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I would like to ask further more that should i give her a good night every end of the day to show her i still wait for her? Or should i completely stop talking to her?
Posted by youdontneedtoknowme
I would like to ask further more that should i give her a good night every end of the day to show her i still wait for her? Or should i completely stop talking to her?
If she has still communicated that she still wants space, maybe not EVERY night. But I feel checking up on her every few days is alright. Depends on the vibe and what was said when you guys last spoke.
Like i said yesterday, she doesnt blame me for the mistakes i've made. She just simply said she doesnt have feelings for me anymore. But she is uncertain about having the feelings back which is still giving me hope to fight for her.
Posted by CurlyAriesPosted by youdontneedtoknowme
I would like to ask further more that should i give her a good night every end of the day to show her i still wait for her? Or should i completely stop talking to her?
If she has still communicated that she still wants space, maybe not EVERY night. But I feel checking up on her every few days is alright. Depends on the vibe and what was said when you guys last spoke.click to expand
Posted by youdontneedtoknowme
Like i said yesterday, she doesnt blame me for the mistakes i've made. She just simply said she doesnt have feelings for me anymore. But she is uncertain about having the feelings back which is still giving me hope to fight for her.
Ok. I'd say saying goodnight to her every night is ok to try and see how that works out. If she seems to pull away then you'd probably be suffocating her so to speak. We Aries need time alone to figure out our feelings.. so if she pulls away from that, then back off a little. But communicating a few times a week should definitely be ok.
The fact that she is uncertain is good for you. There is possibility that she will take you back, if she really sees that you've changed and will never hurt her like that again.
It'll take some time but if you stay devoted to her and you SHOW her that, I would say she will reunite with you.
You guys were together for 2 years, so I assume she had strong feelings. Maybe in love with you. And if she was, and if you are honest with her, she will come back to you.
You must be open and affectionate. I'm not sure how open you've been with her but as you guys regain a stable friendship definitely open up more if you can. Just see how things play out over the next few weeks.
Best of luck to you guys 🙂
Hey OP, I'd say try your best.. You have got nothing to lose by trying anyway 🙂 And, you will not feel in future that you should've tried more..
Best wishes!
Best wishes!
Posted by youdontneedtoknowmeThe mistakes you made were the catalyst in her not having feelings for you.
Like i said yesterday, she doesnt blame me for the mistakes i've made. She just simply said she doesnt have feelings for me anymore. But she is uncertain about having the feelings back which is still giving me hope to fight for her.
Let that sink in. Consider your actions before you mistreat the person you supposedly 'love'.
Posted by AriesLoveyou started to miss him but what about your feelings?Posted by trollbaitExactly...very sad. I've told someone before I didn't have feelings for them, if he would've bugged me every day or other day I would've broke that man down. Because he didn't I started to miss him.
All I can say, giving a person false hope is more cruel than telling the person to just let things be.click to expand
did they come back?
Posted by AriesLovei mean i know the feelings cannot come back naturally. But if he tried tl get u back would u have the feelings for him again?Posted by trollbaitExactly...very sad. I've told someone before I didn't have feelings for them, if he would've bugged me every day or other day I would've broke that man down. Because he didn't I started to miss him.
All I can say, giving a person false hope is more cruel than telling the person to just let things be.click to expand
Posted by tctaWait, how did I miss this brilliant piece of BS? 😆Posted by youdontneedtoknowmeinteresting
Because we talked to each other everyday since the first day of our relationship. Imagine that. We talked like that for nearly 2 years. Couple of weeks not talking to her is gonna be so tough to me i might just get over her while being patient.click to expand
Posted by RamOfPeacedont get me wrongPosted by tctaWait, how did I miss this brilliant piece of BS? 😆Posted by youdontneedtoknowmeinteresting
Because we talked to each other everyday since the first day of our relationship. Imagine that. We talked like that for nearly 2 years. Couple of weeks not talking to her is gonna be so tough to me i might just get over her while being patient.click to expand
"It's going to be so tough.... I might just get over her."
Posted by RamOfPeacethats not what i meant. The thing is it will be very painful to not talk to her. And to avoid that i would need to find myself another habit or something else that would keep me busy and not to think about her. Not that i am gonna get over her like lôse feelings for her. I will always love her no matter what.
