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Aries- 3 years to get over - adventurous love affair
Libra - never got over (going on 20 years soon)- soul mate love
Leo- getting over now - pure passion
Libra - never got over (going on 20 years soon)- soul mate love
Leo- getting over now - pure passion
1 - Do you guys tend to fall fast in relationships?
YES- but ONLY if we feel that it is the one and we are very selective.
2 - Do you guys become jealous/possessive in relationships easily?
YES- but only if you give us reason to. We expect to me number 1 and will tell you very directly if we are feeling disrespected usually. If you try to make us jealous, we will do onto you as you do onto us.
3 - How do you guys handle rejection/breakups (if your the one being rejected of course) does the scorp come out in you, where you HAVE to get even, no matter what??
Yes and no. Yes in the sense that take time to better oneself to show you more of what you are missing even in our own mind as it eases our pain. We also first will do everything in our power t make it work if we truly care, else we walk away like nothing occurred. Also retreat during this time as takes us a long time to get over a break up if we really cared and loved you.
YES- but ONLY if we feel that it is the one and we are very selective.
2 - Do you guys become jealous/possessive in relationships easily?
YES- but only if you give us reason to. We expect to me number 1 and will tell you very directly if we are feeling disrespected usually. If you try to make us jealous, we will do onto you as you do onto us.
3 - How do you guys handle rejection/breakups (if your the one being rejected of course) does the scorp come out in you, where you HAVE to get even, no matter what??
Yes and no. Yes in the sense that take time to better oneself to show you more of what you are missing even in our own mind as it eases our pain. We also first will do everything in our power t make it work if we truly care, else we walk away like nothing occurred. Also retreat during this time as takes us a long time to get over a break up if we really cared and loved you.
She may forgive but she will never forget so it will never be the same- the damage is done. A Scorpio is very intense and take choosing a mate very seriously - she would believe that you should have known the intensity and trueness of your feelings for her immediately, and thus not have committed an such an act with another (let alone her sister) She would always be secretly suspicious of the two of you if she and you connected - Scorpios are a jealous type. They have a deadly stinger after all- you will feel it with no mercy before any forgiveness even!
Yes to an extent - not a controlling manner and not from insecurity, but rather in a playful manner. Never try to control a Scorpio with ultimatums and "You can't do ...." - we abhor these rules trying to be placed upon us. Also never try to make us jealous by giving too much attention or talking too much about another - this will backfire on you - as we view this as immaturity and will see it as a form of betrayal and will foster mistrust in us that you think so highly or higher of another as we are possessive. Once you lose our trust- it is almost impossible to get it back.
I know about loving the romance and the sweet words, plus having that all encompassing depth, even desiring that feeling of being consumed by the love the two of us, and just the two of us share together.
Feby- I loved your description and could not have said it better myself!
I truly love this about being a Libra/Scorpio cusp (although trying to determine which horoscope to follow may be frustrating at times...lol..so I usually pick the one I like best for the day)
Thank you for your support and advice - I cannot tell you how grateful I am to finding this forum and for the genuine and great advice given.
Feby- I loved your description and could not have said it better myself!
I truly love this about being a Libra/Scorpio cusp (although trying to determine which horoscope to follow may be frustrating at times...lol..so I usually pick the one I like best for the day)Thank you for your support and advice - I cannot tell you how grateful I am to finding this forum and for the genuine and great advice given.
You don't strike me as the type that would let cake stop you!
Absolutely Feby! This has been he his nature for a long long time! He even admitted he gets bored after the chase. Even with this one woman that he tried to "change" for by taking things slow- he wants to still have his freedom to pursue others.
Until he truly is not afraid of intimacy and can respect a woman for her entire depth (longer than 24 hours to a few months) there is no future regarding a serious committed relationship. Love affair - yes, but relationship no. The greatest problem with Casanova types is that they really only love themselves and the rest is just acting or fleeting feelings, so either not real or no real depth. As part Libra I love the romance and sensuality, but as Scorpio I crave the intense depth and as well as sexuality. Both have to exist for me in a partner with "partner" being the key word.
