Message Posts by sgtkilljoy
Posted by tctaapThat’s what I’m thinking... far too much trouble and potential drama than what I need in life at this stage. Ah well.
well now you know and what pray tell do you do about that - she might be a good time but that's about as far as it goes
I do agree... and I feel on the fence about my own feelings about this. Turns out- she is indeed married, though a mutual friend said it was more like “co-habitating” for the sake of their kids more than a relationship. She said it’s virtually platonic.
Aye. Confusing, exciting, scary as shit.
Aye. Confusing, exciting, scary as shit.
If I were in your shoes... apologies go a long way. I’d put it out there, with zero expectations about how he responds.
You know that he will take his sweet time to get back to you or come around... that’s the thing about us Bulls! And the more we’re prodded, the more annoyed we get.
That’s why I say no expectations...
Keep your head up!
You know that he will take his sweet time to get back to you or come around... that’s the thing about us Bulls! And the more we’re prodded, the more annoyed we get.
That’s why I say no expectations...
Keep your head up!
Really just posting as I’m punch drunk on this Aries and curious to hear from people at some point who have had the same experiences. I’ll try to keep it short for my Gemini friend lol.
I’d found out a few days ago that she is either married or in a relationship, which is a non-starter for me. Previously I’d posted on here about an affair I had with a Pisces, lessons learned and tough ones at that.
My boss actually attends the same church as this Aries and said she has never seen her with a partner, just her two kids. And she doesn’t wear a wedding ring. She told me that at one time, the Aries made a comment about how her and her SO don’t celebrate Valentines Day. To each their own, I love that day.
Again with the staring. Except yesterday, I did catch her eye and when she saw me looking at her, she raised her eyebrows really quick and sort of smirked at me. Got my blood going immediately! Helps that’s she’s always got a pen near her mouth too lol. She’s stunning.
She won an award yesterday and I sought her out to congratulate her post-ceremony. I do admire her for many reasons but her work ethic is attractive regardless of how I feel about her in other ways. She pulled me close and gave me a hug, even in the middle of the group.
Biting my lip later, I sent her a congratulatory note and told her we could not do what we do without her and her team. She replied and said it was my turn to make her blush. My heart jumped in my throat as I did not think she noticed or picked up on how shy I am.
It’s like there’s drugs in the air when I’m around her. Holy shit lol.
Treading lightly, to be continued...
I’d found out a few days ago that she is either married or in a relationship, which is a non-starter for me. Previously I’d posted on here about an affair I had with a Pisces, lessons learned and tough ones at that.
My boss actually attends the same church as this Aries and said she has never seen her with a partner, just her two kids. And she doesn’t wear a wedding ring. She told me that at one time, the Aries made a comment about how her and her SO don’t celebrate Valentines Day. To each their own, I love that day.
Again with the staring. Except yesterday, I did catch her eye and when she saw me looking at her, she raised her eyebrows really quick and sort of smirked at me. Got my blood going immediately! Helps that’s she’s always got a pen near her mouth too lol. She’s stunning.
She won an award yesterday and I sought her out to congratulate her post-ceremony. I do admire her for many reasons but her work ethic is attractive regardless of how I feel about her in other ways. She pulled me close and gave me a hug, even in the middle of the group.
Biting my lip later, I sent her a congratulatory note and told her we could not do what we do without her and her team. She replied and said it was my turn to make her blush. My heart jumped in my throat as I did not think she noticed or picked up on how shy I am.
It’s like there’s drugs in the air when I’m around her. Holy shit lol.
Treading lightly, to be continued...
Posted by jeaneAgreed... I know if I’ve made up my kind to at least take some space and someone keeps encroaching on it, it pushes me further away! Respecting boundaries should be at the top of the list along with communication, in my mind.Posted by SunmoonrisingListen never give up if you truly love someone but as painful as it is you are going to just have to leave it for another 2 3 weeks.
Then try again in a calm way. Make her laugh but keep it light.
I was completely heart broken once and had to take a step back but I knew I loved my man and tried again and we are together. I did How ever have to act in a normal manner. Love can send you crazy sometimes. I wish you the best x
I think that's the motto of 'stalkers international' isn't it?click to expand
Posted by bkbella86Also, good luck with your Tauruses!! They must be just as clueless as me if they’re not completely into an amazing Aries. Some of us are a lazy lot, too stubborn. We need a lot of patience, lol!Posted by sgtkilljoyPosted by bkbella86Posted by sgtkilljoyPosted by bkbella86
Noooooo
Haha, yeah that’s how I feel!!
