Message Posts by rhiannon
It's been a while, but then, we are dealing with a Virgo man. Weirdness continues. He turned up again in late May, then disappeared again. I basically wrote him off. Then, after over a month, I get a text from him. Seriously, I thought I was hallucinating. We talked on the phone over the weekend, and he wants to see me on Saturday. He's finally sorted out the ex, I suppose, and she is gone for good. I want to see him, but am more than a bit hesitant about letting him back into my life. On the one hand, I am glad he sorted out his baggage before getting too involved with me, but on the other, I am annoyed that he vanished for so long. I guess we'll see what happens
Okay, mystery solved. Apparently, Virgoboy had an sort of ex-girlfriend lurking around who wants to move in together. He isn't sure he's ready for that (especially because she has a kid and he doesn't want kids), they broke up, he met me, we dated for a month and a half, and then she turned back up (presumably because she found out he had been ill). And now they are trying to work it out.
I don't know about you guys, but my experience has been that once any relationship starts the "breakup, get back together" cycle, it is almost certainly doomed, especially when a guy spends the time during the breakup dating other women (not just flirting or one-night stands but actual real dating).
I don't know about you guys, but my experience has been that once any relationship starts the "breakup, get back together" cycle, it is almost certainly doomed, especially when a guy spends the time during the breakup dating other women (not just flirting or one-night stands but actual real dating).
Thanks, guys. Glad you like the name, Dy! It's not the casual sex thing, as I said we got physical (beyond just kissing), but did not have sex. He did just go back to work this week after three weeks off, so perhaps that it. Honestly, I was just trying to be patient and understand it, but if he wants me to know what's going on, it's up to him to pick up the phone and tell me. Meanwhile, I have a life to live!
I have been reading these message boards trying to understand the guy I have been seeing, and many thanks to all of you who have posted your experiences. I am hoping for some advice on this enigmatic guy! This has truly been the weirdest dating experience of my life!
He's Virgo, I'm Capricorn on the cusp with Sagittarius, both in our 30s. We met a couple of months ago and both felt a spark, though it took him ten days to call me after that to ask me to go on our first date. We went out a few times, really good dates, texting and talking on the phone other times. Then, he didn't show up for a date. A week went by, and then he finally contacted me to tell me that he had been in the hospital. This is really one of the only excuses for not showing that is acceptable, though I wish he had not waited a week to let me know what had happened. In any case, we sorted that out and spent a lot of time talking, texting, etc, over the next week while he recovered. Then he invited me to his place for dinner. It was a lovely evening, and we got physical for the first time. He left the next day to go on a holiday for four days with the guys. I sent him a few texts over the course of the week, and left him a voice message on Friday. And I have not heard from him since. It's been ten days now since our last evening together, and I have not contacted him in any way in five days.
I don't know if I should just let it go and trust that he will call me, or if I should call him, or if I should just delete his number and forget he exists. When we have been together or are talking/texting, it's great, and he asks me questions that seem to indicate more than a passing interest (wanted to make sure I'm comfortable with the kind of work he does as it is dangerous, wants to know what I think of his home, etc). I'm wondering if this is just his way of ending it quietly or what? This just seems so out of kilter with how he is when we're together that I can't make sense of it.
Help!
He's Virgo, I'm Capricorn on the cusp with Sagittarius, both in our 30s. We met a couple of months ago and both felt a spark, though it took him ten days to call me after that to ask me to go on our first date. We went out a few times, really good dates, texting and talking on the phone other times. Then, he didn't show up for a date. A week went by, and then he finally contacted me to tell me that he had been in the hospital. This is really one of the only excuses for not showing that is acceptable, though I wish he had not waited a week to let me know what had happened. In any case, we sorted that out and spent a lot of time talking, texting, etc, over the next week while he recovered. Then he invited me to his place for dinner. It was a lovely evening, and we got physical for the first time. He left the next day to go on a holiday for four days with the guys. I sent him a few texts over the course of the week, and left him a voice message on Friday. And I have not heard from him since. It's been ten days now since our last evening together, and I have not contacted him in any way in five days.
I don't know if I should just let it go and trust that he will call me, or if I should call him, or if I should just delete his number and forget he exists. When we have been together or are talking/texting, it's great, and he asks me questions that seem to indicate more than a passing interest (wanted to make sure I'm comfortable with the kind of work he does as it is dangerous, wants to know what I think of his home, etc). I'm wondering if this is just his way of ending it quietly or what? This just seems so out of kilter with how he is when we're together that I can't make sense of it.
Help!