Until he truly is not afraid of intimacy and can respect a woman for her entire depth (longer than 24 hours to a few months) there is no future regarding a serious committed relationship. Love affair - yes, but relationship no. The greatest problem with Casanova types is that they really only love themselves and the rest is just acting or fleeting feelings, so either not real or no real depth. As part Libra I love the romance and sensuality, but as Scorpio I crave the intense depth and as well as sexuality. Both have to exist for me in a partner with "partner" being the key word.
Leo males (in my limited experience) like playing cat and mouse. Mine admitted to disappearing for a few days to see how long it takes to miss him and he expects then that you initiate contact. As brave as they are - they are also extremely insecure.
For sure he is a "classic player bad boy" type as well as commitment phobic; hence, I am certain there has been a series of broken hearts in his life saga.
In all honesty though it was me who initially put off meeting due to various commitments that could seriously not be avoided and unwillingness to just be a notch on the bed post, but then he did the same due to the claim of "needing time and space" after feeling rejected although I soothed his ego best I could. He also later stated there was a lot of negativity in his life he was dealing with to only emerge claiming there is another he was recently pursuing. After months of distance he now has decided we should meet and pitched "doing things together as a couple" but it has fallen on deaf ears as I am not a woman to share. I know his charm of seduction and romance, but I am now wiser to know is not about me- it is just who he is and words with no meanings. I do enjoy though he is an absolute master at his craft.
I actually value players as friends- you can learn a hella of a lot about men through them.
In all honesty though it was me who initially put off meeting due to various commitments that could seriously not be avoided and unwillingness to just be a notch on the bed post, but then he did the same due to the claim of "needing time and space" after feeling rejected although I soothed his ego best I could. He also later stated there was a lot of negativity in his life he was dealing with to only emerge claiming there is another he was recently pursuing. After months of distance he now has decided we should meet and pitched "doing things together as a couple" but it has fallen on deaf ears as I am not a woman to share. I know his charm of seduction and romance, but I am now wiser to know is not about me- it is just who he is and words with no meanings. I do enjoy though he is an absolute master at his craft.
I actually value players as friends- you can learn a hella of a lot about men through them.
I am a Libra/Scorpio and have known a Leo male well so will tell from my side. Leos are dramatic and full of drama, plus extremely playful and impulsive. Libras are balanced, calm, and think things through in an analytical manner, plus have extreme wit. One is pure emotion (Leo) and the other logic (Libra). In the end, during banter - these two respect each other's mind. They appreciate each other for their differences and usually both are amused- demonstrated by sharing some good laughs in trying to understand each other. In their attempts, a deeper understanding of ones self is also generated; which both are wise enough to value.
OMG- this same thing happened to me recently regarding a Leo sending mixed signals and then dropping the bomb of liking another etc.
Wish him well and either say goodbye or remain friends, but do not have your heart set on a relationship. Even if he did choose you now or have you as an option, would you really want him? Would you really want to be an option versus a priority? Get someone who values and respects you and who is willing to commit to you. Could you get over the damage of the betrayal and rejection in a sense you might be feeling now? If it was not her, then it would have been someone else; unfortunately it was not you.
Both of you right now are feeding his ego and he is lapping it up like a bowl of cream. Put him on a diet for you deserve to be first choice; not some secondary after thought. He may also be wanting the attention of you being jealous- that is what I partly experienced. Don't be! Move on and cut the heart strings (of course after a good cry, bucket of ice cream, and a stiff cognac)
If you remain friends, you have to be truly comfortable enough without it damaging your confidence and self-esteem if he talks about her- only you can decide that but it will not work if you have any feelings other than friendship.
Ask yourself:
Do I really like this person (and believe I know this person)?
Do I like myself with this person?
