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wanted closure.. I said I have moved on with out it...maybe you should read. I am most definitely placing blame on her

.. It's been a year and she is still trying to run my life. Granted, sure I'm letting her effect me but that's not the point.. the point is why is she even trying. No, she's not just casually coming in there... twice some times three times a day with her girlfriend for the past 6 days.. even more after I asked it to stop. I mean obviously i feel guilty... sure.. if that makes me seem like i want a pity party.. but really what im saying is i wanna move on. I know i still have feelings.. obviously ones she isnt respecting.. there is no sides.. there is truth. I want it over with. Im just wondering how much its going to take before she finally stops .I
Posted by Bottabing
Posted by Xxlo
I am an Aries and my ex is a scorpio.. there is a very long story behind our relationship so I'll be brief. Our relationship was very toxic, alot of pushing, pulling, breaking and making up. We are both women. On her part there was alot of victim playing, manipulation and narcissism. On my end there was verbal abuse, erratic and impulsive behavior.. not only because I had a drinking problem but just because my nature is hot headed. I did alot of messed up things to her.. but not unwarranted. Her abuse was mental (alot of mind games, gas lighting and projecting). Leaving me stranded or upset and coming back whenever she was ready on her terms. When we finally ended things (with a bang of course) things got really bad, but of course she ran back to her family and pulled the victim card. She could/can do no wrong. I know that I was very wrong throught the relationship, I should not have allowed someone to control my emotions or sanity like that and reacted the way I did. I am very sorry. She has made it clear that she hates me. Whats funny is she never once showed me that she truly loved me. The entire relationship was a power struggle. I was very young, she is about 6 years older. She got her way in the end. Won the war, that is for certain. I left bruises on her the last night we were together and she went and got a protective order after I told her if she didn't bring me my brand new phone back I would start selling things out of the house. Since then, we have said very little. I apologized, wished her the best and turned my life around. I am sober now, rebuilt my life and moved on. It has been about ten months since the final fight. I have to live with what happened.. the guilt. She on the other hand, will never fess up to anything on her part. It's a big treetr*nk you parade as always. Her b estfriend watches my Instagram story religiously, so I know that she has to know some things about my new life. Two nights ago on Christmas I turned around in line at my job (which I just got promoted at) and standing in line trying her damnest to not make eye contact with me. I see her and walk away.. even go out back to smoke. Soon enough she comes roaring through the parking lot out the entrance. Last night she came in again. I sent someone else to ring her up. I removed myself from the situation. As you can imagine, the encounters brought up alot of old emotions and grief I have only tried to move away from. I logged into my old Facebook to message her because she has me blocked on my new one. I told her I didn't understand why she was coming in there, if she needed to reach me to message me through facebook, and not come in my job. I kindly asked her not to and wished her the best. She then responds that she didn't want me to message her, if she had something to say she would have said it in there. She comes in there all the time (lie) and she's just a paying customer. That if I have such an important position at my job I need to focus on that and not where she spends her money. Asked me not to message her again and sent some other emojis and smart was comments. Just all together nasty. I get my job is a public place but there's a wawa next door and she came in two nights in a row. I messaged her once more saying please stay out of my job, that I don't come in here. J was very nice. She then responds see you tomorrow with more happy emojis and blocked me again. I just want to move on with my life. She had a new car how bad could her life be? Why has she waited so long to start being petty.. why is she still stewing.. What can I do to make it stop. I still love her, all though I can't be with her. We both burnt bridges. She has up until a year to press charges on me for the bruises and I'm on probation. I am scared. I want to ban her from the store but I don't want her to retaliate and mess up my life even more. Advice???

I don't go in her job.. I was not rude. I have not bothered her. I heard she has moved on .. more messy relationships. She always seemed calculated but her head is on her shoulders. I don't understand why she is doing this to me still.. why can't I just move on. It's been almost a year! How sorry can I be????!!!

If you hate someone or are so "scared" of them.. You don't come in to their job TWICE!!! Back to back. I wish she would call down. It hurts.. knowing she never really gave a butter. All that "understanding" she did about my issues.. She knew I had them.. even enabled me. I'm not that person anymore. I don't get it


What's funny is this post .... You know I can always spot who is actually playing the victim .... It's usually the one blaming the other.... You don't get it... Because you are blaming ..... So who is really playing the victim here ... And you reached out after you were blocked ... How is she playing the victim .... Define victim please .... Folks and their stories .... Here is some advice own your mistakes in the situation ... Learn from them and move on... If it was toxic why are you reaching out.... Let me guess you need closure... 😏 .... Which I do believe is a form of obsessiveness on your part .... There are 3 sides to every story.... I ain't buying what you selling at all....

