhausting. The emotional roller coaster of a water sign is something I don't think I would attempt again any time soon. I need to recuperate. I felt like I was drowning.
I have very little water. I liked a few water signs but no go. Not sexy much. I am just about done obsessing over a Cancer guy...ugh..I really really liked him because he was seemingly extremely sexy (whenever he pretended to be nonchalant and let go of his inhibitions and fears to be with me), but he was somewhat of a drip and a wet rag all at once. Lovely person when he tried his best at being normal. But his moodiness was exhausting. The emotional roller coaster of a water sign is something I don't think I would attempt again any time soon. I need to recuperate. I felt like I was drowning.
Another funny story. There was another Aries. He liked me and I liked him. But his insecurities also took the better part of him. He took me out on what seemed to me like a date. We were having a great time. Then on the drive back to my place to drop me off he told me he didn't want to date me at all and called me a Man-Eater. LOL Oh I have so many more stories. To be continued...
I want to tell you guys a story about this one Aries guy I liked when I was in highschool. I was 15 at the time. I liked him because he sat behind me in Math class. He was a year ahead of me but for some reason I guess I was in an advanced math class but anyway. I went to his nerdy geeky role playing club where you actually have to roll a dice to make a move. So I went to this afterschool club where he and his geeky friends played these role playing games and I was this girl just following him around to geeky places. After a year of liking him and not saying anything he got himself a girlfriend and I pretty much gave up. It broke my heart. Skip ahead a few years later, he was single and I was single. I was 19. I visited him up at his college and he didn't make a move. He told me he wasn't ready. Fine, I moved on. I always moved on.
Skip ahead another decade plus. I was 32. He was married. His wife was about to pop a baby in a month. He confessed to me that he actually did like me and now he wanted me to be his emotional second wife. Whatever the Eff that means..I don't know. But I was like...oh HELL NO....uh uh. I don't play that. He lied to me. He told me since we were teenagers that he had no feelings for me. So all of a sudden, to get it off his conscience he wanted to tell me that he actually wanted me too. He had the audacity to blame it on me never being single. Uh...too little too late. I gave that man many many chances over the years and I even cried to him on the phone throughout my college years asking him why he would have no feelings for me and yet talk to me on the phone and share an emotional intimacy with me. He let his insecurities hold him back from being with me. I needed him to declare his love for me. Not wait until it was too late. That was just devastating for me. I lost him as a friend because how could I remain friends with him while he wanted to enmesh with me emotionally while he had a wife and kid. Uh..No...
This was the last draw for me. I liked so many Aries guys but this one took the cake. But I found myself fantasizing about being with him if he ever found himself single again but I don't think that will ever happen because I probably won't allow myself to go down that road again. I didn't really wait for him per say because I moved on. I always kept it moving.
Skip ahead another decade plus. I was 32. He was married. His wife was about to pop a baby in a month. He confessed to me that he actually did like me and now he wanted me to be his emotional second wife. Whatever the Eff that means..I don't know. But I was like...oh HELL NO....uh uh. I don't play that. He lied to me. He told me since we were teenagers that he had no feelings for me. So all of a sudden, to get it off his conscience he wanted to tell me that he actually wanted me too. He had the audacity to blame it on me never being single. Uh...too little too late. I gave that man many many chances over the years and I even cried to him on the phone throughout my college years asking him why he would have no feelings for me and yet talk to me on the phone and share an emotional intimacy with me. He let his insecurities hold him back from being with me. I needed him to declare his love for me. Not wait until it was too late. That was just devastating for me. I lost him as a friend because how could I remain friends with him while he wanted to enmesh with me emotionally while he had a wife and kid. Uh..No...
This was the last draw for me. I liked so many Aries guys but this one took the cake. But I found myself fantasizing about being with him if he ever found himself single again but I don't think that will ever happen because I probably won't allow myself to go down that road again. I didn't really wait for him per say because I moved on. I always kept it moving.
My rising sign is in Sag and my moon is in Leo so yea, I'm extremely Fire-y.
They are the bane of my existence. I've always LOVED aries and they liked me to up to a certain point but then they all just dropped off. It's been really hot with Sag and Leo too. There was this one Leo who I just couldn't quit no matter how hard I tried. The Sag had my attention for years and he kept popping in and out of my life before I had to just cut the cord. Most of these fire signs can't quit me and I can't quit them.
