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Posted by thelibran
Esp for non Air people except Aries to avoid possible future problems. Whatever I can think about. Please contribute if you think it can save us lot of time.
1. Avoid the question "Do you love me honey?" at any cost. It might sound charming to hear him/her say it but try not to ask such dumb questions.
2. Dialogs like "Do you know how much I love you" which makes us feel the need to reply "I know" makes us quite emotional. Avoid that. You will find him more happy without going through such thoughts.
3. "Be positive my dear, dont be sad!!!". If we are sad, we will recover by ourselves. Making such a statement will be doing the reverse effect on us. First we start wondering if we are sad, then we start wondering why we are sad. Its just pointless. We can look way depressed and perfectly ok inside our head.
4. "Why do you love me?" Its safe to avoid all questions related to love altogether bcoz its a very confusing thing for us. Asking any type of questions which has the word "love" in it will only confuse us further. Try using "like" instead.
5. "you dont have to do it if you dont want to.. you know.... !" We wont do it if we dont want to unless you keep pushing us. Instead feel free to ask "you think you can do it?" or "you think its ok to do this?"
6. Try not to explain how funny we are while you are laughing. At least I find that quite 444fake.
Wow... good stuff, you covered my Leo sentiments exactly..all very true.
Posted by Nefer
Aaaaand.. we've sort of derailed schweppes' thread.. sorry :}
It's good stuff though!
Hey its all good, you can't tell from my post, but I studied Femenist Philosophy, so a lot of the comments here make sense. Guess I needed a not so subtle reminder..lol
Wow! didn't expect so many replies (guess my little bump worked)
Yes I am firey Leo, with Venus and Moon in Cancer, Scorpio Rising... so the controlling/needy balance is always something I have to work with..lol..probably why I am comfortable flying solo most of the time. Liking people/dating, etc. takes so mych energy.. but i am giving it a shot..anyways this is truly new for me.. but thanks for the advice.. I'll scurry through these responses and be back later.. ciao
Yes I am firey Leo, with Venus and Moon in Cancer, Scorpio Rising... so the controlling/needy balance is always something I have to work with..lol..probably why I am comfortable flying solo most of the time. Liking people/dating, etc. takes so mych energy.. but i am giving it a shot..anyways this is truly new for me.. but thanks for the advice.. I'll scurry through these responses and be back later.. ciao
Advice anyone?
Greetings, I have posted a few times about this guy I like. We have been friends for several years and while I was certain there was something between us before, now I am not so sure. We have never crossed the friend line, and are now currently working together and planning to open our own business this summer. Recently I told him, I did not like that I was sanitizing how I spoke to him because I always thought he was thinking I want more than just friendship. I told him I like spending time with him, and how important he was to me, but it was bothering me that I always felt i needed to watch what I say around him. this happened because everyone teased me constantly that I like this guy.
That lasted 2 years, until I told him how this bothered me. He didn't really say much just that I should be forward and say what I want to say when I want to say it. I was scared what would happen after that, but he actually started coming closer to me spending even more time with me, etc. This fluctuated back and forth for the next couple months. He went on vacation recently, and he contacted me a few times which I didn't expect. THe following week I went on vacation, and he called and called and texted. I felt like he was trying to come up with excuses to talk to me- which was fine, on Day 4 of my vacation I text him since we had been communicating regularly, he seemed surprised almost a if why was I texting him. So I left it alone thinking well I must have misunderstood and just went about my business. Then the next several days again he texts, emails me and keeps communicating with me. Then finally day 6 of my vacation, I again initiate contact, we text back and forth and he doesn't respond at all. He always responds even with a simple OK just to let me know he got my message. But today nothing. I am so confused what does this guy want from me. I leave him alone he calls and calls,but if I do anything he shuts down. I really have strong feelings for this person, and though I would be hurt if it wasn't reciprocated, I would rather he just act normal than give me mixed signs all the time. I don't get it. Any interpretation is appreciated.
