Posted by scorchedearth
you have the right to say "i don't want to hear about her." you do not have the right to say "i don't want you talking to her."
that's a gross kind of controlling.

everyone feels that way at some point. that you just wish that your partner/interest would just never talk to someone you're jealous of ever again. that's perfectly normal. but trying to police their friends is not okay.

Posted by Everything
1. Don't think it's insane at all. I would've done the same. I trust my instincts. He can have contact with her only at work. And then I reacted to this "He insisted he wasn't attracted to her, but also made comments that she was a "good friend who understood him." I would believe he isn't attracted to her. But why does he need a good friend who understands him when he hays you. My personal opinion.
2. I don't know if its trustworthy but i wouldn't like it. If it felt weird i wouldn't accept it. But if he managed to convince me theres nothing i wouldn't think about it. I think this was strange though: "He said that before him and I were serious, he was physical with this girl, but now they are just friends. "What does that mean? Was it while you and him were dating? Not ok for me. He doesn't need to be friends with her.
3. yes i think so. Cause i would stay faaaaaar away from a woman's man. unless he wrote to me and i honestly felt it was 100% friendly and he for example needed help and called me "friend" or something and in that case i'd always mention his girlfriend to let him know that i know he has one and that i see him and her as one and that i respect them and that i have boundaries. i'd often refer to him as "you guys", aka "you two", and id try to be her friend as well and show her I'm not interested in her man, but i prefer to not have anything at all with people's men.

Posted by Gobshite

Posted by Kim11180560
Gobshite,
What do you mean Virgoan personal concept of communication sucks?

Failing to convey crucial information to others when it's needed. That's the problem I have with most Virgos.
I've been close with three Virgos, over the last few years, and they're all the same. Depending on their moon, they're either apologetic or too proud to admit that they were wrong.
What they see as unimportant could be important to the other person. And it's not so much how they communicate but more their LACK of communication, which irritates the hell out of me.
For example, agreeing to do something together, changing their minds about the activity and letting the person know either just before or when the person arrives.
Virgos may have their virtues but I really dislike lousy communicators.

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