That shit sucks
Hopefully she was referring to her dog
Haha, needed this laugh, thank you! It’s been a little soul crushing honestly. Glad I didn’t make any moves, and I’m just wondering what all hers meant. This is territory I won’t tread in... unless someday, I get a clear sign she is single and interested! I’m very patient haha.
Lol I’m glad I could help!
I swear Taurus and Aries can never get off the ground. I want me a Taurus man but it never goes anywhere. I’m talking to one and the other one just ghosted me.
Good thing you all are cautious because it could have gone left! I know sometimes Aries are accused of flirting but we’re just being nice and friendly. I’m a shy Aries when I like someone, like I get really closed off and barely look ya in the eye and others are more forward but from what you shared something is there! I’d say be friends and take her up on the invite for drinks at her place. Learn more about her. What if you’re wrong? Wait for a real confirmation. Get out your comfort zone Tauri.click to expand
Posted by bkbella86Thank you!! Yeah, I agree. I’m glad I didn’t step on myself. And I do definitely definitely feel there’s a lot of chemistry between us... people will say there’s not much to staring but I’m telling you, her eyes say a lot. I’m the same as you, I get really shy and can barely look the other person in the eye. Not her though. And I don’t want to sound like a creeper but when I’m around her, I can barely think. I noticed this a year ago but I think it’s been within the past few weeks that it’s just gotten more intense for me. So I’m not sure if I’m noticing the situation more, or if it’s been mutual!Posted by sgtkilljoyPosted by bkbella86Posted by sgtkilljoyPosted by bkbella86
Noooooo
Haha, yeah that’s how I feel!!
That shit sucks
Hopefully she was referring to her dog
Haha, needed this laugh, thank you! It’s been a little soul crushing honestly. Glad I didn’t make any moves, and I’m just wondering what all hers meant. This is territory I won’t tread in... unless someday, I get a clear sign she is single and interested! I’m very patient haha.
Lol I’m glad I could help!
I swear Taurus and Aries can never get off the ground. I want me a Taurus man but it never goes anywhere. I’m talking to one and the other one just ghosted me.
Good thing you all are cautious because it could have gone left! I know sometimes Aries are accused of flirting but we’re just being nice and friendly. I’m a shy Aries when I like someone, like I get really closed off and barely look ya in the eye and others are more forward but from what you shared something is there! I’d say be friends and take her up on the invite for drinks at her place. Learn more about her. What if you’re wrong? Wait for a real confirmation. Get out your comfort zone Tauri.click to expand
It’s made this summer interesting, at any rate!! I’ll update for anyone interested in our telenovela, lol! Staying on my best behavior, though 😉
Posted by bkbella86Haha, needed this laugh, thank you! It’s been a little soul crushing honestly. Glad I didn’t make any moves, and I’m just wondering what all hers meant. This is territory I won’t tread in... unless someday, I get a clear sign she is single and interested! I’m very patient haha.Posted by sgtkilljoyPosted by bkbella86
Noooooo
Haha, yeah that’s how I feel!!
That shit sucks
Hopefully she was referring to her dogclick to expand
Posted by bkbella86Haha, yeah that’s how I feel!!
Noooooo
I agree with ☝🏼
Not so much a sign things as much as it is a relationship thing...
If possible, take some space for yourself and remember that love is the one thing you can’t force. It is very difficult but you’ll fall in love many times with the right and wrong people. All will bring their own brand of lessons to you. For now, focus on you and try to stay motivated to keep your own heart and head intact.
Not so much a sign things as much as it is a relationship thing...
If possible, take some space for yourself and remember that love is the one thing you can’t force. It is very difficult but you’ll fall in love many times with the right and wrong people. All will bring their own brand of lessons to you. For now, focus on you and try to stay motivated to keep your own heart and head intact.
All right... quick update. Spent quite a few hours with... let’s call her J today. Great conversation, pretty much intoxicated on her scent, loved making her laugh. She even invited my boss and I over to her place to have drinks on her patio in the coming weeks. During our last conference call practically both of us were sitting in my chair, lol.
Come to find out though- she’s either married or in a relationship. She never says we, us, ours. Always singular... we were even talking about future retirement plans and it was all “I” and such.