Do I like the relationship we have (even if only friendship)?
Wish him well and either say goodbye or remain friends, but do not have your heart set on a relationship. Even if he did choose you now or have you as an option, would you really want him? Would you really want to be an option versus a priority? Get someone who values and respects you and who is willing to commit to you. Could you get over the damage of the betrayal and rejection in a sense you might be feeling now? If it was not her, then it would have been someone else; unfortunately it was not you.
Both of you right now are feeding his ego and he is lapping it up like a bowl of cream. Put him on a diet for you deserve to be first choice; not some secondary after thought. He may also be wanting the attention of you being jealous- that is what I partly experienced. Don't be! Move on and cut the heart strings (of course after a good cry, bucket of ice cream, and a stiff cognac)
If you remain friends, you have to be truly comfortable enough without it damaging your confidence and self-esteem if he talks about her- only you can decide that but it will not work if you have any feelings other than friendship.
Ask yourself:
Do I really like this person (and believe I know this person)?
Do I like myself with this person?
Do I like the relationship we have (even if only friendship)?
Happy Belated Bday to The King of the Jungle! Hope you roared! 
Thank you Lioness79 and Seraph- you both have provided invaluable advice! Saved me wells of tears and tons of expenses with a therapist.
I am happy to enjoy him for who he is and really wish him sincere happiness. I do truly love him; but sadly am no longer in love. To me he commit suicide when he quickly became cold and distant- but he also killed me and I died a very slow and painful death and remorsefully like a fool stood by the grave in faithfulness grieving.
I will focus my energies and efforts on myself and I am sure the right one will find me soon enough. I am happy to have a Leo as a dear friend though- they are truly fascinating and delightfully playful.
I am happy to enjoy him for who he is and really wish him sincere happiness. I do truly love him; but sadly am no longer in love. To me he commit suicide when he quickly became cold and distant- but he also killed me and I died a very slow and painful death and remorsefully like a fool stood by the grave in faithfulness grieving.
I will focus my energies and efforts on myself and I am sure the right one will find me soon enough. I am happy to have a Leo as a dear friend though- they are truly fascinating and delightfully playful.
Well strange to say the least- now he confessed it was he who chased her. Apparently she wants him badly but does not call him every day as he expects. One minute he says he does not want to be with her and not give up his freedom, but the next he is confessing he wants a relationship with her. Now he calling again daily and is flirting with me like old times with sexual innuendos- of course to feed his unsatisfying hungry ego (which should go on a diet) I have to admit it is easy to be captivated under his spell and I seriously admire his seduction and mind as I seriously really do adore him; however, do not see a plausible future and have thus, have decided to just be friends. He wanted to visit soon, but I do not see the relevance - after all he has her. Really, I believe he is playing us all- her, me and all the others.
I hope all Leos are not so confusing, as this is my fist time falling for one but as a true lion I can understand he likes "the chase" and playing with the mouse after he believes it has been caught. He fails to realize though that the mouse is sometimes also smart enough to get away.
I hope all Leos are not so confusing, as this is my fist time falling for one but as a true lion I can understand he likes "the chase" and playing with the mouse after he believes it has been caught. He fails to realize though that the mouse is sometimes also smart enough to get away.
ps. What my head forgot is that he is a classic "player" and not worthy of my genuine feelings. Red flags were waving everywhere but I was too blinded to see. I feel so much better now - resolution- and actually pity him.
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Thank you for the support and really the much needed words Seraph! Your words really strike home and you truly are my "Leo Angel" soothing my soul with comfort.
