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Posted by CaringSagittariusso basically he dips during a crisis type situation? red flag.Posted by OblivionWell it's happened twice, the first time he thought it was just culture shock and adjusting to starting college, but then after the second time he realized there was a deeper issue there. I've only given him chances because I know that he really does have these underlying issues, and he wants to be with me and loves me at the end of the day, and that he's trying to change this. But yes, it's hard for me, and am I willing to put myself through all of this? I was, for a long time, because I care that much, but slowly like I said my patience is running thin.Posted by CaringSagittariusso he breaks up with you and comes crawling back? is this a regular occurrence? that is not ok, and you can't keep letting him do that. he knows he can come and go as he pleases and you'll just always be waiting there for him.Posted by OblivionWe have been on and off for over a year, but it's been his decision to break up every time, and then he always comes back because he realizes that he doesn't want to lose me. When we got back together this past time he told me he realized that he has abandonment issues, so he runs away from me because subconsciously he thinks he's going to get hurt. He said this time when he gets scared he might shut off but he's going to hopefully eventually get over it, it'll just take time. Which I'm trying to be understanding, but the rude comments are just bullshit. I don't know if the good outweighs the bad right now, but it does sometimes. It's like up and down every week or 2
Gemini's can and will say the most off the wall stuff at the most inoppurtune times lol. that's sort of par for the course.
how long have you been with him? perhaps more than a weeks time should be considered if you have been with him long term.
but only you can determine if you are happy continuing this relationship or not. all relationships hit rough patches, they all go through rough times. do the good times outweigh the bad for you?
ultimately, you should do what you feel will be in your own best personal interest.
also, being straightforward with him is obviously the best route. you should express your concerns openly and directly to him, without being too harsh. Gemini's do like to communicate, but you might not understand what they are saying lol (:
the more you reveal about him, he doesn't sound like the best guy. I can see more clearly why you have issues me insecurites about your relationship.
I think you should take some time away from him to really think if this is something you actually want to deal with for the long term.
it also sounds like you are unhappy more often than not, with a few bright spots here and there in a mostly abysmal relationship. I could also be projecting though (:
I think at the very least you should take some time to yourself, create some space so you can think without his influence. although, truthfully I think you already have the answer, but executing it is often painful and difficult.
be strong, stand up for yourself, because sometimes no one else willclick to expand
I understand you love him and feelings run deep, but it almost sounds like you stay with him out of more a sense of obligation than actually just wanting to be there. it sounds like you have been his savior, yet it doesn't seem to go both ways.
love is blinding, love is harsh, love is not defined by happiness as many would think.
sounds like you're starting to see that perhaps you don't always want to take care of him, enable him.
again, the choice is really yours.
it's hard to let go, but think about it for a while and ponder this..are you truly happy in this relationship overall? do you feel fulfilled? do you feel stable?
these are all paramount things.
ponder away (:
I was with a Pisces sun, Pisces Venus for 10 years and he never was an illusionist, he was always straight forward, always >.>
and again, I suppose it's possible but the Pisces I've known in my life may live in their own little fantasy world, but they don't try to fool you about who or what they are.
and again, I suppose it's possible but the Pisces I've known in my life may live in their own little fantasy world, but they don't try to fool you about who or what they are.
Posted by ScorpioStarGazerdaww, poor sad Scorpio *hugs* if I remember correctly you've had a few usernames but you're a total sweetheart!
Lately I've been wondering why I can't seem to do anything right? I look at people and know they are thinking how the hell does this poor excuse for a human make it through life? I hate these dark moods I get in. Wonder how long this one will last? ...sigh
but those dark moods suck, you should listen to some happy music, I find that it does help a bit (:
Posted by HeavyEntertainmentShowsounds like you provide everything for him, you are his shoulder to lean on etc. but what about you? what about your needs?Posted by OblivionMy point of view changed. My fears stemmed from the very beginning of our friendship where he told me he's fine with my sexuality but that he'd appreciate it if I didn't shove it in his face all the time. I promised him I'd be respectful because that's how I am, but it still made me wary around him especially the first few months.Posted by HeavyEntertainmentShowbut you already said this made you suicidal..why would you willingly set yourself up for disaster with this??Posted by OblivionI already know that, my deer, I'm a Pisces and I see faaaaaaar. On the other hand, he needs me in his life because he says I make his heart glad and I understand him better than anyone. So he's been practically bending over backwards to make sure I'm as content as possible lately.Posted by HeavyEntertainmentShowI hope he doesn't sleep with you. that won't make you happy, it will only make you pine for him even more.