She doesn’t wear a ring, has pictures of her kids on her desk but no spouse. So that was a bit of a surprise! So I’m a little disappointed that this crush may never go beyond just that. She’s incredible, and there’s no doubt that I’m beyond attracted. But I suppose, even if that’s where all signs are pointing, that’s where it needs to stay.
Come to find out though- she’s either married or in a relationship. She never says we, us, ours. Always singular... we were even talking about future retirement plans and it was all “I” and such.
She doesn’t wear a ring, has pictures of her kids on her desk but no spouse. So that was a bit of a surprise! So I’m a little disappointed that this crush may never go beyond just that. She’s incredible, and there’s no doubt that I’m beyond attracted. But I suppose, even if that’s where all signs are pointing, that’s where it needs to stay.
All right... quick update. Spent quite a few hours with... let’s call her J today. Great conversation, pretty much intoxicated on her scent, loved making her laugh. She even invited my boss and I over to her place to have drinks on her patio in the coming weeks. During our last conference call practically both of us were sitting in my chair, lol.
Come to find out though- she’s either married or in a relationship. She never says we, us, ours. Always singular... we were even talking about future retirement plans and it was all “I” and such.
She doesn’t wear a ring, has pictures of her kids on her desk but no spouse. So that was a bit of a surprise! So I’m a little disappointed that this crush may never go beyond just that. She’s incredible, and there’s no doubt that I’m beyond attracted. But I suppose, even if that’s where all signs are pointing, that’s where it needs to stay.
Come to find out though- she’s either married or in a relationship. She never says we, us, ours. Always singular... we were even talking about future retirement plans and it was all “I” and such.
She doesn’t wear a ring, has pictures of her kids on her desk but no spouse. So that was a bit of a surprise! So I’m a little disappointed that this crush may never go beyond just that. She’s incredible, and there’s no doubt that I’m beyond attracted. But I suppose, even if that’s where all signs are pointing, that’s where it needs to stay.
Outside of him being an ex for a reason, why not give it a go? Especially if you think you want him back... though proceeding with caution might be wise.
Posted by SunmoonrisingThank you my friend! And yeah, the insights are much more helpful than some of the jokes, though I do think they are funny... love Gemini’s...
Yes I agree x ask her out for a drink. She's definitely flirting around you. Don't over think just do it...I hope it goes well. Sounds promising tbh.
On a side note...some comments on here are so shit. Seriously just help the guy out instead of giving useless opinions.
Posted by ParisianLeoHey mate, I think the difference over the last few months is that I’m actually paying attention... I didn’t really think she was interested before, because I’m pretty clueless... but even I think she’s throwing me some signs now. This flirting stuff keeps us young, eh?
A year of staring? That's unheard of. And you know her from before that!? Nows the time if you feel the heat is cranking up. Just play with her and see how she responds if you're not sure about asking her out bluntly. Her response will put you on track. Also it is summer so heat usually cranks up literally as much as sexually at that period of the year....
Thanks everyone for your thoughts. I like learning about th signs, different ways we show things or express ideas. It helps in dealing with some of the complexities of humans and relationships. Yes I am a Taurus and slow to move, however I am dealing with an over cautious heart (who isn’t?) and don’t want to scare this beauty away. It’s been a year of the staring, haha. But like I said it’s like someone cranked up the heat in recent days and it’s thrown me for a loop. So I’m tripping over my own feet here... adult teenager, like I said. Lol.
Posted by jeaneHAHAHA!! Me, to a “t”
"want a bite of my food?"
it was then reader, that i knew he loved me.
Lots of attention- no matter if we are close in proximity or not. When I love someone I will cook for them... buy little sentimental gifts... I’m a huge sentimentalist. Can’t keep my hands off either- lots of physical contact.
Posted by greylaternThanks my friend. Feeling a little more courageous to go for it with some caution. Always a risk, sometimes worth it haha!
Well she definitely doesn't mind you staring at her. She even missed it when you didn't. Either she enjoys your attention or also has a crush on you. Either way it is a green light to take a step closer.
Posted by BumblebebeInteresting, I hadn’t thought of that! Thank you, my friend. I definitely feel this really great connection. However I am a chicken shit and heard that Aries like to chase. And I don’t mind being chased
Not sure if you're into astrology that much being an aries she might have some taurus in her chart too.