I think I have a better time with fire signs than I do with my own air buddies. Although the Aqua guy I've been talking to have been very promising. We'll see.
They are the bane of my existence. I've always LOVED aries and they liked me to up to a certain point but then they all just dropped off. It's been really hot with Sag and Leo too. There was this one Leo who I just couldn't quit no matter how hard I tried. The Sag had my attention for years and he kept popping in and out of my life before I had to just cut the cord. Most of these fire signs can't quit me and I can't quit them.
I think I have a better time with fire signs than I do with my own air buddies. Although the Aqua guy I've been talking to have been very promising. We'll see.
We usually communicate by text and I texted him yesterday. No reply. None since September.
I don't have the balls to just call him. He probably won't even pick up anyway.
I'm just gonna let it fade and let time do it's job at healing.
On a lighter note. There's a really HOT aquarius guy I've been talking to who does indeed answer and return my messages. =P
I don't have the balls to just call him. He probably won't even pick up anyway.
I'm just gonna let it fade and let time do it's job at healing.
On a lighter note. There's a really HOT aquarius guy I've been talking to who does indeed answer and return my messages. =P
I like all fire but not all of them like me. If I must choose in terms of sexiness...I'd go with Aries>Sag>Leo
He's done this to me many times. I'm all in and he'd tell me he's all in and then he disappears. I hold on as long as I can and then I let go. Then he would come back, apologize and the cycle repeats again.
It is not so much that I want to hold on to the dream of being with him. It doesn't matter if I do it intentionally or unintentionally since I can't just say alright, I'm going to fall out of love just because someone wonderful disappeared on me. It will take some time to readjust. It is also that he is such a lovely person when he is checked back in. I could use all the tools in the box to start detaching from him but that doesn't mean that the feelings are just going to go away just because he stopped communicating. I am not even angry at him. Nor do I stop smiling when I am reminded of his smile and sweet nature. He is still an awesome person whether he speaks to me or not. But I am no doormat.
Thanks for empathizing.
It is not so much that I want to hold on to the dream of being with him. It doesn't matter if I do it intentionally or unintentionally since I can't just say alright, I'm going to fall out of love just because someone wonderful disappeared on me. It will take some time to readjust. It is also that he is such a lovely person when he is checked back in. I could use all the tools in the box to start detaching from him but that doesn't mean that the feelings are just going to go away just because he stopped communicating. I am not even angry at him. Nor do I stop smiling when I am reminded of his smile and sweet nature. He is still an awesome person whether he speaks to me or not. But I am no doormat.
Thanks for empathizing.
I don't know if he'll ever come back. It's been almost 4 months now of silence between us because he's been ignoring me.
I admit defeat and failure in this non existent relationship.
I am not asking for advice. I am just admitting defeat and my failure in keeping this man interested.
Since I'm not one for regrets I won't look back and beat myself up.
Just wishing other ladies and gents much luck with their Cancers. I have much love for him still but I don't think I can go on pining for someone who just checked out after declaring their love and adoration for me the last time we had contact. This is dangerous for me since I have tendencies to fall into love addiction, which is so unhealthy. So I won't drag it on much further even though I probably could for years. But I won't.
I always tell him that I'll be there when he checks back in. And I have for almost a year now I've held on to hope and whenever he did check back in I was just there for him. This time I feel hopeless that he would ever come back. That just makes me sad and since I don't like being sad, I'm going to live my life instead, like I always have. He was so lovely when he actually communicated with me. But the silence and non responsiveness really kills me.
Thanks to all you cancers on this board. You guys keep crackin me up and keeping my love for him alive for as long as I could manage. I learned so much more in the past year about Cancers and about myself in relation to them. And also in my close friendships as well. So I still have much love for you guys. HUGS ALL
I admit defeat and failure in this non existent relationship.
I am not asking for advice. I am just admitting defeat and my failure in keeping this man interested.
Since I'm not one for regrets I won't look back and beat myself up.
Just wishing other ladies and gents much luck with their Cancers. I have much love for him still but I don't think I can go on pining for someone who just checked out after declaring their love and adoration for me the last time we had contact. This is dangerous for me since I have tendencies to fall into love addiction, which is so unhealthy. So I won't drag it on much further even though I probably could for years. But I won't.
