Oddball87 joined March 31, 2017
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Yes he does know about the abuse I have suffered. He has shared his opinion on it and has been very understanding about it all actually. I'm assuming he has freaked out over something and doesnt know if it is all in his head or not. He will figure it out eventually and I'll get my answer either way. He has been really awesome but why flog a dead horse... If he doesn't think we are going anywhere well then it's time to move on huh. If like to fight to keep him but if that's just gonna drive him further away what's the point... I'm probably screwed no matter what I do anyway .
Posted by jeaneI'm trying to remember that. Still... I haven't managed to distract myself all day and I keep thinking about him. I'm so far into this dicksand it isn't even funny lol but I have made it this far resisting texting him. I almost gave in before because I wanna see him but I told myself no!Posted by Oddball87They are not always great communicators. Plus they are guys. Unlike women who deal with things by talking it through, they figure things out on their own.
Yea I know I guess it is something he needs to deal with. I just wish he would have just talked to me about this "off" feeling. Coz now I feel like a fool for not noticing it and thought everything was normal and going ok. And how he tried to cover it up saying he was just tired it was only later when I asked if he was sure he was ok and just tired he opened up and said it. He was acting fairly normal too on our movie date and his mood did line up with the tired excuse (he works odd hours) so I took his word for it and now I know the truth to it, I'm upset ?click to expand
Yea I know I guess it is something he needs to deal with. I just wish he would have just talked to me about this "off" feeling. Coz now I feel like a fool for not noticing it and thought everything was normal and going ok. And how he tried to cover it up saying he was just tired it was only later when I asked if he was sure he was ok and just tired he opened up and said it. He was acting fairly normal too on our movie date and his mood did line up with the tired excuse (he works odd hours) so I took his word for it and now I know the truth to it, I'm upset ?
Posted by jeaneYea I'm just assuming now he feels weird about my freak out. We had to cancel plans because of rain and we were both a little Devo. He could tell I was tired and that wasn't helping me process my deal out zone. So he told me to go to bed and have a nap and even cuddled me until I fell asleep. Be played PlayStation for an hour on the bed next to me until I woke up. When I did wake up, he looked down to me, smiled that drop dean gorgeous smile and said "gosh I really really really really really really like you" that was the best thing to wake up too! I said I really liked him a lot too ? Hence why I'm now so confused that since last week he has felt really "off"
I think you're at a crossroads with him. You need to handle this intelligently. Yes give him his space npbut I wouldn't drop off the face of the planet.
You don't know why he has gone silent. Don't start jumping to any wild conclusions and don't goad him into breaking up with you. Just be cool.
Give him a few days and then get in touch with him. Ask him how he has been and dont be weird. Just act normal.
I won't drop off the face of the earth I'll just give him a few days and I'll text him if he hasn't texted me. If he is true to his form he will have texted me by tomorrow one way or the other and if not I'll text him the day after that just seeing how he is.
Or going over and staying the weekend
I also need to add we can't seem to go more than 2 days without seeing each other before we have to catch up for coffee or lunch.
Posted by TaurusBull1977Well to be honest I think he has been chasing me for much longer... I met him 6 months before hand. We met up twice in the first month for a casual drink and chat and a good laugh. I had told him I wasn't looking to date, I didn't think I was ready, he asked why I said I didn't want to bore him, he persisted so j told him. Since that day it has been pretty much multiple texts daily. I finally got some time where I could spend a decent amount of time with him because I wanted to see him. I had gotten to know him much better and felt comfortable so we went to the beach and had a lovely day that was full of a lot of flirting and I know both of us were being brave flirting like that. Ended up having dinner and when I was leaving he gave me a cuddle, and I kinda kissed him. He was a little shocked and said he didn't expect that but he said he really wanted to kiss me just didn't want me to think he was pushing me. He constantly told me sex wasn't important to him and to take our time. He said e was ready to take that step but it was all up to me to decide. That took me 4 weeks because that's just who I am. And it was amazing and has been amazing. He was even telling me how great it was and he constantly reminded me "I love your body" "you're and awesome girlfriend" etc the only thing I can think of is last weekend while having sex he slapped my face (I know it was a case of he was getting carried away and thought that would turn me on... Clearly doesn't) and I kind of freaked out and went silent. I told him later not to ever do that again and he said sorry e fucked up. All I said was its ok, it's done in over it and gave him a smile. And now he is saying he has had that "off" feeling since then. And the first I noticed anything was last night coz I'm an idiot ?
Oddball87....
Describe your courtship with this Taurus man for the seven weeks the two of you were dating...
Posted by JohnTheBaptist100It has been longer than 2 month since I left my husband. That has been over for 2 and a half years lol and I have known this Taurus for 6 months before this past 7 weeks. I was careful and want actually looking to date when we did meet, and then one day it just turned into something we both had to explore. I know j sound defensive but I didn't give too much info so it wasn't so long ?
Sorry to put yet another dampener on your dreams OP, but in under 2 months you have come out of an abusive 10 year relationship with your ex husband and straight into the arms of the Taurus!
Don't you think you should have waited until the ink was dry on your divorce papers and then spend some time on your own as a single woman before rushing headlong into the next relationship??!
That's just crazy... You are at your most weakest and vulnerable and you dive straight into another "relationship"...
It's not going to work long term with the taurus... Now things have cooled down and he has had time to think, he's probably thinking the same thing I'm thinking!
If you have been intimate with him during this 7 weeks, it can only mean just sex... The Taurus (he is also partly to blame) does not see long term potential right now...
Too much too soon...
Posted by RumzI know this guy isn't like that one you mentioned. I've known him long enough to know that feel sure. There's a few things that happened and he has said it has been since last week and we'll last weekend I did freak out on him. When I freak out I go silent. It was over something stupid that didn't mean anything but it still caused me to have a flashback about my ex husband. I'm sure it's all to do with that and he just doesn't know how to verbalise it or if to apologise or what. I'll give him space, he will work it out and what he wants and if that is me he will tell me and if it's not me then he will probably tell me at some point ?
I was with a Taurus aswell same sitch ur in n I thought he would be the one. Until he started playing hot and cold on me and I got too impatient for the games. I read up so much about it and apparently they do that if they like you. My ex was a user though he ended up marrying someone a month later after I left him, who was 20 years older then him not so attractive with 4 kids to support his scumbag insecure ass. Now I see why it didn't work had to always be something in it for him.
Yea I was already thinking of what to do tomorrow that wouldn't involve him / seeing him or remind me of him... Lol I'm sure I can find something
Yea I was already thinking of what to do tomorrow that wouldn't invoke him/ seeing him or remind me of him... Lol I'm sure I can find something
I'm going to try and give him space... Even before I was emotionally invested (which I tried not to do) I enjoyed spending time with him... Ugh just so painful feeling like I've been shut out and he won't talk to me about it. And this night feels like it's a million years long because I've now made myself so upset I can't sleep ?
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