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hey, I'd like to add in that wanting to date him because he's in a top college is very selfish, desperate of me. He says he doesn't have a lot of money, but what keeps me hooked is the "intelligence" that comes with him
Posted by PostHumanOh, how do I reply to a comment...
I’m not gonna bother reading but ima drop you this gem
Dudes not worth any type of emotional investment and what would be better for you ultimately is to accept that. No need to do this to yourself.
I think I can order tacos now
"Thank you, I'm sorry I got too emotional and wrote all that.
The thing that he's a girlfriend (who he still "cares about"), studies at a top college and ignores me/takes me lightly/is arrogant just keeps me "hooked" and wants me to keep chasing him/want something to happen"
Thank you, I'm sorry I got too emotional and wrote all that.
The thing that he's a girlfriend (who he still "cares about"), studies at a top college and ignores me/takes me lightly/is arrogant just keeps me "hooked" and wants me to keep chasing him/want something to happen
The thing that he's a girlfriend (who he still "cares about"), studies at a top college and ignores me/takes me lightly/is arrogant just keeps me "hooked" and wants me to keep chasing him/want something to happen
I'm so sorry for this long message..
Met three months back, just casual, I was smart, talkative, kept him conversing, made memes, was funny, lowkey depressed, desperate, never had a relationship and internet was my only escape. We talked for a few weeks, he didn't tell me (Gemini, did I mention?) [Astrology in worthless in my situation, but this is an astrology site so I'm just adding in] that he was in a relationship but was old enough so I guessed he was. We didn't talk about relationships, I sometimes flirted to which he didn't reply excitingly or just declined. A few days later, we were talking about our government and he goes mad and says I can only make memes, don't understand anything and he doesn't care about me anymore. I said sorry, he did too after a few hours, and we didn't text for almost a month.
This December, I saw his missed call, asked if he'd called me, he said he did accidentally. I said I was afraid he didn't want to talk to me and confessed my attraction. He wasn't too excited but he said he felt attracted too. I asked, then he told me he was in a 6 year old relationship and his girlfriend and him had agreed to see other people, they don't want to get married. Sneaky bit here: I played a trick, made an alternate account and talked to him anonymously. Asked him if he was single, he said no. Asked him when he'd settle with his girlfriend, he said after he gets his career on track--so that means he was in a relationship.
Here, on my own account, he told me that he didn't want to settle with a particular person and wants me for a "good conversation". I was very honest about my thoughts and told him "you didn't break up, she's still exclusive to you" today. He said, "she is, but not because I asked her to", then, "it's her choice", then, "as far as you're concerned I'll make it clear that I don't want a traditional relationship".
So, my friends, this man wants me for "good conversations online". I said he wasn't getting what he wanted from his girlfriend (i.e., she was boring) that's why he was looking for "conversations" elsewhere, to which he said I was entirely wrong (said he'd changed with time, still cared about his girlfriend, they travel together), and that, "he's had enough already". He agreed that he's chatted with a lot of people online.
I'm only holding onto him because he's studying at a top engineering college in our country. He's not really bright, or maybe I'm not able to assess, but his credentials are appealing, but it feels like he wants me for "conversations", which seems absurd to me. Why will I just talk to you for your entertainment while you've a girlfriend? I was vulnerable and I let this happen till now. I feel so sorry for myself and all this online chatting thing I've done. I've wasted a lot of time, efforts, and imagination on him.
So, at the end, he kept his relationship secret from me, agreed to date me but not "traditionally", wants to converse with me. What are your thoughts about this, fellas? I've decided to ignore him from now onwards. All I can see is that he just wants a friend who keeps talking to me, who he can be a shit too (hey, he doesn't respect me a lot, give one word answers, not open up, etc), whereas I'm just desperate and I'm afraid I'll look desperate too.
This December, I saw his missed call, asked if he'd called me, he said he did accidentally. I said I was afraid he didn't want to talk to me and confessed my attraction. He wasn't too excited but he said he felt attracted too. I asked, then he told me he was in a 6 year old relationship and his girlfriend and him had agreed to see other people, they don't want to get married. Sneaky bit here: I played a trick, made an alternate account and talked to him anonymously. Asked him if he was single, he said no. Asked him when he'd settle with his girlfriend, he said after he gets his career on track--so that means he was in a relationship.
Here, on my own account, he told me that he didn't want to settle with a particular person and wants me for a "good conversation". I was very honest about my thoughts and told him "you didn't break up, she's still exclusive to you" today. He said, "she is, but not because I asked her to", then, "it's her choice", then, "as far as you're concerned I'll make it clear that I don't want a traditional relationship".