I kept it a secret for 2.5 years which drove me suicidal, because I was terrified he would be scared off (straight boy having his gay best friend confess his love for him can be a frienship killer).
I confessed a few weeks ago and his reaction was the complete 180 of what I believed would be. I told him I'd die for him. I've never said that for anyone else before and I'll never say it for anyone else ever.
He offered to sleep with me once because he believes it will make me happy.
unrequited love is not love.
you are setting yourself up to be severely hurt if you go down that road..
Expecting him any minute now and god knows what fresh horrors he'll bring with him lol. He spent the night here last night, and he's coming over again. I told him to really think it all through and refrain from making knee-jerk decisions. If he still feels the same way on my birthday in 2 weeks' time........he knows where I live.
He's got a key, doesn't even need to knock.
and yes, saying I'll sleep with you to make you happy is an asinine and awful thing to say.
you poor lovesick masochistic fishy ):
But as it turned out we are very compatible friendship-wise. I make him laugh like crazy and whenever he needed advice or to unload or a bouncing board, he could always come to me. I've never laughed at him and I've never judged him, which made him very comfortable around me. He's told me stuff about himself that not even his brother knows, to which he's usually joined at the hip.
His Virgo sun connected with my Virgo moon, and my Pisces sun blended with his Pisces ascendant. I didn't count on us bonding like that, and I had underestimated myself as well. My ex had done a real number on me years ago and my confidence plummeted.click to expand
oh a Pisces sun with Virgo moon, that explains a lot. I get that you derive enjoyment and fulfillment from helping others, but I think you're letting your own needs fall to the wayside.
I truly only wish you the best of luck, and I hope you don't end up getting hurt from this.
Pisces that I have known in my life though are not "illusionists" typically they are just their wild and whacky selves and don't care if you like them or not, because if you don't want them someone else surely will
but I suppose if the other sign can't see past the illusion than it's possible
but I suppose if the other sign can't see past the illusion than it's possible
Posted by Gob_ShiteI absolutely sting for the pettiest of reasons, something that should be small and insignificant will make me go mad completely.Posted by lisabethur8Posted by Gob_ShitePosted by KoniuchaaPosted by Gob_ShiteOur biggest fan!
Please take heed...Posted by P-Angel
Scorpios love to suffer themselves, while projecting their guilt outwards with intentions of trying to make other people be responsible by implying that it is someone other than themselves who has chosen to subject themselves to their own misery.
That is pretty much Scorpio in a nutshell, and doesn't sound at all like someone Aqua would care to relate to, since Aqua is fond of people being self-accountible.
Virgo's are probably the only ones dumb enough to make excuses for it once it's figured out, so they would be the likely perfect match. Other signs would figure it out and attempt to tolerate for a short period of time ... but, all the other signs would finally walk away and just let the Scorpio sting itself .... whereas the Virgo would spend a longer time falling for it = very gullible.
Aqua would last maybe half a dozen times that the Scorpio tried this ...... give or take a self-inflicted sting or two
https://www.dxpnet.com/opinion/scorpio/This-is-only-for-scorpios-2981129
You know, I think Scorpios have the potential to be one of the best zodiac signs. I really do. Sadly, all the above prevents that from happening. It wouldn't be so bad if Scorpios didn't frequently inflict (or project) their shit onto others.
What's most annoying, though, is that wasted potential to enrich the lives of themselves and others, BUT more on a long-term basis. Just because you have a stinger, doesn't mean you have to use it with wild abandon. Unfortunately, many of you do.
And as for needing to control and manipulate others to compensate for your own insecurities...
I guess it's just one of those cases of close but no cigar.
I think that just sounds like an unhappy person/individual. they sting but only if they are unhappy. they are stinging because of something they are unhappy in their lives with. the long-suffering of it. Not all of them are like this. A scorpionic person/individual who is gonna sting and project their unhappiness is because they don't like their life and holds it in.
happy individuals don't need to do that.
An evolved Scorpio, who doesn't sting for the pettiest and confounding of reasons, is extremely rare. I'm still on the lookout for one, just to be proven wrong...click to expand
on the other hand, with actual serious matters that are extremely important and even life altering, perhaps devastating, I tend to handle with an almost robotic personality and can be quite stoic.
but I'm just crazy so ¯\_(ツ)_/¯
Posted by lisabethur8oh yes, good ol' creepy crazy Venus in Scorpio lol (:Posted by Oblivionis your venus in water?
