sunnydiamond joined August 13, 2011
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I'm feeling a little confused and could use some guidance. A little history with my Libra man:
I was seeing him casually at a consistent basis for a month straight in June. I use casually loosely because we weren't seeing anyone else and I was over at his place and went out with him almost every day/night. I met his friends and his family knew about me. I thought things were going well. I went on a two week vacation to Greece and he barely contacted me during my vacation. To make a long story short, I came home and he was even more distant, treating me more like a buddy than an intimate partner. Granted, he had a lot going on with moving to a new place, some family issues, as well as some money issues. I finally demanded an explanation and he told me he was feeling it at that moment and didn't want to lead me on. So I left.
Cut to a couple months later, we started hanging out again. We didn't have a conversation about what had happened, basically just decided to start a clean slate. It's been almost two months of us hanging out and we're no longer just hanging out. We don't see each other every single day like we used to, but it's still consistent. He's been taking me out, bringing me around his friends and roommates even more frequently, checks up on me, etc. Just the other day, we spent a good 48 hours together, running errands and hanging out with friends. He makes no secret of us, he's affectionate with me in public. Last night, I accidentally called him "baby" during sex and when I left his place this morning to go to work, I called him "baby" again. It just slipped out. He didn't really react much to it, while I'm freaking out on the inside.
I'm afraid, I really am. Any slight difference in the way he holds me at night, I freak out on the inside. Any slight difference in the way he talks to me, I keep wanting to just run away. I feel myself opening up emotionally to him again and I'm having a difficult time with it. The last time we go this close, he left me. And I never got a definite answer as to why he bolted. Getting him to be vulnerable is like pulling teeth. We have our differences. I'm very much on track in what I wanna do in life, and he know where he wants to go in life. He's irresponsible, I'm very responsible. He's financially unstable, I'm staying afloat. So I don't know if maybe it's our differences that made him feel insecure or if I wasn't entertaining enough... At this point, does it seem pointless to bring it up? Will he leave again?
I was seeing him casually at a consistent basis for a month straight in June. I use casually loosely because we weren't seeing anyone else and I was over at his place and went out with him almost every day/night. I met his friends and his family knew about me. I thought things were going well. I went on a two week vacation to Greece and he barely contacted me during my vacation. To make a long story short, I came home and he was even more distant, treating me more like a buddy than an intimate partner. Granted, he had a lot going on with moving to a new place, some family issues, as well as some money issues. I finally demanded an explanation and he told me he was feeling it at that moment and didn't want to lead me on. So I left.
Cut to a couple months later, we started hanging out again. We didn't have a conversation about what had happened, basically just decided to start a clean slate. It's been almost two months of us hanging out and we're no longer just hanging out. We don't see each other every single day like we used to, but it's still consistent. He's been taking me out, bringing me around his friends and roommates even more frequently, checks up on me, etc. Just the other day, we spent a good 48 hours together, running errands and hanging out with friends. He makes no secret of us, he's affectionate with me in public. Last night, I accidentally called him "baby" during sex and when I left his place this morning to go to work, I called him "baby" again. It just slipped out. He didn't really react much to it, while I'm freaking out on the inside.
I'm afraid, I really am. Any slight difference in the way he holds me at night, I freak out on the inside. Any slight difference in the way he talks to me, I keep wanting to just run away. I feel myself opening up emotionally to him again and I'm having a difficult time with it. The last time we go this close, he left me. And I never got a definite answer as to why he bolted. Getting him to be vulnerable is like pulling teeth. We have our differences. I'm very much on track in what I wanna do in life, and he know where he wants to go in life. He's irresponsible, I'm very responsible. He's financially unstable, I'm staying afloat. So I don't know if maybe it's our differences that made him feel insecure or if I wasn't entertaining enough... At this point, does it seem pointless to bring it up? Will he leave again?
My first love is a Scorpio. This is based off of our relationship, so not all Scorp/Aqua relationships can be generalized in this way. Intellectually, we were on point. Sweet and affectionate, always felt wanted. He remembered little details about me, like what drink I like, favorite scent, etc.
The bad: ...so so so so very manipulative and possessive. Gave him no reason to not trust me, yet he was always calling me when I was out with my friends. His questions were like a minefield of trick questions. Arguments were awful, we knew what buttons to push with each other. In an argument, I don't bother to get super mad because I think it's a waste of energy, but he knew EXACTLY what to say to get a reaction out of me. To this day, he is the only one who has pushed me to erupt like volcanoes in every argument.
The bad: ...so so so so very manipulative and possessive. Gave him no reason to not trust me, yet he was always calling me when I was out with my friends. His questions were like a minefield of trick questions. Arguments were awful, we knew what buttons to push with each other. In an argument, I don't bother to get super mad because I think it's a waste of energy, but he knew EXACTLY what to say to get a reaction out of me. To this day, he is the only one who has pushed me to erupt like volcanoes in every argument.
Posted by scribble
If the same placements keep coming up it means you still have something to learn from those people. It might be a negative or positive lesson but try to see commonalities between all the experiences.
I'm always attracted to them. They are the ones I'm instantly connected with just by talking, and then I later find out their placements. They have all been negative lessons, unfortunately...but also positive. I think every good lesson is a bit of both, no?
Posted by P-Angel
I guess there is no light going off in your head ..... so you came here to get pity for being a fool because you don't know any better, and believe yourself to be some kind of victim.
