My gemini and I

I'm new to DXP, and by God, poor gemini men are getting bashed left and right lol Are they really that bad? It sure seems so, according to some of you. My gemini isn't so good either, but I'm blaming it on myself, cause I let him get away with it. See, I have met him almost 3 years ago. He had just moved back home where I live. Was forced to live with his parents because he had just won a custody battle with his ex, and needed help to take care of the little one. We met, and it was like an instant fall for me. I fell very quickly and very deeply, and although at the moment I didn't think it would last, against all odds, it did. My feelings at least. To say that he isn't in the right place mentally to give me his all is an understatement. I understand that. But it has been on and off for almost 3 years now. We break up (well, I leave him), and he always, always comes back begging to see me. The main reason why I always leave him is because he just can't talk to me every day or every other day, and it makes me feel like he doesn't care. Once I tried to just leave him alone and it took him 2 weeks to get back and talk to me. But when we re together, he can't shut up. We talk about anything and everything, have deep conversations about life, tell each other things we won't say to anyone else. He s talked about our future, has said that he wanted to move in together, get married, the whole nine yards. I told him I wouldn't do any of these things unless I'm sure of his feelings towards me. I told him I wanted something real. He said, it is real. He s never told me he loved me, but once I told him, that the only reason I was still around is because I love him, and that he doesn't love me, but he said, "I do, but you don't know that." He keeps on telling me that I'm too good for him and that I deserve better. I don't care that he thinks I deserve better, I guess he doesn't understand how I see him. I haven't heard from him in a few days and I don't feel like running after him. I guess I'll just wait it out. I wanted to know what fellow gemini men thought of this behavior, and maybe some of you will tell me what I should do. Maybe slap me in the face?€

it doesnt matter what he says, its what he does. dump him immediately and stop being a doormat. smh

three wasted years smh

I don't feel like I wasted three years... If anything, I'm in the process of learning something, and really, we've had some good times, and I'm grateful for everything he s ever done for me. I try not to see the situation with anger, because otherwise it will drive me crazy, and I ain't got no time for that. Lol I have read your thread about your gemini, and he seemed like a real piece of shit, but I refuse to put them all in the same category. I don't know if I am being delusional, but usually my intuitions are right, and my intuition about him was to not give up. Maybe I'm being delusional. Thank you for your input though, girl.

What are his placements?

Posted by Charfig5
I don't feel like I wasted three years... If anything, I'm in the process of learning something, and really, we've had some good times, and I'm grateful for everything he s ever done for me. I try not to see the situation with anger, because otherwise it will drive me crazy, and I ain't got no time for that. Lol I have read your thread about your gemini, and he seemed like a real piece of shit, but I refuse to put them all in the same category. I don't know if I am being delusional, but usually my intuitions are right, and my intuition about him was to not give up. Maybe I'm being delusional. Thank you for your input though, girl.

you can get a harvard education in 3 years, it shouldnt take three years to learn that when a guys takes 2 weeks to hit your up he doesnt give a shit. you could be dead for all he knows, and what for a few good times. you shouldn't be angry or allow this man to enter your head space at all. he's not worth your time. if you really want to send a clear message block him and don't entertain the crumbs he throws. too many other men out there who arent douchbags.

*hit you up

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Posted by Charfig5
I don't feel like I wasted three years... If anything, I'm in the process of learning something, and really, we've had some good times, and I'm grateful for everything he s ever done for me. I try not to see the situation with anger, because otherwise it will drive me crazy, and I ain't got no time for that. Lol I have read your thread about your gemini, and he seemed like a real piece of shit, but I refuse to put them all in the same category. I don't know if I am being delusional, but usually my intuitions are right, and my intuition about him was to not give up. Maybe I'm being delusional. Thank you for your input though, girl.

you can get a harvard education in 3 years, it shouldnt take three years to learn that when a guys takes 2 weeks to hit your up he doesnt give a shit. you could be dead for all he knows, and what for a few good times. you shouldn't be angry or allow this man to enter your head space at all. he's not worth your time. if you really want to send a clear message block him and don't entertain the crumbs he throws. too many other men out there who arent douchbags.

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Gosh, you're probably right. Actually you're most likely right. I'm fucking obsessed, man.