jealous of Venus in Gemini, or any air sign that can be detached. Sagg also comes to mind for this (:
I'm too attached to everything I loveclick to expand
Posted by CaringSagittariusso he breaks up with you and comes crawling back? is this a regular occurrence? that is not ok, and you can't keep letting him do that. he knows he can come and go as he pleases and you'll just always be waiting there for him.Posted by OblivionWe have been on and off for over a year, but it's been his decision to break up every time, and then he always comes back because he realizes that he doesn't want to lose me. When we got back together this past time he told me he realized that he has abandonment issues, so he runs away from me because subconsciously he thinks he's going to get hurt. He said this time when he gets scared he might shut off but he's going to hopefully eventually get over it, it'll just take time. Which I'm trying to be understanding, but the rude comments are just bullshit. I don't know if the good outweighs the bad right now, but it does sometimes. It's like up and down every week or 2
Gemini's can and will say the most off the wall stuff at the most inoppurtune times lol. that's sort of par for the course.
how long have you been with him? perhaps more than a weeks time should be considered if you have been with him long term.
but only you can determine if you are happy continuing this relationship or not. all relationships hit rough patches, they all go through rough times. do the good times outweigh the bad for you?
ultimately, you should do what you feel will be in your own best personal interest.
also, being straightforward with him is obviously the best route. you should express your concerns openly and directly to him, without being too harsh. Gemini's do like to communicate, but you might not understand what they are saying lol (:click to expand
the more you reveal about him, he doesn't sound like the best guy. I can see more clearly why you have issues me insecurites about your relationship.
I think you should take some time away from him to really think if this is something you actually want to deal with for the long term.
it also sounds like you are unhappy more often than not, with a few bright spots here and there in a mostly abysmal relationship. I could also be projecting though (:
I think at the very least you should take some time to yourself, create some space so you can think without his influence. although, truthfully I think you already have the answer, but executing it is often painful and difficult.
be strong, stand up for yourself, because sometimes no one else will
my poor Virgo is in a sulky mood tonight, he asked me why is he so sad, and I said because you're a Virgo
lol he didn't like that too much
grumpy Virgos, gotta love them
lol he didn't like that too much
grumpy Virgos, gotta love them
well from what you've just said it sounds like you've reasoned with yourself that you are indeed making the best choice for yourself.
we have all been too blinded by feelings and wore those rose colored glasses just a little too tight.
I know Virgo's tend to suffer internally for quite a while, I sincerely hope that's not the case for you.
and I wouldn't go trying to meet Scorpio's per say, we can be quite a volatile lot (:
we have all been too blinded by feelings and wore those rose colored glasses just a little too tight.
I know Virgo's tend to suffer internally for quite a while, I sincerely hope that's not the case for you.
and I wouldn't go trying to meet Scorpio's per say, we can be quite a volatile lot (:
Posted by HeavyEntertainmentShowbut you already said this made you suicidal..why would you willingly set yourself up for disaster with this??Posted by OblivionI already know that, my deer, I'm a Pisces and I see faaaaaaar. On the other hand, he needs me in his life because he says I make his heart glad and I understand him better than anyone. So he's been practically bending over backwards to make sure I'm as content as possible lately.Posted by HeavyEntertainmentShowI hope he doesn't sleep with you. that won't make you happy, it will only make you pine for him even more.
I kept it a secret for 2.5 years which drove me suicidal, because I was terrified he would be scared off (straight boy having his gay best friend confess his love for him can be a frienship killer).
I confessed a few weeks ago and his reaction was the complete 180 of what I believed would be. I told him I'd die for him. I've never said that for anyone else before and I'll never say it for anyone else ever.
He offered to sleep with me once because he believes it will make me happy.
unrequited love is not love.
you are setting yourself up to be severely hurt if you go down that road..
Expecting him any minute now and god knows what fresh horrors he'll bring with him lol. He spent the night here last night, and he's coming over again. I told him to really think it all through and refrain from making knee-jerk decisions. If he still feels the same way on my birthday in 2 weeks' time........he knows where I live.
He's got a key, doesn't even need to knock.click to expand
and yes, saying I'll sleep with you to make you happy is an asinine and awful thing to say.
you poor lovesick masochistic fishy ):
Posted by HeavyEntertainmentShowI hope he doesn't sleep with you. that won't make you happy, it will only make you pine for him even more.
I kept it a secret for 2.5 years which drove me suicidal, because I was terrified he would be scared off (straight boy having his gay best friend confess his love for him can be a frienship killer).
I confessed a few weeks ago and his reaction was the complete 180 of what I believed would be. I told him I'd die for him. I've never said that for anyone else before and I'll never say it for anyone else ever.
He offered to sleep with me once because he believes it will make me happy.
unrequited love is not love.
you are setting yourself up to be severely hurt if you go down that road..
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