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funny is that I definitely pointed out that I had made the mistakes. But I also pointed out that I had tried to move on with my life, and she is causing problems. You don't need to buy what I'm selling, everyone who can see the situation clearly does. I know I messed up, but it's over with. I am pulling the victim card here because for once I need someone to understand my side.... because that's never been heard of with the way she plays. She does no wrong. Yet, she's still coming in.. her girlfriend mean mugging me and them laughing in my direction. Oh, no.. me and seven other people at my job.. no, we really just want to tell funny stories and make them interesting.
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I am an Aries and my ex is a scorpio.. there is a very long story behind our relationship so I'll be brief. Our relationship was very toxic, alot of pushing, pulling, breaking and making up. We are both women. On her part there was alot of victim playing, manipulation and narcissism. On my end there was verbal abuse, erratic and impulsive behavior.. not only because I had a drinking problem but just because my nature is hot headed. I did alot of messed up things to her.. but not unwarranted. Her abuse was mental (alot of mind games, gas lighting and projecting). Leaving me stranded or upset and coming back whenever she was ready on her terms. When we finally ended things (with a bang of course) things got really bad, but of course she ran back to her family and pulled the victim card. She could/can do no wrong. I know that I was very wrong throught the relationship, I should not have allowed someone to control my emotions or sanity like that and reacted the way I did. I am very sorry. She has made it clear that she hates me. Whats funny is she never once showed me that she truly loved me. The entire relationship was a power struggle. I was very young, she is about 6 years older. She got her way in the end. Won the war, that is for certain. I left bruises on her the last night we were together and she went and got a protective order after I told her if she didn't bring me my brand new phone back I would start selling things out of the house. Since then, we have said very little. I apologized, wished her the best and turned my life around. I am sober now, rebuilt my life and moved on. It has been about ten months since the final fight. I have to live with what happened.. the guilt. She on the other hand, will never fess up to anything on her part. It's a big treetr*nk you parade as always. Her b estfriend watches my Instagram story religiously, so I know that she has to know some things about my new life. Two nights ago on Christmas I turned around in line at my job (which I just got promoted at) and standing in line trying her damnest to not make eye contact with me. I see her and walk away.. even go out back to smoke. Soon enough she comes roaring through the parking lot out the entrance. Last night she came in again. I sent someone else to ring her up. I removed myself from the situation. As you can imagine, the encounters brought up alot of old emotions and grief I have only tried to move away from. I logged into my old Facebook to message her because she has me blocked on my new one. I told her I didn't understand why she was coming in there, if she needed to reach me to message me through facebook, and not come in my job. I kindly asked her not to and wished her the best. She then responds that she didn't want me to message her, if she had something to say she would have said it in there. She comes in there all the time (lie) and she's just a paying customer. That if I have such an important position at my job I need to focus on that and not where she spends her money. Asked me not to message her again and sent some other emojis and smart was comments. Just all together nasty. I get my job is a public place but there's a wawa next door and she came in two nights in a row. I messaged her once more saying please stay out of my job, that I don't come in here. J was very nice. She then responds see you tomorrow with more happy emojis and blocked me again. I just want to move on with my life. She had a new car how bad could her life be? Why has she waited so long to start being petty.. why is she still stewing.. What can I do to make it stop. I still love her, all though I can't be with her. We both burnt bridges. She has up until a year to press charges on me for the bruises and I'm on probation. I am scared. I want to ban her from the store but I don't want her to retaliate and mess up my life even more. Advice???

I don't go in her job.. I was not rude. I have not bothered her. I heard she has moved on .. more messy relationships. She always seemed calculated but her head is on her shoulders. I don't understand why she is doing this to me still.. why can't I just move on. It's been almost a year! How sorry can I be????!!!

If you hate someone or are so "scared" of them.. You don't come in to their job TWICE!!! Back to back. I wish she would call down. It hurts.. knowing she never really gave a butter. All that "understanding" she did about my issues.. She knew I had them.. even enabled me. I'm not that person anymore. I don't get it


What's funny is this post .... You know I can always spot who is actually playing the victim .... It's usually the one blaming the other.... You don't get it... Because you are blaming ..... So who is really playing the victim here ... And you reached out after you were blocked ... How is she playing the victim .... Define victim please .... Folks and their stories .... Here is some advice own your mistakes in the situation ... Learn from them and move on... If it was toxic why are you reaching out.... Let me guess you need closure... 😏 .... Which I do believe is a form of obsessiveness on your part .... There are 3 sides to every story.... I ain't buying what you selling at all....

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Well, according to her she isn't doing anything. Just being a paying customer...And doesn't understand why it's a problem. I understand that part but Wawa is next door, you've come in every day since you seen me and now you're bringing people with you? I'm not sure they would pay me any mind because I cannot prove she is causing trouble.. only discomfort.
Posted by SuninLibra
Can't you get a restraining order?
I have feelings still, of course I do. But I do not want to be with her. I want her to leave me alone. She will n ot stop coming in.. today with her girlfriend as well.. twice. At what end? It's been almost a year!

I'm done, I just want to know why she is doing this and how I can make it stop.. it has not
Posted by Ram416
You need to turn away and walk away. Even if you still have feelings for her.