I will drive my self crazy with questions to which there are no answers if I dwell on matters and I have no regrets as I was faithful and loyal to him for the duration; perhaps too much so. There is no use for me to reflect to the point of angst as much as for learning opportunity. I agree- he became selfish and insensitive for whatever reasons, but the reasons do not matter as much as the factual evidence of his actions, with no offer of apology nor remorse. I once told him he could push me away or pull me close but the choice was his but that I was willing to work things out together if possible after our argument. In the end, demonstrated by his actions and now confessions, he has made his decision and so truth be told sort of speak and I must accept that. In all honesty, I feel a little relieved as I was tired of being the only one trying to regain what was lost over the course of months, when it requires both parties. If he really valued me and what we initially had, he would have made a true effort and respected my feelings more.
You are right- I can only be myself and the "right one" for me will appreciate me for my authentic self, instead of some contrived version. Besides I am a Scorpio/Libra cusp so we do not do well with betrayals including betraying ourselves. Of course more insight will come with additional dating experience and now I am also all the wiser of having become close to a Leo, who proved strangely wonderful and fascination in complexities. Instead of him, I have decided to dedicate time to myself for a period and rise as the Phoenix emerging from the ashes.
Thank you so much once again- I cannot tell you how much your words of wisdom did for me...but I do hope the universe repays you in kind.
I will drive my self crazy with questions to which there are no answers if I dwell on matters and I have no regrets as I was faithful and loyal to him for the duration; perhaps too much so. There is no use for me to reflect to the point of angst as much as for learning opportunity. I agree- he became selfish and insensitive for whatever reasons, but the reasons do not matter as much as the factual evidence of his actions, with no offer of apology nor remorse. I once told him he could push me away or pull me close but the choice was his but that I was willing to work things out together if possible after our argument. In the end, demonstrated by his actions and now confessions, he has made his decision and so truth be told sort of speak and I must accept that. In all honesty, I feel a little relieved as I was tired of being the only one trying to regain what was lost over the course of months, when it requires both parties. If he really valued me and what we initially had, he would have made a true effort and respected my feelings more.
You are right- I can only be myself and the "right one" for me will appreciate me for my authentic self, instead of some contrived version. Besides I am a Scorpio/Libra cusp so we do not do well with betrayals including betraying ourselves. Of course more insight will come with additional dating experience and now I am also all the wiser of having become close to a Leo, who proved strangely wonderful and fascination in complexities. Instead of him, I have decided to dedicate time to myself for a period and rise as the Phoenix emerging from the ashes.
Thank you so much once again- I cannot tell you how much your words of wisdom did for me...but I do hope the universe repays you in kind.
Okay.. I will take a try.. I am a cusp- Libra and Scorpio.
You are Scorpio and he is a Libra. Libras do not handle betrayal well. If there is anything to salvage, it will take time for her to trust you again. She will see your lie as lack of proper etiquette also. Libras want that "you and them against the world" and that she could trust you 1000% . I will tell you though it will never be the same if you het back together, and for Libras it is hard to get back together if the damage has been suffice.
Little Sparrow is right in "Libra is always looking for their perfect, equal partner. We also need a lot of space in our relationship. You are smothering her. Not so much the constant need for validation, but you have also put on her the burden of telling you what to do. This isn't attractive."
You are Scorpio and he is a Libra. Libras do not handle betrayal well. If there is anything to salvage, it will take time for her to trust you again. She will see your lie as lack of proper etiquette also. Libras want that "you and them against the world" and that she could trust you 1000% . I will tell you though it will never be the same if you het back together, and for Libras it is hard to get back together if the damage has been suffice.
Little Sparrow is right in "Libra is always looking for their perfect, equal partner. We also need a lot of space in our relationship. You are smothering her. Not so much the constant need for validation, but you have also put on her the burden of telling you what to do. This isn't attractive."
