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lol!Hello, hello, hello! I just wanted to update you all regarding my situation with the Cappy.
Turns out that his best friend's wife adding me on Facebook was completely innocent and had nothing to do with Cappy being sneaky or what have you. It had to do with her wondering if anyone had heard from the Cappy, so she was talking to a mutual friend who is my friend on Facebook and she told her that the Cappy was talking to me - so that is why his best friend's wife added me and started talking to me. They have not heard from the Cappy in a long time.
Anyways, I am not a very patient Cappy when it comes to things being up in the air like this lol, so I wrote to the Cappy last Sunday and basically just put my feelings out there. I did NOT say that I wanted more like a relationship or anything, but basically left the ball in his court and asked him what he wanted from this one night - was it just a one-time thing? And if it was, he could be honest and tell me because after all, we are both adults. I left it with I did not want to lose his friendship over this and to have him in my life as a friend would be better than not having him in my life at all if it came down to that.
He wrote to me immediately after reading it, but did not give me a straight answer. He told me I was so nice and cute and beautiful and asked how I was, and me and him have been talking ever since - with HIM initiating contact and me initiating only once lol. He calls me "beautiful woman" all the time too, which is just so sweet of him and surprising because he has never called me that. I can tell he is interested though but is really taking his time lol.
We are talking right now actually as I type this, and I told him that I have the house to myself today (my son's grandparents took him to the beach) and he surprised me with "Oh how nice, I wish I was there." I also noticed that he has been liking EVERYTHING I put on my Facebook wall too. Like I will put something on my FB wall, but he will not be online, and then a few minutes later he will come on and 'like' what I put. This has happened each time I put something up I noticed. So, call me crazy but I am taking that as a good sign lol!
So I am really happy about all this! Things are STILL up in the air, but I know if he was not interested he would not pursue contacting me. But I am letting him do the chasing and I am not going to bring up what I wrote him either. Time will tell!
Any comments/advice
Turns out that his best friend's wife adding me on Facebook was completely innocent and had nothing to do with Cappy being sneaky or what have you. It had to do with her wondering if anyone had heard from the Cappy, so she was talking to a mutual friend who is my friend on Facebook and she told her that the Cappy was talking to me - so that is why his best friend's wife added me and started talking to me. They have not heard from the Cappy in a long time.
Anyways, I am not a very patient Cappy when it comes to things being up in the air like this lol, so I wrote to the Cappy last Sunday and basically just put my feelings out there. I did NOT say that I wanted more like a relationship or anything, but basically left the ball in his court and asked him what he wanted from this one night - was it just a one-time thing? And if it was, he could be honest and tell me because after all, we are both adults. I left it with I did not want to lose his friendship over this and to have him in my life as a friend would be better than not having him in my life at all if it came down to that.
He wrote to me immediately after reading it, but did not give me a straight answer. He told me I was so nice and cute and beautiful and asked how I was, and me and him have been talking ever since - with HIM initiating contact and me initiating only once lol. He calls me "beautiful woman" all the time too, which is just so sweet of him and surprising because he has never called me that. I can tell he is interested though but is really taking his time lol.
We are talking right now actually as I type this, and I told him that I have the house to myself today (my son's grandparents took him to the beach) and he surprised me with "Oh how nice, I wish I was there." I also noticed that he has been liking EVERYTHING I put on my Facebook wall too. Like I will put something on my FB wall, but he will not be online, and then a few minutes later he will come on and 'like' what I put. This has happened each time I put something up I noticed. So, call me crazy but I am taking that as a good sign lol!
So I am really happy about all this! Things are STILL up in the air, but I know if he was not interested he would not pursue contacting me. But I am letting him do the chasing and I am not going to bring up what I wrote him either. Time will tell!