Makes work a lot more interesting for both of us... haha.Posted by GemitatiKind of my thinking.. I’m open to anything really, I’m just not sure I understand her signals! I’m intrigued, and curious to see where this goes.Posted by Pandora101Posted by GemitatiPosted by Arielle83
Cute
I hope you referring to ‘40 y/old teenager’ and not about his staring and no actions. 10 thousand words post about mutual stating and nothing!!! He isn’t saying a word. She isn’t offering shit...🤔
I agree with non-action, its annoying :
but, its a workplace, caution is warranted
dating co-workers is tricky and generally not advised, for a reason
However huge percent of marriages started at a workplace and nobody can’t do nothing about it. People are people...❤️❤️click to expand
Posted by GemitatiKind of my thinking.. I’m open to anything really, I’m just not sure I understand her signals! I’m intrigued, and curious to see where this goes.Posted by Pandora101Posted by GemitatiPosted by Arielle83
Cute
I hope you referring to ‘40 y/old teenager’ and not about his staring and no actions. 10 thousand words post about mutual stating and nothing!!! He isn’t saying a word. She isn’t offering shit...🤔
I agree with non-action, its annoying :
but, its a workplace, caution is warranted
dating co-workers is tricky and generally not advised, for a reason
However huge percent of marriages started at a workplace and nobody can’t do nothing about it. People are people...❤️❤️click to expand
Well, definitely here because I’m having trouble deciphering language with non-verbals! ... always feel it’s better to share the details that stood out to me versus leaving it to the imagination 😉
Hey there,
I had to go to therapy for this kind of stuff. I’m a typical Taurus- stubborn, closed off, slow to anger but stuck there. Not anymore, or at least not at all to the same degree.
I will say this... it took me ten years to break off a relationship because I did not want to hurt my ex. Ten years! She is likely waiting on you to make the call to end it... it’s a cowardly way to deal, but she’s already shown her propensity for being a coward by refusing to be vulnerable and lying to you. You don’t do those things to people you are invested in.
Do what makes you happiest- if you are here asking, you probably know the answer already. Heal up, and move on my friend.
Killjoy
I had to go to therapy for this kind of stuff. I’m a typical Taurus- stubborn, closed off, slow to anger but stuck there. Not anymore, or at least not at all to the same degree.
I will say this... it took me ten years to break off a relationship because I did not want to hurt my ex. Ten years! She is likely waiting on you to make the call to end it... it’s a cowardly way to deal, but she’s already shown her propensity for being a coward by refusing to be vulnerable and lying to you. You don’t do those things to people you are invested in.
Do what makes you happiest- if you are here asking, you probably know the answer already. Heal up, and move on my friend.
Killjoy
Hi- I’m sorry to hear this. We’re a proud lot, and when we’re going through tough stuff, we tend to turn inwards versus talk about it and let people help us. I don’t know about your mom, but sometimes I feel like it’s so overwhelming that I can’t put it into words.
We also don’t want people to perceive us as weak... especially to those we love the most.
She loves you, she will come around. Family is everything to us. Be her rock even when she won’t acknowledge that she needs it.
Killjoy
We also don’t want people to perceive us as weak... especially to those we love the most.
She loves you, she will come around. Family is everything to us. Be her rock even when she won’t acknowledge that she needs it.
Killjoy
I agree with the posts above... this isn’t a Taurus thing, this is a thing where someone doesn’t want to commit. I will say as a Taurus guy, when I love someone or like someone, they don’t have to question my commitment. I don’t lead people on that I love.
Heal up girl. Someone out there is worthy of you.
Killjoy
Heal up girl. Someone out there is worthy of you.
Killjoy
Hi everyone!
I created an account here five years ago when dealing with a nasty heartbreak with a Pisces- back again to understand an aries in my life who for whatever reason, has captured my attention. (I’ve been dating and happy to say I’ve put the Pisces behind me.)
I’m a Taurus, 9 May. She’s 24 March, and unfortunately I don’t know much else regarding her sign (nor mine).
We work together in the same organization, different offices. We’ve circled each other for close to a year, strictly in work capacities. I had actually met her in another work organization prior to this, and her impression on me was that she was attractive and nice. I also remember that as I was leaving her office that day, we locked eyes.
Last year, she was hired into my organization and we’ve worked together on some projects. She’s very task focused and doesn’t really joke around while working (I certainly do, it’s stressful when I don’t!). I’d catch her in the hallway or across from me in meetings staring- and when I looked back at her, she wouldn’t break her gaze nor smile. I would be the shy one and look away, feeling like my face was on fire!