Lioness79- I think that was my mistake with him- I should have just let him be alone in his sullen mood and also address his own commitment issues. You seem to know how to tame your lion! I too want him to be happy as well as myself. If that means letting him go (which I now have to accept as his attention has shifted), allowing him to evaluate what he wants (as often he says he does not know), and also having him know I mean I am "all or nothing" expect he same from a partner, then so be it. We both know and have admitted things have changed between us....we promised we would always be friends...and so that seems to be our happy ending. Although I would love the man back I once knew- his playfulness, flirting, wisdom, deep caring...I respect that this is no longer the story between us or if meant to be we will be at sometime maybe in the future.
ps. the passion he invoked was simply from how and who he was, of course mixed with my imagination.
not willing to in the beginning visit him or let him visit me. Eventually when the time did come around, it was too late. He simply gave up - which to me means then he is unworthy and not the one for me.
Where I am most confused is that why is he changing his story so much when talking now and partially scoping me out???? When I agree with him that he should date and have fun - he then says " See how bad I am making him" - I am not doing anything but agreeing with him. Why give me the details play by play of women wanting him and his dates??? I am not asking, nor do I really care to know. How can he be so insensitive???? Is this a typical Leo thing??? I really do want him to be happy though as I sincerely do care about him, but I simply need a little more time to say my final "goodbyes in my heart" to the one I adored so much in the beginning- the only man who truly made me burn with passion.
Where I am most confused is that why is he changing his story so much when talking now and partially scoping me out???? When I agree with him that he should date and have fun - he then says " See how bad I am making him" - I am not doing anything but agreeing with him. Why give me the details play by play of women wanting him and his dates??? I am not asking, nor do I really care to know. How can he be so insensitive???? Is this a typical Leo thing??? I really do want him to be happy though as I sincerely do care about him, but I simply need a little more time to say my final "goodbyes in my heart" to the one I adored so much in the beginning- the only man who truly made me burn with passion.
Ohhhhhhhhhhhh Seraph...you are sooooo insightful and incredibly wise! Wish I had found this forum so much earlier!
Pertaining to being the Queen and appreciating the art and effort via work required to win me.....Should I have put the brakes on in the beginning then? Should I now? So true- he needed space to think about me and more importantly MISS me! You are right he called at a set hour every night.Now our calling each other is random for our every 3 day conversation. Truthfully I am not even sure why we do this -really are deeply fond of each other or if habit? Perhaps a hybrid of both as well as being most probably insane.
Previously I did tell him I was "giving him space and time" in the third month after we had the argument and seriously I was tired of his negative attitude and moodiness which started in the second month. I thought he would be a man and sort out his issues to return when in a better state so I stood by patiently as silhouette in the shadows. However, I then admittedly did routinely call to check on him as truthfully I was concerned for him, really did care, and painfully missed him. Problem is this emotional distance from him continued on for months - he commit emotional suicide with me but in the process also killed me. His "death" was quick as he seemed to change overnight, while I died a slow and painful death. He is only resurrected and his happy self now with women galore worshipping him. I admire his honesty that at least he admits he loves the attention and he REALLY does! However, I desire a man and not a boy who gets his worth only from women falling to their knees and the conquest. I do love talking with him though and truly do adore him to no ends!
I did differentiate myself but maybe not enough as I will truthfully admit it was easy to be captivated under his spell and he is a master at casting it. I did not simply go to meet him on his beck and call and more importantly I could not promise him I would fall into his bed as he so expected upon initially meeting. He also knew fully prior hand that I would expect exclusivity if things were to progress, and said he vowed he would be committed. In the end things did not move forward fast enough for him; but I refuse to submit to anyone's time agenda....it should be a natural and mutual decision. I feel that maybe I was too much work for too little reward. In the end when he first started pulling away I remember he stated I was "just a fantasy" because I was no
Pertaining to being the Queen and appreciating the art and effort via work required to win me.....Should I have put the brakes on in the beginning then? Should I now? So true- he needed space to think about me and more importantly MISS me! You are right he called at a set hour every night.Now our calling each other is random for our every 3 day conversation. Truthfully I am not even sure why we do this -really are deeply fond of each other or if habit? Perhaps a hybrid of both as well as being most probably insane.
