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My aquarian has lived long distance for the past 6 months. I was going to move in with him in another couple of months, but he recently decided that he wanted to end it. I know he has feelings, but whenever he thinks I care too much, his feelings just go away. He was being distant and broke up with me once in the beginning of December, but he came back by Christmas. I am afraid this time its for real, though. We havent talked in 2 and a half weeks. Our last conversation I was a bit irrational (emotional) and he hung up. I sent him a little note explaining that I got so upset because I needed to do that in order to be able to let go. I also apologized for yelling and asked him to please not call me. He hasn't. I am now ready to call him and talk rationally. The thing is, is that I want to know what to say in order to make things work. I am thinking that I should just tell him that I accept that we can't be together and that everything happens for a reason. I dont want him to think that I hate him. He is the type that will not go out of his way for anything, and if he thinks I would reject him, he would not admit it regardless of how much he missed me. The first time he came back he went for over a week trying to play it cool and not calling even though it was killing him inside, and eventually broke down and told me he was having a hard time and wanted to talk. Thats only because he knew I missed him too and would probably want to get back together as well. I was wondering if there was any advice for me.
Okay, maybe my story was a bit long, but the main question of the story is does anybody have experience with this girl/guy combination?
I just began dating an Aries aquaintance of mine about two months ago. We met a year ago through mutual friends and now share his friends. The thing is, when he first began to pursue me (two months ago after I had broken up with my long-distance boyfriend) I reminded him that we are going to be seeing wach other all summer long because we hang out with the same group of people (though I have other groups of friends that I see that are not his). The reason I said this is because I know he is the type of guy who, when at the bar or club, likes to chase around the prettiest girl there to get her number or to come over after the bar. He told me that he didn't know what would come of the situation and we couldn't just not try things out. Anyway, the whole thing became this huge thing about who had the upper hand and had control over the other. This was all secretly though. Neither one of us let the other one know what we were up to. But I knew. The more intimate we became, the more distant we became, and I think that's because I didn't want him to get scared away by me, and he didn't want to scare me away. When I finally had enough of the awkwardness and was ready to end it, a mutual friend of ours informed me of how Mr. Aries had been drilling him for information on me from the beginning, and had told our friend not to tell me certain things, like if he was hanging out with another girl, and how he had just bragged to a couple of the guys the other day that he had total mind control over me and I was hooked (Though this same friend told the Aries that I said a week ago that I could beat him at his own game!). That was it! I totally shut him down and sent him home alone two nights in a row. The third night he asked if he had done something wrong. I couldn't tell him what I knew because I didn't want to ruin his friendship with his friends, but I did explain about a million reasons why this wasn't working. He proceeded to appear caring and hurt, but I can't believe anything this guy says! He said something about how we didn't realize in the beginning that we would begin to develop feelings for one another. All I could say to that is, "Is that what you think?". The last thing I would of thought is that he was developing feelings! Anyways, there are many more details that would just take too long to explain, but we hung out twice within the next few days as friends, but the last time we hung out the other day things suddenly went bad, I got mad at him for being sneaky and disrespecting me, and I have been ignoring him ever since. The thing is, this guy can't STAND someone being on bad terms with him, and he's been trying to get in touch with me the past few days, leaving a message the day after the fight that he would like to talk and to give him a call. Then he left a message yesterday asking me to call him because he would like to 'catch up'. What does that mean! He's acting like nothing happened. This guy is a fkn SMOOTH talker though, and gets everything he wants from people (esp. girls). So I am avoiding him, first because I think he is a bad person (for reasons not explained here), second, because I can't believe anything he says even if he's telling the truth and that would just mess with my head, and third, because I want to keep the upper hand! In the end though, I think I do like him and he could very well like me, but it is too uncertain of a situation for me to take the risk of letting him know how I feel. Has any Scorp girl and Aries guy been in this situation before?
Thank you very much for your insight. It does make things a bit clearer for me.
I just began dating an Aries aquaintance of mine about two months ago. We met a year ago through mutual friends and now share his friends. The thing is, when he first began to pursue me (two months ago after I had broken up with my long-distance boyfriend) I reminded him that we are going to be seeing wach other all summer long because we hang out with the same group of people (though I have other groups of friends that I see that are not his). The reason I said this is because I know he is the type of guy who, when at the bar or club, likes to chase around the prettiest girl there to get her number or to come over after the bar. He told me that he didn't know what would come of the situation and we couldn't just not try things out. Anyway, the whole thing became this huge thing about who had the upper hand and had control over the other. This was all secretly though. Neither one of us let the other one know what we were up to. But I knew. The more intimate we became, the more distant we became, and I think that's because I didn't want him to get scared away by me, and he didn't want to scare me away. When I finally had enough of the awkwardness and was ready to end it, a mutual friend of ours informed me of how Mr. Aries had been drilling him for information on me from the beginning, and had told our friend not to tell me certain things, like if he was hanging out with another girl, and how he had just bragged to a couple of the guys the other day that he had total mind control over me and I was hooked (Though this same friend told the Aries that I said a week ago that I could beat him at his own game!). That was it! I totally shut him down and sent him home alone two nights in a row. The third night he asked if he had done something wrong. I couldn't tell him what I knew because I didn't want to ruin his friendship with his friends, but I did explain about a million reasons why this wasn't working. He proceeded to appear caring and hurt, but I can't believe anything this guy says! He said something about how we didn't realize in the beginning that we would begin to develop feelings for one another. All I could say to that is, "Is that what you think?". The last thing I would of thought is that he was developing feelings! Anyways, there are many more details that would just take too long to explain, but we hung out twice within the next few days as friends, but the last time we hung out the other day things suddenly went bad, I got mad at him for being sneaky and disrespecting me, and I have been ignoring him ever since. The thing is, this guy can't STAND someone being on bad terms with him, and he's been trying to get in touch with me the past few days, leaving a message the day after the fight that he would like to talk and to give him a call. Then he left a message yesterday asking me to call him because he would like to 'catch up'. What does that mean! He's acting like nothing happened. This guy is a fkn SMOOTH talker though, and gets everything he wants from people (esp. girls). So I am avoiding him, first because I think he is a bad person (for reasons not explained here), second, because I can't believe anything he says even if he's telling the truth and that would just mess with my head, and third, because I want to keep the upper hand! In the end though, I think I do like him and he could very well like me, but it is too uncertain of a situation for me to take the risk of letting him know how I feel. Has any Scorp girl and Aries guy been in this situation before? Aries men, help me. He thinks I am very attractive and a cool girl, and all his friends like having me around, so it could totally work out, but we need a way to get through this game playing (though it does add excitement to our situation).
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