No interest Then BAM....

Hey All! Long story short, I have been friends with the Aquarius for a while. I have never had looked at him in any other way other than a friend because he has never shown any interest. Always talking about other women and even specifically has said things like he would never be interested this —type?? of women which was completely me. While we have always got along great we have never hung out alone only around friends. We have had great one on one conversations while in a group setting where we have gotten to know a great deal about each other. One of my friends that's a female said she thought he liked me by the way his body language was towards me and I just laughed at her and shrugged it off because it was opposite of what I got from him.

Over the holidays I get a call from him, He expressed his concern about this guy that is fancying me, this guy he speaks of I had gone on a few dates with but had not been exclusive with. He said the reason he felt the need to say something is because he thinks I am a beautiful person inside and out. He told me that I am one of the few people he truly thinks highly of for my rare kind heart and expressed that he loves me so much as a friend and that he doesn't want me to get hurt by this other person.

Next thing I know a few days later I get a call from him again and he invites me over because he needs to talk about this other person. This would be the first time ever that we are one on one. I go over there and after we talked for a while we, when I was in mid-sentence he leaned in and kissed me. I kissed him back and we had a hot make-out session until wee hours of the morning. NOW, he wants to go out tonight. He had NO interest in me at all, no calls, text that dropped any clues that he liked me. WHY all of the sudden —this??(whatever it is). Is this typical behavior? What else should I expect? Thanks ??_

Uhm..Ignore . Can you do this? If not, you are in deep trouble. You're involved with a manipulator. Even they can love, they won't ever put their hearts 100% in relationship.

Okay I will bite, but Would you mind explaining more into your advice. Ignore him completely? Why would you say he is a manipulator? I am only asking to get a different perspective.

aqua's take awhile to get to know someone. We can be overly careful with our hearts. The sudden rush was he must of thought its now or never.

It can go either way.

He was always attracted to you but he played it cool til he realised you were dating someone else and just finally had to act on it. He might be a manipulator (there are immature aquas) and used this ability to get in your pants by being super nice and convincing you he's just super nice.

Which one would you like me to go indepth on 😛

Charts or more information on the guy in question can probably give me a better understanding then just blindly following and assuming based on your information unless that's ALL you have.

If that's the case I'd say you're questioning because you're not trusting his actions after the make out session. Are you justifying his sudden change of heart or your own or both? If I honestly saw someone as just a friend I definitely would kiss them even if they said they loved me.

Posted by EvilTurtle
aqua's take awhile to get to know someone. We can be overly careful with our hearts. The sudden rush was he must of thought its now or never.

Good to know this and I will be keeping it in mind. Should I ask him why the rush or do I leave it all alone and let it play out?

*wouldn't kiss them.

AWKWARDO!

Posted by aquasnoz
It can go either way.

He was always attracted to you but he played it cool til he realised you were dating someone else and just finally had to act on it. He might be a manipulator (there are immature aquas) and used this ability to get in your pants by being super nice and convincing you he's just super nice.

Which one would you like me to go indepth on 😛

Charts or more information on the guy in question can probably give me a better understanding then just blindly following and assuming based on your information unless that's ALL you have.

If that's the case I'd say you're questioning because you're not trusting his actions after the make out session. Are you justifying his sudden change of heart or your own or both? If I honestly saw someone as just a friend I definitely would kiss them even if they said they loved me.

haha Correction, he has not gotten the goods. Im trying to understand why all the sudden he had no sign of interest and now wants to spend time with me. I only saw him as a friend because thats what was put out to me by him, but that did not mean I never was attracted to him, in which case I have been for a few months. When I got that he wasnt attracted to me (by the signs he gave me) I kept the attraction to myself.

Also, not based on any charts but based on knowing him I would say that he is very mature so Im sure he has faults like us all but I do not this he would fit into the immature aquas.

Okay well from that I can assume your head is screwed on pretty well enough to not let an immature Aqua manipulate you. And here comes the good stuff.

