Message Posts by lucytango
Posted by notsosureOK, that sounds fair enough. can't promise I won't try though. But what would make a Libra man pull away in the first place?Posted by blackphaseYes. Not my intention, but was weirded out by this new user calling me a slut.Posted by lucytangoLOL.. This your thread, if anything we are interrupting
not to interrupt anything, but thank you for your feedback. Hypothetically though, how would you go about winning back a libra man? that is my main question
Sorry but it just doesn´t look like there is something to win back. You cannot win somebody back who doesn´t have some interest in you. Winning back is for when you have hurt someone and can prove you have changed. With this it´s like he just simply lost interest, as you wrote, and you can not win that back. It has to just be there.click to expand
not to interrupt anything, but thank you for your feedback. Hypothetically though, how would you go about winning back a libra man? that is my main question
Posted by Koniuchaathat's exactly what im doing right now. well at least the no contact part. we haven't spoken in almost a month. I saw him while going out once, but left before he spotted me as I got upset and didn't want him to see me like that. apart from that, no interaction from my side. The moving on part is more tricky
I would just move on and not contact him.
Hi everyone,
I was just wondering if anyone could give me some advice on the situation I am in at the moment.
I met a Libra man last april. I am a virgo myself. We met on a night out and instantly hit it off. We never switched contact details, nevertheless he found me on facebook the next day and he started talking straight away saying he looked for me everywhere (he only knew my first name). Anyway, long story short we had a great four months after that. Occasionally we would have words, since he thought I could be quite stand off-ish at times, although I did open up to him a lot and told him things I've never told anyone else before, But apart from that, it was sincerely the best time I've ever had with a man. Then around middle July things started changing. he became the one who was being stand off-ish, which he never was before. At the same time we would still meet up as useal, go out as usual, etc. but something didnt feel right to me. We had words about it, which I sincerely regret since I think I might have been too aggressive/direct about it. Anyway, it all boiled down to the fact that one of my friends had referred to him as my boyfriend. We hadn't spoken about that yet, although we were both clear on the fact that we were exclusive. He used this as the excuse for why he was acting the way he was, he wasnt sure anymore etc. Anyway, the relationship lasted another two weeks, but we didnt see each other in that time. In the end I had to confront him. He said he would rather be alone and added the typical but you're an amazing girl bullshit at the end. He contacted me a few times after this (acting as nothing had happened and being his jolly old self. i was neutral towards him), liked some pictures on instagram, but now we havent spoken in quite a while.
I don't think the excuse he gave me was the actual reason for him breaking up with me. I just can't figure out what it is though. Although I'm trying to focus on myself right now and just do me, I still want him back. I miss the conversations, the laughing etc, I just don't know how to go about getting him back. I'm sure many people will feel that relationships end for a reason and people shouldn't get back together but I don't want to look back and regret not having tried it.
I've been reading up on libra males. Is it really almost impossible to win them back? Any tips on the situation and gettting him back (or not) are much appreciated
I was just wondering if anyone could give me some advice on the situation I am in at the moment.
I met a Libra man last april. I am a virgo myself. We met on a night out and instantly hit it off. We never switched contact details, nevertheless he found me on facebook the next day and he started talking straight away saying he looked for me everywhere (he only knew my first name). Anyway, long story short we had a great four months after that. Occasionally we would have words, since he thought I could be quite stand off-ish at times, although I did open up to him a lot and told him things I've never told anyone else before, But apart from that, it was sincerely the best time I've ever had with a man. Then around middle July things started changing. he became the one who was being stand off-ish, which he never was before. At the same time we would still meet up as useal, go out as usual, etc. but something didnt feel right to me. We had words about it, which I sincerely regret since I think I might have been too aggressive/direct about it. Anyway, it all boiled down to the fact that one of my friends had referred to him as my boyfriend. We hadn't spoken about that yet, although we were both clear on the fact that we were exclusive. He used this as the excuse for why he was acting the way he was, he wasnt sure anymore etc. Anyway, the relationship lasted another two weeks, but we didnt see each other in that time. In the end I had to confront him. He said he would rather be alone and added the typical but you're an amazing girl bullshit at the end. He contacted me a few times after this (acting as nothing had happened and being his jolly old self. i was neutral towards him), liked some pictures on instagram, but now we havent spoken in quite a while.