Several months ago, there was this moment when she rounded a corner and we saw each other right at the same time. The word that comes to mind when I think about her body language after she saw me was... strut... super sexy, and even now makes me laugh. She completely played it cool, strutted right by me and gave me a casual hello while she connected with another coworker down the hall, and I literally sprinted down to the other end. Way to play it cool, Killjoy.
I will constantly see her across the room in meetings from the corner of my eye, staring at me. My eyes give a lot away, so I don’t usually look back. This woman strikes some serious curiosity/fear in me, haha.
The last two weeks- don’t know if something is in the air or what- it’s like someone cranked up the heat on us. She laughs around me a lot. A few days ago, we were walking to another meeting together and it was like she lost all her words- it was the first time I’d seen her act shy around me, as normally she is bold and assertive. And the staring- always the staring. It doesn’t bother me at all- it makes me feel curious. And certainly interested.
Yesterday, we were in another meeting and I didn’t know that she saw me there. Afterwards, she playfully asked me, “why didn’t you look at me? I know you weren’t looking at me on purpose!” And I had no idea what to say because in typical Taurus fashion, I am feeling this crush with every fiber however I’m afraid that I’m looking at this through a hopeful lens and not a realistic one.
There’s just something about her eyes. She stares, and sometimes she smiles a little when she does but her eyes are very intense. I’m normally fairly assured, but when she looks at me, I dissolve internally. I feel like a teenager all over again, clumsy and inarticulate.
After a meeting yesterday, she came to my office and I could see her studying everything I had on the walls, on the shelves. I was watching her studying me. I do not see her interact with anyone else this way, but again not sure what this means, if anything.
So to sum up, lots of meetings and lots of staring, haha. Or rather- I sit in a lot of meeting with her where she stares. And the last few days, she has sat right next to me even when the other side of the table is unoccupied. Anytime I see her (outside of meetings, too), she normally just talks to me and no one else around us. And her eyes, I feel like they’re aware of everything I’m thinking.
You Aries women... wow. I would not say I’m the typical Taurus with the jealousy and possessiveness, but certainly with the cluelessness at times. Can anyone give this 40-year old teenager some wisdom in what to do, say or how to perceive this?
Crushing like crazy,
Killjoy
I created an account here five years ago when dealing with a nasty heartbreak with a Pisces- back again to understand an aries in my life who for whatever reason, has captured my attention. (I’ve been dating and happy to say I’ve put the Pisces behind me.)
I’m a Taurus, 9 May. She’s 24 March, and unfortunately I don’t know much else regarding her sign (nor mine).
We work together in the same organization, different offices. We’ve circled each other for close to a year, strictly in work capacities. I had actually met her in another work organization prior to this, and her impression on me was that she was attractive and nice. I also remember that as I was leaving her office that day, we locked eyes.
Last year, she was hired into my organization and we’ve worked together on some projects. She’s very task focused and doesn’t really joke around while working (I certainly do, it’s stressful when I don’t!). I’d catch her in the hallway or across from me in meetings staring- and when I looked back at her, she wouldn’t break her gaze nor smile. I would be the shy one and look away, feeling like my face was on fire!
Several months ago, there was this moment when she rounded a corner and we saw each other right at the same time. The word that comes to mind when I think about her body language after she saw me was... strut... super sexy, and even now makes me laugh. She completely played it cool, strutted right by me and gave me a casual hello while she connected with another coworker down the hall, and I literally sprinted down to the other end. Way to play it cool, Killjoy.
I will constantly see her across the room in meetings from the corner of my eye, staring at me. My eyes give a lot away, so I don’t usually look back. This woman strikes some serious curiosity/fear in me, haha.
The last two weeks- don’t know if something is in the air or what- it’s like someone cranked up the heat on us. She laughs around me a lot. A few days ago, we were walking to another meeting together and it was like she lost all her words- it was the first time I’d seen her act shy around me, as normally she is bold and assertive. And the staring- always the staring. It doesn’t bother me at all- it makes me feel curious. And certainly interested.
Yesterday, we were in another meeting and I didn’t know that she saw me there. Afterwards, she playfully asked me, “why didn’t you look at me? I know you weren’t looking at me on purpose!” And I had no idea what to say because in typical Taurus fashion, I am feeling this crush with every fiber however I’m afraid that I’m looking at this through a hopeful lens and not a realistic one.
