Since then there hasn't been much communication. We had an instance on our second date where the food I ordered was burnt and not so great. I was disappointed and he knew how much I was looking forward to it. So I made it myself at home and texted him a photo of the food. He was impressed and I told him I'd like to make it again but change up the recipe a bit. He said he'd like to take that for a spin. I texted him later in the week and idea for our third date not specifying any day or time. He said he was booked up this weekend and if we did do what I suggested his friends may have to join us since they've been wanting to do something like that again for a really long time. I told him I hoped I didn't have to wait too long to see him again and told him to enjoy his busy weekend. This was just this past weekend. I haven't heard from him much since then. He's liked a few of my Facebook posts and commented on one or two things but no direct texts or phone calls. I had posted yesterday that one of my childhood pets who still lived with my parents has passed away. He texted me shortly after that he was sorry to hear that and that he was thinking of me. I texted him thank you and nothing more.
From an Aries perspective, what exactly is happening here? I know that he's dating other women and am fine with that. We've only gone out twice. I'm not pressuring or pushing him at all. I understanding giving someone space. I need that myself a lot. I'm keeping my expectations in check and he had told me before about taking things slow because that's what he needs right now. But how slow is too slow? It was two weeks between our first and second date (granted that was due to a family emergency). Insight, anyone?
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Feb 01, 2015Comments: 0 · Posts: 1528 · Topics: 23
I'm an Aries woman so I'm a bit different. My advice is to leave it!
If he was as interested as he made out he would have been in touch by now. I don't chase men but if I was interested I would have messaged back within the 1st week. Especially if that person had already messaged after the date.
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Feb 01, 2015Comments: 0 · Posts: 1528 · Topics: 23
Also we don't tend to do disappearing acts unless we have been hurt.
Thing is he hasn't entirely disappeared. He's sort of hovering at a distance.
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So having read the 2nd part of your post which I didn't see before, I now have more to go on. If he's willing for you to meet his friends, he must like you and most likely wants their opinion of you.
However if he's dating others he might do this with them too. As an Aries I can tell you now we are easily distracted so not messaging often is because he's trying to keep up with everyone.
We thrive off attention and love to know when someone likes us and shows it.
If he really likes you he will stop seeing the others and concentrate on only you.
However if he's dating others, you have to ask yourself if you're happy with this and how long you are willing to share before you move on or ask for more.
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Mar 30, 2012Comments: 1243 · Posts: 16617 · Topics: 170
If you've barely been on a few dates and have THIS many questions and THIS much confusion, chances are it's not meant to be.
Drop it already. Your Leo ego is just butthurt the guy isn't crawling all over your junk. You sound embarrassingly desperate.
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The only thing I can suggest now is to maybe msg a couple of times a week and make sure he knows you are still around. Don't be clingy but don't take any crap either. We don't like a push over and lose respect for people quickly if they become that way.
If and when you want more tell him straight and see what he says and take it from there.
I hope it all works out for you
I am a aries, had a relationship with aries man and I really don't understand them, in one point we are sooo similar, like real soul mates and then after months he was just starting to ignore and now he is gone, no explanations (just I am so busy, don't have time to contact you).
If I really like somebody then I will do everything to him, if I am not interested then I will tell that, so I do not play any mind games, honesty is important, but it seems that aries men is not like that.
You don't need to tell me I'll survive without him. You have no idea what I've survived in my lifetime. And the fact that you think I'm that sort of weak person is the worst assumption you've made about me.
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oh yes, the disappearing act. I say you disappear permanently.
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Mar 30, 2012Comments: 1243 · Posts: 16617 · Topics: 170
I didn't say you were a weak person. I said you were desperate. I think you're behaving like a desperate person in regard to this dude.
...And if you know you'll survive just fine without him, then why all the pining this much after a guy who you you only had TWO dates with?
I will never understand why Leo women get so batshit crazy in dating. You go on one or two dates and you're recounting every second of the last week or two, treating each as something largely significant and have practically married the guy in your minds.
"OMGHERD THE CONNECTION. WE WERE MEANT TO BE!!"
What I DO understand is that we all get caught up in the emotional frenzy in the beginning stages of dating. It happens. When they suddenly throw you for a loop like this, yes, it's confusing. However, I'd hope that in all your "lifetime" survival experience, you'd come to realize that behavior like this from a guy tends to point to an obvious answer. One that most women aren't willing to face because they're still caught up in those honeymoon phase feelings and hope their potential romance is just like a romantic comedy.
Fun fact- it's usually not.
Ponder and try to figure out all you want, but take an approach like MMR suggested. Go do you and if dude comes around, hooray. If not, well then eff that noise. On to better things.
Rockyroad, you didn't say I was a weak person but you did imply it. I'm not sure how in any of my descriptions you got any sense I was in some sort of despair. I just asked for advice. Nothing I have said or done thus far implies that I'm waiting around for him. It sounds like you're projecting whatever Leo experience you have had onto me. I never once said we were meant to be. Nor do I actually think that. Nor has the idea of marrying him even crossed my mind. I think you need to re-evaluate how you approach people. You come across as purposely hurtful and extremely judgemental. MMR said pretty much the same as you and her approach was far more supportive.
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Sep 19, 2014Comments: 0 · Posts: 1846 · Topics: 42
oh geeze..now it's a pissing contest -_-. calm down guys lol