Aries and Scorpio women in a relationship can either bring out the best or the worst in each other. I've experienced both (I'm an Aries woman).

Switch jobs if you have to.

But please, please let it go and cut her off completely.
The relationship has BEEN over... I'm asking why she is doing this. She has came in non stop.. today, twice. Once alone. Once with her girlfriend.
Posted by Sheever







She, or both of you either had narcissistic traits, or you had heavy plutonic relationship, or even both. Two things.

It's very difficult to identify which one is the case. You can check the past relationship of both of you if any abusive relationship in the past is a signature of particular pattern a narcissist has. If none of this, you had probably heavy plutonic relationship, same story however

If you break the relationship you might never get over the issues of yours and your partner on hers. You had to do this and going through because the advantage how you come out at the end is huge. Even if doesn't looks like. Both of yours ego need to break down to pieces in order to be able to transform and realise you are out of comfort zone and neither of you can't control anything. It's not love, it's about obsession,needs
I am an Aries with a moon in Libra
Posted by Ram416
OP, what is your moon sign and house?
If you hate someone or are so "scared" of them.. You don't come in to their job TWICE!!! Back to back. I wish she would call down. It hurts.. knowing she never really gave a shit. All that "understanding" she did about my issues.. She knew I had them.. even enabled me. I'm not that person anymore. I don't get it
I don't go in her job.. I was not rude. I have not bothered her. I heard she has moved on .. more messy relationships. She always seemed calculated but her head is on her shoulders. I don't understand why she is doing this to me still.. why can't I just move on. It's been almost a year! How sorry can I be????!!!
I am an Aries and my ex is a scorpio.. there is a very long story behind our relationship so I'll be brief. Our relationship was very toxic, alot of pushing, pulling, breaking and making up. We are both women. On her part there was alot of victim playing, manipulation and narcissism. On my end there was verbal abuse, erratic and impulsive behavior.. not only because I had a drinking problem but just because my nature is hot headed. I did alot of messed up things to her.. but not unwarranted. Her abuse was mental (alot of mind games, gas lighting and projecting). Leaving me stranded or upset and coming back whenever she was ready on her terms. When we finally ended things (with a bang of course) things got really bad, but of course she ran back to her family and pulled the victim card. She could/can do no wrong. I know that I was very wrong throught the relationship, I should not have allowed someone to control my emotions or sanity like that and reacted the way I did. I am very sorry. She has made it clear that she hates me. Whats funny is she never once showed me that she truly loved me. The entire relationship was a power struggle. I was very young, she is about 6 years older. She got her way in the end. Won the war, that is for certain. I left bruises on her the last night we were together and she went and got a protective order after I told her if she didn't bring me my brand new phone back I would start selling things out of the house. Since then, we have said very little. I apologized, wished her the best and turned my life around. I am sober now, rebuilt my life and moved on. It has been about ten months since the final fight. I have to live with what happened.. the guilt. She on the other hand, will never fess up to anything on her part. It's a big f*ck you parade as always. Her b estfriend watches my Instagram story religiously, so I know that she has to know some things about my new life. Two nights ago on Christmas I turned around in line at my job (which I just got promoted at) and standing in line trying her damnest to not make eye contact with me. I see her and walk away.. even go out back to smoke. Soon enough she comes roaring through the parking lot out the entrance. Last night she came in again. I sent someone else to ring her up. I removed myself from the situation. As you can imagine, the encounters brought up alot of old emotions and grief I have only tried to move away from. I logged into my old Facebook to message her because she has me blocked on my new one. I told her I didn't understand why she was coming in there, if she needed to reach me to message me through facebook, and not come in my job. I kindly asked her not to and wished her the best. She then responds that she didn't want me to message her, if she had something to say she would have said it in there. She comes in there all the time (lie) and she's just a paying customer. That if I have such an important position at my job I need to focus on that and not where she spends her money. Asked me not to message her again and sent some other emojis and smart was comments. Just all together nasty. I get my job is a public place but there's a wawa next door and she came in two nights in a row. I messaged her once more saying please stay out of my job, that I don't come in here. J was very nice. She then responds see you tomorrow with more happy emojis and blocked me again. I just want to move on with my life. She had a new car how bad could her life be? Why has she waited so long to start being petty.. why is she still stewing.. What can I do to make it stop. I still love her, all though I can't be with her. We both burnt bridges. She has up until a year to press charges on me for the bruises and I'm on probation. I am scared. I want to ban her from the store but I don't want her to retaliate and mess up my life even more. Advice???

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I am an Aries and my ex is a scorpio.. there is a very long story behind our relationship so I'll be brief. Our relationship was very toxic, alot of pushing, pulling, breaking and making up. We are both women. On her part there was alot of victim playing,
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I am an Aries and my ex is a scorpio.. there is a very long story behind our relationship so I'll be brief. Our relationship was very toxic, alot of pushing, pulling, breaking and making up. We are both women. On her part there was alot of victim playing,
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