There’s just something about her eyes. She stares, and sometimes she smiles a little when she does but her eyes are very intense. I’m normally fairly assured, but when she looks at me, I dissolve internally. I feel like a teenager all over again, clumsy and inarticulate.
After a meeting yesterday, she came to my office and I could see her studying everything I had on the walls, on the shelves. I was watching her studying me. I do not see her interact with anyone else this way, but again not sure what this means, if anything.
So to sum up, lots of meetings and lots of staring, haha. Or rather- I sit in a lot of meeting with her where she stares. And the last few days, she has sat right next to me even when the other side of the table is unoccupied. Anytime I see her (outside of meetings, too), she normally just talks to me and no one else around us. And her eyes, I feel like they’re aware of everything I’m thinking.
You Aries women... wow. I would not say I’m the typical Taurus with the jealousy and possessiveness, but certainly with the cluelessness at times. Can anyone give this 40-year old teenager some wisdom in what to do, say or how to perceive this?
Crushing like crazy,
Killjoy
Honeejr,
Thank you for your insights. When our affair started, I had been separated. I know how scary that can be and because of that never wanted to give my love an ultimatum (and still don't).
I know she is so used to how her Aries husband is, she falls do his tricks every time and always hopes he will change. I even said that to her over Christmas: "he will always promise you he will change and you will always believe him." It upset her but I believe she saw truth in that... After all here we are 7 months later and apparently all is well in her world.
I poured my soul out to her yesterday, about my love and feelings. She isnverybcareful to not make any promises to me and told me that she loved hearing me say what I did, but wished she could take the pain away. She told me that because her husband doesn't usually treat her like he is now, it feels nice and she wants to get close to him again. It really hurt me to hear that she said she was in love with him again and connected emotionally. I think he is putting on a heck of an act but of course I am biased.
I have usually been patient but in love it's harder for me... I appreciate her as a woman, as a friend, as a person and get so discouraged that she is with someone who is only on his best behavior because she told him earlier this year she wanted a divorce.
Don't know why love is so hard, especially when I was so sure I'd found my soulmate.
Thank you for your insights. When our affair started, I had been separated. I know how scary that can be and because of that never wanted to give my love an ultimatum (and still don't).
I know she is so used to how her Aries husband is, she falls do his tricks every time and always hopes he will change. I even said that to her over Christmas: "he will always promise you he will change and you will always believe him." It upset her but I believe she saw truth in that... After all here we are 7 months later and apparently all is well in her world.
I poured my soul out to her yesterday, about my love and feelings. She isnverybcareful to not make any promises to me and told me that she loved hearing me say what I did, but wished she could take the pain away. She told me that because her husband doesn't usually treat her like he is now, it feels nice and she wants to get close to him again. It really hurt me to hear that she said she was in love with him again and connected emotionally. I think he is putting on a heck of an act but of course I am biased.
I have usually been patient but in love it's harder for me... I appreciate her as a woman, as a friend, as a person and get so discouraged that she is with someone who is only on his best behavior because she told him earlier this year she wanted a divorce.
Don't know why love is so hard, especially when I was so sure I'd found my soulmate.
I like that idea, a friend told me today that I am worth fighting for and I suppose now it's time to see if she fights.
Being a Taurus I am mostly patient... Very careful never to push her.
But I appreciate the supportive words from you both, it means a lot especially right now, when it hurts the most.
Being a Taurus I am mostly patient... Very careful never to push her.
But I appreciate the supportive words from you both, it means a lot especially right now, when it hurts the most.
Thank you both so much. I was waiting for the vultures actually, lol.
Feistypisces i do play rugby, it's a great outlet
It is hard to think of moving on but I have faith that if it is meant to be then it will. I know that affairs are based on lies and manipulation (which is why I harbor a lot of guilt) but I honestly believed that I had found my soulmate. It made me happy to know that I made her feel good about herself and happy too.
Feistypisces i do play rugby, it's a great outlet
It is hard to think of moving on but I have faith that if it is meant to be then it will. I know that affairs are based on lies and manipulation (which is why I harbor a lot of guilt) but I honestly believed that I had found my soulmate. It made me happy to know that I made her feel good about herself and happy too.
LIb4Life,
Well, it's messed up but she didn't tell me that she had herpes until months after we'd started sleeping together. Thankfully I do not have it and have used protection since. She told me that she waited to tell me because she was afraid I would leave her.
Well, it's messed up but she didn't tell me that she had herpes until months after we'd started sleeping together. Thankfully I do not have it and have used protection since. She told me that she waited to tell me because she was afraid I would leave her.