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Yes, they are that bad.

All of them?? Lol don't tell me every single gemini you know is a douche

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I don't feel like I wasted three years... If anything, I'm in the process of learning something, and really, we've had some good times, and I'm grateful for everything he s ever done for me. I try not to see the situation with anger, because otherwise it will drive me crazy, and I ain't got no time for that. Lol I have read your thread about your gemini, and he seemed like a real piece of shit, but I refuse to put them all in the same category. I don't know if I am being delusional, but usually my intuitions are right, and my intuition about him was to not give up. Maybe I'm being delusional. Thank you for your input though, girl.

you can get a harvard education in 3 years, it shouldnt take three years to learn that when a guys takes 2 weeks to hit your up he doesnt give a shit. you could be dead for all he knows, and what for a few good times. you shouldn't be angry or allow this man to enter your head space at all. he's not worth your time. if you really want to send a clear message block him and don't entertain the crumbs he throws. too many other men out there who arent douchbags.

Gosh, you're probably right. Actually you're most likely right. I'm fucking obsessed, man.

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don't be obsessed with a man who is not obsessed with you it's not a good look 🙂

Posted by LittleStar
I don't know how you expect someone to treat you seriously if you are leaving them all the time.

All on and off again relationship are dragging out the inevitable breakup.

I don't leave him all the time... I left him about 3 times...then he kinda disappears on me and I almost always am the first to reach out.

Posted by Charfig5
I don't feel like I wasted three years... If anything, I'm in the process of learning something, and really, we've had some good times, and I'm grateful for everything he s ever done for me. I try not to see the situation with anger, because otherwise it will drive me crazy, and I ain't got no time for that. Lol I have read your thread about your gemini, and he seemed like a real piece of shit, but I refuse to put them all in the same category. I don't know if I am being delusional, but usually my intuitions are right, and my intuition about him was to not give up. Maybe I'm being delusional. Thank you for your input though, girl.

My best and worst relationship was with a gem man... very tumultuous, but so much fun. Oh my goodness, he was so much fun (I'm over here reminiscing lol) I received plenty of advice to leave him, that we're toxic together, but we stuck it out until the wheels fell off.

I don't think you're ready to move on yet and there's nothing anyone can say to force you to be ready, you'll know when you've had enough.

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Posted by Charfig5
I don't feel like I wasted three years... If anything, I'm in the process of learning something, and really, we've had some good times, and I'm grateful for everything he s ever done for me. I try not to see the situation with anger, because otherwise it will drive me crazy, and I ain't got no time for that. Lol I have read your thread about your gemini, and he seemed like a real piece of shit, but I refuse to put them all in the same category. I don't know if I am being delusional, but usually my intuitions are right, and my intuition about him was to not give up. Maybe I'm being delusional. Thank you for your input though, girl.

My best and worst relationship was with a gem man... very tumultuous, but so much fun. Oh my goodness, he was so much fun (I'm over here reminiscing lol) I received plenty of advice to leave him, that we're toxic together, but we stuck it out until the wheels fell off.

I don't think you're ready to move on yet and there's nothing anyone can say to force you to be ready, you'll know when you've had enough.

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Yeah, you're right. I'm not quite ready. But it s been almost 3 years. I'm tired. God knows I love him dearly, but geese. It's not supposed to be that hard.

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Posted by MooninLeoo


Yes, they are that bad.

All of them?? Lol don't tell me every single gemini you know is a douche

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the men are idiots, not the women although i like donald trump for some reason.

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Posted by MooninLeoo


Yes, they are that bad.

All of them?? Lol don't tell me every single gemini you know is a douche

the men are idiots, not the women although i like donald trump for some reason.

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Cause he doesn't give a shit about what people think?🙂

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Posted by Charfig5
I don't feel like I wasted three years... If anything, I'm in the process of learning something, and really, we've had some good times, and I'm grateful for everything he s ever done for me. I try not to see the situation with anger, because otherwise it will drive me crazy, and I ain't got no time for that. Lol I have read your thread about your gemini, and he seemed like a real piece of shit, but I refuse to put them all in the same category. I don't know if I am being delusional, but usually my intuitions are right, and my intuition about him was to not give up. Maybe I'm being delusional. Thank you for your input though, girl.

