Message Posts by piscesgirl82
Posted by rabidtalker
Hi. Cancer male here with pisces moon. I am attracted to most piscean females that I meet but many times I get the feeling they are not into me or if they show any flirtatious behavior, I notice they are like that with everyone, so it takes a lot or a lot of time. Other times I feel they are trying to use me for something rather than have genuine affection. This is the gist of it and it can turn into a back and forth thing until both come up straight with each other.
You made my day by saying this
I am hanging by a slim hope and waiting for him to get in touch. Also I think I gave him all the signs that I like him. I am not sure why is he not in contact. I am confused because he did contact me the next day after meeting me and then disappeared after that.. I dont know why he is disconnected and so thats confusing.I wont be lying if I said I kinda love him.. ha ha !! I guess that hopeless romantic piscean in me !
Posted by OceanBoy88Posted by piscesgirl82Posted by Finbuff
As a Cancer male, even if a girl was really attractive, I've never been able to have a relationship with a fat girl. My guess is he's having 2nd thoughts if he's not responding, and doesn't know how to tell you. Cancers tend to be VERY picky about relationship material.
Thanks for the reply. Well if that was the case, why did he message me the next day and kept in touch ? Also, when we met, he told me that I need to focus on my health for few months and I should be alright. He also offered to join boxing classes together. I took that as a positive sign. Stupid me !!!
From the sounds of it, he probably does like you but as someone said above about not liking overweight women,he mmight be passively planning to make you lose weight with all that cardio and telling you to be health conscious, which is fine because its always good to be healthy. It's hard to judge him this way, I think you should feel out his intentions and try to see if it's all in good faith or... if he just wants to boinkclick to expand
Yeahh.. So do I get in touch with him or let him be ?
Posted by MiZLeo
OP if you feel uncomfortable with your weight you need to work on that. That is a self esteem thing.....which a cancer man will pick up on and can become a turn off.
Not all men find fat girls unattractive. Infact, I find the opposite. I am 5'4 and weighed over 200ibs when I met my cancer husband. He has never had an issue with my weight. I've lost....I've gained... and as I've gotten older I've found that a lot of men find me attractive... and all sorts of men. I've dated very fit strong military men who you'd think would want a barbie by their side....nope. I've dated skinny men. Chunky guys. Black, white, Spanish, indian, you name it, that had no problem with my weight. I have female friends who weigh way more than me who have never found it hard to find a man. It's all about your attitude and your self esteem. If he doesn't like u cause your fat...then screw him. You can find someone better.
Ohhh I am pretty confident about myself and I dress well and look good.. but yes, I do recognize the fact that I need to be fit and lose weight.
Posted by Finbuff
The comment to "work on your health for a few months" was the subtle type Cancer hint.
Hint regarding ?? Do you mind he was trying to tell me that he is not keen ?
Posted by FirstDecanTaurianWomen0428Posted by piscesgirl82Posted by FirstDecanTaurianWomen0428
Try going out with your friends and exercise together, I mean a healthy weight for your bmi. Work it out. You can do it.
Yes, I am doing it and making good progress but I am keen to understand on how should I handle the situation with the cancerguy ? I really really like him. As I mentioned I have come across someone who I clicked with after a long time !
Well he's a douche and you need to do for you though, woman. We are the same age I'll be damn if a guy or woman I like is belittling or second guessing my weight. Fuck them. Tell yourself I look good n of matter what, the right guy will come along but not sure if it is this one.click to expand
Guess you are right..
Posted by FinbuffPosted by MiZLeoPosted by Finbuff
As a Cancer male, even if a girl was really attractive, I've never been able to have a relationship with a fat girl. My guess is he's having 2nd thoughts if he's not responding, and doesn't know how to tell you. Cancers tend to be VERY picky about relationship material.
That's a you thing not a cancer man thing.
I don't think so, I've known several...and all possible bullshit aside, DJ didn't seem the fat girl type either. There are always exceptionsclick to expand
Ok. Point noted and no offence taken. If you have a strong experience of cancer man not liking fat girls. Should I get in touch with him and ask him or just let it be and consider it over ?
Posted by FirstDecanTaurianWomen0428
Try going out with your friends and exercise together, I mean a healthy weight for your bmi. Work it out. You can do it.
Yes, I am doing it and making good progress but I am keen to understand on how should I handle the situation with the cancerguy ? I really really like him. As I mentioned I have come across someone who I clicked with after a long time !
Posted by Finbuff
As a Cancer male, even if a girl was really attractive, I've never been able to have a relationship with a fat girl. My guess is he's having 2nd thoughts if he's not responding, and doesn't know how to tell you. Cancers tend to be VERY picky about relationship material.
Thanks for the reply. Well if that was the case, why did he message me the next day and kept in touch ? Also, when we met, he told me that I need to focus on my health for few months and I should be alright. He also offered to join boxing classes together. I took that as a positive sign. Stupid me !!!