Previously I did tell him I was "giving him space and time" in the third month after we had the argument and seriously I was tired of his negative attitude and moodiness which started in the second month. I thought he would be a man and sort out his issues to return when in a better state so I stood by patiently as silhouette in the shadows. However, I then admittedly did routinely call to check on him as truthfully I was concerned for him, really did care, and painfully missed him. Problem is this emotional distance from him continued on for months - he commit emotional suicide with me but in the process also killed me. His "death" was quick as he seemed to change overnight, while I died a slow and painful death. He is only resurrected and his happy self now with women galore worshipping him. I admire his honesty that at least he admits he loves the attention and he REALLY does! However, I desire a man and not a boy who gets his worth only from women falling to their knees and the conquest. I do love talking with him though and truly do adore him to no ends!
I did differentiate myself but maybe not enough as I will truthfully admit it was easy to be captivated under his spell and he is a master at casting it. I did not simply go to meet him on his beck and call and more importantly I could not promise him I would fall into his bed as he so expected upon initially meeting. He also knew fully prior hand that I would expect exclusivity if things were to progress, and said he vowed he would be committed. In the end things did not move forward fast enough for him; but I refuse to submit to anyone's time agenda....it should be a natural and mutual decision. I feel that maybe I was too much work for too little reward. In the end when he first started pulling away I remember he stated I was "just a fantasy" because I was no
I think so also DarkFire...
He already is saying he is unsure with this one and it has only been a few dates and that he does not want to be committed to her- still wants his freedom for other opportunities. From his history, no relationship with him has lasted more than a few months unless a FWB. I know he secretly wants to be tamed, but I told him to have that wish he needs to change his behavior as he is a creature of habit.
Maybe we were both safe - lived in different cities. When it was time for me to go visit he wanted to be alone and when I asked him to come here, he gave me denied. Actions speak louder than words.
As friends I think we are good- his ego needs to love someone other than himself . I know he is capable and can love very deeply but I am not sure that is truly possible right now...he needs to mature...I think in our own strange way we are learning from each other as we are quite opposite in many ways. I also know it is his ego talking when he is trying to reconnect with me on a deeper level and now trying to show me he is so good when talking about himself.
In the end I am happy to have his as a friend as I really do enjoy his company....so all ends well.
Are all Leos so drama filled and temperamental though? I have never met anyone that can be such a rollercoaster of emotions...on one side so extremely sensitive and then also be able to be so uncaring.
He already is saying he is unsure with this one and it has only been a few dates and that he does not want to be committed to her- still wants his freedom for other opportunities. From his history, no relationship with him has lasted more than a few months unless a FWB. I know he secretly wants to be tamed, but I told him to have that wish he needs to change his behavior as he is a creature of habit.
Maybe we were both safe - lived in different cities. When it was time for me to go visit he wanted to be alone and when I asked him to come here, he gave me denied. Actions speak louder than words.
As friends I think we are good- his ego needs to love someone other than himself . I know he is capable and can love very deeply but I am not sure that is truly possible right now...he needs to mature...I think in our own strange way we are learning from each other as we are quite opposite in many ways. I also know it is his ego talking when he is trying to reconnect with me on a deeper level and now trying to show me he is so good when talking about himself.
In the end I am happy to have his as a friend as I really do enjoy his company....so all ends well.
Are all Leos so drama filled and temperamental though? I have never met anyone that can be such a rollercoaster of emotions...on one side so extremely sensitive and then also be able to be so uncaring.
I also had a somewhat similar situation happen with a Leo male. I can empathize and mine has seemingly moved on.......and we are friends. At first you ARE going to miss him like crazy! Do not make my same mistake- I then started chasing him trying to get back what I thought we had and lost. It didn't work....but what did work... is...give him space and focus more on yourself... If he is meant for you and respects, appreciates and even admires you...he will come around again... BUT you will need to meet again in a sense as new people... It is not that he does not love you or did not love you...it is just that his ego has him loving himself more right now in my opinion...let him miss you so keep in contact but only if he initiates for awhile....let time tell what will be. Good luck!