Any comments/advice
Thank you truecap! I am trying to be as positive as I can about this whole situation while also being realistic. Thank you for the luck! I have a feeling I am going to need it lol! I will keep you all posted on what happens! Thank you again!
coolcappy: Yes, I am a Cap and YES this woman DID sound suspicous to me! I immediately was shocked and a big RED FLAG was in front of me. I always try to give people the benefit of the doubt, but this whole thing was odd and just waaaaaay coincidental. Then I had remembered the Cappy mentioned her in conversation and asked me if I knew her. So, who knows really. I am going to be on my guard though. And she does not know anything too personal that happened between me and the Cappy in regards to shagging. She just knows that I met him and that I like him. That is it.
And I did NOT have sex with the Cappy just to show him I would do ANYTHING to be with him. I know that sex does not keep a man and I would never try and do anything as such. Me and this Cappy had a strong connection, before and after the sex. I have ALWAYS liked him A LOT and have had some strong feeling for him and the second he got out of his truck and hugged me for the first time, well I cannot describe the feeling I felt. A very strong and intense connection, I will tell you that. And did I sleep with him because I could see myself being in a relationship with him? Yes. I do not just go an sleep with anyone just to sleep with them. I am not like that. I really felt/feel a connection with him and I KNOW he felt it too. Before and after we had sex. It was incredibly obvious??_UNLESS he is a great actor. However, I have what I consider a gift where I can feel other peoples' energies/auras and what I felt was just, well, words cannot describe it. I do not know if it is because me and him have the same birthday down to the year or what, but the energy I felt from him quite an intense and comfortable feeling.
Well, time will tell. Please everyone who reads my first post, keep the responses/advice/etc. coming if you would like to because I enjoy reading everyone's opinions, whether negative or positive! Thank you so much!
And I did NOT have sex with the Cappy just to show him I would do ANYTHING to be with him. I know that sex does not keep a man and I would never try and do anything as such. Me and this Cappy had a strong connection, before and after the sex. I have ALWAYS liked him A LOT and have had some strong feeling for him and the second he got out of his truck and hugged me for the first time, well I cannot describe the feeling I felt. A very strong and intense connection, I will tell you that. And did I sleep with him because I could see myself being in a relationship with him? Yes. I do not just go an sleep with anyone just to sleep with them. I am not like that. I really felt/feel a connection with him and I KNOW he felt it too. Before and after we had sex. It was incredibly obvious??_UNLESS he is a great actor. However, I have what I consider a gift where I can feel other peoples' energies/auras and what I felt was just, well, words cannot describe it. I do not know if it is because me and him have the same birthday down to the year or what, but the energy I felt from him quite an intense and comfortable feeling.
Well, time will tell. Please everyone who reads my first post, keep the responses/advice/etc. coming if you would like to because I enjoy reading everyone's opinions, whether negative or positive! Thank you so much!
tiki33: I am definitely not mixing having sex with a relationship. That is not what I want from him right now. I know just having sex with someone does not mean, "OMG! Now we are in a relationship!" No, I know this. It just means that, well, we had sex. I have already told him that I like him a lot, after he told me the same, and I have told him that I would like to see him again. The ball is in his court. I am going to let him initiate contact from now on, if he does again, which I think he will. Time will tell if it was just a bootycall too. I honestly do not feel it was, but he could be quite a smooth talker and do this with many women. Who knows! I am going to let the chips fall where they may. (I just said that yesterday to myself too lol, so that is funny you say that!) ??_
Caplove: I am not going to divulge too much information to my new Facebook friend because I am too leery about it and I would never want this Cappy to feel he cannot trust me or something. I am definitely feeling cautious about it! I am really hoping he continues to contact me too! I mean he contacted me when he was arriving back in his home state to tell me what he thought of me and then he even initiated contact the next evening as well. Then I initiated contact and I think I made a tiny mistake doing so. So, I have pulled back and will see what happens. ??_ Thank you for saying you hope it works out for me too! I appreciate that!
Metoo: Yes, I am going to do exactly that. Keeping my feelings with him friendly and light. I am going to try and "mirror" him. If he is flirty, then I will be flirty. If he calls, then I will talk to him. (I doubt this, as he is NOT a phone guy - mostly texts and Facebooking) and if he texts, then I will respond. BUT I am NOT going to initiate anything with him anymore and just let him do the 'chasing' - if there is to be any lol! I'm going to let him "take the reigns" just as you suggested. This friend that friend requested me does not creep me out per se, but I am very leery about the whole thing AND I am still going to be very cautious. Thank you for rooting for me! I appreciate that!