So, my friends, this man wants me for "good conversations online". I said he wasn't getting what he wanted from his girlfriend (i.e., she was boring) that's why he was looking for "conversations" elsewhere, to which he said I was entirely wrong (said he'd changed with time, still cared about his girlfriend, they travel together), and that, "he's had enough already". He agreed that he's chatted with a lot of people online.
I'm only holding onto him because he's studying at a top engineering college in our country. He's not really bright, or maybe I'm not able to assess, but his credentials are appealing, but it feels like he wants me for "conversations", which seems absurd to me. Why will I just talk to you for your entertainment while you've a girlfriend? I was vulnerable and I let this happen till now. I feel so sorry for myself and all this online chatting thing I've done. I've wasted a lot of time, efforts, and imagination on him.
So, at the end, he kept his relationship secret from me, agreed to date me but not "traditionally", wants to converse with me. What are your thoughts about this, fellas? I've decided to ignore him from now onwards. All I can see is that he just wants a friend who keeps talking to me, who he can be a shit too (hey, he doesn't respect me a lot, give one word answers, not open up, etc), whereas I'm just desperate and I'm afraid I'll look desperate too.
Posted by AnotherTaurusGuyReturnsHe said "I'm sorry I got rude with you. I shouldn't have said some things". I didn't reply after that.
Were you talking to me?
What exactly did his apology say? That makes all the difference. Did he just say ‘sorry’ to keep you talking or did he acknowledge that he was being a douche by belittling your opinion?
Posted by Boots1313Posted by SeeMeNot
We didn't meet on a dating site, just casually around a month ago. We haven't met in person and were just texting. He's 9 years older to me and we talked about all the things. He told me earlier that he didn't wish to get married, is nihilistic and said many times that he's "poor" and doesn't have money. Last night we were debating on our country's government policies and he got really angry. I'd like to mention that he's many a times asked me "to leave the discussion" because "I don't have common sense and understanding". Again he said last night that I should focus on just memes and I can only do that, I don't get anything else. I called him egoist, explained my argument and asked him if he remembered how many times he's put me down? He said "I don't care anymore". I replied "I'm sorry this happened" to this statement, explained my argument further and that's it. He texted at 4:15 AM that he was sorry. Neither of us have exchanged texts after that. I won't text him again unless he texts me first. I want to ask if he's done "using me for conversations" and if it'd be respectful for me to ignore him from now onwards?
Okay, what are you asking about?
Guy sounds like a jerk.
Is this a romantic thing? I can'y tell...if it is...yikes. I dont think hes interested.click to expand
I can't tell if it's romantic because we've just met and have talked about all the things, including relationships. He's quite older than me and I thought of that as a reason for him, and me, to not pursue anything romantic. But I was so angry because he's pushy in arguments and just cuts me down instead of listening to me side. He'll just say "oh, you don't get this" instead of hearing my argument. He's been quite blunt since the beginning; questioning my faith and beliefs, etc, said I was wasting my time in religion. I'm not pushy and don't force myself on anyone. I was so furious that he doesn't listen to my side and after finishing my argument, I said I was sorry that he "doesn't care anymore". He texted later saying he was sorry, he shouldn't have said some things. It's been 3 days and we haven't exchanged texts. I just want to know if it'll be respectful to move on from here? Or should I give him one more chance, text him again? (Have read that Taurus men want you to take the lead).
We didn't meet on a dating site, just casually around a month ago. We haven't met in person and were just texting. He's 9 years older to me and we talked about all the things. He told me earlier that he didn't wish to get married, is nihilistic and said many times that he's "poor" and doesn't have money. Last night we were debating on our country's government policies and he got really angry. I'd like to mention that he's many a times asked me "to leave the discussion" because "I don't have common sense and understanding". Again he said last night that I should focus on just memes and I can only do that, I don't get anything else. I called him egoist, explained my argument and asked him if he remembered how many times he's put me down? He said "I don't care anymore". I replied "I'm sorry this happened" to this statement, explained my argument further and that's it. He texted at 4:15 AM that he was sorry. Neither of us have exchanged texts after that. I won't text him again unless he texts me first. I want to ask if he's done "using me for conversations" and if it'd be respectful for me to ignore him from now onwards?
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Met three months back, just casual, I was smart, talkative, kept him conversing, made memes, was funny, lowkey depressed, desperate, never had a relationship and internet was my only escape. We talked for a few weeks, he didn't tell me (Gemini, did I ment
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We didn't meet on a dating site, just casually around a month ago. We haven't met in person and were just texting. He's 9 years older to me and we talked about all the things. He told me earlier that he didn't wish to get married, is nihilistic and said m
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