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I am a virgo woman and met a virgo man (age 33) about 3.5 months ago while he was in town for business. I wasn't extremely interested when I initially met him because I was recently getting over someone else but he didn't give up pursuit even after leaving town (3.5 hours away), and finally I gave him a chance and he became probably the best person I've met. He has always been caring, encouraging, always letting me know he was there, overall, I never questioned the way he felt towards me even while he was living in another state. After about the first 2 months, mostly emailing, some phone calls, and hanging out for weekend getaways since he lives in NYC, it seems like he is distant now. The past month and a half, we don't email as much because he always says he so busy with work but how we need to make solid plans to see each other and how he misses me. Although he says we need to make solid plans and I give him dates and try to make plans, its like he never finalizes them and I have a feeling he almost is scared to? Deep down, I know he still does care for me, but its really hard since its been almost two months since I've seen him and seems more distant. I want to be understanding and have patience but a part of me wants to let go because I don't want to get hurt holding on and realizing he may never come around like he used to be or the fact I may never seem him because its already been almost two months. I want to hold on knowing that he still cares for me but reality is his actions don't seem to reflect that as much although he may say it. I know ultimately its up to me but any words of direction or advice would be appreciated.
Hmm... so I heard back from cancer man earlier this week...it had been about a 1.5 months since we've really talked.. it was out of the blue and he wanted to know how i've been, whats been going on with me, and if i've been dating someone. He brought up the last night we hung out and how I slept over his house. he told me how he thought i hated him for making a move on me but recently he's been thinking about it more and how it wasn't necessarily the case. he asked if i would hang out again and i said okay. we ended up hanging out, and seeing him and talking to him.. it just brought back how i felt all over again. i know we have a connection, and its really hard to brush it off.. he ended up telling me him and his gf are on a break, and he feels like its over but they are still friends. he just kept saying that he thought i hated him.. and wants to know if i've been dating other people, etc. We ended up hooking up that night. I'm just not sure if he just wants a hook up or if he wants more. My gut instinct feels like he wants to leave his gf but also has a sense of loyalty and guilt to leave her..but torn at the same time because he has feelings for me. We haven't really talked since then... (its been like 4 days).. should I just let him go to avoid getting hurt? I don't know if he is playing games or is just confused.. any advice would be appreciated..
I met a cancer man almost two months ago. We were just friends because he had let me know he was kind of dating someone already and I was fine with that. We ended up getting along really well and talked basically everyday but at the same time he was still dating someone else and when I would bring her up in conversation, he always played it down and never referred to her as his girlfriend.. it was always someone he was "kind of dating".. We hung out a couple times and then one night he invited me to his house to hang out. He told me how he just likes hanging out with me and just being there even though we may not say much because its comfortable. I ended up staying overnight and he tried to kiss me. I kind of brushed it off and said I couldn't do it because I know he's with someone else and didn't want to mess up that situation. He was fine about it and we ended up cuddling the night. The next morning it was fine and went off to work. I didn't hear from him for about a week so I ended up texting him and asking how things were. He said "busy, sorry... ttyl." Two days later, I asked if everything was okay and he said "Everything is cool. I'm with my girlfriend." It sort of hurt me because he would never admit that it was his gf before and now all of a sudden, it feels like he said to make a point. We haven't talked since and I'm not sure what to do or feel about it. We were suppose to be friends from the beginning and I just feel like I may not hear from him again and I'm just confused....
I've been talking to a virgo man overseas (we met when i lived overseas) and we talk often and things seem well. Its been about 5-6 months since we've seen each other. Sometimes we converse and he gets antzy/anxious and says how he wishes i was there and so on... and other times he asks me how far the flight is to come visit me and blah blah and says he is going to come visit.