My best and worst relationship was with a gem man... very tumultuous, but so much fun. Oh my goodness, he was so much fun (I'm over here reminiscing lol) I received plenty of advice to leave him, that we're toxic together, but we stuck it out until the wheels fell off.

I don't think you're ready to move on yet and there's nothing anyone can say to force you to be ready, you'll know when you've had enough.

Yeah, you're right. I'm not quite ready. But it s been almost 3 years. I'm tired. God knows I love him dearly, but geese. It's not supposed to be that hard.

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You might be reaching your breaking point. Mine lasted for about 2 years.

It is hard, but you'll be ok.

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Posted by MooninLeoo


Yes, they are that bad.

All of them?? Lol don't tell me every single gemini you know is a douche

the men are idiots, not the women although i like donald trump for some reason.

Cause he doesn't give a shit about what people think?🙂

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indeed. 🙂

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I don't feel like I wasted three years... If anything, I'm in the process of learning something, and really, we've had some good times, and I'm grateful for everything he s ever done for me. I try not to see the situation with anger, because otherwise it will drive me crazy, and I ain't got no time for that. Lol I have read your thread about your gemini, and he seemed like a real piece of shit, but I refuse to put them all in the same category. I don't know if I am being delusional, but usually my intuitions are right, and my intuition about him was to not give up. Maybe I'm being delusional. Thank you for your input though, girl.

My best and worst relationship was with a gem man... very tumultuous, but so much fun. Oh my goodness, he was so much fun (I'm over here reminiscing lol) I received plenty of advice to leave him, that we're toxic together, but we stuck it out until the wheels fell off.

I don't think you're ready to move on yet and there's nothing anyone can say to force you to be ready, you'll know when you've had enough.

Yeah, you're right. I'm not quite ready. But it s been almost 3 years. I'm tired. God knows I love him dearly, but geese. It's not supposed to be that hard.

You might be reaching your breaking point. Mine lasted for about 2 years.

It is hard, but you'll be ok.

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i blocked mine after 2 weeks of nonsense. ya he was fun but ain't no way im going to let a guy yoyo me for years... hell no. no man is worth that

Yea but yours cheated, which is unforgivable

Posted by WateryGem
What are his placements?

I don't even know... I only know he was born on June 19th 1981

Posted by Charfig5
Yea but yours cheated, which is unforgivable

honey, thats just the tip of the iceberg. mine gave a new meaning to hot mes 😆

*hot mess

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Posted by Charfig5
Yea but yours cheated, which is unforgivable

honey, thats just the tip of the iceberg. mine gave a new meaning to hot mes 😆

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Eww. What a pig. Well, I hope mine isn't doing the same thing, but God only knows.

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Yes, they are that bad.

All of them?? Lol don't tell me every single gemini you know is a douche

the men are idiots, not the women although i like donald trump for some reason.

Cause he doesn't give a shit about what people think?🙂

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You have Cancer somewhere in your chart, I bet.

But you LOOK like a Gemini.

Those cheekbones.

No, not all Gemini's are bad. There are bad apples in every sign.

My Crab man/Gem cusper is a wonderful guy, thoughtful attentive and sexy as hell.

He's all about the communication as well. Texts me sweet messages throughout the day and the nights we're not together he calls we talk about our days and say goodnight.

His Mercury is in cancer.

Op, what's your gems Mercury?

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Posted by MooninLeoo


Yes, they are that bad.

All of them?? Lol don't tell me every single gemini you know is a douche

the men are idiots, not the women although i like donald trump for some reason.

Cause he doesn't give a shit about what people think?🙂

You have Cancer somewhere in your chart, I bet.

But you LOOK like a Gemini.

Those cheekbones.

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House XII in cancer. Nothing in there. Lol I'm European. My cheekbones are protruding haha

Posted by LadyNeptune
No, not all Gemini's are bad. There are bad apples in every sign.

My Crab man/Gem cusper is a wonderful guy, thoughtful attentive and sexy as hell.

He's all about the communication as well. Texts me sweet messages throughout the day and the nights we're not together he calls we talk about our days and say goodnight.

His Mercury is in cancer.

Op, what's your gems Mercury?