That lasted 2 years, until I told him how this bothered me. He didn't really say much just that I should be forward and say what I want to say when I want to say it. I was scared what would happen after that, but he actually started coming closer to me spending even more time with me, etc. This fluctuated back and forth for the next couple months. He went on vacation recently, and he contacted me a few times which I didn't expect. THe following week I went on vacation, and he called and called and texted. I felt like he was trying to come up with excuses to talk to me- which was fine, on Day 4 of my vacation I text him since we had been communicating regularly, he seemed surprised almost a if why was I texting him. So I left it alone thinking well I must have misunderstood and just went about my business. Then the next several days again he texts, emails me and keeps communicating with me. Then finally day 6 of my vacation, I again initiate contact, we text back and forth and he doesn't respond at all. He always responds even with a simple OK just to let me know he got my message. But today nothing. I am so confused what does this guy want from me. I leave him alone he calls and calls,but if I do anything he shuts down. I really have strong feelings for this person, and though I would be hurt if it wasn't reciprocated, I would rather he just act normal than give me mixed signs all the time. I don't get it. Any interpretation is appreciated.
Posted by QLIbraMale
Just Ask him out at dinner at your house, I know you probably want tips and all but asking Libra Male out complete turn on lol. Also since you know him from head to toe, do something charming and poetic/memorable. i.e here's my corney Libra Male advice lol. Since y'all don't mix business with pleasure, try to like purposely leave a sexy note in a notepad or book tell him you discovered something very important that would change y'all business lives and have him read it out loud, example so an so has great food and customer service hey _____your name please go out with me? lol. Being embarrassed+flattering does wonders lol.
Thanks for the advice..i guess i felt if i asked him over to my home again it would just be like last few times, i figured if we were out he might not feel backdd into a corner if i was more flirty or suggestive with him...u don't think he would get the hint if i just invite him out for drinks?...my other thought was just to start asking him abt dating advice.. he knws i dont date but i think he thinks its because i don't want to whn really it's because i've been waiting for him..ugh i'm so confused..bu thnx for the tip
Sooo after about 3.5 years, I think one of my Aries friends said something like 1265 days, I am almost ready to throw in the towel for this Libra male friend of mine. I am a Leo with Cancer Moon and Venus He is Libra with Cap Moon and Venus. In most aspects things are good between us. We work together in a small office and are planning a business partnership that we hope to launch in August.We've had the awkward moments, lots of flirting, touching etc in the past, but never took it further.
The last 18 months things have been different we still talk and spend time with each other a lot but it is almost always about work or business. We go out to lunch together,and I have had him over for dinner a few times this year but again for business. I've been to some of his family gatherings etc. But I get mixed signals he seems all business, but whenever my taste in men or etc come up or I get suggestive he gets weird and withdraws. Now I don't have a big dating life to speak of so usually these conversations are more about why I am not dating etc. If I withdraw he is all over me, but not in a touchy feely way. Anyways, to make this short, I want to give it was last go. I want to invite him to this festival, we actualy went together three years ago. I've promised my friends if he says no or makes up some excuse, I'll let it go and move on for real..lol. Since we've known each other a while, and he knows my mannerisms and I his, I just want to do this right.
Any tips about asking him out? And.. if he says yes, what can I do short of jumping him to let him know hey i'm still interested if he is. I am asking for advice because I am not a big dater. Funny thing is when I met him first, I thought we could have a cool fling, but he never made a move so now we're in the in the friend zone but with a weird tension. I am just frustrated and tired about it. I just want him to know I am still into him and if he is not interested so be it. I don't want 10 years to go by and then he find out and then say he never knew. Any tips are appreciated.
The last 18 months things have been different we still talk and spend time with each other a lot but it is almost always about work or business. We go out to lunch together,and I have had him over for dinner a few times this year but again for business. I've been to some of his family gatherings etc. But I get mixed signals he seems all business, but whenever my taste in men or etc come up or I get suggestive he gets weird and withdraws. Now I don't have a big dating life to speak of so usually these conversations are more about why I am not dating etc. If I withdraw he is all over me, but not in a touchy feely way. Anyways, to make this short, I want to give it was last go. I want to invite him to this festival, we actualy went together three years ago. I've promised my friends if he says no or makes up some excuse, I'll let it go and move on for real..lol. Since we've known each other a while, and he knows my mannerisms and I his, I just want to do this right.