Posted by MiZLeoPosted by Finbuff
As a Cancer male, even if a girl was really attractive, I've never been able to have a relationship with a fat girl. My guess is he's having 2nd thoughts if he's not responding, and doesn't know how to tell you. Cancers tend to be VERY picky about relationship material.
That's a you thing not a cancer man thing.click to expand
Posted by OceanBoy88
Warning, the cancer board is riddled with your problem/scenario. Just saying, but if you must, have him pursue you, don't engage heavily in pursuit of him. Keep exploring your options. Just because he's a cancer doesn't mean hes your best match. Also, my cancer buddy likes larger women I've noticed and he loves boxing. Coincidence
Thanks for the reply. Well if that was the case, why did he message me the next day and kept in touch ? Also, when we met, he told me that I need to focus on my health for few months and I should be alright. He also offered to join boxing classes together. I took that as a positive sign. Stupid me !!!
Hey all,
I am new to this forum and here to seek some help regarding dealing with Cancer man. Here are the points to explain my situation.
About me :
- I am a 35 yrs old pisces female, never married and been single for past 4 yrs.
- Friends say that I have a pretty face, I am tall but I am quite overweight (170cms tall and I am obese)
So, I met this cancer man on a dating app and we hit it off pretty well. From the very start he seemed very flirtatious and keen to have sex but I was very clear that I am not looking for short term flings and not looking to sleep around unless I feel connected to the person. He seemed to be understanding of that (may be .. may be not). We kept in touch on phone and whatsapp every day. He did msg me and call me every day (almost). Then I went on a month long holidays, we were in touch but I noticed that unless and until I start the conversation, he wouldnt get in touch.
Anyways, when I came back from my holidays, we met for the first time for a coffee. It was lovely to meet him. He told me that we should join the boxing classes together. He shared about his family , his childhood.. I loved my time with him. I was quite nervous to meet him because I thought that he will be put off when he meets me since I am fat etc. Considering that I did not message him the next day morning. I thought if he is keen he will msg me else I should consider this over. To my surprise, he did message me the next day morning...We had a fun chat on whatsapp and then I went away for the weekend..I kept in touch on whatsapp with him. He tried calling me on Saturday and I missed his call.. When I tried to call him back, he msgd me saying that he is busy and will get in touch soon. Its end of day Wednesday today and he hasnt called me back or messaged me. I see that he is quite active on facebook so clearly he is not busy and can always get in touch with me.
Few facts about him
- He is younger to me (probably by 4-5 yrs)
- He is almost as tall as me but I was wearing my heels when I met him so I was kinda taller than me.. He did mention that if I wear flats I will be alright too. he he !!
Its only after four years that I have come across someone with whom I felt such a strong connection. I do realize that he has lot of reasons not to go ahead with me but I am confused what should I do ? I dont want to keep msging him and seem clingy but at the same time I would like to know what next ? Is he keen or is he not keen ?? or Is he just considering me in the friend zone ?
Totally confused. Please help.
I am new to this forum and here to seek some help regarding dealing with Cancer man. Here are the points to explain my situation.
About me :
- I am a 35 yrs old pisces female, never married and been single for past 4 yrs.
- Friends say that I have a pretty face, I am tall but I am quite overweight (170cms tall and I am obese)
So, I met this cancer man on a dating app and we hit it off pretty well. From the very start he seemed very flirtatious and keen to have sex but I was very clear that I am not looking for short term flings and not looking to sleep around unless I feel connected to the person. He seemed to be understanding of that (may be .. may be not). We kept in touch on phone and whatsapp every day. He did msg me and call me every day (almost). Then I went on a month long holidays, we were in touch but I noticed that unless and until I start the conversation, he wouldnt get in touch.
Anyways, when I came back from my holidays, we met for the first time for a coffee. It was lovely to meet him. He told me that we should join the boxing classes together. He shared about his family , his childhood.. I loved my time with him. I was quite nervous to meet him because I thought that he will be put off when he meets me since I am fat etc. Considering that I did not message him the next day morning. I thought if he is keen he will msg me else I should consider this over. To my surprise, he did message me the next day morning...We had a fun chat on whatsapp and then I went away for the weekend..I kept in touch on whatsapp with him. He tried calling me on Saturday and I missed his call.. When I tried to call him back, he msgd me saying that he is busy and will get in touch soon. Its end of day Wednesday today and he hasnt called me back or messaged me. I see that he is quite active on facebook so clearly he is not busy and can always get in touch with me.
Few facts about him
- He is younger to me (probably by 4-5 yrs)
- He is almost as tall as me but I was wearing my heels when I met him so I was kinda taller than me.. He did mention that if I wear flats I will be alright too. he he !!
Its only after four years that I have come across someone with whom I felt such a strong connection. I do realize that he has lot of reasons not to go ahead with me but I am confused what should I do ? I dont want to keep msging him and seem clingy but at the same time I would like to know what next ? Is he keen or is he not keen ?? or Is he just considering me in the friend zone ?
Totally confused. Please help.