I don't know, I'd have to ask him. But humm I don't feel like talking to him just yet haha

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Posted by LadyNeptune
No, not all Gemini's are bad. There are bad apples in every sign.

My Crab man/Gem cusper is a wonderful guy, thoughtful attentive and sexy as hell.

He's all about the communication as well. Texts me sweet messages throughout the day and the nights we're not together he calls we talk about our days and say goodnight.

His Mercury is in cancer.

Op, what's your gems Mercury?

I don't know, I'd have to ask him. But humm I don't feel like talking to him just yet haha

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You don't need to ask him to find out. If you know his birthdate and time of birth as well as the city he was born enter it here and it'll tell you 👇👇

http://astro.cafeastrology.com/natal.php

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Posted by WateryGem
What are his placements?

I don't even know... I only know he was born on June 19th 1981

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Obviously I don't know where he was born..

I would put some pressure on this guy, is he still living at home?
Sun Gemini 28°19'
Moon Capricorn 21°51'
Mercury Cancer 1°52' R
Venus Cancer 17°40'
Mars Gemini 10°16'
Jupiter Libra 1°14'
Saturn Libra 3°11'
Uranus Scorpio 26°52' R
Neptune Sagittarius 23°21' R
Pluto Libra 21°36' R
Lilith Scorpio 19°10'
Asc node Leo 2°06'

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What are his placements?

I don't even know... I only know he was born on June 19th 1981

Obviously I don't know where he was born..

I would put some pressure on this guy, is he still living at home?
Sun Gemini 28°19'
Moon Capricorn 21°51'
Mercury Cancer 1°52' R
Venus Cancer 17°40'
Mars Gemini 10°16'
Jupiter Libra 1°14'
Saturn Libra 3°11'
Uranus Scorpio 26°52' R
Neptune Sagittarius 23°21' R
Pluto Libra 21°36' R
Lilith Scorpio 19°10'
Asc node Leo 2°06'

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Yeah he is, otherwise I would not put up with the bullshit, trust me. The thing is, it seems to have worked in the past when I put pressure on him. The last few weeks he had been amazing, contacting me all the time, even got me a meaningful gift for Valentine's. And it's not like he had to because I freely give him the sugar, know what I mean haha The few issues we had before have been resolved when I told him I couldn't put up with it anymore. So I feel like he does try. But then he reverts back and it s been since Friday that I haven't heard from him

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Posted by LadyNeptune
No, not all Gemini's are bad. There are bad apples in every sign.

My Crab man/Gem cusper is a wonderful guy, thoughtful attentive and sexy as hell.

He's all about the communication as well. Texts me sweet messages throughout the day and the nights we're not together he calls we talk about our days and say goodnight.

His Mercury is in cancer.

Op, what's your gems Mercury?

I don't know, I'd have to ask him. But humm I don't feel like talking to him just yet haha

You don't need to ask him to find out. If you know his birthdate and time of birth as well as the city he was born enter it here and it'll tell you 👇👇

http://astro.cafeastrology.com/natal.php

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His mercury appears to be in Cancer

@Charfig5

What's his Venus and Mars?

Posted by LadyNeptune
@Charfig5

What's his Venus and Mars?

Venus cancer
Mars gemini

Posted by KittenLaRouge
it doesnt matter what he says, its what he does. dump him immediately and stop being a doormat. smh

Follow your own advice mang.

Sometimes it is hard not to be a doormat when you truly love someone who just won't treat you right.

Posted by Charfig5
Sometimes it is hard not to be a doormat when you truly love someone who just won't treat you right.

what are your placements?

I apologize but has anyone ever told you that you look like Felicia Day? She's awesome 😄

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Posted by Charfig5
Sometimes it is hard not to be a doormat when you truly love someone who just won't treat you right.

what are your placements?

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Sun virgo
Moon virgo
Mercury virgo
Mars sag
Asc leo

The most immature guy I dated was a Gemini with Sagittarius moon, the end of that relationship was a nightmare. Now if I ever meet a gemini guy, I always friendzone them.

Posted by FyzaGems
Hmm...you're a Virgo?

Idk how true this is but I read Gems are not compatible with earth signs.

Any Gem male wanna say something here?

I hope you're feeling alright honey.