It is as EvilTurtle says. It takes a while for an Aqua to evaluate feelings for another person. We have no gripe with being just friends which is what a lot of people don't understand. Subconsciously perhaps he's shown you interest in a way only your friends could see. Hell I think I'm subtle but my actions speak far louder than my words appear to be but that's the funny thing, some people pick up on it some people don't.

I said this in another thread I think is that we are the type of people that would suddenly decide when to take it to the next level and with no warning. If you could keep the attraction to yourself odds are he kept it to himself too because us Aquas are the best at mirroring other people. The breaking point from your story seems to be when you started dating someone else. He could no longer contain it and just had to claim you before anyone else.

So for now I'll just say go with the flow.

Posted by aquasnoz
Okay well from that I can assume your head is screwed on pretty well enough to not let an immature Aqua manipulate you. And here comes the good stuff.

It is as EvilTurtle says. It takes a while for an Aqua to evaluate feelings for another person. We have no gripe with being just friends which is what a lot of people don't understand. Subconsciously perhaps he's shown you interest in a way only your friends could see. Hell I think I'm subtle but my actions speak far louder than my words appear to be but that's the funny thing, some people pick up on it some people don't.

I said this in another thread I think is that we are the type of people that would suddenly decide when to take it to the next level and with no warning. If you could keep the attraction to yourself odds are he kept it to himself too because us Aquas are the best at mirroring other people. The breaking point from your story seems to be when you started dating someone else. He could no longer contain it and just had to claim you before anyone else.

So for now I'll just say go with the flow.

okay, I shall just go with the flow! Thank You very much!

Is it true that a woman whom a guy intended to be just a friend can actually end up being someone he romantically fancies later on? Yes

But enough hasn't happened that convinces me that he's totally into you. And if he's into you a little bit, I'm not convinced that it's for the right reasons and here's why:

You've given us AND yourself more clues that point to him NOT being interested as opposed to the 1 time you guys shared an intimate moment. So it's kinda like 9-1.

I'm not saying ignore the 1 intimate time, but when looking at the big picture, it still doesn't trump the fact that he hasn't verbally told you his feelings nor has he done anything more than kiss you

I get that him kissing you was unexpected, BUT is that all it really takes for someone to prove to you that they are not only interested, but genuinely interested as a whole? The answer should be NO

There are a million different possible explanations for why he kissed you. Male friends get horny too. And in the process of them dating other chicks that may be annoying them or not meeting their needs at the time, it's not uncommon for a man to suddenly start coming onto his normally 'platonic' female friends.

Of course phase is only temporary bc as soon as he snaps out of it, it's back to you being just the 'friend' and him continuing to brag/talk about other women

Don't let that unexpected kiss detour you from your own rules about attraction. Whether he kissed you or not, the fact remains the same that when someone is truly into you, they'll tell you. Aquarius or not, he'll tell you.

You won't have to go draining yourself looking for hidden clues b/c if they're really into you (and especially when it comes to men b/c they love to chase) they'll make it known verbally.

Anything other than what he verbally tells you paired with your intuition/instincts is void

Trust me, if he's truly into you in the way I can tell you're trying to wire your mind to believe, he'll not only tell you but he'll show you. He won't leave you hanging or act funny when the moment is over

You asked what should you expect from here on out...Well it depends...This guy is obviously attracted to you in some kinda way. Whether or not that attraction is the good or healthy kind of attraction that all girls want is a different story

Only time AND him will tell that

Just be patient. Don't fall for the crap that just b/c he's an Aquarius, you should expect things to be complicated and har

Aquas are famous for the slow build. They start out as a gentle breeze and slowly over time build into the hurricane winds when they develop feelings for someone. The BAM factor in this situation makes me think that he is afraid that you will move on away from him once you start seriously dating someone else. It's as though he is trying to keep a hook in you without laying his cards on the table or frankly putting much in the way of effort. This feels like a "placeholder" situation to me.

