Stephanie727 joined July 30, 2013
44 years old female
"Pisces~Sun, Libra~Moon, Cancer~Rising"
"Pisces~Sun, Libra~Moon, Cancer~Rising"
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@Sunnyvirgo83: I don't know if he's waiting for me to make contact or what he's thinking really...he's so confusing and I'm usually great at reading people, but I can't read him! lol He did accuse me of not caring when we were seeing eachother, but once again, he's not receptive to me when I do make an effort or he misinterprets it as something else. Arghh!! It's like trying to hit a moving target. I'm fine with having a guy court me, but once we are regularly seeing eachother I'm used to both people being able to initiate. *shrug*
@Krysrenne7: I don't necessarily need verbal affirmations. Personally, I'm terrible with that kind of stuff. I'm more physically affectionate, like cuddling and seeing the person I'm with often. He's good with all of that, except for the seeing eachother part, which is tough for me to not get when I'm with someone. I don't typically handle distance well.
@Geminicandle: He does hate to be ignored, but often it's been the best tool I've got dealing with him. I find it difficult keeping that up though.
@Whimsy: I get all of that, but I think every relationship has it's give and take and shouldn't be all on one person's terms.
@Gemini64: I'm all for him being the man...I know I don't want that role!! Actually I prefer the guy to be the man and lead, to some extent. I've had some role reversal relationships in the past and I'm not a fan. I guess I would initiate less if I knew he'd always do so, maybe that's part of my problem, worrying that if I don't he won't.
@Krysrenne7: I don't necessarily need verbal affirmations. Personally, I'm terrible with that kind of stuff. I'm more physically affectionate, like cuddling and seeing the person I'm with often. He's good with all of that, except for the seeing eachother part, which is tough for me to not get when I'm with someone. I don't typically handle distance well.
@Geminicandle: He does hate to be ignored, but often it's been the best tool I've got dealing with him. I find it difficult keeping that up though.
@Whimsy: I get all of that, but I think every relationship has it's give and take and shouldn't be all on one person's terms.
@Gemini64: I'm all for him being the man...I know I don't want that role!! Actually I prefer the guy to be the man and lead, to some extent. I've had some role reversal relationships in the past and I'm not a fan. I guess I would initiate less if I knew he'd always do so, maybe that's part of my problem, worrying that if I don't he won't.
Up until 3 weeks ago I was seeing a Gemini man. He ended things with me, but recently he's gotten back in touch with me and we've chatted on and off the past couple of days. I've noticed from the beginning, when we first met, that any time I initiated chatting with him he seemed less into the conversation than he was when he would initiate it. The same goes with getting together. If I wanted to see him he'd have tons of excuses or couldn't commit to so much as a day ahead of time, but if I laid back and let him initiate he'd want to see me all the time. So I found myself deliberately not contacting him or asking to get together, because that seemed to be what he was most receptive to, but on a couple of occasions he'd complain that he felt if it wasn't for him contacting me or initiating getting together that we'd never talk or see eachother! In the instances where he's said this to me I took it as him wanting me to make an effort as well and when I did he ended up pulling away just like he did before. While we were dating I felt really confused by his behavior and couldn't figure out how to interact with him without it being a problem. I see this complaint a lot on the Gemini message boards, so I assume this issue isn't isolated to my Gemini, but my question is: Are Geminis aware they do this? Is he aware that he's more receptive when I'm distant and aloof than he is when I initiate? If he is aware why would he be upset by it when, obviously, that's what works for him?
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