I don't think the excuse he gave me was the actual reason for him breaking up with me. I just can't figure out what it is though. Although I'm trying to focus on myself right now and just do me, I still want him back. I miss the conversations, the laughing etc, I just don't know how to go about getting him back. I'm sure many people will feel that relationships end for a reason and people shouldn't get back together but I don't want to look back and regret not having tried it.
I've been reading up on libra males. Is it really almost impossible to win them back? Any tips on the situation and gettting him back (or not) are much appreciated
I just want to add that I know these texts are really petty but it's all I have to go on at the moment
So here's a quick update for anyone who is interested. I may or may not have texted him last week while I was on a night out with my friends (they influenced me). I asked him if he was out, to which he replied he was not. So I asked him to come out. i didn't get a reply to that but the next day he texted me briefly. I didn't reply straight away as I was working and then he accidentaly called me. I ended up replying with a simple hello and told him not to worry about the accidental call. I was waiting for him to ask my how I was doing as he initiated the conversation but nothing as such happened. Then a day later I just asked him. Again, no reply. To be honest, I think this is a waste of my time. At the same time I don't want to let it go. What do you think?
Posted by MoonbutterPosted by goligold
Hi Lucytango,
Cancer men are extremely shy...just go for it. If you like him and want to see him again, just let him know. He won't be irritated, he will like the attention, they need a lot of reassurance. They also like confident women...
Cancer woman here, and I can tell you I have done the same thing in the past with men, however it is not a "test" it's because for some reason others just fall soo quickly for our charms and get too into us before we even have time to figure out what our feelings are. My best and LTRs were with men who took their time to know me/me know them without the pressures of dating, and I fell for them in a deep way by learning who they were and built a connection. So the problem here is you fell for this guy and now he feel that "pressure" and it stressed him out. What you need to do is completely back off and take a more casual approach like friends but interested. Stay sweet, independent and don't let him know how much you like him until he confirms his feelings. This will take TIME it is quality ofcourse, but most importantly it is about QUANTITY of contact, a little here, a little there but over a long period (months) of time. For heavens sake don't contact him again until he contacts you whatever you do. And if/when he does just be sweet and casual, don't initiate seeing him. Good luckclick to expand
Thank you for the advice. I will not be contacting him again unless he starts the conversation
I will keep you posted if he does ever seek contact again! This is the first time I have ever been involved with a Cancer man and I've never been so confused.
We met via a dating app and decided to meet up pretty quickly afterwards. My first impressions of him were good, but he was very shy and I wasn't sure if he wanted to see me again. The next time we spoke he made it very clear he did want to meet up soon because he felt 'good vibes'.
To cut a long story short, our daily conversations kept getting more intense as each of us opened up about previous relationships etc. We met three times after that and I never got the impression anything was off. If anything I felt a lot more at ease with him. The problem is that now I haven't heard from him for five days. I initiated contact the previous week but he was never very enthusiastic, almost as if my messages bothered him. With me having a fear of rejection, I decided not to contact him on my own accord.
I'm just not sure what to do in this situation. I have read about Cancer men ignoring women multiple times but I'm still confused as to what I should do. I may not be the most affectionate person, but I'm sure he knows I have feelings for him. Do I contact him anyway and confront him? Or do I just leave him alone?
I haven't known him very long, but it would be upsetting to me if this was the end of the road.
We met via a dating app and decided to meet up pretty quickly afterwards. My first impressions of him were good, but he was very shy and I wasn't sure if he wanted to see me again. The next time we spoke he made it very clear he did want to meet up soon because he felt 'good vibes'.
To cut a long story short, our daily conversations kept getting more intense as each of us opened up about previous relationships etc. We met three times after that and I never got the impression anything was off. If anything I felt a lot more at ease with him. The problem is that now I haven't heard from him for five days. I initiated contact the previous week but he was never very enthusiastic, almost as if my messages bothered him. With me having a fear of rejection, I decided not to contact him on my own accord.
I'm just not sure what to do in this situation. I have read about Cancer men ignoring women multiple times but I'm still confused as to what I should do. I may not be the most affectionate person, but I'm sure he knows I have feelings for him. Do I contact him anyway and confront him? Or do I just leave him alone?
I haven't known him very long, but it would be upsetting to me if this was the end of the road.