Does someone know what they are called?
Ohhhh....how cute! I want one!
That's fine gemgal.
I just didn't want to go into more detail. We have been apart for 4 weeks, and yesterday he came over to move his things out.
No, not commits suicide, well, actually, from a gemguy perspective, it could feel like suicide.
My gemguy, came buy with trucks and trailers to pick up his stuff. Vavush, it was over with him, over, over. Done, history. End of chapter, end of book, close it.
I still had some pangs of, am I making a mistake, will I look back and be confident. But my answer was, I need to have commitment or I'm moving on after three years.
I got dolled up and had my house spiffy clean. Why, I don't know, maybe a little pride, maybe a little spite, and a little, see-what-you-are-gonna-miss-out-on-buddy kinda thang.
So, he walks in the door and I immediate was glad to see him in his coveralls looking so adorable, and immediately wants to talk about what we can do to stay together. I told him flat out, commitment. For three years he has been like, " I do", "I'm not sure", "I need more time", he just had this, there-so-many-other-girls-I-haven't-met-yet-kinda-gemini-thang, if you know what I mean.
I won't give anymore detail out of a sense of decency, but we started kissing and the rest was history. Our 3yr relationship might have a chance after all. Well, maybe the 9th house was right after all. Maybe the shallow assesment "Doomed for Disaster" forgot about the power of true love. In three years we have broken up about 17 times, well, actually maybe a few more...who's counting.
Doomed or Hopeful. We've decided to think about it for a couple of weeks in T.O. away from each other, and decide to move forward or part ways cleanly by my request.
Well, we had a great work day together while he dug out some of my equipment out of the frozen snow, we spent the night together and have plans to go out to dinner tonight. I know it doesn't sound like time apart, but for a couple that has lived together for 3 yrs, if you're not living in the same house, it's definitely a T.O.
Wish us luck!
Hey Back, Little Sparrow,
I think men feel entitlement because under a thin skin of civilization, we are just another animal species developed out of cavemen that would just club the woman on the head unconscious and drag her home by her hair. She stayed out of fear and security, unless he beat her too much and then she would decide risking her life to escape to the arms of a nicer man. He would need to be stronger than the mean guy, but still nicer to her. We try to find that stronger but nicer guy that can provide security and protection, but it is a rare breed to find. Men in general are stronger/meaner and want to subdue women, while women bring softness/beauty and want to fix men, but they can be cruelest to other women because they are in direct competition for the good men.
I've done runways, Ivy League, degrees, socialite life style s with rich and famous. Some found me beautiful & smart. Some were just plain jealous and looked for any reason to bring me down. And some found me pretty/stupid because I didn't want to play their judgemental game by trying to impress them. I keep quite when my jerkdar warning starts flashing. The sooner and farther they go away, the better for me. And sometimes I feel genuinely shy and at a loss for words too.
I've had wonderful friends(not lovers) that someone might think are ugly, but their heart was made of pure gold, their eyes were deep and full of feeling, their minds incredibly sharp. Most people only saw they just didn't fit the cookie press. I've had handsome escorts that all they wanted was eye candy and sex. And the few men that got under my skin were average in looks but princes to me. Despite all this here I am, single again. Trying to make sense of it all just like most of the people on this site. We are really all made of the same stuff, it's only our values that separate us.
Attractive women who date/marry less attractive men are probably looking for some to really love them, not just use them. They have low self-esteem because they are accustomed to being valued only superficially. The best thing they can do is find a passion, something they love where they can express themselves and find a connection that goes below the surface. They need to believe in themselves first.
I apologize for the generalizations about genders, I know there are feminine men and masculine women. I respect all people are not created equal, but we all look for balance in our lives.
"Liberal and musical and talented and fun and perceptive and mind-reading and games and travel and nature and gadgets and cooking and writing and sisterless and understanding and godless and empathetic and silly and serious and organized and goal-oriented and pretty but not too pretty and messy and funny as hell and a teensy bit twisted, but not too much. Roll that up and stamp it with MINE, because that's what it is."
LOL! That's exactly what I was going to say!
Thanks for the tip, how can I tell if I have these worms? Would those be the names of the files I should search for?
Hmmm.....I agree, I smile and invite him with my eyes, but won't say a lot or commit to much. I'm ready to wait a long time until he can't stand it and reveals his deep infatuation. I'll smile and give him just enough attention to give him hope, then I wait some more. I don't want to expend any love energy unless he is my willing victim and pass the tests of character and honor. Then when he just about thinks he's not getting anywhere, he will be rewarded with genuine affection. But if he gets too pushy, I'll fly away while he's not looking. I am a diamond and you need to be my platinum setting. Hold me right and I'll shine brilliantly. Lesser men need not apply.
Best of Luck