Posted by firewaterearthpiscesvenus
Aquas are famous for the slow build. They start out as a gentle breeze and slowly over time build into the hurricane winds when they develop feelings for someone. The BAM factor in this situation makes me think that he is afraid that you will move on away from him once you start seriously dating someone else. It's as though he is trying to keep a hook in you without laying his cards on the table or frankly putting much in the way of effort. This feels like a "placeholder" situation to me.

that sounds about right for an aqua man with dominant air in his chart. If they lack the "assertion" of dominant fire, then they'll slowly build up for that hurricane, swirling and swirling.

Was just studying Kutcher's chart:


http://www.astrotheme.com/astrology/Ashton_Kutcher<BR>
dayum, that's one windy guy. 75% air!! dominant, and his new GF is a Leo/Scorpio mooner Mila Kunis, but she's got dominant Air in her chart too so they can do the hurricane love together.

Posted by Metoo
I wonder too if aquas are competitive with other males....meaning he REALLY seemed to not like the other guy in the picture & it almost seems like he wanted to get the girl to spite this other guy? An ego thing?
Careful not to get used here you seem very sweet.
Great advice above from everyone too, wow.

I'm guessing men of all signs are competitive. If they lack strong cardinal in their chart, there's going to be a lack of initiative?? Not sure how that works yet. amateur astro junkie here.

but generally speaking all men want to get the girl, the problem is, if the girl doesn't want him back. Then they cry. Or if they have dominant air in their chart, go swing to the next girl? they won't get in TOO deep unless they know they can really get her. No feelings involved, just laid backness and then, if she's EASY, it's not much of a competition is it?
Too many single women out there need to lock down their goods, be more old fashioned.

Well too remember that Aquas are very good at reading other people. We often feel that we're good judges of character & we may seem almost overly passionate to the point of others thinking we care more than we actually do when we see someone whom we think is on the brink of being played or manipulated

We'll speak up about it, yes partly b/c we care but also b/c we probably would've pointed it out anyways, whether we cared or not

We don't have to be emotionally invested or interested to use our logic or read someone else's behavior with a friend of ours. That may be something others only tend to do with those they're interested in but for us, it comes natural & can happen with everybody

It's funny you bring this situation up, because as a true-blue aqua, I've found myself in situations like this before. It takes me a while sometimes to realize that I like somebody, if its more than a friendly way, and it can seem shady and manipulative, but it's usually not. It can seem to come out of nowhere for you, but chances are, he's been thinking a lot about you for an extended period of time. Then, when you spent time together alone, you must've said something to ignite passion in him, so he kissed you, realizing his fantasy of you and the actual you were indeed intertwined. I would say with almost 100% certainty that he is attracted to you, and wanted to take his own time to reflect and come to a conclusion about his feelings. Do I genuinely like this girl? Or am I just lusting after her? What most people don't grasp about us aquas is that more than 3/4 of the attraction we have for someone comes from our own brain first. The attraction grows as we fantasize about what you might be like sexually, conversationally, and just in general, behind closed doors. Then, we get all excited and MUST spend alone time with you one-on-one. All of these encounters we've created in our heads make us lusty for the other person, so we do things like he did-calling you to talk, then kissing you out of nowhere. It's not out of nowhere for us, because our infatuation with you has already commenced and we want gratification. Also, I must say, I am ALWAYS so very attracted to an unassuming target. You were completely shocked because of his stoic nature (a famous aqua trait), and shocking someone in that way is one of the greatest pleasures in life for us. If he keeps initiating contact, don't get all flowery and romantic via text/call/e-mail. Make plans to physically see each other and shower him with compliments and affection. We LOVE words and compliments. A beautifully orchestrated, genuine compliment will bring us to our knees. Be sure to have several intelligent and interesting topics of conversation, as we seek mental stimulation above all.