Hi Feistypisces, thank you again. My common sense and my heart have been at odds for a long time now. I'm a romantic and have always hoped that she would end up leaving her Aries (I know, it is terrible to wish divorce but it would be better for the two kids), and that she would be with me.
You mentioned absence... I have thought about how she was miserable before I came into her life and have thought about distancing myself to see if she would feel happy in her marriage (as she does now) or back to miserable again. What do you think? I respect your opinion.
You mentioned absence... I have thought about how she was miserable before I came into her life and have thought about distancing myself to see if she would feel happy in her marriage (as she does now) or back to miserable again. What do you think? I respect your opinion.
I don't know about her astrology except she is a Pisces (20 March) and I am a Taurus (9 May)
Hi LIb4Life,
Thank you for responding. I know, I got myself into this somehow. I don't know how to describe it but when we are together, everything is amazing. And the physical side- we can't keep our hands off each other. Now that she is on the east coast of course it is a bit different.
I don't want to be her safety bet but she has told me that she doesn't want to lose our connection and friendship.
I saw her in May and it was like it's always been. I asked myself if things are going so well in her marriage why would she want to sleep with me... She told me that is because when she is with me she doesn't think about her marriage. I feel like she withholds information at times because she doesn't want to be completely honest about her feelings.
Literally love her with everything I have. Never felt this connection and I would be devastated to lose it.
Thank you for responding. I know, I got myself into this somehow. I don't know how to describe it but when we are together, everything is amazing. And the physical side- we can't keep our hands off each other. Now that she is on the east coast of course it is a bit different.
I don't want to be her safety bet but she has told me that she doesn't want to lose our connection and friendship.
I saw her in May and it was like it's always been. I asked myself if things are going so well in her marriage why would she want to sleep with me... She told me that is because when she is with me she doesn't think about her marriage. I feel like she withholds information at times because she doesn't want to be completely honest about her feelings.
Literally love her with everything I have. Never felt this connection and I would be devastated to lose it.
Hi Feistypisces,
That's what I feared, that I was propping her up in her marriage and filling gaps where her husband wasn't. I love her in a way that I have never loved another woman. She reuses to let me go and I suppose that was giving me hope that it was because she did want to be together with me, but was afraid to leave her marriage.
She also grew up in a broken home and doesn't want her girls to grow up without their dad. I am not so selfish that I can't understand that.
Her husband is an Aries... I've heard they typically don't match up.
I feel absolutely crushed. I am so afraid of letting her go.
That's what I feared, that I was propping her up in her marriage and filling gaps where her husband wasn't. I love her in a way that I have never loved another woman. She reuses to let me go and I suppose that was giving me hope that it was because she did want to be together with me, but was afraid to leave her marriage.
She also grew up in a broken home and doesn't want her girls to grow up without their dad. I am not so selfish that I can't understand that.
Her husband is an Aries... I've heard they typically don't match up.
I feel absolutely crushed. I am so afraid of letting her go.
Physical connection, not musical. Although we do like music too!
I am not at all proud of what has happened but I had an affair with a Pisces woman over the last year. She has been with her Aries husband for 7 years and married for 5. They have two small girls. Before anyone chastises me for the affair, please don't. I never saw this coming and if I knew I would be experiencing what I am now I would never have fallen.
We started off as amazing friends. My Pisces love is always full of laughter and living in the moment. After about 18 months of getting to know each other, she confessed that she has feelings for me. This is after hearing her complain for almost 2 years that her husband was absent, cruel, not supportive and an absent father. He gave her herpes and even started a rumor at work about her and another coworker. I realized that I was falling in love with her too and things progressed from there. I separated from my spouse but she did not. As an aside I did not ever (and have not ever) asked her to choose between her husband and me. She told me just a few months ago that I am her soulmate.
One year ago, my Pisces love moved away to the east coast for a job. She did so on her own and raised the girls for a few months alone before her husband moved out there. I just knew in my heart that she was going to give him another chance and she has been... She told me that he is making big efforts and she doesn't want to live in the past. She told me that she is in love with him again and connecting on an emotional level. I was crushed.
She told me in the same conversation (just yesterday) that she is still in love with me and she won't let me run away. We both agree that we have a crazy musical and spiritual connection unlike anything either one of us have experienced. We met a few months ago to hang out with another friend and one thing led to another later that night. I didn't see it coming but I can't explain my attraction to her- it's like a force. She told me she feels the same.