Caplove: I am not going to divulge too much information to my new Facebook friend because I am too leery about it and I would never want this Cappy to feel he cannot trust me or something. I am definitely feeling cautious about it! I am really hoping he continues to contact me too! I mean he contacted me when he was arriving back in his home state to tell me what he thought of me and then he even initiated contact the next evening as well. Then I initiated contact and I think I made a tiny mistake doing so. So, I have pulled back and will see what happens. ??_ Thank you for saying you hope it works out for me too! I appreciate that!
Metoo: Yes, I am going to do exactly that. Keeping my feelings with him friendly and light. I am going to try and "mirror" him. If he is flirty, then I will be flirty. If he calls, then I will talk to him. (I doubt this, as he is NOT a phone guy - mostly texts and Facebooking) and if he texts, then I will respond. BUT I am NOT going to initiate anything with him anymore and just let him do the 'chasing' - if there is to be any lol! I'm going to let him "take the reigns" just as you suggested. This friend that friend requested me does not creep me out per se, but I am very leery about the whole thing AND I am still going to be very cautious. Thank you for rooting for me! I appreciate that!
truecap: (continued)...started out long distance and then he moved to be with her. They were together over a year. Did I ask some questions? Yes, but not many, as it really was not my business. But she did say "Yeah, I'm sure he'd move if things were good with you all." She then told me that I should ask him where he wants things to go. We talked about other stuff, not about the Cappy, and then said goodbye.
So, it was not a big thing the conversation. But am I still leery about it and find it a little too coincidental that she friended me and went immediately to talking about the Cappy? Yes, definitely.
I am definitely going to watch my back until I really know them though. And it is funny because this Cappy's rising sign is Scorpio, so I wonder if he is indeed spying. Time will tell. I should also mention that when me and the Cappy were talking, he asked me how I knew our friend from Facebook (the girl I knew waaaay before the Cappy) and THEN he asked me if I knew his best friend's wife (the girl who messaged me out of the blue). Quite weird and I did not put two and two together until now. So, it could very well be that he has something to do with it. Who knows though! ??_
So, it was not a big thing the conversation. But am I still leery about it and find it a little too coincidental that she friended me and went immediately to talking about the Cappy? Yes, definitely.
I am definitely going to watch my back until I really know them though. And it is funny because this Cappy's rising sign is Scorpio, so I wonder if he is indeed spying. Time will tell. I should also mention that when me and the Cappy were talking, he asked me how I knew our friend from Facebook (the girl I knew waaaay before the Cappy) and THEN he asked me if I knew his best friend's wife (the girl who messaged me out of the blue). Quite weird and I did not put two and two together until now. So, it could very well be that he has something to do with it. Who knows though!
??_Wow! Look at all the responses!
truecap: The only person that I DID talk to is my friend, who knows of the Cappy, and she is to be trusted. I have known her waaaay before even knowing the Cappy! Actually, that is how the Cappy found me on Facebook. He told me that night that I met him in person the story of how he found me on Facebook. He told me "I saw you commented on something on her (meaning our friend's) page and I just HAD to message you because I thought you were so cute." I thought that was pretty cool how the Cappy opened up to me like that and told me what his first impression of me was.
ANYWAYS lol! The only friend that I did not know before they added me was the Cappy's best friend's wife. Her husband is very good friends with the Cappy. Her first message to me to "break the ice" so to speak was "Hey...i saw my husbands friend "Cappy's Name" on your Facebook friends list...what a small world" and then I messaged back that it is indeed a very small world and that I have known the Cappy for over a year and just met him in person recently." I was very cautious about this though, especially since this could be to feel me out about how I feel about the Cappy or something more negative. My instincts were definitely on "RED FLAG" right away, especially when I have been friends with him over a year and she just noticed??_it could be a coincidence, but I do not really believe in those.