::: shakes head :::
I don't suffer idiots easily .... and you are one
P, i have not called you any names amongst all of your aggravated responses, so I would hope you don't start name-calling, because it's unnecessary.
I agree with you, as well as everyone else who have been against this Virguy. I cut ties with him yesterday, told him to not call me again. Nothing happened this time around, just pure clarity.
My original intention with this post was confusion. I've seen Virguy have falling outs with friends and girls he was seeing, and he never gave a damn when things fell apart. He would just not talk to the person ever again and MOVE ON. He even told me he can be heartless, so my thinking when I left was that he wouldnt think twice and move on as well. Then I can start over with a clean slate without him persistently contacting me. His reaction just wasn't what I expected, but it doesn't mean anything has changed. Can't beat a dead horse when it's dead, right?
Um.
First, P-Angel, calm down.
Second, we have not had sex again. So calm down.
Third, calm down.
First, P-Angel, calm down.
Second, we have not had sex again. So calm down.
Third, calm down.
Last four guys I've dated have Venus in Leo...and all started out very passionate and fizzled out/too much drama
I have Venus in Pisces and Mars in Gemini. Sun in Aqua. Do I need to break this pattern or what?!
I have Venus in Pisces and Mars in Gemini. Sun in Aqua. Do I need to break this pattern or what?!
Posted by trashedbliss
First HELLO FELLOW SOUTH FLORIDIAN!!!
Second - whether he wants to admit it or not, he got attached to you. If you want to be with him then I would meet him in person and discuss what you want and why you feel it would or wouldnt work. Being a Virgo he may become distant to digest how he feels but if he wants you he will be back relatively quickly.
I can assume thats the case 1. because I am a Virgo and 2. I have typical Virgo male friends where your story sounds very familiar. They try to close themselves off but they fall and when they do they fall HARD. But dont settle. If its NOT for you then tell him so and cut ties.
Hello South FLO! Btw, thanks for everyone's input...We've reconnected after he called me relentlessly to talk it out. He still doesn't want a commitment, mainly because he was really hurt in his last relationship (which I may have forgotten to add, ended shortly before him and I started seeing each other) and he's in the middle of possibly making a big career change...but he's been really consistent, more affectionate, and says "i love you" to me, even though I haven't said it back (Not because I'm trying to be mean, but just being cautious of if he really means it or just trying to humor me)
It's a little confusing but I'm much happier and just taking it day by day. Oh, & I finally got around to his natal chart...
ME
Sun: Aquarius
Moon: Cap
Venus: Pisces
Mars: Gemini
HIM
Sun: Virgo/Libra Cusp
Moon: Pisces
Venus: Leo
I think the better question is what he wants from me. I ask and he says he wants me. I tell him he doesn't want a relationship with me. He says I know...but I don't want you to leave. And then is silent because he realizes he got too vulnerable and just sits there and thinks. and thinks. and thinks.
Posted by Tornadoday16
@ Everyone.
And just know I really respect Aquarius as an energy and a lot of friends and family of mine are in this sign. It just is the case that a few of them have been breaking down lately. Their sadness just seems to be rushing out of them in this really pitiful way... Im wondering if the moon in Pisces may be causing it?
That could explain a lot with me. Haha. I rarely cry, especially not publicly. When I cry, I'm really hurting or really mad and don't know how to control it. And if I am in love, I'm psychotic. I stay stuck in my head for too long, over-analyze, and then emote everything i've over-analyzed to where my partner doesn't know what is wrong with me or what he did wrong.
@Shescomeundone if you were in my shoes, what would you have done? Tell him how you feel? I did. Cry? I did. Beg him to be in a relationship with me? Hell no. Leave and tell him I need space to move on and we can continue a friendship later on when I'm not so attached? I told him. He doesn't want that.
Believe me, this was painful for me to do and I can admit I'm not perfect. I'm planning on having a heart-to-heart with him some time in the next couple weeks. HE decided to go cold on me. And when I mirrored what he did, he decided I can't do that to him. How is that fair?
Believe me, this was painful for me to do and I can admit I'm not perfect. I'm planning on having a heart-to-heart with him some time in the next couple weeks. HE decided to go cold on me. And when I mirrored what he did, he decided I can't do that to him. How is that fair?
Because when a man tells you several times he doesn't want a relationship, you believe him.
Posted by TaurusBull1977Posted by sunnydiamond
We never had a friendship before the sex, it kind of formed while being intimate.
The initial arrangement was a FWB. There was never an initial friendship.
Posted by sunnydiamond
He's taking it SO personally that I don't want to be friends with him, when I'm just pulling myself out of a situation to try and save the friendship in the long run before I grow to resent him in our FWB situation.
What are you attempting to save? There was never an initial friendship.click to expand
Right..and I told him that. But to him, we apparently have an important friendship.
& @PAngel, I have also paid for him when we go out, not just him.
Someone on here made a point that Virgos like to control the way things go, which made me realize I threw him for a loop when I decided to cut things off. I don't think the "friendship" is important to him, I'm just hurting his ego. C'est la vie.
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I'm feeling a little confused and could use some guidance. A little history with my Libra man: I was seeing him casually at a consistent basis for a month straight in June. I use casually loosely because we weren't seeing anyone else and I was over at
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