I always tell him that I'll be there when he checks back in. And I have for almost a year now I've held on to hope and whenever he did check back in I was just there for him. This time I feel hopeless that he would ever come back. That just makes me sad and since I don't like being sad, I'm going to live my life instead, like I always have. He was so lovely when he actually communicated with me. But the silence and non responsiveness really kills me.
Thanks to all you cancers on this board. You guys keep crackin me up and keeping my love for him alive for as long as I could manage. I learned so much more in the past year about Cancers and about myself in relation to them. And also in my close friendships as well. So I still have much love for you guys. HUGS ALL
ewe please no cap
If you don't agree with being friendzoned then I say cut it off. If you can be ok with it then stay just to be still connected. But don't tell him you're done when you're not really done. It sounds like you're not even close to done.
The NO CONTACT rule is not used in order for your ex to contact you again. It is used when you are done with the person. When you are ready to move on and work on yourself. It is a self empowerment tool.
That means No face to face, phone calls, text or online messages, emails, internet stalking, etc...
It is used to eliminate this person from your life and to completely move on. It is a gift to yourself.
That means No face to face, phone calls, text or online messages, emails, internet stalking, etc...
It is used to eliminate this person from your life and to completely move on. It is a gift to yourself.
I can get obsessive but it doesn't last very long...anyone else feel the same way?
biggest turn off = broken promises
How often do we get obsessive?
Can we even get obsessive?
Can we even get obsessive?
Posted by krebbsmannPosted by GemStar05
Cancer and Gemini a big no-no. Cancers are no match for Gemini. Too much emotion will drive us away. Too much clinging will do it as well... I've never been attracted to a Cancer man and the females are annoying as hell to me.
who told you all cancers are clingy??? dont believe the stereotyping shit on the internet...
that way gems are literally sluts... who just want someone new every now and then :pclick to expand
I wish mine was more clingy.
I must like this confusion....or else I wouldn't still be in it. That's my little epiphany for the day.
Every time I was ready to fall deeply madly in love with my Cancer guy he would pull some major passive aggressive stuff ie not speaking to me...or just being completely non-responsive...and then the cycle begins all over again with a bunch of apologies and promises to do better. He would ask me if I was the one who's over him...when he was pulling the silent treatment on me in the first place...
I really liked him...a lot...I did. In fact I still wish things were different. But it's just too painful at times.
Age doesn't make a difference....they can pull these stunts well into their 50s. I have a Cancer male friend in his 60s and still playing these games.
I think if you want this bad enough woodenmeow, then you just gotta go at it kamikaze style . Go for broke. All in. Don't be afraid of getting hurt or what not. It's a take it or leave it attitude. All the conventional dating rules go out the window with these guys.
if he is saying he doesn't want to be your "boyfriend" then be like ok whatever...and continue doing what you're doing. You have limits so stick to your guns if you're gonna say this is where you draw the line....wherever that line may be is your call.
I really liked him...a lot...I did. In fact I still wish things were different. But it's just too painful at times.
Age doesn't make a difference....they can pull these stunts well into their 50s. I have a Cancer male friend in his 60s and still playing these games.
I think if you want this bad enough woodenmeow, then you just gotta go at it kamikaze style . Go for broke. All in. Don't be afraid of getting hurt or what not. It's a take it or leave it attitude. All the conventional dating rules go out the window with these guys.
if he is saying he doesn't want to be your "boyfriend" then be like ok whatever...and continue doing what you're doing. You have limits so stick to your guns if you're gonna say this is where you draw the line....wherever that line may be is your call.
Let me go bang my head against that brick wall of his that he's put up to prove just how strong I can be....
yea you guys crack me up
yea you guys crack me up
Consider me absolutely confused by Cancer men. Over on the Cancer board we have two threads going on right now. One telling the girls to be consistent and to be reassuring of the Cancer man's emotions. The other thread is telling these girls not to give up their emotions too readily and to not be direct with the Cancer man. Two opposing viewpoints.
I like Cancer men. I love my Cancer friends. But my head is spinning right now from all the confusion.
I like Cancer men. I love my Cancer friends. But my head is spinning right now from all the confusion.
I'm really confused by all this. In another thread Cancers are saying they constantly need reassurance. And here you guys are saying don't tell them you like them directly. WTF. So be reassuring but don't be too hasty in telling them how you feel? Makes no sense.
Does not exist. Learned it the hard way. It was my greatest fear until it all blew up in my face.