Finally I went to go visit overseas to see him and my friends and i talk to him the night before my flight and he's super excited for me to visit...i go... and he ends up not meeting up with me! but comes online to talk to me when i'm literally staying down the street from him...
i got really upset and he apologizes and says he messed up...
then a few weeks ago he talks about how he wants to visit me and how he's been looking up plane tickets and says he's coming... then i talk to him yesterday if he's really coming and he goes.. Uh i don't know. then, tries to change the subject.
why does he continuously want to talk to me but won't see me? why does he keep mentioning (at least once a month) he is going to visit but never does?
now its been over 7 months and i just want to give up completely but also can't bear to come to terms that i will never see him or talk to him ever again..
Finally I went to go visit overseas to see him and my friends and i talk to him the night before my flight and he's super excited for me to visit...i go... and he ends up not meeting up with me! but comes online to talk to me when i'm literally staying down the street from him...
i got really upset and he apologizes and says he messed up...
then a few weeks ago he talks about how he wants to visit me and how he's been looking up plane tickets and says he's coming... then i talk to him yesterday if he's really coming and he goes.. Uh i don't know. then, tries to change the subject.
why does he continuously want to talk to me but won't see me? why does he keep mentioning (at least once a month) he is going to visit but never does?
now its been over 7 months and i just want to give up completely but also can't bear to come to terms that i will never see him or talk to him ever again..
We're very similar, maybe because we're both Virgos, but it feels like we're both fighting for control and get frustrated with the pride to have our own way or just letting it go..
We've never really argued but since its been long distance, I feel like tension is building because I don't think he understands being in a relationship and making time,, blah blah... I think he's only had one other gf..
He's always been highly stressed with work and it never used to be an issue, but now I feel like when he gets so busy and stressed, he pushes me away too cause he gets in a bad mood.. and then I get mad,... the cycle never stops!
I'm freaking out but at the same time feel like it will all be okay!
We've never really argued but since its been long distance, I feel like tension is building because I don't think he understands being in a relationship and making time,, blah blah... I think he's only had one other gf..
He's always been highly stressed with work and it never used to be an issue, but now I feel like when he gets so busy and stressed, he pushes me away too cause he gets in a bad mood.. and then I get mad,... the cycle never stops!
I'm freaking out but at the same time feel like it will all be okay!
So I'm a Virgo and the guy I've been talking to for over 4 months is a Virgo too.. First 2-3 months, everything was perfect, until one day, he basically went MIA on me... He eventually came back about 3 weeks later and apologized and things went back to being okay. I've moved since then, I was living in London but I came back to the US and we've been trying to make sure we talk on the regular around once a week... We've started talking about traveling together when we both have time off since we're far apart, and he seems like he wants to be with me, and we're so comfortable with each other, but other days he gets really distant and harsh-- and we don't talk for 2-3 weeks at a time... I got really irritated because he makes it always on his terms and when he feels like talking so, I emailed him and told him its not fair for me, its hard for me that we're so far apart and he doesn't like to talk on the phone so we talk online when we both happen to be online/email which is on weekends cause we're so busy with our jobs, and sometimes he's harsh and distant..
He never responded back to my email, but at the same time, comes online more often but won't initiate contact.. but I don't know if its because he doesn't know what to say, or because he's sorry and thinks I'm mad at him, or if he just doesn't care...
Its frustrating because I feel like we're pushing and pulling on each other, because when he wants to talk, I am irritated so I don't want to anymore, and then when I'm ready, he doesn't want too because he wants to talk when he feels like it. Things never were like this and with us being so far apart, I just don't know how to deal with it.. we don't discuss emotions because its uncomfortable for both of us, and we're trying to take it a step at a time. At the same time, he says he wants to see me and wants to travel but I think the reality scares him a lot. I don't want to loose him but I feel like if we don't get on the same page soon, he'll give up. and I don't want to give up on us.
He never responded back to my email, but at the same time, comes online more often but won't initiate contact.. but I don't know if its because he doesn't know what to say, or because he's sorry and thinks I'm mad at him, or if he just doesn't care...