Thanks all.. I needed objective insight and confirmation...
Yeah- think friends is good. His too much drama for me.
Looking back...he took a lot of things I said or would not say as rejection, same with many things I would not do.
Although both of us were "free" until we actually met and by choice we were in the beginning 100% committed to one another...long distance relationships are very difficult and hard to keep alive as in many senses only pseudo relations until actually meeting.
Yeah- think friends is good. His too much drama for me.
Looking back...he took a lot of things I said or would not say as rejection, same with many things I would not do.
Although both of us were "free" until we actually met and by choice we were in the beginning 100% committed to one another...long distance relationships are very difficult and hard to keep alive as in many senses only pseudo relations until actually meeting.
I need serious advice...or maybe medication!
I met a Leo on a website and from day one he called me EVERY night for 2 months... we talked about 3 hours a night. At first he was inquisitive and playful...then very flirty and things got romantic between us. After a month he still called every night but became more and more distant...quiet...unresponsive. We had a fight one night in month 3 about that I could not talk to him for a few days as I had an exam and I called him on his behavior that he last month he was yelling a lot and criticizing me...opposite of before...every since then he quit calling for awhile...I then did most the calling and his bad communication stopped but really basically all communication stopped...unresponsive even more...over the time he became more distant - even when he called me he did not have anything to really say...no questions and one word responses...We don't live in the same city...at first I could not meet and we set a future date BUT when the date came around after 5 months he was still very grumpy and angry and said he did not want company....more time passed and no flirting at all now for some time...We still talk about every 3 and it has been 6 months and min is every 3 days and lately he kept the conversation very short or said he had to go because of another call he had. We agreed if either of us met someone we would tell the other.
He then started telling me of all these girls hitting on him...then now is very talkative lately about one he is interested in and is going on dates with...and calling me to tell me every time they went out and what happened and asking my advice as he is not used to not sleeping with women right away. I said if he met someone, I will not call him anymore,....and he said to "still call and he will pick up the phone every time no matter what"...why is he doing this???? I still have deep feelings for him but now a lot of magic is gone after all the confusion and coldness for months... I can be friends and talk to him as such...the last call he was asking me about women as apparently the one he is interested in is a lot like me...taking things slow. Anyways.. I just don't get it as I thought we were an item but something changed between us and seems we cannot get it back...so should I just consider us friends now? In talking the last time.. I revealed a lot of what he did wrong with me and I know he was listening although we were technically talking about her.
Advice please
I met a Leo on a website and from day one he called me EVERY night for 2 months... we talked about 3 hours a night. At first he was inquisitive and playful...then very flirty and things got romantic between us. After a month he still called every night but became more and more distant...quiet...unresponsive. We had a fight one night in month 3 about that I could not talk to him for a few days as I had an exam and I called him on his behavior that he last month he was yelling a lot and criticizing me...opposite of before...every since then he quit calling for awhile...I then did most the calling and his bad communication stopped but really basically all communication stopped...unresponsive even more...over the time he became more distant - even when he called me he did not have anything to really say...no questions and one word responses...We don't live in the same city...at first I could not meet and we set a future date BUT when the date came around after 5 months he was still very grumpy and angry and said he did not want company....more time passed and no flirting at all now for some time...We still talk about every 3 and it has been 6 months and min is every 3 days and lately he kept the conversation very short or said he had to go because of another call he had. We agreed if either of us met someone we would tell the other.
He then started telling me of all these girls hitting on him...then now is very talkative lately about one he is interested in and is going on dates with...and calling me to tell me every time they went out and what happened and asking my advice as he is not used to not sleeping with women right away. I said if he met someone, I will not call him anymore,....and he said to "still call and he will pick up the phone every time no matter what"...why is he doing this???? I still have deep feelings for him but now a lot of magic is gone after all the confusion and coldness for months... I can be friends and talk to him as such...the last call he was asking me about women as apparently the one he is interested in is a lot like me...taking things slow. Anyways.. I just don't get it as I thought we were an item but something changed between us and seems we cannot get it back...so should I just consider us friends now? In talking the last time.. I revealed a lot of what he did wrong with me and I know he was listening although we were technically talking about her.