Any tips about asking him out? And.. if he says yes, what can I do short of jumping him to let him know hey i'm still interested if he is. I am asking for advice because I am not a big dater. Funny thing is when I met him first, I thought we could have a cool fling, but he never made a move so now we're in the in the friend zone but with a weird tension. I am just frustrated and tired about it. I just want him to know I am still into him and if he is not interested so be it. I don't want 10 years to go by and then he find out and then say he never knew. Any tips are appreciated.
Posted by THEKingofLibra
You should be more aggressive and forward, kiss him first and grab his ass. End of discussion.
LOL, yeah I probably should have.. I had more than a few opportunities..I was doing the whole let the guy lead thing..
Hi, I am so happy I found this forum.. oh how I wish I found it 3 years ago when I first had this issue. To keep it brief. I am a Leo Girl with Cancer Venus& Moon Scorp Ascendant, and I met this Libra guy with Scorp Venus and Cap Moon about 3 years ago (its actually a little longer but after 3 years I just stopped counting). Anyways we have great chemistry, we hit it off great. Anyway one day my Libra guy and I just started talking about goals, plans, where we would like to be and then it hit me like a bolt of lightning, that I liked this guy, strange thing was I was getting vibes from him too. Soon after that we were inseparable we went to dinner 3 to 4 times a week, talked on the phone, and did anything to be in each other's presence, we were always touching each other flirting, we talked about opening a business together, etc - we were tight.
The thing is we had never even been on a real date, or gone into the non-friend zone. Everyone and I mean Everyone thought we were dating, but we never talked about it. I invited him over to my home for dinner a few times, but we just kept having those awkward moments where neither of us did anything so This kept happening over and over, so finally around his bday 2years ago, I took him out for dinner, and when he walked me to my car, I brought it up, and said something like "Have you ever thought about us..e.tc?" He looked confused at first, and the said he thought we were like brother and sister?" Of course I felt confused, and was like oh I am so embarassed.. he said don't be embarassed etc.
After that, we still did the same stuff but we were not as flirty with each other as we were before, but still good. Occasionally, I would bring up the topic again (in as subtle way that a Leo can) to get more clarity, and he would say let's talk later etc. We still hang out a lot and he pretty much includes me in a lot of his major life decisions as I do with him. We are moving forward with opening a business and are still very close friends. I just don't get it I still have a thing for this guy, and anytime I "give up" and try to distance myself he plants himself back in my life. I feel like I am in a circle.
I guess what I am asking is do Libra guys just flirt and then run when you express interest? I knw its three years later, but I want to but this subject to bed especially since we are getting in business together. How do Libra guys typically react when their female friends bring up latent feelings
The thing is we had never even been on a real date, or gone into the non-friend zone. Everyone and I mean Everyone thought we were dating, but we never talked about it. I invited him over to my home for dinner a few times, but we just kept having those awkward moments where neither of us did anything so This kept happening over and over, so finally around his bday 2years ago, I took him out for dinner, and when he walked me to my car, I brought it up, and said something like "Have you ever thought about us..e.tc?" He looked confused at first, and the said he thought we were like brother and sister?" Of course I felt confused, and was like oh I am so embarassed.. he said don't be embarassed etc.
After that, we still did the same stuff but we were not as flirty with each other as we were before, but still good. Occasionally, I would bring up the topic again (in as subtle way that a Leo can) to get more clarity, and he would say let's talk later etc. We still hang out a lot and he pretty much includes me in a lot of his major life decisions as I do with him. We are moving forward with opening a business and are still very close friends. I just don't get it I still have a thing for this guy, and anytime I "give up" and try to distance myself he plants himself back in my life. I feel like I am in a circle.
I guess what I am asking is do Libra guys just flirt and then run when you express interest? I knw its three years later, but I want to but this subject to bed especially since we are getting in business together. How do Libra guys typically react when their female friends bring up latent feelings
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Greetings, I have posted a few times about this guy I like. We have been friends for several years and while I was cert
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Sooo after about 3.5 years, I think one of my Aries friends said something like 1265 days, I am almost ready to throw i
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Hi, I am so happy I found this forum.. oh how I wish I found it 3 years ago when I first had this issue. To keep it brie
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