Aquarius & Cancer (Page 2)

also never make someone a priority when yur juss an option right...

right.

I totally understand about the back and forth thing.

ji,
I would also like some insight on the Aqua male.Currently,i m being relentlessly pursued by an Aquarian male who just wont give up.He smses me like 40 times a day and calls me the same number of times.i have told him politely tht i m in a rship,but his reply is ''all is fair in love''.i dont know how else to tell him off.btw,i m cancerian[june 22],leo rising,venus in taurus and mars in saggitarius.He is working in the same Company that i work at.I am in Finance and he is in IT.We dont really have to meet for any purpose,but he is embarassing me a lot at work by telling people we are an item.

lol

Fight fire with fire...🙂

I don't believe in basing a realationship off of horoscopes, but I have noticed that most aquarian and cancer relationships don't work. I was in a relationship with a cancer male (Im an aquarius female) for nearly 3 years. Lack of communication wasnt really a problem, but more like, too much of it? He had absolutely no problem telling me how he felt or anything like that, but it did take him awhile getting to that stage with me. He bacame quite whiney, actually. He was a very jealous person, and since I have a wide variety of friends instead of srictly female friends, he always accused me of cheating on him. He changed everything about himself because he thought I didn't like anything that he did or who he was or anything like that, and he turned himself into a completely different person for me and I hated it. He took everything I said or asked him to do very literally, he was putty in my hands and I couldnt stand it. He also became very needy and over bearing. He called me constantly and I never got any "me time". I started to get extremely frustrated with him and started to fall out of love with him. -sigh- We still try to be friends though. I still go to him whenever I need a shoulder to cry on or just need to talk. We still have a bond that I never thought was possible between two people. He is still the only person who knows absolutely everything about me.

I agree that this pairing is not easy, but I notice that there is often huge amount of attraction and fascination between these two signs. I actually don't think that this pairing is as rare as reported here. They often end up together, although, whether they last or not, that is different story. I actually know of more Aquarius/Cancer couples than Libra/Aquarius couples, which is odd.

I myself (Cancer) am an Aquarius magnet. Every time someone really pursues me relentlessly (like the poster above) it turns out that the person is Aquarius. There have been many of them, that I got really tired of it. I just knew what sign they were, I really wanted to meet another sign at one stage. And, they don't let go easily, they won't hear No for an answer, they could give Scorpios a run for their money in obsessiveness stake. I used to be married to one, too. I also find them very attractive, I think that part of it is a natural sexual attraction, and part of it is fascination with someone who is so different. It is an odd combination, but there is magnetism between these two and they are attracted to each other's cookiness and oddness factor. They fail on communication and clinginess versus live and let live attitude, IMO.

I was with an aqua man for almost 11 years. We have two kids together, and to be honest... it was a pretty rocky relationship to say the least. My daughter is also an aqua...

i am an a cancer; and have found that aqua's are very clingy and over emotional at times. if a CANCER thinks that you are too emotional... something's gotta be goin on. lol

see, i am six months older than my bf...and i think that has something to do with our relationship issues at times. he is very mature for his age, but he is also very into hanging out with the guys, and doing guy stuff... i.e. dirt biking every weekend! he hasn't exactly grown up in that department, and that's ok, but sometimes i wish he would invest more time and effort into me and our relationship, rather than spending so much time with the boys!


@ moonchild8 : are you dating my boyfriend? ROFL 😄
I get SO annoyed when I hear he has been making plans for the weekend with his friends AGAIN without even ..."consulting"... me.

And he ALWAYS does that!!

Hehe, the thing is: I hardly see him during weekdays. I don't have a problem with that, on the contrary.
I can assure you he hangs out with his male friends A LOT!
The thing is.. he likes me to hang out with him during weekends. But then he plans his weekend and I somehow have to go along with that 🙂 What I would like for him to do, is to arrange something with me first for a change, instead of mapping out our whole weekend with his friends. "Honey friday I'm going to this party, are you joining me? Babe, i've invited A/B to diner saturday! Oh and sunday is soccer-day..." --> uhm ok, I guess 🙂 See? My best friend is a pisces and she loves her aqua but many times we laugh about the fact that friends often still come first and girlfriends "second". It IS funny actually when you come to think of it, but sometimes.. "grrrrr" 😛

Novareinna hasn't proceeded into Sadge so far too long a wait.