I really need your help. Any perspective from a Pisces. Please don't beat me up- as I said, I never saw this coming and I do feel horrible. I feel that she is my soulmate and I am so confused as she told me I was hers too. She told me that if her husband goes back to his old ways, she will leave- but she has been telling me that for nearly two years now. I understand the harshness of a broken home as I grew up in one as well. I am so heartbroken. I love her girls and would love to raise a family with her
We started off as amazing friends. My Pisces love is always full of laughter and living in the moment. After about 18 months of getting to know each other, she confessed that she has feelings for me. This is after hearing her complain for almost 2 years that her husband was absent, cruel, not supportive and an absent father. He gave her herpes and even started a rumor at work about her and another coworker. I realized that I was falling in love with her too and things progressed from there. I separated from my spouse but she did not. As an aside I did not ever (and have not ever) asked her to choose between her husband and me. She told me just a few months ago that I am her soulmate.
One year ago, my Pisces love moved away to the east coast for a job. She did so on her own and raised the girls for a few months alone before her husband moved out there. I just knew in my heart that she was going to give him another chance and she has been... She told me that he is making big efforts and she doesn't want to live in the past. She told me that she is in love with him again and connecting on an emotional level. I was crushed.
She told me in the same conversation (just yesterday) that she is still in love with me and she won't let me run away. We both agree that we have a crazy musical and spiritual connection unlike anything either one of us have experienced. We met a few months ago to hang out with another friend and one thing led to another later that night. I didn't see it coming but I can't explain my attraction to her- it's like a force. She told me she feels the same.
I really need your help. Any perspective from a Pisces. Please don't beat me up- as I said, I never saw this coming and I do feel horrible. I feel that she is my soulmate and I am so confused as she told me I was hers too. She told me that if her husband goes back to his old ways, she will leave- but she has been telling me that for nearly two years now. I understand the harshness of a broken home as I grew up in one as well. I am so heartbroken. I love her girls and would love to raise a family with her
Hi everyone,
Just wanted to post an update with regards to my cancer friend.
We've essentially had no contact outside of formal office emails... I've done what people have suggested and given her space and will continue to do so. I feel if I were to approach her that it would be counterintuitive to what I'm trying to do which is gain her friendship back.
She's very polite and cordial but doesn't look at me, even still. I hear her laughing and chatting away with other office mates and it does sting a bit.
Disturbing though in that other people, no less than seven in the last four days- have come to me with the same story: she will shut people out for reasons they sometimes don't know, and every few months she will shut everyone out no matter who they are.
I think she's an amazing person and especially more so when she's happy and social. If I don't get to experience that again, I respect her decision and won't think or speak poorly of her. She's gone through a lot in the last few years and I admire her for who she is.
Hoping to bring good news to the table one of these days... For now, it is what it is I suppose.
Cheers
Killjoy
Just wanted to post an update with regards to my cancer friend.
We've essentially had no contact outside of formal office emails... I've done what people have suggested and given her space and will continue to do so. I feel if I were to approach her that it would be counterintuitive to what I'm trying to do which is gain her friendship back.
She's very polite and cordial but doesn't look at me, even still. I hear her laughing and chatting away with other office mates and it does sting a bit.
Disturbing though in that other people, no less than seven in the last four days- have come to me with the same story: she will shut people out for reasons they sometimes don't know, and every few months she will shut everyone out no matter who they are.
I think she's an amazing person and especially more so when she's happy and social. If I don't get to experience that again, I respect her decision and won't think or speak poorly of her. She's gone through a lot in the last few years and I admire her for who she is.
Hoping to bring good news to the table one of these days... For now, it is what it is I suppose.
Cheers
Killjoy
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Thank you killjoy your kind words are appreciated.
I think women know before hand when their partners start cheating on them. So was my case.
However by the same logic I should know why he decided to find someone else, but here I am at a loss.
No worries. Love is one of those things where it doesn't matter how strong you are- you are in for a tough ride at times. Live and learn
. Bulls are aggravatingly stubborn and set in our ways, but not all bad . Keep your chin up and work on taking care of yourself first and foremost. If your ex comes to his senses he will come talk... If not it's time to move on with one foot in front of the other. Stay strong!I've been a military instructor for 15 years. Love teaching and helping others understand... Rewarding job in many ways.
Cheers mate
Killjoy
Cheers mate
Killjoy