sadcappy31 joined March 01, 2013
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You're probably right, but my soul keeps dragging me back into thinking bout it...while she had her break-up i was going through a similar one with an ex taurus...afterwards both being single, the closeness we had made sense for me (more like unofficial dating), but it's probably what i should do. It's true i have some dating opportunities in this period...but thinking of her and meeting @work makes it difficult to let go somehow and also i was thinking that going out with someone else would push her into doing something about... feels more like emotional blackmail which i don't wanna do...maybe i should go politely stone-cold and go out but in my mind that would have to mean that if she does smth about it i'm allready clear that i'm not going there anymore, don't know if i'm feeling that yet...
That is correct, never had a real date...more like looong teasings at the office while our private lifes were elsewhere. There were some physical contacts after her break-up but nothing too serious and yes no declaration of love from her...the whole "implying" game we had in the last yr and a half got me really confused about what she wants...i would really want to take it slow with her and become serious but she's off now for bout 5 months....all our talk now is work related since we only meet at the office. It's even more complicated now bcz i suffered a bit the last few months and i have no clue how i would react if she made a step....but deep down i know i want to be with her...I have no clue we're i'm at with her...
really would appreciate any advice i could get...i'm a cappy male of 31 and i've known my lbra for more than 7 years now, we've been very good friends from the beginning since we were office coleagues up to 2010. She was in an unhappy relationship for 5 years up to the middle of 2011 when she broke up with her (also a libra) bf. What happend is that after her break-up we became even more close to each other having some intense "private" flings...After a while my soul became more and more attached to hers and ...well last autumm i went all out and told her how i feel also dropping the big L on her. Well she didn't took it too well telling me she saw me as just being a friend (at some point i know i was her best friend bcz of some pretty explicit gifts i got from her on different occasions but that was a couple yrs ago) and she left me by myself...no contact and everything. After 2 months or so of nc during the winter holidays we had a long discussion about all of this and she told me that maybe thats how its supposed to be (not being together) and maybe that's our destiny... Well after that final discussion i realised that it wouldn't be really smart to be clingy about that (even though inside all i wanted is to be like that) bcs i felt that would scare her...so basically what i did these last two months is just be there for her for whatever she needed...mostly work stuff bcs from december we work together couple of days a week in a different place...Of course since that last talk bf christmas i never made any hint or lead any allusion to my issues about her...i don't know if i should continue with this behaviour (being supportive no matter what and don't hint at anything else) or should i just walk away slowly from her and go to total ignorance state...the thing is since we had our first discussion 5 months ago she went into this ignorance and indifference state which kinda broke me...i have no idea how to go bout this in the future. Interesting fact is even in our more intense discussions about our feelings we kept it really civilised and friendly even though the general mood was sad... i know some of the personality patterns provided by the zodiac and most of them fit in pretty well (for both of us actually)but i'm not really good at reading too much into them. What would be the best way to go bout this in the future?
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really would appreciate any advice i could get...i'm a cappy male of 31 and i've known my lbra for more than 7 years now
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