Anyways, so this is how the conversation went (not word for word, mind you):
She immediately told me that the Cappy used to date her ex friend. To make sure this checked out, I checked her friends list on Facebook and the friend is not on there.
Then the conversation stops and she messages me again later on. We talked about random things (regarding our kids and their naps) and then out of the blue she wrote "I wanted to say that I think the Cappy is a good guy and so funny. So I hope he is good to you."
She then went on to say that she might even have some older pics of the Cappy and then she said what a small world it was again that I know him and she does too. She then sends me a pic of him, his ex, her husband and our other friend in the pic. Then she sends me a picture of him dressed up because he was in her and her husband's wedding.
We got into talking about him and his ex and their relationship. She said they used to be good friends, but not anymore because the ex is crazy. She told me that the Cappy and his ex's relationship had...
truecap: The only person that I DID talk to is my friend, who knows of the Cappy, and she is to be trusted. I have known her waaaay before even knowing the Cappy! Actually, that is how the Cappy found me on Facebook. He told me that night that I met him in person the story of how he found me on Facebook. He told me "I saw you commented on something on her (meaning our friend's) page and I just HAD to message you because I thought you were so cute." I thought that was pretty cool how the Cappy opened up to me like that and told me what his first impression of me was.
ANYWAYS lol! The only friend that I did not know before they added me was the Cappy's best friend's wife. Her husband is very good friends with the Cappy. Her first message to me to "break the ice" so to speak was "Hey...i saw my husbands friend "Cappy's Name" on your Facebook friends list...what a small world" and then I messaged back that it is indeed a very small world and that I have known the Cappy for over a year and just met him in person recently." I was very cautious about this though, especially since this could be to feel me out about how I feel about the Cappy or something more negative. My instincts were definitely on "RED FLAG" right away, especially when I have been friends with him over a year and she just noticed??_it could be a coincidence, but I do not really believe in those.
Anyways, so this is how the conversation went (not word for word, mind you):
She immediately told me that the Cappy used to date her ex friend. To make sure this checked out, I checked her friends list on Facebook and the friend is not on there.
Then the conversation stops and she messages me again later on. We talked about random things (regarding our kids and their naps) and then out of the blue she wrote "I wanted to say that I think the Cappy is a good guy and so funny. So I hope he is good to you."
She then went on to say that she might even have some older pics of the Cappy and then she said what a small world it was again that I know him and she does too. She then sends me a pic of him, his ex, her husband and our other friend in the pic. Then she sends me a picture of him dressed up because he was in her and her husband's wedding.
We got into talking about him and his ex and their relationship. She said they used to be good friends, but not anymore because the ex is crazy. She told me that the Cappy and his ex's relationship had...
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But anyways, his best friend's wife told me I should just ask the Cappy where does he see things headed. I have read not to chase him so I just sent him a text saying that I missed him and that I wanted to see him again.
His answer was "Yes, me too" and then I told him depending on his work schedule we should make plans to see each other again. His answer "Yesss"
I am going to leave it at that though. I know what it is like to be smothered and chased and sometimes it is awful because us Cappies need our space! So I am going to give a couple weeks as another friend of his on FB suggested, but she did tell me that she foresees good things happening. I feel like his friends know something I do not LOL!
So for now, I have put myself out there and told him that I liked him as well as I'd like to see him again, so now all I can do is wait, right?
Sorry this is so long. I am a very detailed Cappy haha!
Thank you in advance for any replies/advice!
But anyways, his best friend's wife told me I should just ask the Cappy where does he see things headed. I have read not to chase him so I just sent him a text saying that I missed him and that I wanted to see him again.
His answer was "Yes, me too" and then I told him depending on his work schedule we should make plans to see each other again. His answer "Yesss"
I am going to leave it at that though. I know what it is like to be smothered and chased and sometimes it is awful because us Cappies need our space! So I am going to give a couple weeks as another friend of his on FB suggested, but she did tell me that she foresees good things happening. I feel like his friends know something I do not LOL!
So for now, I have put myself out there and told him that I liked him as well as I'd like to see him again, so now all I can do is wait, right?