Its frustrating because I feel like we're pushing and pulling on each other, because when he wants to talk, I am irritated so I don't want to anymore, and then when I'm ready, he doesn't want too because he wants to talk when he feels like it. Things never were like this and with us being so far apart, I just don't know how to deal with it.. we don't discuss emotions because its uncomfortable for both of us, and we're trying to take it a step at a time. At the same time, he says he wants to see me and wants to travel but I think the reality scares him a lot. I don't want to loose him but I feel like if we don't get on the same page soon, he'll give up. and I don't want to give up on us.
Thanks, for the advice. So not contacting him until he does is best right now? Since I've sent him an email, I shouldn't text him or such?
So posting my "issue" may bring more confusion to my thoughts but I'm hoping that it will bring some insight to me... I try not to correlate a one's actions based on their sign but sometimes I can't help but to!
I have been talking to a Virgo Man, born 13-Sept, we've been talking for almost the past two months and things have been going great. We would make contact almost every day just to see how each other was doing, he was always really considerate and even though his job is very demanding (banking) he always made sure to text or email me to see how I was...
We get along great, I'm a Virgo as well, always laughing, and on the same level, never argued yet... But the issue is, I haven't talked to him in almost a week. I know realistically it's not a long time, but the fact that I've talked to him almost everyday since we've been talking, makes a week seem a long time. I'm not sure if he's really busy with work, or really stressed out about something? I did send him an email 2 days ago just seeing how he was doing and if everything was alright but he hasn't responded yet... It seems unlike him to not make contact with me yet...
Am I just overthinking it?
I have been talking to a Virgo Man, born 13-Sept, we've been talking for almost the past two months and things have been going great. We would make contact almost every day just to see how each other was doing, he was always really considerate and even though his job is very demanding (banking) he always made sure to text or email me to see how I was...
We get along great, I'm a Virgo as well, always laughing, and on the same level, never argued yet... But the issue is, I haven't talked to him in almost a week. I know realistically it's not a long time, but the fact that I've talked to him almost everyday since we've been talking, makes a week seem a long time. I'm not sure if he's really busy with work, or really stressed out about something? I did send him an email 2 days ago just seeing how he was doing and if everything was alright but he hasn't responded yet... It seems unlike him to not make contact with me yet...
Am I just overthinking it?
So posting my "issue" may bring more confusion to my thoughts but I'm hoping that it will bring some insight to me... I try not to correlate a one's actions based on their sign but sometimes I can't help but to!
I have been talking to a Virgo Man, born 13-Sept, we've been talking for almost the past two months and things have been going great. He would always contact me almost every day just to see how I was doing, always really considerate and even though his job is very demanding (banking) he always made sure to text or email me to see how I was doing...
We get along really well, I'm a Virgo as well, always laughing, and on the same level, never argued yet... But the issue is, I haven't talked to him in almost a week. I know realistically it's not a long time, but the fact that I've talked to him almost everyday since we've been talking, makes a week seem a long time. I'm not sure if he's really busy with work, or really stressed out about something? I did send him an email 2 days ago just seeing how he was doing and if everything was alright but he hasn't responded yet... It seems unlike him to not make contact with me yet...
Am I just overthinking it?
I have been talking to a Virgo Man, born 13-Sept, we've been talking for almost the past two months and things have been going great. He would always contact me almost every day just to see how I was doing, always really considerate and even though his job is very demanding (banking) he always made sure to text or email me to see how I was doing...
We get along really well, I'm a Virgo as well, always laughing, and on the same level, never argued yet... But the issue is, I haven't talked to him in almost a week. I know realistically it's not a long time, but the fact that I've talked to him almost everyday since we've been talking, makes a week seem a long time. I'm not sure if he's really busy with work, or really stressed out about something? I did send him an email 2 days ago just seeing how he was doing and if everything was alright but he hasn't responded yet... It seems unlike him to not make contact with me yet...
Am I just overthinking it?
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