"It's going to be so tough.... I might just get over her."
Posted by tizianithe problem is how do i do that when she already doesnt have feelings for me
I mean if you're serious about not hurting her, try for new feelings. Not the same old as before. Someone losing feelings for you isn't the end of the world, but losing respect is a different story. If you just base your action on whether or not she'll give you the same old attention/affection as before (which led to screwing it up anyway) rather than doing something because you actually believe in it, she will lose respect for you. It comes off as insincere.
Aries live far more in their heads than people give credit for and right now you're just shadowing her thoughts, anticipating them, basing your moves off them. You become her coattails that way, congesting her thoughts and weighing her down, rather than being a sincere partner giving her something to look forward to.
Posted by tizianiyes i agree. If she would still have feelings for me everything would have been much simpler. Now that she doesnt. Idk what to do.Posted by youdontneedtoknowmeIf you don't know the answer to that then that's probably exactly why you need time apart.Posted by tizianithe problem is how do i do that when she already doesnt have feelings for me
I mean if you're serious about not hurting her, try for new feelings. Not the same old as before. Someone losing feelings for you isn't the end of the world, but losing respect is a different story. If you just base your action on whether or not she'll give you the same old attention/affection as before (which led to screwing it up anyway) rather than doing something because you actually believe in it, she will lose respect for you. It comes off as insincere.
Aries live far more in their heads than people give credit for and right now you're just shadowing her thoughts, anticipating them, basing your moves off them. You become her coattails that way, congesting her thoughts and weighing her down, rather than being a sincere partner giving her something to look forward to.
Your whole thought process right now is "I don't know what the right thing to do is unless she likes me".
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Posted by SensitiveBlueshell no!Posted by tctaSo it's better to stay with a cheater then be lonely?Posted by SensitiveBluesis it strength? really - hmmmm - I think it's mainly pride - which in my book just doesn't account for any more or less than any other painful feeling - just different - but the pride - oh god it's a sickfest just as well - like gladiators we are - never looking back and just forging ahead alone no matter what - and that is just as painful as all the rest ...
Aries are very strong woman, they won't take sheet, so what exactly did you do?
If she saw you actually cheating on her, like talking to another woman.
you're forgotten. Believe me.
I have yet to me a weak Aries woman...their standards are very high....
they will no tolerate any BS
any
sigh i wish i was that strong
me? I think my Pisces in Mars interferes with the Aries and of course it's my Venus and Mercury, not my Sun or Moon ...click to expand
Posted by tizianiThis +100
I mean if you're serious about not hurting her, try for new feelings. Not the same old as before. Someone losing feelings for you isn't the end of the world, but losing respect is a different story. If you just base your action on whether or not she'll give you the same old attention/affection as before (which led to screwing it up anyway) rather than doing something because you actually believe in it, she will lose respect for you. It comes off as insincere.
Aries live far more in their heads than people give credit for and right now you're just shadowing her thoughts, anticipating them, basing your moves off them. You become her coattails that way, congesting her thoughts and weighing her down, rather than being a sincere partner giving her something to look forward to.
Posted by tizianii think u misunderstood me. But i really dont want to talk about this anymore. The chances are very low. All i needed to know if there are possibilities that she may fall for me again due to the notes i gave u. Thats all i was hoping because i have already planned how to change myself for good and for the relationship. All the problem is she doesnt love me anymore.Posted by youdontneedtoknowmeDoesn't that kind of make you question the last 2 years then? If you don't know you'll just end up hurting each other again.Posted by tizianiyes i agree. If she would still have feelings for me everything would have been much simpler. Now that she doesnt. Idk what to do.Posted by youdontneedtoknowmeIf you don't know the answer to that then that's probably exactly why you need time apart.Posted by tizianithe problem is how do i do that when she already doesnt have feelings for me
I mean if you're serious about not hurting her, try for new feelings. Not the same old as before. Someone losing feelings for you isn't the end of the world, but losing respect is a different story. If you just base your action on whether or not she'll give you the same old attention/affection as before (which led to screwing it up anyway) rather than doing something because you actually believe in it, she will lose respect for you. It comes off as insincere.
