notanotherscorp joined April 26, 2011
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Doesn't everyone disappear from time to time? Each to their own and if anyone's going to call you antisocial for taking time out (perfectly natural and healthy) it's their problem, not yours. I've never understood why everything has to be go, go, go for some people, like they have to be seen at every social occasion, nor why they sometimes have to bring other people down for not being 'cool' like them for not always being in the spotlight, nor why anyone would feel guilty by a person presupposing that upon them. Antisocial, bah! We exist in shadows and quiet dignity anyway. Plus, if you're not in the mood to go out isn't it better to rejuvenate at home instead of going out somewhere and sitting in the corner disinterested? Only in this society can being constantly on the go be consideredered the way to be a 'successful' person; I call it stupidity. Some people must be damn tired 
If you can explain to him exactly what you've written above I think you'll be fine, more or less. He really has to feel how important your friendship is to you over sex; it's no use trying to bend your explanation to what you think he wants to hear either. I think your intuition for what you need here is spot on: you're already seeing someone and he has to realise that so don't be afraid to put your foot down about how you feel. He might respect that his will has been equally matched with something of more substance than a fuck and at heart I think all scorps respond to that sort of genuity. Either that or he'll sulk about not getting his way but if you've made your point clear and true it's really none of your concern, right? Don't cave, just be calm and respectful in your decision. If he values your friendship he'll grow up and come round to you. Hope this helps; it's exactly how I'd want to be treated if I had that famous indecision between a good friendship and lust.
Putting the boot to stubborn, oversexed scorps everywhere..don't forsake good friendships for a casual fuck. It's about how other people feel as well
Putting the boot to stubborn, oversexed scorps everywhere..don't forsake good friendships for a casual fuck. It's about how other people feel as well
I find my phone is my worst enemy in dealing with rejection. It's always so tempting to be in contact with someone when you like them but there's the whole love/hate thing going on. I could never stop myself from texting with possessive intentions and trying to cover it up by trying to be 'just a friend'. It always felt false because I was still seething inside and it was just a subconscious way of trying to get close in order to attack someone and deliver a deathblow. All or nothing, very typically 'I will have the last say' and a very shitty thing to do to someone. I'm not proud of the fact that none of my ex's want to know me. Deleting numbers is the harder path but lets you get on with things without trying to dig up the past.
What I'm saying is, it's said we have an iron will but so many have trouble applying that same iron will to walking away from something that no longer works or is unhealthy. Walking away is a choice and everyone has that choice; I figure any decent native scorp attracts this sort of thing a lot in life (stirring up drama and having your heart ripped out/ripping it out yourself) and most of the time we do it subconsciously...so do it consciously instead. Face it. Feel out of control. If you hate the person, really make an effort to fucking hate them so it's out of your system, then remember why you loved them; I've found this is really helpful in forgiving other people and yourself. You can't control whether other people love you or not but you do have choices about what you do next and how to move on.
What I'm saying is, it's said we have an iron will but so many have trouble applying that same iron will to walking away from something that no longer works or is unhealthy. Walking away is a choice and everyone has that choice; I figure any decent native scorp attracts this sort of thing a lot in life (stirring up drama and having your heart ripped out/ripping it out yourself) and most of the time we do it subconsciously...so do it consciously instead. Face it. Feel out of control. If you hate the person, really make an effort to fucking hate them so it's out of your system, then remember why you loved them; I've found this is really helpful in forgiving other people and yourself. You can't control whether other people love you or not but you do have choices about what you do next and how to move on.
Hi everyone, my name's Michael, been following this forum for a while and decided to join up. Nice to see an active forum and hope to get to know a few people around here 
Thought I'd post on feeling out-of-sync with emotions; I've read a lot of descriptions about scorps and they all seem to say the same thing: passionate, sexual, mysterious, all that jazz. I remember feeling this way myself a few years ago, could see the connection, loved the rep and all that. Somewhere along the line though, all of that disappeared and now it feels like my zest for life, love and relationships is gone. I've been this way for about two or three years now and I can't help but think that the descriptions don't cover in-depth what happens when a scorp emotionally flatlines and can't feel any of the things they're so notorious for.
I remember being a highly emotional, empathic, vengeful, vindictive little brat and it's not like the flatline I feel now is an unhappy one. I feel more stable as a person than I ever have and believe I finally glimpsed what it's like not to have to control anything, accept rejection as something that just happens and not take it to heart so much, that if life is going to throw you shit just to take it as it rolls and not get up in arms and most importantly, learn to cultivate good friendships with the opposite sex instead of letting the OTHER side take over All in all, I feel like I've hit some sort of pinnacle of emotional control; logic rules these days. But I'm just so damn bored! I have no appetite for anything, not women, not a relationship, not sex, not a job or some other goal, nothing. It seems the price of burying those emotions is peace (which I did because sun, moon and mercury in scorp is like a nuclear reactor) but I'm wondering if anything's ever going to spark those feelings again. I randomly assumed once I was able to control myself that I'd have a balance but it swung in the complete opposite direction and I'm very out-of-tune. Don't miss the mood swings but do miss the good things like empathy and that good sort of magnetism you can only have when you believe in things.
Maybe this is just a part of the mid-20's funk of growing up but it's a lonely time. I miss being in love and being loved but something in me is really adverse and isn't willing to take any steps towards achieving that.
Anyone else ever flatlined like this, lost their mojo?
Thought I'd post on feeling out-of-sync with emotions; I've read a lot of descriptions about scorps and they all seem to say the same thing: passionate, sexual, mysterious, all that jazz. I remember feeling this way myself a few years ago, could see the connection, loved the rep and all that. Somewhere along the line though, all of that disappeared and now it feels like my zest for life, love and relationships is gone. I've been this way for about two or three years now and I can't help but think that the descriptions don't cover in-depth what happens when a scorp emotionally flatlines and can't feel any of the things they're so notorious for.
I remember being a highly emotional, empathic, vengeful, vindictive little brat and it's not like the flatline I feel now is an unhappy one. I feel more stable as a person than I ever have and believe I finally glimpsed what it's like not to have to control anything, accept rejection as something that just happens and not take it to heart so much, that if life is going to throw you shit just to take it as it rolls and not get up in arms and most importantly, learn to cultivate good friendships with the opposite sex instead of letting the OTHER side take over
All in all, I feel like I've hit some sort of pinnacle of emotional control; logic rules these days. But I'm just so damn bored! I have no appetite for anything, not women, not a relationship, not sex, not a job or some other goal, nothing. It seems the price of burying those emotions is peace (which I did because sun, moon and mercury in scorp is like a nuclear reactor) but I'm wondering if anything's ever going to spark those feelings again. I randomly assumed once I was able to control myself that I'd have a balance but it swung in the complete opposite direction and I'm very out-of-tune. Don't miss the mood swings but do miss the good things like empathy and that good sort of magnetism you can only have when you believe in things.Maybe this is just a part of the mid-20's funk of growing up but it's a lonely time. I miss being in love and being loved but something in me is really adverse and isn't willing to take any steps towards achieving that.
Anyone else ever flatlined like this, lost their mojo?
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Hi everyone, my name's Michael, been following this forum for a while and decided to join up. Nice to see an active foru
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