Yeah I'm good, the heart breaks over him came and went. Thank you. I guess we re not supposed to get along

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Posted by MooninLeoo


Yes, they are that bad.

All of them?? Lol don't tell me every single gemini you know is a douche

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Gemini guys are the worst. Awesome friends, but bad partners. They need someone that will call them out on their BS 24/7!!!!! Ever their butter isn't real, it's parkay!!!! Call him OUT!! He will hate the confrontation but it's a step in the right direction. If he can't answer for it, time to go!

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But then he reverts back and it s been since Friday that I haven't heard from him

Do you ever reach out to him? Do you ever initiate? Expecting him to always initiate is unfair if you won't do the same.

Communication is a two way street.

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@Charfig5

What's his Venus and Mars?

Venus cancer
Mars gemini

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Read up on both to better understand. But I do know that all the breaking up and getting back I has wrecked havoc on his cancer Venus.

So he wasn't in a position to give you undivided attention when you first met. Understandable.

It's been 3 years though. Time to sit down with him and reevaluate. Let your wants and needs be known to him and if he can't fulfill them then it's time to move on. I know, easier said then done.

Posted by Arielle83
I don't understand how you want to talk to him, but when he doesn't give you the amount of communication you need, you break up with him?

And then he gets distand, but you want to get back together again?

Yet all of this is you think he's a shit Gemini?

Sounds like you break up to make him chase you and when he doesn't do what you expect him to do, you go back to him?

Are you attempting to manipulate by breaking up and pouting or do you actually communicate your needs to him?

I don't ever try to get him back. Understand, I leave him, because of a lack of communication. Like he would not talk to me ever if I didn't try to talk to him when we are together. So I feel like we are not together and give up. He also blew me off plenty of times. I never said he was a shit gemini. I think he is a good person., Maybe just not for me. He is the one always coming back and I fall for him because he knows how to use his words well...and promises to change

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Posted by Charfig5

But then he reverts back and it s been since Friday that I haven't heard from him

Do you ever reach out to him? Do you ever initiate? Expecting him to always initiate is unfair if you won't do the same.

Communication is a two way street.

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Oh absolutely, I do and did. All the time. Until I get tired of being the only one that does.

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@Charfig5

What's his Venus and Mars?

Venus cancer
Mars gemini

Read up on both to better understand. But I do know that all the breaking up and getting back I has wrecked havoc on his cancer Venus.

So he wasn't in a position to give you undivided attention when you first met. Understandable.

It's been 3 years though. Time to sit down with him and reevaluate. Let your wants and needs be known to him and if he can't fulfill them then it's time to move on. I know, easier said then done.

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What do you mean it is breaking havoc on his cancer Venus?

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Yes, they are that bad.

All of them?? Lol don't tell me every single gemini you know is a douche

Gemini guys are the worst. Awesome friends, but bad partners. They need someone that will call them out on their BS 24/7!!!!! Ever their butter isn't real, it's parkay!!!! Call him OUT!! He will hate the confrontation but it's a step in the right direction. If he can't answer for it, time to go!

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Oh trust me I have called him out. He hates confrontations. I have made him talk about his feelings as well. And that's when he talks about future. And days later, forgets I exist. I could disappear for a month and that wouldn't phase him

Posted by AriesLady8
This is textbook Gemini Male behavior when they haven't made up their mind about a woman or have settled on the idea of being with just her.

What are his Venus, moon, and Mars placements?

Venus cancer
Moon Capricorn
Mars gemini

Understand I am not trying to make him chase me. I have no interest in that. I just want to be in a normal relationship where both people engage with each other on a weekly basis. I'm not trying to hurt him, I think he is a good person, and I do want him to be happy. I think that he might just not want to put in the effort of keeping communication with me, and that would be because I'm not the one.

Posted by VanillaExt
I have no say on gemini men since I have no experience. What I will share my two cents on... the relationship feels wishy washy. Nothing more than "this is what could be between us" and being told you deserve better? Relationships should not revolve around the idea of who deserves whom more or less. Sounds like he has issues with himself and that won't let the relationship last.

I can only wish you good luck. You have to break old blood before you can get new blood.

Oh yes he s got plenty of issues, but who doesn't lol I don't know, I know he s a good guy. But I'm not contacting him anymore and I guarantee you that will last weeks.