Aries live far more in their heads than people give credit for and right now you're just shadowing her thoughts, anticipating them, basing your moves off them. You become her coattails that way, congesting her thoughts and weighing her down, rather than being a sincere partner giving her something to look forward to.
Your whole thought process right now is "I don't know what the right thing to do is unless she likes me".
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Guys i've some update. I wanted to follow your advices and let her some time. So i before that i just wanted to say some last words so i can move on to do something for myself. I was expecting her to still talk to me like few days ago 🥶 but somehow she didnt. She talked to me normally? Again i am really confused guys. I dont know if she is accepting me as a friend or is she giving me the chance. Also she was at her friends house today and i offered her to pick her up and drive her home but she refused.
I wrote cold after the second sentence it wasnt meant to be an icon
Posted by AriesLove
What's your sign?
It's difficult to say, OP.
Maybe she's sticking to her words that she will be friends with you..
Maybe she's sticking to her words that she will be friends with you..
Posted by RumiLhope not 😢
It's difficult to say, OP.
Maybe she's sticking to her words that she will be friends with you..
Posted by youdontneedtoknowmeAww I'm sorry 😢Posted by RumiLhope not 😢
It's difficult to say, OP.
Maybe she's sticking to her words that she will be friends with you..
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Give her space and time. That's all you can really do. How much? I'm not sure. You're going to have to gauge that. But give her space.
Posted by malloryorYupPosted by youdontneedtoknowmeWtf lolPosted by CurlyAriesSomething similar to cheating.
It depends, What did you do to break her trust?
So you cheated. Okay, glad we cleared that up. So much for the "I loved her too much," you boys are so full of shit. But continue...click to expand
Posted by youdontneedtoknowmeI wouldn't trust you. You're purposely leaving this out so we can view you in a certain light. I'm sure if you gave the full on scenario you would probably get chewed out and told you could never get her back. But I still just based on the info given, wouldn't take you back.Posted by trollbaitNo. I lied to her. I dont really want to talk about it specifically. Jusy trying to find some advices from another aries women.
Did you say shit about her behind her back and she found out?
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Posted by bkbella86i said all the full scenario. It just hapenned a week ago.Posted by youdontneedtoknowmeI wouldn't trust you. You're purposely leaving this out so we can view you in a certain light. I'm sure if you gave the full on scenario you would probably get chewed out and told you could never get her back. But I still just based on the info given, wouldn't take you back.Posted by trollbaitNo. I lied to her. I dont really want to talk about it specifically. Jusy trying to find some advices from another aries women.
Did you say shit about her behind her back and she found out?
lolclick to expand
Posted by youdontneedtoknowmeHe gave you a legit advice and your wall of text in reply was just blatant self love and selfishness. You want this girl to love you because it makes you feel crappy that she no longer needs you. You want to TAKE and are absolutely not concerned in giving her something back. You are a moron.Posted by tizianii think u misunderstood me. But i really dont want to talk about this anymore. The chances are very low. All i needed to know if there are possibilities that she may fall for me again due to the notes i gave u. Thats all i was hoping because i have already planned how to change myself for good and for the relationship. All the problem is she doesnt love me anymore.Posted by youdontneedtoknowmeDoesn't that kind of make you question the last 2 years then? If you don't know you'll just end up hurting each other again.Posted by tizianiyes i agree. If she would still have feelings for me everything would have been much simpler. Now that she doesnt. Idk what to do.Posted by youdontneedtoknowmeIf you don't know the answer to that then that's probably exactly why you need time apart.Posted by tizianithe problem is how do i do that when she already doesnt have feelings for me
I mean if you're serious about not hurting her, try for new feelings. Not the same old as before. Someone losing feelings for you isn't the end of the world, but losing respect is a different story. If you just base your action on whether or not she'll give you the same old attention/affection as before (which led to screwing it up anyway) rather than doing something because you actually believe in it, she will lose respect for you. It comes off as insincere.
Aries live far more in their heads than people give credit for and right now you're just shadowing her thoughts, anticipating them, basing your moves off them. You become her coattails that way, congesting her thoughts and weighing her down, rather than being a sincere partner giving her something to look forward to.
Your whole thought process right now is "I don't know what the right thing to do is unless she likes me".
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