Advice please
I need serious advice...or maybe medication!
I met a Leo on a website and from day one he called me EVERY night for 2 months... we talked about 3 hours a night. At first he was inquisitive and playful...then very flirty and things got romantic between us. After a month he still called every night but became more and more distant...quiet...unresponsive. We had a fight one night in month 3 about that I could not talk to him for a few days as I had an exam and I called him on his behavior that he last month he was yelling a lot and criticizing me...opposite of before...every since then he quit calling for awhile...I then did most the calling and his bad communication stopped but really basically all communication stopped...unresponsive even more...over the time he became more distant - even when he called me he did not have anything to really say...no questions and one word responses...We don't live in the same city...at first I could not meet and we set a future date BUT when the date came around after 5 months he was still very grumpy and angry and said he did not want company....more time passed and no flirting at all now for some time...We still talk about every 3 and it has been 6 months and min is every 3 days and lately he kept the conversation very short or said he had to go because of another call he had. We agreed if either of us met someone we would tell the other.
He then started telling me of all these girls hitting on him...then now is very talkative lately about one he is interested in and is going on dates with...and calling me to tell me every time they went out and what happened and asking my advice as he is not used to not sleeping with women right away. I said if he met someone, I will not call him anymore,....and he said to "still call and he will pick up the phone every time no matter what"...why is he doing this???? I still have deep feelings for him but now a lot of magic is gone after all the BS for months... I can be friends and talk to him as such...the last call he was asking me about women as apparently the one he is interested in is a lot like me...taking things slow. Anyways.. I just don't get it as I thought we were an item but something changed between us and seems we cannot get it back...so should I just consider us friends now? In talking the last time.. I revealed a lot of what he did wrong with me and I know he was listening although we were technically talking about her.
I know this sounds so screwed up but I am
I met a Leo on a website and from day one he called me EVERY night for 2 months... we talked about 3 hours a night. At first he was inquisitive and playful...then very flirty and things got romantic between us. After a month he still called every night but became more and more distant...quiet...unresponsive. We had a fight one night in month 3 about that I could not talk to him for a few days as I had an exam and I called him on his behavior that he last month he was yelling a lot and criticizing me...opposite of before...every since then he quit calling for awhile...I then did most the calling and his bad communication stopped but really basically all communication stopped...unresponsive even more...over the time he became more distant - even when he called me he did not have anything to really say...no questions and one word responses...We don't live in the same city...at first I could not meet and we set a future date BUT when the date came around after 5 months he was still very grumpy and angry and said he did not want company....more time passed and no flirting at all now for some time...We still talk about every 3 and it has been 6 months and min is every 3 days and lately he kept the conversation very short or said he had to go because of another call he had. We agreed if either of us met someone we would tell the other.
He then started telling me of all these girls hitting on him...then now is very talkative lately about one he is interested in and is going on dates with...and calling me to tell me every time they went out and what happened and asking my advice as he is not used to not sleeping with women right away. I said if he met someone, I will not call him anymore,....and he said to "still call and he will pick up the phone every time no matter what"...why is he doing this???? I still have deep feelings for him but now a lot of magic is gone after all the BS for months... I can be friends and talk to him as such...the last call he was asking me about women as apparently the one he is interested in is a lot like me...taking things slow. Anyways.. I just don't get it as I thought we were an item but something changed between us and seems we cannot get it back...so should I just consider us friends now? In talking the last time.. I revealed a lot of what he did wrong with me and I know he was listening although we were technically talking about her.
I know this sounds so screwed up but I am