"i.e. dirt biking every weekend! he hasn't exactly grown up in that department, and that's ok, but sometimes i wish he would invest more time and effort into me and our relationship, rather than spending so much time with the boys!"

LOL!!! well, my aqua bf still goes out mountain biking with the guys every weekend!!! and he is 30 yrs old...still not completely grown up! but, i am still hanging in there. it's kinda nice to have some alone time once in a while, but it also gets irritating sometimes when he cannot make plane with me but he can make plans every single weekend with the guys. they may never grown up 😢

just so you know now, you are probably going to always wish that he would invest more into the relationship, and he probably will never change his ways which will continuously keep longing for more from him...more than he is able to give.

also, starfish is right...you need to have your own hobbies, your own friends, your own life outside of him. or just make the best out of your alone time 😉

so moon, i take it he is speaking to you again, versus ignoring you while living together?

"i am an a cancer; and have found that aqua's are very clingy and over emotional at times. if a CANCER thinks that you are too emotional... something's gotta be goin on. lol"


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My bf is pretty emotional at times (no cancer influence at all) and also extremely clingy. Way more than I am. I find that Aquas, however, don't like to admit that. So if you accuse him of that he'll probably justdeny it and change his behavior for a while. lol

All guys do this (well most)... my gem and libra guy friends all say friends come first b/c who knows if the relationship will last. But honestly thats just immature guys who do this or guys that dont really care about you. I'm not saying your gona spend time together 24 hours a day, but they'll definitely make time for you and ladies...


Ugh, No...you dont have to keep longing for more. Tell him what to do. Make plans and TELL him to be there.



lubenica: I have your problem in reverse...I can't get rid of pisces men. Every tim I'm being pursued relentlessly its by a pisces. I really would like to meet a man of another sign for once lol.

poor moon, I guess you will go into 2010 dealing with his lack of validation and slightly ignoring you BS ):

Cancer males & aqua females i believe have a love/hate relationship. Cancer's are too moody and clingy and Aqua's need their space to breath. But, aqua's appreciate the sensitivity and kind heart of cancer and Cancer appreciate's Aqua's ability to remain detached to certain situations maintaining objectivity. They see things in each other that they wish they had in themselves. Its a curiosity that draws them near, but longevity in a love relationship (at least a healthy one) is unlikely. One would argue define "healthy" ... that's for you to decide.

Tasha that is interesting. My experiences have been the complete opposite to yours. Maybe (although not likely) my mercury in Capricorn and my Venus, Mars and Jupitor in Saggitarius has influenced my experiences. Who knows ... then again, it may just be who each of us attract.

^^^ LOL! Still on this clingy stuff? why is clingy thrown about like it's a bad thing and needing space like it's the advisable thing? 😕

Posted by *Tasha*
and he is STILL trying i'm like wow GET OVER IT already r u kidding me 5 years later?!?!?! i had to change my number 3 yrs ago. he really gives Aquarian males a terrible name/rep

did they have a good name/rep?

Hi All,

I need some good advice.am a cancer girl and I am in a real mess here.
I have been going out with my aqua guy for 8 yrs and now he is so aloof. we are still together but its like i am holding the thread and he wants to let go.I know he loves me but he is so detached and aloof that i am scared.
we have plans to get married next year but i dont think he wants to anymore. we love each other but he seems so distant..
helllppppp!! 😢

we are not spending time together - for one reason- Career. we stay in different towns ..not quite far though. he came to meet me few days back but i could not because of work. he decided to break off but i wasnt ready so we decided to work it out .. he talks to me when i call but he never bothers to call me .. i had some work and he promised to come with me .. sometimes he still sounds like he is still in the relation but sometimes he is so aloof.
i dont want to take a decision yet coz i have not had a chance to sit down with him and talk ....but he aint ready yet . its not easy to let go a man whom u love so much and ve been together for the better part of ur life - 8 yrs is a long time

i agree with that ... i have to get things straight ..and my instinct will tell me what i have to do .. thanks Starfish