Sorry this is so long. I am a very detailed Cappy haha!
Thank you in advance for any replies/advice!
Hello! I LOVE this forum! I'm a Cappy myself. Here's my situation:
Over a year ago, a sexy and sweet Cappy contacted me on Facebook and we got to know each other quite well. Instant attraction. We even have the same birthday down to the year!(Jan 4 1985)
Well, me and him have remained in contact on and off - then he had a girlfriend and I was talking to my ex, so we remained friends but not as flirty. He started to initiate contact with me after he broke up with his ex and the talking I had with my ex was starting to fizzle.
About two weeks ago, he contacted me as he was on the road for work and told me he was headed my way and that he wanted to meet me. His words were "The time is now". So, long story short: We met and the chemistry/connection was CRAZILY AWESOME lol. We felt comfortable immediately with each other and not nervous at all. We were even intimate that night as well. He is a very passionate man and after we were finished being intimate I expected our connection to fizzle, but it got stronger and he wanted to cuddle, kiss, and hug me until it was time for sleep. He stayed the night too. We hit it off quite well, I must say, and not just the intimate part lol!
Anyways, he left the next morning and it seemed a tiny bit awkward because he was running late for work and had over an hour drive ahead of him. I asked him if I would see him again and he said I would. He texted me a few hours after starting his work and we both said we had a good time. Then the next night we chatted again. That next week he texted me to let me know he was back at his home and that he really thought I was beautiful and liked me.
However, now he seems kind of aloof. He lives in Virginia and I live here in Georgia, so it is understandable to be that way. The weird thing is I wonder if he is sitting back weighing the pros and cons or something about me and him and wondering if he can trust me or something because his best friend's wife added me as a friend on Facebook and sent me a message that she saw I was friends with this Cappy on Facebook and what a small world. I told her that I had met the Cappy and that I thought he was just awesome. Then she messaged me the same night and told me that she knows this Cappy and that he is a very good guy and that she hopes he treats me well.
Do Cappies sometimes have others like, I don't know, "spy" to make sure the other person (meaning me lol) is genuine? I found this to be quite odd....
Over a year ago, a sexy and sweet Cappy contacted me on Facebook and we got to know each other quite well. Instant attraction. We even have the same birthday down to the year!(Jan 4 1985)
Well, me and him have remained in contact on and off - then he had a girlfriend and I was talking to my ex, so we remained friends but not as flirty. He started to initiate contact with me after he broke up with his ex and the talking I had with my ex was starting to fizzle.
About two weeks ago, he contacted me as he was on the road for work and told me he was headed my way and that he wanted to meet me. His words were "The time is now". So, long story short: We met and the chemistry/connection was CRAZILY AWESOME lol. We felt comfortable immediately with each other and not nervous at all. We were even intimate that night as well. He is a very passionate man and after we were finished being intimate I expected our connection to fizzle, but it got stronger and he wanted to cuddle, kiss, and hug me until it was time for sleep. He stayed the night too. We hit it off quite well, I must say, and not just the intimate part lol!
Anyways, he left the next morning and it seemed a tiny bit awkward because he was running late for work and had over an hour drive ahead of him. I asked him if I would see him again and he said I would. He texted me a few hours after starting his work and we both said we had a good time. Then the next night we chatted again. That next week he texted me to let me know he was back at his home and that he really thought I was beautiful and liked me.
However, now he seems kind of aloof. He lives in Virginia and I live here in Georgia, so it is understandable to be that way. The weird thing is I wonder if he is sitting back weighing the pros and cons or something about me and him and wondering if he can trust me or something because his best friend's wife added me as a friend on Facebook and sent me a message that she saw I was friends with this Cappy on Facebook and what a small world. I told her that I had met the Cappy and that I thought he was just awesome. Then she messaged me the same night and told me that she knows this Cappy and that he is a very good guy and that she hopes he treats me well.
Do Cappies sometimes have others like, I don't know, "spy" to make sure the other person (meaning me lol) is genuine? I found this to be quite odd....